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The same question can more or less be asked about every baal teshuva.
Any person logically grounded in reality instinctively knows that their fiance or baby isn’t the best or cutest in the world. Their are 25 million babies and singles/fiances, and the likelihood that YOURS is the best is one in twenty five million. (Or whatever the actual number and odds are.) And you never met over 99% of the others, so you can’t even compare yours to everyone else’s even with a fair comparison. Logically every reasonable person realizes it. That being said, very few openly admit or discuss this logical point.
DY, I assume (hope?) you’re kidding.
As to the question at hand, frum people aren’t fans on national restaurant chains. They are used to, and got to like, local frum-owned restaurants. Especially for meat restaurants where the reliability of the kashrus is a greater concern to the frum public. There is a perception, perhaps accurate, that kashrus can be relied upon with greater confidence when the owner is frum and doesn’t have to comply with a national chain’s internally supplied menu food products that aren’t exclusively kosher. (Even if certain menu items are, obviously, omitted by the kosher franchises.)
In Flatbush the MO these days are an extremely small proportion of the neighborhood. There are even many more Chasidim living in Flatbush than MO. Even in Five Towns the demographics have a strong mix of Chareidim and MO (whereas it had previously been an MO neighborhood.)
rob: You ignored my main point and only addressed my parenthetical point.
Chicken is only fleishig mdrabbanon.
rob: That point is applicable if you are certain he will disregard your informing him of the halacha. If there’s a possibility he will comply with the halacha if you correct him, you are obligated to inform him of the halacha and his error. (And chillul Shabbos, per the topic here, is d’orsaysa in any event.)
As an aside, your little anecdote about “shanah rishona” is irrelevant to the discussion as there’s a shanah rishona for couples that get married at 16 and there’s a shanah rishona for couples that get married at 32.
What else defines the line separating the yeshivish from the balabatish?
You have no statistics? Unsurprising because there are no statistics supporting the claims you made based on anecdotes only. Of the many rabbonim I’ve dealt with, it has mostly been in places like Teaneck and Five Towns that are extremely dejected about the relatively high divorce rate in their communities. Communities that tend to marry later than communities such as Williamburg and Boro Park where the rabbonim are, too, concerned about whatever the rate is there but acknowledge it is nowhere near the levels seen in the former towns. Flatbush, which is in between those two groups, is closer to the Willi/BP rate but somewhat higher. Which, too, points in the direction of the point I have made.
I would call him balabatish. No TV or movies, velvet yarmulka, hat on Shabbos, wife completely tznius, etc. but not yeshivish.
What in this description makes him not yeshivish? He doesn’t wear a hat during the week?
“Giving tochacha is halachicly required of every Jew, not just of rabbis.”
Only when you are certain the person will listen.
Incorrect. Your halachic obligation to give tochacha is not exempt even if you’re uncertain he will listen. You are only exempt if you are certain he will not listen.
From NY they weighed the carry-on and said it was overweight and I should put some stuff in the luggage that was going under the plane. Since I wanted those heavy books, I shtipped them into the laptop bag (which is not weighed) which was then bulging with books sticking out all over. After passing through I put the books back into the carry-on.
At least wear a hat for bentching, davening, etc. in accordance with halacha as stated in the Mishna Brura.
fny: Parents also kiss their babies.
I know some yeshivish folks who together with their date knew it was the right shidduch on the first date. (Don’t remember if the vort was after only one date or if there was another date before the engagement.)
So propose legislation to that effect. Call it the 2015 Banning Kissing Babies Whilst Ill Act. Ill Parents won’t kiss and ill mohels wont do mbp.
Masses of Jews have been moving into EY since the late 1800s. Hundreds of thousands moved in during the 30s and 40s alone, pre-48. Before the State existed there were well over half a million Jews in EY. The buildup of Jews moving predates the State. Ironically, it was the zionist agitation that caused the British to restrict Jewish immigration to Palestine.
Churban Bayis sheini was committed by the Europeans not the Arabs.
As soon you direct me to the statistic justifying your claim in your immediately preceding comment regarding young frum couples, how it is statistically defining high and it is high compared to what.
147: The 1929 Chevron massacre was a result of the instigation of the zionists. Need I remind you that zionism predates 1948?
apushatayid: The term the “Holy Land” is universally used among all three major monotheistic religions to refer to Eretz Yisroel.
Over 20,000 Jewish soldiers have been killed and nearly 4,000 Jewish victims of terror have been murdered, in addition to over 100,000 maimed and injured in war and many more in terror, since the advent of zionism. This far exceeds the casualties in the Holy Land pre-zionism.
PAA has been busy writing Divrei Torah in 613 Seeds in a Pomegranate, so he must have little time for the narishkeit here.
Kol yisroel areivim zeh l’zeh. Giving tochacha is halachicly required of every Jew, not just of rabbis.
Kissing a baby can also transmit herpes. Should that be banned to?
It’s much more awkward for a tzniusdik girl to sit in a pizza shop alone with a non-relative male while scores of people from the surrounding neighborhood come in an out of the fast food joint and see her with him.
Shmooze.
Yes. But only for Mayim Achronim.
(Assuming he won’t have hirhur.)
Too many convenient, but obviously wrong, assumptions.
zd: Visit them on Simchas Torah and you won’t have to imagine.
The MO schools charge an arm and a leg per kid. So MO families often can’t afford more than two kids (as the second kid will already cost them their second arm and leg.) So while the MO are indeed monetarily wealthier than the Chareidim, they end up just using their extra money to give to their schools. Meanwhile the Chareidim have more kids (averaging over six per family) despite not being monetarily wealthy. [Which accounts for why the Chareidim are experiencing explosive growth, so much so that that by now the vast majority of Orthodox Jews are Chareidim.] So whose better off you tell me?
The women in the movies are specifically dressed for the viewers hana’ah.
And if either he or she are makpid on Cholov Yisroel?
So go once to the lounge.
Problem solved.
Lounge for first two or three dates.
You must have meant:
PAA, college? kj chusid, high-school?
B”H they graduated high school and are now very busy keeping up with their coursework in college.
Unless the movie is entirely an animation (and even then it could be assur for other reasons), any movie made in the last at least 35 years would be assur. Unless you want to claim there is a movie either without women or where all the women are dressed according to halacha (long sleeve shirts, long skirts, etc.) and there is no cursing or other inappropriate language or speech (including inappropriate jokes), no wanton violence, etc. Clearly anything rated higher than G is assur.
He’s a meshugana. Who cares what his views are.
Try a beshow.
If you fulfill the mitzvah during Purim night is it another mitzvah to do it all again after you’ve sobered up and it’s Purim morning?