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  • in reply to: is morality relative? #1086557
    Joseph
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    gavra, and I’ll quote myself in regards to that point:

    There is no concept of “morality” within Judaism that differs from halacha in any way.

    in reply to: is morality relative? #1086553
    Joseph
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    “So morailty is relative?”

    I didn’t address this question in my preceding comment.

    “Because in a case of a machlokes, for person A the same act is moral and for person b it is immoral.”

    That can very well be the case. It would be immoral to break a minhag inappropriately. If someone’s psak is to do A while another person’s psak is not to do A, it would be moral for the first person to do it but immoral for the second person to do it.

    “I’m not setting up a argument per se, it just seems funny.”

    May I submit that you might find it funny because your idea of morality is influenced by non-Jewish ideas on the subject?

    “Incidently there is a moral sense outside of halacha. Rashi says in many places that “mishpatim” are rules that we would come up with on our own like no stealing, no killing etc…

    Though this doesnt disagree with your main point, which may not be incorrect”

    Those examples are within halacha, not outside it (killing and stealing are halachic points – even if we could have figured them out on our own), so I’m not following your point on that.

    in reply to: is morality relative? #1086550
    Joseph
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    What is “morality”? Morality is halacha. If it is anything halacha says to do, it is moral. If it is anything halacha says not to do, it is immoral. There is no concept of “morality” within Judaism that differs from halacha in any way.

    If halacha says to kill someone, it is moral to kill him and it is immoral not to kill him.

    in reply to: Mussar vs Chassidus #1085278
    Joseph
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    What didn’t work for you has worked for others.

    in reply to: Jews listening to non Jewish music #1121745
    Joseph
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    The Wolf (who doesn’t listen to any music, Jewish or not, these days)

    Wow, you hold the most stringent opinion.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085170
    Joseph
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    Arguing that the money is better spent on young people, smart people, cancer research, or whatever as opposed to comatose people isnt materialistic. It may be wrong but it isnt inherently evil nor based on “Dark and evil places”

    Arguing to save the lives of young people before older people, most certainly is inherently evil and based on dark and evil impulses.

    How do you dare argue otherwise, even as a possibility? Do you forward the same argument about saving white people before black people as you do about young people versus older people? After all, white people tend to live longer than blacks, lead more productive and wealthy lives and contribute more to charity and culture.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085168
    Joseph
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    “Has money really altered the value of life as you say? Or has it just changed the need for the different decisions?”

    the latter. Though it isnt just money. There is a staffing shortage a bed shortage. A comatose patient in an ICU is litteraly taking a bed that can go to somebody else. I am not saying “somebody else who needs it more” but without the Torah as a guide (and even in select cases with it) it is a bed that can better serve somebody else.

    uniq: Feivel and Syag are 100% correct in that you have allowed modern Western thought corrupt your values away from Torah values.

    The comatose patient can die without the bed. How is that “a bed that can better serve somebody else”?

    You are saying that the comatose patient’s life is less valuable than the non-comatose patient.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085166
    Joseph
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    Feivel: Yasher Koach for expressing and relating the 100% Torah-true opinion on this matter. Every word you wrote on this thread is on the button and Emes.

    in reply to: Would you be in favor of bringing back polygamy? #1083528
    Joseph
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    Reb Wolf: The cohabitation issue is the most relevant part of the law, as a practical matter. The only part of the law that was upheld is that which bars filing for State marriage licenses with more than one spouse. But the polygamous communities in America as a matter of practice do not file for multiple marriage licenses anyways. They simply live together in religious marriages without filing with the State. And the law that previously technically prevented that, is what was overturned.

    (It should be noted that even before it was overturned that law was rarely enforced unless the person was also violating other laws such as abuse of a minor. The case that got it overturned was of a man with multiple wives that made his lifestyle very public as part of a TV show. The Attorney General tried to prosecute, even though he violated no other laws, and that got the law declared unconstitutional.)

    in reply to: Would you be in favor of bringing back polygamy? #1083518
    Joseph
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    akuperma: Federal court in Utah has already overturned Utah’a ban on polgamy (a bit over a year ago) on a basis that would be applicable to all such bans.

    Rav Avigdor Miller said (and reprinted in one of his recent Q&A seforim) that it is possible that one day contemporary rabbonim will end the cherem. The Vilna Gaon also said he was in favor of ending it.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085137
    Joseph
    Participant

    Feivel is a doctor.

    in reply to: Gut Shabbos vs. Shabbat Shalom #1085602
    Joseph
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    For most folks, the real question is whether to say (the traditional) Gut Shabbos or to say (the more modernishe) Good Shabbos.

    What do you say?

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083400
    Joseph
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    A catered dinner of exotic foods is an indulgence in gashmius.

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083394
    Joseph
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    Well said, newbee.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085132
    Joseph
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    ca: Which country? Why didn’t you dispute or ignore the bill (considering the circumstances you described above)?

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085126
    Joseph
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    ubiquitin: Disregard the quotation marks around suffering. I didn’t intend the quotations in the sense you understood it. (i.e. that they aren’t suffering.)

    The hospital staff can at times go further than just not treating a suffering patient and let him die. At times they will facilitate his death. Or not feed him. Or not treat him for common ailments readily remedied that will cause death if left unattended. All of this has been widely reported on over the past decade and longer.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085124
    Joseph
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    ca: They billed you or your insurance? Did you have to pay?

    in reply to: insurance frustrations #1082899
    Joseph
    Participant

    Oxford (or virtually any insurance carrier) charges a different deductible amount to different customers. So you are paying a higher deductible than many other Oxford insurance customers. The amount of your deductible is based on what your employer (or whoever setup your insurance plan) negotiated with Oxford.

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083366
    Joseph
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    There is no less gashmius in Teaneck or the 5T than in Brooklyn.

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085120
    Joseph
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    Who was this imaginary loshon hora about, lc? Read the NY Times or any number of papers over the past ten years. A large segment of the medical establishment believes the cost of keeping the infirm alive often tends not to be worth the cost. And they frequently act upon this belief if someone isn’t paying attention to the patient in the hospital. This isn’t some kind of well kept secret. Some have been pretty open about it.

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083362
    Joseph
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    Overall housing and the cost of living costs far more in Teaneck or the Five Towns. Talking about gashmius.

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083356
    Joseph
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    ubiquitin: See some direct, stringent and specific criticisms about MO from Rav Ahron Kotler (in Mishnas Rabi Ahron) and Rav Shimon Schwab (in Selected Essays and Mitteilungen, the Bulletin of KAJ):

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/modern-orthodox-judaism

    in reply to: Toothaches #1082875
    Joseph
    Participant

    There’s no explanation for it in the medical/dental literature?

    in reply to: Toothaches #1082872
    Joseph
    Participant

    Don’t know his secret. He isn’t a health food aficionado, either. His diet is large on sweet foods and drinks.

    in reply to: Toothaches #1082869
    Joseph
    Participant

    He has a full set of healthy teeth k”h.

    in reply to: Toothaches #1082867
    Joseph
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    I know someone who brushes his teeth about four times a year, and uses mouthwash about ten times a year, and has been doing so at this frequency for over ten years and has very little trouble with his teeth. He goes to the dentist every six months or so, gets a cleaning and a clean bill of health from the dentist.

    Anyone care to venture an explanation how he manages so well?

    in reply to: Hospital Horror Stories? #1085112
    Joseph
    Participant

    Hospitals in America, these days, often feel an old infirm patient is better off dead than “suffering” alive. And is liable to let the patient die rather than try to preserve his life.

    in reply to: Contact Info #1083023
    Joseph
    Participant

    Don’t worry at all. Just call and ask your shaila. It’s a simple phone call.

    Joseph
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    Artscroll Shas.

    in reply to: The requirement for everyone to give Tochachah #1145241
    Joseph
    Participant

    Avram,

    The reason one doesn’t give tochacha if there’s no chance the person will correct their behavior, is because if he won’t correct it anyway then by not giving tochacha he may be a shogeg rather than a meizid if you tell him he is committing a wrongdoing. (But if there’s a chance, even less than likely, he’ll correct himself then we do give him the tochahca even if the risk is more likely he’ll become a meizid.)

    Given that, in your example it would seem one should still give him public tochacha (after the private tochacha failed) since at that point he is certainly a meizid even without further tochacha.

    That being said, I could hear a reasonable argument the other way (against my point) to not give it publicly in your example if it truly was absolutely certain it would not help (i.e. not even a 1% chance). But I think my point is far more compelling because of a) what the reason for not giving tochacha is and b) the seforim doesn’t specify an exception to not giving the public tochacha once the private tochacha failed (whereas the seforim do specify the exception to the private tochacha in the aforementioned condition) and c) even if there’s no chance of him correcting himself, it may still be appropriate to embarrass a public intentional wrongdoer who refuses to correct his behavior after having been privately advised. (I offhand seem to recall point c explicitly being cited in seforim.)

    in reply to: The requirement for everyone to give Tochachah #1145236
    Joseph
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    WolfishMusings,

    No one listens to me anyway.

    If that were true, you shouldn’t give tochacha. But you are underrating yourself.

    I don’t hold myself to be better than anyone that I’m worthy to give Tochacah.

    You’re obligated to give tochacha even if you think yourself less worthy than the wrongdoer. (Given the aforementioned conditions.)

    Obviously this is discussing where you’re sure the action(s) was an aveira. And you’re doing it for the right reasons, i.e. to correct the wrongdoer out of your love for your fellow Jew. In the absence of those conditions and intentions, one shouldn’t be giving tochacha.

    in reply to: The requirement for everyone to give Tochachah #1145234
    Joseph
    Participant

    Avram in MD,

    when necessary

    .

    a reasonable possibility of the person listening to you

    .

    Please define necessary

    When someone does an aveira.

    and reasonable?

    There’s a chance the person will heed your tochacha. Even if the odds are against him heeding you.

    but if they don’t listen to you, then you should embarrass them in public so that they will do teshuvah

    .

    Does point 1) still apply in this case?

    In this case it is talking about where you already gave the tochacha. (So you are already past point 1.)

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083320
    Joseph
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    in reply to: Gut Shabbos vs. Shabbat Shalom #1085591
    Joseph
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    Gut Shabbos / Gut Yom Tov.

    “Shabbat” is a Sefardic pronunciation. The Ashkenazic pronunciation is “Shabbos”. Traditionally Ashkenazim say “Gut Shabbos”. Someone pronouncing it as Shabbat who isn’t Sefardic is doing so for zionistic reasons and is changing their traditional minhag, something they should not do.,

    in reply to: Contact Info #1083020
    Joseph
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    in reply to: Gut Yom Tov/ Hag Sameah #1083017
    Joseph
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    in reply to: parah adumah #1082781
    Joseph
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    I couldn’t make out the audio what Rav Dovid answered about shechting the parah adumah before the beis hamikdash. Did anyone hear the response?

    in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156808
    Joseph
    Participant

    L’Cholov!!

    in reply to: If the world is really round #1082774
    Joseph
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    Sam: Who – and why – do you think made up the ball in his hand idea?

    in reply to: A little rain never hurt anyone #1082807
    Joseph
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    Like Bubbe always says, you’re not going to melt in the rain unless you’re sugar.

    in reply to: If the world is really round #1082765
    Joseph
    Participant

    Rashi had Ruach HaKodesh.

    in reply to: Gut Yom Tov/ Hag Sameah #1083016
    Joseph
    Participant

    Gut Yom Tov!

    in reply to: Shavuos: Cheese-Cake Reason? #1156806
    Joseph
    Participant

    You need a reason to eat cheese cake??

    in reply to: Kashrus at your neighbor's #1082880
    Joseph
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    If you arent sure why you avoid it, you can eat.

    Incorrect. Just because someone isn’t sure doesn’t give license to eat. His posek’s reasoning for not eating cholov stam, even if he isn’t aware of the reasoning, may well be because he rules it to be cholov akum.

    in reply to: Kashrus at your neighbor's #1082877
    Joseph
    Participant

    His keilim are cholov stam.

    in reply to: How to Handle Slow Poke Pedestrians #1082495
    Joseph
    Participant

    Are you referring to slowpokes (who are buried in a smartphone or chatting with someone) walking too slowly or you’re referring to someone standing immobile (also chatting or browsing or daydreaming)?

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083209
    Joseph
    Participant

    Anyone who doesn’t want chulent should check their yichus.

    in reply to: Is Shabbos too easy #1082942
    Joseph
    Participant

    Rav Moshe paskened l’halacha that it is assur to use a timer on Shabbos to turn on/off an air conditioner.

    in reply to: 'Halachic Dinner" – What do you think about it? #1083192
    Joseph
    Participant

    That kind of food can make a lot of people sick.

    in reply to: Marriot #1084899
    Joseph
    Participant

    for the yeshiva guy its not so bad because the alternative would be to go to manhattan and pay battery park tunnel fee.

    No, they’d be using the Brooklyn Bridge at no charge.

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