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“It would not bother me if someone showed up to date any of my daughters in a colored shirt (well maybe it would if it’s pink).”
I think I would feel the same way about myself.
Sechel HaYashar-“Although, I’m pretty certain that many Chabad women are more knowledgeable in Torah than other frum woman, as the Rebbe zy”a was very insistent on woman learning Torah, even Gemara.”
“Oh so its not only the chabad men, but also the chabad women who are superior to all other (“regular” non chabad) women. I rest my case. Disgusting.”
He was responding to an attack on Chabad.
Mothers of kids under age 10 with no patience or energy to deal with it..
I was with a friend once when her rolls fell on the ground OUTSIDE for a second, and she picked them up and put them back in her bag to feed her family, saying they won’t know the difference, and she may have even said something about the 5 second rule.
“LU: Good point on the Ruchnius… thank you for sharing… truth 🙂”
YW 🙂
Iacisrmma – I don’t think that Uncle Ben was referring to a case like yours. Of course, there can be reasons why a wisdom tooth needs to be removed, just like any teeth might need to be removed.
He was referring to the widespread misconception (at least according to him – I don’t know enough to have an opinion) that wisdom teeth automatically have to be removed, or at least if they are impacted.
Wondering how long it will take until the moderators decide to close this thread….
“and we don’t have time to learn anything else…”
“Which is why nebach amaratzus is so rampant, and simple gemaras and Rambams are twisted out of their true meanings.”
Most women don’t have much time to learn.
Thanks so much, RY! Now, I don’t have to go back to school.
btw, I happen to get hot faster and cold slower than most other people.
So after Yossi finished laughing and apologizing, Sara told him that she would speak to Esty and they would decide which one should date him first.
Sara and Esty discussed it and tried to figure out which one he would be most matim for. In the end, they concluded that he would be the most matim for their third roommate, Tova! L’maaseh, Esty went out with him first. I don’t remember if Sara or Tova ended up going out with him.
I do know that none of them ended up marrying him. Esty got married to someone else, not too long afterwards. Sara got married around 15 or so years later. I have no idea what happened to Yossi or to Tova (whose real name I can’t even remember).
This is a true story happened to a friend of mine in the prehistoric era when cellphones were uncommon, and roommates shared landlines.
Sara and Esty were roommates. A shadchan set Sara up with Yossi. On Sunday, Yossi called Sara at work and they set up a date for Wednesday night.
On Monday night, the phone rang in Sara’s apartment. She answered it, and the person calling asked for Esty.“Esty’s not here, can I take a message?”
“Yes, tell her that Yossi called.”
“Uh, Yossi, do you know who this is?”
Yossi bursts out laughing when he realizes, and embarrassedly explains that he was was only in Israel for another week, so he wanted to get in as many dates as possible.
Moral of the story: If you’re going to double-date, at least make sure the girls/boys aren’t roommates.
GH- very true. (Wow, we actually agree on something!).
But what is an LRP? Do you mean LOR?
oh. In my day, they didn’t. Not in my schools, anyhow.
“The 7 day week comes from us Jews.”
“The 7-day week probably dates back to Adam haRishon.”I believe the Kuzari uses this as a proof that the Torah is Emes (the fact that the whole world keeps a 7 day week, which is seemingly random unless the Biblical account of Creation is true, which it is, of course).
“(If you want my answer for the “average frum family” (ie excluding newcomers and excluding those who may be exceptionally learned) Id say range between twice a month and 4 times a year (other than taharas hamishpacha) Admittedly I have no idea how I came up with this number)”
That seems to me like a very low estimate. Not necessarily in terms of how many sheilas people ask, but at least in terms of how many sheilas they actually have and would want to ask (but may not have anyone to ask).
I think that the range amongst people I know is more like once every week to at least once a day.
But most people I know don’t end up asking each time, either because they don’t have “A Rav” to ask all their sheilas to, or there is no one to ask because it’s Shabbos and they need an immediate answer, or it’s difficult/impossible to find someone to ask each time a sheilah arises and it’s the kind of thing that they can just avoid doing if they have no one to ask.
“ZD; So why doesn’t the hotline rabbi tell the caller he cannot answer and he must consult his local rabbi.”
Maybe he assumes that the person doesn’t have a local Rav to ask, or he would have asked him in the first place and not turned to a hotline.
Remember, he has no idea who this person is and whom he would be asking if he hadn’t called the hotline (Reform “rabbi” perhaps), or if he has no one else to ask.Teach what?
“Regarding other “non-halachic life questions”, other than things like what to eat for breakfast, what in life isn’t based on Halacha? Whether to take a job surely involves halachic issues, as does how to handle a misunderstanding with your neighbor. There are few serious issues that wouldn’t benefit from your Rov’s input.”
+1000!
I actually read that they did a study scientifically disproving the rule.
Personally, I think the study was a waste of time. All they had to do was ask me.
I read this in an article (probably on Aish.com) explaining how the same concept applies to Ruchnius; You shouldn’t think that if you flip the page or log off as soon as something inappropriate comes on, that you weren’t affected by that split second.
“Response To “What possible reason could there be for not allowing a clean and sharply ironed beige or light blue shirt versus white..? This mindless focus on trivia rather than midos and lamdus seems to be counterproductive”
Reb Yid you are absolutely right, people today think that the color of the shirt defines you which is completely wrong, it is better to look sharp with a nice shirt and look like a Mench rather than a white shirt with coffee and sweat stains. A white shirt does not mean your a tzadik it rather it is whats inside that defines you! No YID SHOULD EVER BE JUDGED BY THE OUTSIDE!
The Ranbi, Shlita”I agree that people shouldn’t care so much about the color of their shirts and shouldn’t judge others by the color of their shirts. When someone gets so upset about the fact that there are Yeshivas that have rules about white shirts, it seems to me that they are showing too much of a concern with trivialities, and that they are judging Yeshivas based on trivialities.
If wearing a blue shirt is so important to you, then you are free to choose a Yeshiva based on the fact that they allow blue shirts. But that does show that trivial matters such as shirt color are essential to you.
I won’t judge you for it though :).
“you can’t send a boy to a school without wearing the school’s uniform.”
“So, how many yeshivos have a white shirt only policy?”
I have no idea. I was merely responding to those who have an issue with it if it exists. I have no idea if it actually exists or not. For all I know, there is no such Yeshiva in the world. My point was that if there is a Yeshiva that has such a rule, it is their right to make such a rule, and if it’s so important to someone to wear blue shirts, he shouldn’t go there.
I had two extractions and they weren’t a big deal, but they weren’t wisdom teeth, and maybe wisdom teeth are different. I did request laughing gas though since I’m very sensitive, and it made me dizzy afterwards.
Shoppping – what?
btw, welcome back! I don’t think I’ve seen you around for a while.
“Why aren’t you asking your dentist these questions?”
“Because everyone knows that dentists aren’t infallible, so it makes more sense for her to figure it out for herself.”
+1
btw, I do agree with everything that LF said about RY. RebYidd is the best!!!
“to quote האחד בא לגור וישפוט. (oh, who said that?)”
Precisely the point.
APY – +1!
What about me? 🙁
“Hashem’s army doesn’t need to be dressed like a bunch of penguins if they are able to shteig more effectively wearing a different colored shirt.”
“So it’s possible that bochurim could shteig better if wearing colored shirts, but not possible that they’ll shteig better if wearing white shirts?”
+1. I had missed the word “more” in there.
“And mind you, I will not C”V let you accuse RebYidd (whichever gender he is) of being “mevayish chaveiro birabim”…”
I didn’t think he was.
I think that most people who call Psak Halacha Hotlines do not have their own Rav to call, or it’s a question they are not comfortable asking someone who might know who they are. I know the second one happens because I did that once.
Personally, I wouldn’t recommend calling a hotline unless it’s for something very basic or unless you know who the Rav is answering the phone and he’s someone you would be comfortable asking a sheilah to in general.
Againstallthisshock -shkoyach!
“Actually white is made up of all the colors so white shirts should be worse than all colored shirts put together.”
Meno, maybe that’s the whole point – they want them to wear colors – that’s why they want them to wear white! If they would wear blue shirts, they wouldn’t be wearing “colors”, they’d be wearing “a color”, and the other colors might feel left out.
.”Likewise hashem’s army doesn’t need to be dressed like a bunch of penguins if they are able to shteig more effectively wearing a different colored shirt.”
100% true. You’re welcome to shteig wearing whatever color shirt you want to and no one will stop you. You’re also welcome to learn in whatever Yeshiva you want to. You’re also welcome to open your own institution with whatever rules you want. What you are not allowed to do is insist on being accepted in someone else’s institution while deliberately refusing to follow its rules, whatever they may be.
Just like you can’t send a girl to a school without wearing the school’s uniform, you can’t send a boy to a school without wearing the school’s uniform.
Golfer – thanks for all the compliments, but I suspect that we are actually talking about different posts!! 🙂
That’s what happens when posts are posted out of order!
I have a feeling that you thought I was referring to the post (#3846) (that seemed to) immediately proceed the one in which I asked if you saw my post (3833). That post (3846) was actually written after 3833, so it was not the one I was referring to. I was referring to a post much higher up that had been written a day or two before.“I offered OOTY several ideas.”
Joseph, I know, and I didn’t mean to imply otherwise. Your ideas were great, and they even got me thinking, and I gave him some more ideas, both here and elsewhere.
I was just concerned that judging by his initial response, he wasn’t going to accept your ideas, and he needed some more ideas (or maybe more specific ideas about how he could manage in Lakewood, and what resources he could find there.)
I was hoping that other people could give also give him ideas, and maybe there would be something (or a combination of somethings) that could work for him.
“Perhaps he would say that he was working on his shmiras einayim”
I’m not sure why shmiras einayim should be a problem regarding his wife, but that gave me a good idea.
He could say, “Chanala, you are so attractive, and that dress is stunning on you! Since it looks so good on you, I am concerned that it could pose a problem if you were to wear it outside. How about if you just wear it at home, and I’ll give you money to buy another dress that you can wear outside?”
“Lilmod, under Jewish law it is rare for a wife to have money to purchase a car. ”
She can sell the diamond ring and buy a car with it.
SYAG – sure they would! He has to be mekarev him 🙂
DY – lol
Golfer: “I would be very offended if dh spoke to me that way.
Am I the only married woman who feels that way?”I’m not married, but did you see my post, and how I rephrased things? It’s true that personally, I would probably still be offended by the diamond ring thing, but then again, I’m totally not that type, and I assume we’re talking about a very different type of person than me, so I can’t really say how she would feel.
I guess it depends on the type of person and how it’s said.
Joseph – how would you react if your wife told you:, “Look, my dear Joey, I want to make a deal with you. If you stop posting in the CR and start learning an hour more a day, I will buy you a new car.”
Ubiquitin – +1! That was my point – shkoyach!
I don’t know what resources they have, but I’m sure they will more than willing to try to find a way to help or give advice.
There has to be a solution for OOTY – it doesn’t make sense that in the year 2017 in the US, a Jew should feel that he has to be mechalel Shabbos to survive. And I’m sure anyone who he contacts will try to help or tell him who can contact for help.“And many of these chabad houses dont have any more local connections than most locals.”
I’m sure that any Orthodox Jew or community would try to help him, but it sounds like Chabad is the only (or practically only) thing available where he lives. And they tend to have connections and know about resources.
“Yes, video games were created by the yetzer hara… just like computers, cell phones, newspapers, board games, and the internet (which, in case you don’t know, you are currently on)”
“(That was sarcasm, by the way)”
I’m sure that DovidBT is willing to admit that he has a yetzer hara.
Joseph – does this mean you can’t be friends with CTL anymore?
OOTY: 1. I think you should take Joseph’s advice very seriously. I think he;s 100% right! If you’re homeless and unemployed anyhow, best to be homeless and unemployed in Lakewood! I’m sure that people will help you out there.
2. You mentioned somewhere that there is a local Chabad. Won’t they help you out?
3. There may be organizations in Lakewood that could help you out. I’ll see if I can get more information.
4. Isn’t there a website that one can try to raise money on? I think it’s been mentioned in the Coffee Room, and I’m sure that there are posters here who know what I’m talking about. That’s certainly preferable to Chilul Shabbos.
5. I’m not a poseik, but I’m 99.99% sure that according to halacha, you would not be allowed to take a job that involves Chilul Shabbos.
6. I have another idea, but I can’t post it right now.BUMP – Can anyone think of ideas for OOTY?
Joseph – it’s not so simple – I think she can choose to not be supported by him in exchange for keeping the money she makes. I don’t know if it’s generally a good idea or not, but it could be in certain cases.
I just want to point out that I think this is based on the assumption that the pot was clean.
Maybe you should try going to sleep earlier.
Personally, the early morning alarm clocks would REALLY, REALLY, SERIOUSLY bother me!
The blasting music wouldn’t because I am the one playing it. I did ask the landlady about it though, and I told her to let me know if bothers her. I didn’t realize that you could hear it though 🙂 – sorry about that!Maybe you should ask your neighbor if the alarms bother him.
I think I once met a Modern Orthodox girl from there, but it was more than 30 years ago.
DY, why in the world are you responding to a question asked six years ago?! Not your type (I think).