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It’s pushed off to prevent chillul Shabbos. Yom Hazikaron was supposed to be Motzei Shabbos/Sunday, but they were worried that that could lead to Chillul Shabbos due to the preparations for Yom Hazikaron which start a few hours beforehand. Since Yom Hazikaron was pushed off to Sunday night/Monday, Yom HaAtzmaut had to be pushed off to Sunday night/Monday.
They did the same thing with Yom HaShoah last week.
You might get arrested for keeping the goat in your barn.
Huju – I have no idea what you mean. I just meant that I was impressed that you admitted that you were wrong.
What in the world did your comment mean?
some girls wouldn’t even notice.
Health, thank you for the confirmation:
http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/jewish-universities-yeshiva-u-touro-college/#post-1265924(I hadn’t known about the night school).
” Moreover, as happened with the Midianite women peritzut often leads to aâz.”
Which means that pritzus is worse since it can lead to both.
“Missionaries have arguments from the Tanach which those with little or no background (and even those with background) do not know how to refute.”
I was referring to Frum people from very strong backgrounds (although I don’t know if I made that clear or not).
Also, I’m not sure if they missionarize in catholic colleges. But if they do, and if the student is from a not-Frum background and/or Jewishly ignorant and/or weak in his Emunah, then you may be right. But that is not the type of case I had in mind.Also keep in mind that in that case, some of these problems might potentially exist on a secular campus as well (although it may be less).
The other difference is that pritzus is a problem as soon as you see it. Being surrounded by ovdei avoda zara is not a problem in and of itself.
It doesn’t seem to last all night. Apparently last night, it went until at least 2:00 am, but I think that’s unusual. And I don’t know if I’ve ever seen posts go up after 2:00 am (it’s certainly rare).
Regarding yichud with non-persons:
I once worked at a job at which I was allowed to choose my own hours according to my convenience. This arrangement worked really well for me since I was allowed to go to work and leave whenever I felt like it.There was only one man who worked there besides the boss. One day, he told me that he lost his key so he wanted to know what hours I was going to be there since he didn’t have a key to get in or lock out so he could only work when someone else was there, and I was the only one who ever worked in the evenings.
I had asked a sheilah about yichud and was told it was no problem since there were other people in the building and since anyone could enter at any time. But it was annoying for me to have to decide exactly when I was going to be working. The reason I liked the job was precisely because I could work when I felt like it.
However, since it was a one-time thing, I didn’t make a big deal out of it. But then he kept asking me every day to let him know when I’d be working. I couldn’t deal with that, so I asked him why he didn’t just ask for a new key. He said his Rav had told him he’s not allowed to have the yichud with the computer, so that’s why he didn’t have a key.
I told this story to someone and he thought it was funny that “yichud” with a woman was okay but not with a computer. I also thought it sounded funny, but I also thought it made sense.
The differences are:
1. It’s easier to be machshil with a computer, because you can convince yourself that it’s not a “real” aveira.
2. With another person, both people have to be nechshol.
3. People are embarrassed to do something wrong in front of other people.
4. It wasn’t yichud for me because someone could come in at any time. With a computer, it’s easy to quickly shut it off when you hear/see someone coming.That being said, I don’t think anyone would say there’s a yichud problem with a clock. And I don’t think you have to be a rabbi for that “psak”.
Please note – the first post of mine was written as a continuation of the second post.
Some people have a heter to listen to music during sefira because it’s too hard for them to be without music for so long. In that case, it’s better to listen to acapella (that’s the psak I got).
Regarding the poster who compared it to someone in aveilus, l”a, I know a girl whose mother was nifter and it was really hard for her to be without music (I suspect she suffered from depression or something similar, which apparently is true of a very large portion of the population nowadays). Her Rav told her that she only had to refrain from listening to goyish music (which apparently she normally listened to).
Even without special heteirim, there are many opinions regarding what one is and is not allowed to listen to during sefira, so certainly no one should be judging anyone else (unless they are holding a public concert with live music, and then maybe you should just assume that they don’t know better).
I was told by a Rav that slow music is okay l’chatchila. And I think there are opinions that any non-live music is okay. Of course, everyone should ask their own sheilaha. I am just pointing these things out in terms of judging others.
Maybe cat is the crossbreed of a cap and a hat.
Meno – really? So you mean there is no halachic issue here???
ZD – are you saying that there was one blog that died and that’s what this thread is about? Was this one of the better-known Jewish blogs and that’s why everyone here (on this thread) is talking about it?
The one time I remember it’s bothering me, it was actually the mustache that bothered me. And that was just because his father was Egyptian and the mustache made him look like an arab.
But I guess if I had liked him more it wouldn’t have bothered me. And I don’t remember it’s ever bothering me any other time. Unless that was the only time I ever went out during Sefira.
But what if he has a date before sefira? Wouldn’t he have the same problem? Or is it different if you can trim it as it’s growing in? (Boruch Hashem, I never had a beard, so I’m a bit ignorant on the topic.)
or she can go out on Lag B’Omer. But the chances are that at least one of them has a chasuna that night.
now that you’ve described them, I understand better why you think there could be a tznius issue. At first I also thought it sounded like a crazy question, but now the question makes sense.
That being said, since I’ve never seen it, I have no real opinion on it. Just because the question makes sense, that doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with it. My guess would be that it’s fine, and that it’s not something you should be worrying about.
But you’re probably better off asking people who know what you’re talking about.
sorry, I meant this thread. Most people I know in RL don’t know what a blog is. And the few who do don’t talk about them – they have better things to talk about.
Huju – I’m impressed!
Some girls are bothered by it even if they are not that into looks.
Maybe it should be left up to the girl to decide if she wants to avoid dating sefira if it bothers her. The only problem is: How is she supposed to know which part of sefira the guy holds by? It would be pretty rude to ask beforehand.Why is everyone saying that blogs died?? I don’t read blogs so I wouldn’t know if they died or not, but why does everyone think they did?
It incites interest and curiousity. Then again, apparently that only worked for two of us. (mods don’t count because they have to read the posts).
29 – is that based on information or wishful thinking?
If you see the new post right away, you can hit on it (where it says the minutes), and then it goes straight to the new post no matter where it is.
However, when the mods are working fast, if a few people post (or the same person posts a few times in the same thread), you can miss some. I have a feeling that happened to some of my posts.
Blogs have a strong tendency to be full of motzi shem ra. Books don’t.
I might even ask you for a ride.
Personally, I think I would drive a red car. And I certainly wouldn’t look down on you if you drove one.
I knew a 19 year old girl who bought a very bright red car (not deliberately – it was the cheapest one she found), and her uncle told her she should paint it. I was very surprised when I first heard the story because it is so not her uncle’s type to even notice the color of someone’s car, let alone to tell them what to do.
But then the person telling me the story explained that it had been EXTREMELY BRIGHT RED. Added to the fact that she was a single 19 year old girl living in Lakewood. And even so, I am sure there are many who wouldn’t have had an issue with it.But in most cases, I don’t think anyone would say it’s assur to drive a red car, although I’m sure there are those who would avoid it.
Likewise, there is nothing wrong with most umbrellas. I suppose theoretically there could be some kind of umbrella that REALLY stands out, and in that case, there MIGHT be some people who would feel that a 19 year old girl should avoid walking past a Yeshiva with such an umbrella. But I have never seen such an umbrella and I doubt it exists.
I have no idea what a transparent bubble umbrella is, but it sounds fine to me.although I was a bit mortified. But it was still very nice, and it did make me feel good that someone cared enough to do that.
WTP – oh, good point. I’m not sure though. I feel like I may have read something about using this heter for doctors’ visits, but it was years ago, and I really don’t know if I am remembering right.
I do think that the heter is based on her fear of her husband, so I can see how it might be possible that it would apply even not in her own home (since it’s not just based on the technical fact that he might walk home but on her feeling of fear which might be there just based on knowing he’s in the city).
But I’m really not sure.
Wolf – This is one comparison that doesn’t bother me in the least. Comparing Ashkenazi halacha and Sephardi halacha is being accepting. Everyone accepts the fact that Ashkenazim are supposed to do certain things and Sephardim are supposed to do others.
Saying that Ashkenazim or Sephardim are more machmir or more meikel is not a judgment on the people at all – it is simply a fact that the halachos for one may be more stringent than the other. We accept the fact that different Jews are supposed to do things differently, and no one thinks one way is better than the other.
And by the way, being more machmir is not always a good thing. Neither is being more meikel.
Who wears them? Yekkes? Chassidim? Someone else?
I don’t think it’s just Chacham Ovadia, zatsal, but I don’t want to list other names in case I’m wrong. But I do think that most of the major Sephardi Poskim hold it’s assur to wear a wig. (although there may be those who do permit it).
Polygamy, for example, can be looked at either as a kula or a chumra, depending whose perspective you are looking at it from – the husband’s or the wive’s.
You are correct though that there are cases in which it would be hard to tell which is the chumra and which is the kula. There is a funny Gadol story about that, but I forget how it goes. Maybe someone else here knows it and can tell it. There may even be more than one.
Usually, if someone is NOT ALLOWED to do something vs. being allowed to do it, or if someone HAS to do it vs. being allowed to do it, you would call it a chumra.
The confusion sets in when one group HAS TO and the other group is NOT ALLOWED to. Then there may be differences of opinon regarding which is the chumra and which is the chumra. Likewise, if one group has to do one thing, and the other group has to do the other.
” Maybe it is the ashkenazi who is machmir because she is saying the bracha?”
To quote DY: “Ashkenazi hold she can do either.”
An Ashkenazi woman can choose whether or not to do the Mitzvah as well as whether or not she makes a bracha on it. A Sephardi woman might be able to choose whether or not to do the Mitzvah (although I’m not even sure about that), but she is NOT ALLOWED to make the bracha.
I don’t know what the early Achronim say . L’maaseh, what matters is what the Gedolim/Poskim of today say.
Why not?
Most Ashkenazim Gedolim say that it’s muttar to wear sheitels. Someone wrote to Rav Chaim Kanievsky shlita about it (she wanted to know if she should stop wearing her sheitel as a zchus for Am Yisrael), and he wrote back that it’s not a problem for Ashkenazi women to wear sheitels since the Mishna Berurah says it’s fine.
He also added that if she wants to do something as a zchus for Am Yisrael, she should daven maariv every day.
on the other hand, I think it’s really a minhag, so I don’t know if it counts for the current discussion.
Now THAT is a big one!
Rebshidduch, there is a concept called ××ĸ×× ××ĸ×ר “her husband is in the city”. According to halacha, if a woman’s husband is in the same city, the laws of yichud are more lenient. This is because there is a fear that he may come home at any moment.
One should ask a sheilah before applying this leniency as it may depend on the situation.
It definitely can make things easier in certain circumstances:
1. When you have a Frum workman over
2. If you have a boy boarding/living by you.I know someone who relied on this leniency when a teenage boy who couldn’t live at home was living by them. Otherwise, he would never have been able to be in the house when she was home and her husband wasn’t which would make things very complicated, since women are generally home a lot more than their husbands.
Many or most Sephardi Poskim say that women aren’t allowed to wear sheitels.
Joseph – I’m impressed that you realize that that’s an example of Sephardim being more machmir.
Women aren’t allowed to say brachos on any Mitzvos they are not chayiv in.
According to Rav Ovadiah, zatsal, they aren’t allowed to say certain brachos in davening, and he speaks out very strongly against those that do and writes that we have to be mechanech all the Sefardi girls not to do so (but he adds that it’s okay for Ashkenazi girls to do so).Granted, the girl I know who attended a catholic college did so many years ago, so it may have changed.
But I had thought that the college in Lakewood was all-female.
I once read a fascinating article on this topic. There was a case a few years ago in Portland, Oregon about someone who confided in her Rebbetzins, and the court wanted them to give over information that had been given over confidentially.
The legal issue was whether or not Rebbetzins have the status of clergy and therefore are not obligated to give over information given in confidence. The other side was arguing that Rebbetzins can’t possibly be clergy since Orthodox Judaism doesn’t recognize female Rabbis.
The argument of the Rebbetzins and the Frum community was that women need to have someone they can confide in without having to worry about their confidentiality being broken, and often, there can be things that a woman might be more comfortable discussing with another woman, and that this is part of the role of a Rebbetzin.
In the end, they won the case. If anyone is interested, you can find articles about this case online by googling: Clergy confidentiality Rebbetzin. There was an article in the Yated about it.
My point here is that apparently clergy confidentiality does apply to Rabbis (and possibly even Rebbetzins).