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Meno, you have a self from the time you are born. No one is self-supporting then.
One of the main issues would be the reason why you want to be a vegetarian. If it’s because you feel it’s WRONG to eat animals, that may be a problem, since the Torah says it’s not. Also, we are not supposed to equate human life and animal life. If you just don’t like eating meat, there’s nothing wrong during the week. On Shabbos and particularly Yomtov there may be a chiyuv to eat meat, but for that you definitely have to ask a sheilah.
I still don’t get it. Why did they give him the $10? And what does that have to do with, “M’dvar sheker tirchak”?
Mammale – I didn’t mean that people should go swimming where there is no lifeguard. That is very dangerous! I was assuming that we were talking about going to the beach w/o swimming, but that may have been an incorrect assumption.
Yekke2 – it is different if someone is dressed untzniusly for a toeles (like swimming). I was referring to pritzus. Women are also not allowed to see pritzus.
So fast Sparkly? It’s not such a hard – ask some more questions. All we know is Jewish female and not one of the Imahos. There are many more questions you can ask.
Anyone else want to try?
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1. Female
2. Jewish
3. not one of the Imahos
What do you understand?
The important thing is that once she’s married, if her husband wants her to learn how to make potato kugel, she will do so. And she will do so because she wants to make him happy and not for any other reason.
But, if it’s important for her to learn Ramban, he should also make sure that she has the opportunity to do so. And if he does, the potato kugel will probably taste better!
allfriendly – sorry, but that wouldn’t answer the question
Rebyidd23 -only one person per family needs to know how to cook. In many homes, only one spouse knows how to cook.
As I pointed out in another thread, people put their own interpretations into stories and just like the details are changed, often the exact words and expressions are twisted around to make different points. I have often heard the same Gadol story told in more than one way, giving over a completely different message. This is often the case even when the details are the same.
I think that is definitely the case with this story.
Define famous.
Done with what? That doesn’t sound good!
“lilmod, I’d consider it a problem if she didn’t know how to bake and instead of taking baking lessons she, instead, focused on mastering the Ramban.”
Seriously? You know how many girls don’t know how to cook or bake before they get married and they become excellent cooks once they are married? When a girl is single, she has an opportunity to learn that she probably won’t have once she is married, so why shouldn’t she take advantage of it?
note: my last post was before your last post and was in response to the post before it.
I know, but I think the story is misunderstood in the first place. I think that he was just trying to show them that it’s inappropriate to go to a Gadol Hador to help you with your homework.
Alternatively, he realized they were too into their schoolwork, and he wanted to make sure they realized that there are other important things.
Either way, I don’t think the point was that they necessarily had to know how to make a potato kugel. I’m sure there have been plenty of tzadeikesis who had wonderful marriages and were wonderful wives and mothers even though they knew more about Ramban than about potato kugels.
In some homes, the husband does the cooking and there is nothing wrong with that if both the husband and wife are happy with it.
Of course, when someone is married, their most important job is being a good wife and mother, but there is room for individuality, and it sounds funny when you phrase it the way you did. Also, before marriage, there is certainly no reason why a girl can’t spend more time learning Rambans than making potato kugels!
Joseph, so if a girl didn’t know how to make potato kugel, would you consider that a valid reason not to go out with her?
What if she knows how to make potato kugel but her english is really poor so she can’t read any other recipes?
1. She is female.
2. She is Jewish.
Mammele – good point! And don’t forget about labor!
Except that Rav Shach did not say that! And it wasn’t even Rambam – it was Ramban. And it wasn’t potato kugel – it was some kind of cake.
1. Is it male? no.
It’s also a problem for women to be somewhere where there is pritzus. I have heard in the names of both Rav Pincus and Rav Matisyahu Salomon, yibadel l’chaim that it is more of a problem for women to see inappropriate things than men. The woman is in charge of the Kedusha of the home, so whatever she sees affects the home.
Sparkly, I think she was giving examples of the power of speech (although it took me some time to figure that out)
okay, my turn, I have someone. Ask a question.
I wouldn’t have said it unless I was referring to someone who is known as a Gadol. I was also thinking of a couple of other Gedolim/Roshei Yeshivos I’ve received brachos from who are known to be extremely chashuve, but I will stop there.
Joseph, was it really a typo? I hadn’t realized that, and you never corrected it. I was wondering why you threw in tomatoes. (waiting for someone to make a pun.)
I concentrate very hard the first time I think about it for the purpose of storing it in my memory. Then I keep repeating it in mind over and over throughout the day or week or whatever.
Mnemonics also help. In other words, think of associations or hints such as something that you can spell with the Roshei Taivos of the thing you are trying to remember.
“Comlink-X – how did this thread get into tomatoes from hair dye?”
lol. It seems to have started with this: Joseph: “Tomatoes are definitely good.”
8. George Washington?
9. Abraham Lincoln?
Pshhh..Sparkly.. didn’t know you were so shtark!
Person1 – I hope you’re not upset anymore! Please let me know either way. I didn’t mean to offend anyone, and I would like to hear your point of view on the topic.
I don’t think I said that. I am not so sure that I want to share too many personal details because it would be too easy for people to figure out who I am, and also, because there are things I don’t necessarily like to share even with people I know, since they can lead to wrong impressions.
It’s definitely not A or C.
I would guess either D or B.
Kapusta – I don’t know, I thought it was obvious that Rav Sheinberg Zatsal was more chashuv, but if you think that was an inappropriate statement, I take it back. I guess either way, a bracha from anyone should not be taken lightly.
There are Talmidei Chachamim who have bad middos. There was actually a famous case recently that I won’t go into, “vehamaiven yavin”, and everyone else can use their imaginations.
One could argue that such a person is not really a Talmid Chacham, but his wife certainly thought he was when she married him.
There is a famous story of someone who asked a Gadol what qualities he should be looking for in a husband for his daughter. He told him, someone who has good middos and is a Talmid Chacham. The father asked, “if he is a Talmid Chacham doesn’t that mean he has good middos?” The Gadol anwered, “no, the shtender never asks him to take out the garbage, the Gemara never has a bad day…”
But if the subject of the OP was swimming in a place where others are swimming, then obviously it’s assur!
Person1: “Also you didn’t say the guy was a great talmid chochem. If he was, I suggest that you reconsider (:”
Actually, I think most of these guys probably knew even less Torah than english!
Personally, when I heard the coffee story, my reaction was, “Why did he faint? If this is something that bothered the girl, knowing that he was destined to become a Talmid Chacham wouldn’t necessarily change that!”
Imho, I think it would be great if my future husband is a Talmid Chacham, but it’s not THE single most important quality for a husband. There are several things that are more important, such as good middos, emotional health, good social skills, my liking him, and my respecting him (and I might have a hard time respecting someone who can’t spell)
Joseph, I guess I was talking about places where there’s no swimming. And I was talking about people who aren’t going to swim, because I was assuming it was obvious that that is untznius!