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Sparkly – cuz you’re special!
I know – wanted to make sure it’s clear to Happy.
Sam2 – I was thinking along those lines too, but it seemed too obvious, and after Happygirlygirl’s comment, I figured the answer must not be something obvious. Also, why would he ask the question if it’s obvious?
But, then again, just because it’s obvious to me, doesn’t mean it is to others, so you could be right.
I was thinking that maybe, like you said, the other guy figured out that the first guy was clearly planning to do split. If guy1 thought that he convinced guy2 to do split, there’s no reason for him to do take and split the money- if he’s going to split the money anyhow and he “knows” that guy2 is doing split, he may as well just do split, and even if he is worried that guy2 will do take after all, there still is no point in his doing take. If they both do take, no one gets the money, so he may as well do split. Therefore, the logical assumption is that guy1 will do split. If guy2 figured that out, he would do take, so he can get everything.
Mainly, I choose C because the answer is supposed to be surprising.
Actually, I guess C
Absan, I don’t know if it was clear that that’s a question.
4. Is it someone from the Coffee Room?
yichusdik, the halacha is that you are not allowed to play a game on Shabbos that normally involves writing. This is the halacha, so it doesn’t matter what we think. But, it’s not comparable to a hand. The hand’s function is not writing; that is merely one thing it does. If you’re playing a game that doesn’t normally involve writing but you happened to have once or twice written while you played it, I would imagine that it’s not assur to play it on Shabbos.
btw, what we used to do when we were kids: even when we played Scrabble during the week, we would play w/o writing so that it would be muttar to play on Shabbos. We took a catalog or big book and turned the pages to keep track of the score. I’m not paskening that this makes it muttar to play on Shabbos (ask your own Rav) – I just remember that’s what we did as kids.
I bought a kosher phone today. There are now 30,001 people with a kosher phone.
Joseph, was there a particular reason you posted this now? Or was it because it’s always a message the oilam needs to be reminded of?
Syag, I think Joseph was actually being chivalrous even though he claims not to believe in the concept.
Moderators, why was this thread allowed to go through? It is pure motzi shem ra!
Coffee Addict – Emes is extremely important and it’s great that you have a passion for the truth. According to the Torah definition of Emes, Emes only includes things that lead to Shalom. That’s why we are supposed to lie for Shalom. Therefore, I think that in this case, Emes would dictate not starting a thread like this.
Mammele – good point.
Happygirlygirl – I’m so happy to hear that!
Joseph: “There’s an equally sorry state of femininity, with society pushing women to become like men. Given women’s nurturing nature, as you said, it would make sense to stress that by having them take care of, and show care to, their husband (or date) by opening the door for him.”
I agree (to some degree) with the first part, but I don’t think that’s the way to show nurturing. The ways that women show nurturing to men is different than the ways that men give to women. That’s why the term nurturing is used specifically for women and giving is used for men. The two do not have the same meaning and entail different things.
Chivalry: 2. The qualifications of a knight, as valor, nobility, fairness, courtesy, respect for women, protection of the poor, etc.
3.The demonstration of any of the knightly qualities.
Source: Webster’s Unabridged Dictionary.
There were approximately five definitions listed. None mentioned christianity.
Since we are Americans, it seems to me that the definition in Webster’s is more relevant to us than the one in Oxford’s.
I just spent $3.00 to purchase a download of Rav Frand’s shiur entitled “Nasso 20- Walking behind a woman” from the Yad Yechiel website.
He first quotes the Gemara, Rambam and Shulchan Aruch who say that it is assur to walk behind a woman. He then brings the Tzitz Eliezer who raises the question regarding what to do if you encounter an Eishes Chaveir (wife of a Talmid Chacham). On the one hand, there is an obligation to show honor to the wife of a Talmid Chacham which would entail letting her go first. On the other hand, it is forbidden for a man to walk behind a woman.
The Tzitz Eliezer quotes the Trumas Hadeshen who states that he should let her go first since today we are not so careful not to walk behind women in general. The Tzitz Eliezer is puzzled by this – why should that make a difference? He came up with the following svara to explain the Trumas Hadeshen- it used to be that women did not go out and it was unusual to find a woman in the street so the sight of a woman was likely to lead to hirhur. However, today (in the Trumas Hadeshen’s times) it had become normal for women to be out on the streets, so it was no longer a problem to walk behind a woman.
The Tzitz Eliezer wrote his svara to Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach who was maskim to (accepted) it. Rav Shlomo Zalman also added that when manners dictate letting the woman go first, one should do so.
Rav Frand also added that Rav Dovid (I’m not sure who that is, but the guys present probably know) would tell bochurim when they were dating to hold open the door for the girl even though this would entail walking behind her. (although personally, I don’t see why this has to be the case. Why can’t she walk through the doorway and then move to the side?, but in any case, that seemed to be his assumption)
If anyone wants to listen to the shiur, they can purchase the download for $3.00. Please don’t argue with me about the topic until you have listened to the shiur.
According to halacha, you are supposed to eat meat on Yom Tov, at least l’chatchila. If it really bothers someone, they should ask a sheilah.
Abba_S: “Females who are not married do not require a head covering to pray.”
I’m so relieved to hear this! It will be so much easier to daven now that I know I don’t have to wear my burqa while praying! Thank you so much Abba_S for the info!
In the original case we were talking about (the guy escorting the girl home) it’s a safety issue. That is part of chivalry. So is taking care of his wife after she gives birth, which I think I heard there are halachos about, although I’m not sure. Even if there aren’t specific halachos, it’s clearly a chiyuv in any case.
Happygirlygirl, are you around?
apushatayid – that’s why I wonder if it’s appropriate to take a blind boy to a water park
2. Alive?
Joseph – we don’t always posken according to the Shulchan Aruch. In terms of this specific issue, Rav Frand has a recorded shiur on the topic that I’m sure you could get a hold of. I believe that Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach has a teshuva on it.
See we love and care about you Happygirlygirl even though we don’t even know who you are!
Yeah.. well the literally part sounded like it…
1. Is she female?
Joseph – not true. btw, I have heard that according to Halacha, since common courtesy nowadays is that the guy let the girl go first, he is SUPPOSED to let her go in front of him even though according to tznius it should be the other way. Apparently, we do believe in chivalry.
Ask your Rabbi.
Meno, thanks, glad you can agree with that (unfortunately some wouldn’t). No specific age is true – depends on so many factors…
Whoa!! How’d you get it so fast?!!! Shkoyach!!
Meno – got it. Hadn’t been so clear to me.
If parents or others are willing to support so guy can learn or go to school, there’s nothing wrong with that.
Meno & iacrsmma – great points!
Also, I don’t know if you have to be accurate when it comes to stories. I remember once asking a sheilah about that regarding telling a story to make a point during a shiur and changing the details (either deliberately or because I didn’t know them – I no longer remember which), and I was told it’s fine.
In that case, I agree with theprof1 that this whole thread is LH/Motzi Shem Ra and should be deleted. Kind of defeats the purpose of going to see the video in the first place.
Person1: “I don’t like the attitude you describe either. I’ve never heard of a guy who asked a girl to travel on a first date. On one case a guy told the shadchan that he couldn’t date because he’s to busy and the girl offered herself to travel.”
Thank you for the validation! I feel better now – I was beginning to feel like I was selfish for expecting the guy to travel the first time. Honestly, I don’t think it’s about selfishness, but my concern about what it shows about the guy. And like I said, I don’t think it’s a good start for a relationship. A girl at Neve once told me that her teacher told her that it’s good for her relationship with her boyfriend for her to allow him to give to her because as Rav Dessler says, giving leads to love.