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I forgot to mention that Trump also spoke with strong bias against people that are Muslim, in general.
That said… He is our president now. He is still a pawn in Hashem’s plan. May he bring light, goodness, healing, and inclusion to our world, beyond all our expectations and hopes.
LightbriteParticipantSpunk: Even if a baal teshuva goes off the derech, that person may still be a capable and loving parent. Yes there are frum communities that say the opposite and that anyone OTD is a spiritual threat.
Still, if someone falls into temptation and starts using again, that takes someone away from the world and Hashem to a greater degree. Plus, it may come with a plethora of other risks.
(((((((BTW THANK YOU)))))))
LightbriteParticipantNose, Ear, and Throat doctors in the front and back?
LightbriteParticipanttakahmamash: Awww!!! I am so sorry. That’s definitely not fun. I forgot about the dangers of dryer lint. You are right. It’s safer to have clothes hang out to dry in the sun, versus leave the dryer on chas veshalom.
May your dryer exhaust hose always be clear and may your home always be safe.
November 16, 2016 12:00 am at 12:00 am in reply to: what if i think my bashert might not be what im looking for? #1192176LightbriteParticipantThere are so many ways to answer this.
One thing is why are you considering him? What state of mind? To me, it sounds like it’s out of desperation and he’s convenient.
If so, are you approaching one of the biggest decisions of your life from a healthy perspective?
Do you have the same goals? Same vision for the future? Would you be compromising your needs for the sake of getting married? Are you attracted to him as a person?
Have you talked about this to a third-party that isn’t invested in having you get married, and/or is more invested in you making a decision that is in your best interest?
LightbriteParticipant” November 14, 2016
STARBUCKS – UPDATED KOSHER INFORMATION
STAR-K announced today that it has updated its recommended drink list for Starbucks to include a number of Frappuccino drinks. These drinks are recommended in the USA and Canada only. They are processed on cold equipment.
The following Frappuccino drinks have been added to the approved list.
Coffee or Espresso Frappuccino – The only dairy-cholov stam ingredient in this product is the added milk. Other ingredients are made on dairy-cholov stam equipment.
Caramel Frappuccino -Contains dairy-cholov stam ingredients
Mocha Frappuccino – Contains dairy-cholov stam ingredients
In New York and New Jersey there are some stores that are offering the option of requesting cholov Yisroel milk and cream. Please note that this program is not audited or certified by Star-K. Consumers who request cholov Yisroel milk in these stores should use their discretion in confirming the cholov Yisroel status of the milk being served.” (Baltimore Jewish Life)
Wow did you know that Starbuck’s is international? I guess that makes sense since it’s huge… just never realized that they had it in other countries
LightbriteParticipantBeing a kappara for someone or all klal Yisroel isn’t the same thing as doing teshuva for the person. It’s more like nullifying curses or evil decrees.
Only the individual can do teshuva for oneself to be closer to Hashem, imho.
Even doing teshuva for the sins of our fathers or inherited from parents, on so on, are personal teshuva. We may redeem our fathers or parents, etc, but it’s not comparable to teshuva. It’s more like lifting transgressions. While teshuva is elevating them.
Yes we may elevate parent’s transgressions imparted on our souls, but is that really the same as doing someone else’s teshuva?
LightbriteParticipantFireflies armed with fire extinguishers
LightbriteParticipantIf an elephant sneezes and no one is around to hear it, how can you prove that it wasn’t a gerbil sneezing?
LightbriteParticipant“lilmod, the Russian police conducted actual spot checks. Here is a translation of a report from Zhitomir, 1851 – it is the Jewish community complaining that the enforcement is too zealous:
“On the streets, district inspectors tear the wigs off Jewish women’s heads, bonnets, and other head attire; they pull them by their hair to the police station and pour a few buckets of cold water on them; they keep them under arrest for 48 hours; and then finally make them sweep the streets in public.” “
Joseph: Sorry if I missed this earlier in the thread. But do you mean that district inspectors would punish women for shaved heads or unshaved heads?
LightbriteParticipantDid you wait the whole year to buy something this black Friday? If so, what?
LightbriteParticipantWhat about pikuach nefesh? You can get pneumonia from being out in the rain. That’s a life-threatening illness. Seriously no joke.
Or catching a cold is pretty easy from someone getting to shul in wet clothes and then being in the A/C for an hour. Also fungal infections from prolonged dampness.
November 15, 2016 4:41 am at 4:41 am in reply to: If all shoes were bright red except sandals and boots #1192165LightbriteParticipantDoes anyone wear Crocs for fashion?
LightbriteParticipant“Hitler brought in television ads? Television hadn’t been invented yet.”
yehudayona: You can watch them on Youtube. There is a great one where Hitler flies in on a plane to a crowd of awed Germans.
IMHO, he had a talented entourage working on his image on all fronts, from television to orations and print.
LightbriteParticipantI understood what lilmod ulelamaid meant. It makes sense to me in context.
Thank you. Yes if being tznius was all fine and dandy with me then I could easily be like, “Yay I rock this mitzvah and it’s so important! Why don’t other people just get it? Gosh.” I wouldn’t need to empathize with anyone who may find it challenging.
But it’s not easy and part of me wants to scrap the whole idea. Even so, I am aware that yes I am biased and my attempts at disproving may be a response to the difficulty at hand. I can fight it by proving that it’s unimportant, or flight it by saying “Peace out tznius.”
Instead I am trying to work through it, whatever that means.
Thank you again
LightbriteParticipant“You’re right when it comes to women; but the OP was talking about a guy!”
Okay so I definitely don’t support this claim.
However, there could be a difference between men and women, seeing that a woman may need to reduce, change, or eliminate her medications during pregnancy. If she is having multiple pregnancies, then the frequent and extended disruptions to her treatment may cause more stress on her.
Even revving up coping strategies sans medications may not be possible or available if she is juggling being a full-time mom. And what mother, no matter where she spends her daytime hours, isn’t a full-time mother with additional heavy demands, compared to pre-married life?
That’s my guess
LightbriteParticipantDid Hashem give this guy a beshert? What’s the point of someone, anyone ever marrying him?
Seriously. Because I take medications, will not get pregnant ever because of the risks to my life (in pregnancy and post-partum), and I don’t even have the chiyuv (or according to some of you, and rabbonim, I do have the chiyuv) to marry and be fruitful and multiply.
What about this bochur? Is he hopeless then?
LightbriteParticipant“It amazes me how some people(liberals) are comparing Trump to [H]” (kfb)
kfb: I don’t have an opinion about the latter, and how Trump will be with Jews.
That said, based on my research and educational background, I have intentionally compared T to H. Mind you, I lack a PhD in Hitler and Nazi Germany. Meanwhile I did study advanced Hitler and Nazi Germany for my bachelor’s degree. However, I am not going to woo anyone with my credentials.
Here is the deal:
Hitler rose to power with a simple strategy. He insisted on reviving German culture. Even when Germany was not a country, the German people, with their German language had strong ties to their identity. WWI was a war of attrition. To say the least, Germany was disheartened. The German people were all too happy for a scapegoat. Mind you, antisemitism (read Anti-Judaism) was rampant already, especially in Vienna.
There were two options for the German people. Socialism or Hitler. Which was the lesser of the two evils?
Hitler brought in television ads highlighting his arrival on a plane into a land where boys worked in the fields, becoming men. Testosterone filled the air. The broken men of WWI, the broken people, suddenly had hope to become a strong nation once again.
Jews became the enemy. Initially Hitler wanted to just get rid of them, by any means. Madagascar didn’t work out. Other European countries weren’t helping. Finally Hitler took note of Russia’s labor camps and decided to follow suit. Eventually Hitler figured that the best means to make these Jews go away is to destroy them.
No one stopped Hitler. No objections to end his violence. Jews were the evil and Hitler was making Germany pure again.
Who is stopping Trump? He gets away with his rants. His supporters are sporting fists and guns and gaining confidence that they are in the right.
I do not believe that Trump is like Hitler because he is a threat to Jewish lives. He is a threat to all lives. Yet of course, he has made the people of Mexico, undocumented residents, the enemy here. He wants to build a wall. Madagascar? Yet how economically possible will that be?
He does not need to gas these individuals to destroy their lives. Rounding up people living here without federal permission and tossing their children, or parents back to another country will destroy families, lives, communities, and so forth.
Trump speaks of taking a handful of inappropriate-language referring to women, without acknowledging that he is talking about a human. He dehumanizes. He scapegoats. Anything was Hillary’s fault.
And are you not influenced? Talking about “liberals”? Were you original in that observation? Or did it come from media? From Trump? From the propaganda?
There are a billion connections here that I have failed to mention in this essay. Nevertheless, hopefully this provides some insight.
For me, Trump’s ascent alone is an echo of something that Jews of all people have the experience and history to prevent. Never again, we say. That was my pledge to my Holocaust professor. Am Yisroel Yizchor. So when I voted, I knew that as far and advanced as we have come, or believe we have come, it only takes one person to ignite a message of fire.
Also… You know that Trump used to keep Hitler’s speeches by his bedside, right? He studied Hitler. His father was involved in the KKK. These are not conspiracies. This is fact. He took note and has performed well.
Now he wants his advisors to continue his speaking engagements. Hitler to a T.
LightbriteParticipantComlink-: Ahhhhh… yes I just searched and see that the Arizal explained that the etzem luz is located in the back of one’s skull/top of neck where the tefillin knot rests
Thanks for the info
LightbriteParticipantSam Klein: Dunno if this will work for you.
This works if I am online on my phone. Sometimes I start listening to a shiur while I’m browsing random sites. Eventually I cannot concentrate on what I am reading when I’m listening, so I end up going back to the shiur.
On good days I will even open up my email account and take notes on the shiur. Then I email the notes to myself, and sometimes my mom too (I <3 my mom). It’s nice because I just do it without forcing myself to stop surfing the internet. I just replace one activity with another.
Also maybe it would help to change the self-talk. IME, it doesn’t help me to feel ashamed and bad about my behavior. When I do something and feel ashamed, I can use that feeling as an indicator to alter my behavior. When I do that, then I tell myself that I am good. Granted I can get used to focusing on the solutions more often, but the good thing is that the more that I do this the easier it gets next time.
Oh, and tefilla helps too. Please Hashem help me spend my time _______ and help protect me from the evil inclination. Thank you Hashem for protecting me from the evil inclination…
Just some thoughts 🙂
LightbriteParticipantAbout vitamin D, I forgot that I didn’t always live in a hot sunny place. I used to go to the tanning salon once in a while. When I lived in a rainy cloudy place for a while, I went to a tanning salon more frequently. I get depressed in cold/cloudy/rainy climates.
Tanning salons are not ideal, but if I was totally tznius, at least it is an option.
As for sweating, that’s still something. Anyway, I just wanted to point out that there is a solution to the sunshine vitamin D thing 🙂
—- Also I guess what is most difficult to swallow is that I can basically, theoretically, increase in mitzvot on all fronts. Yet it won’t mean anything or indicate my Yiras Shamayim if I am un-tznius? I thought that each mitzvah has value, big or small we are not the judge of what’s most valuable to Hashem.
Understandable that tznius is the sum of so many mitzvot, and uplifts others. Still, that above paragraph is a little lament.
-Another question: You know that story about that woman who merited something, or saved her husband because she was tznius and the demons stayed away from her?
Does that happen in real life? A stranger stopped to talk to me yesterday. I was un-tznius and that made me feel extra self-conscious. Initially it creeped me out. Then I told myself that he would have spoken to anyone in my position. I just so happened to be the first person that he saw walking when he got out of his car.
Yet… today I wondered if Hashem would have changed things up if I was tznius yesterday. Maybe he would have changed the timing. I wouldn’t have been there at that minute with my dog. This person would have never seen me. I wouldn’t even be talking about this in the CR.
Is that possible or how life works? I know that technically we aren’t supposed to expect anything for performing mitzvot. Hashem doesn’t make our lives easier if we observe His commandments. I’m confused though.
Tznius is meant to strengthen my relationship with Hashem. If so, then what’s that story about that lady about? It’s not just that story. I have other books that say that the entire household’s parnassah and shalom bayis depend on the wife’s tznius.
Is this true? Or am I just overthinking and being paranoid?
Thank you
LightbriteParticipant“That is why most Frum people generally refrain from too much alchohol use, and only use it on specific occasions, and even then it is generally pretty limited.”
Thank you that’s news to me. Maybe due to a recent and atypical dose of frum exposure, I was surprised at the leniency of alcohol use.
Last week I talked to my LOR about my concerns. I told him that I couldn’t imagine myself dating/marrying someone who drank. I abstain from drinking for health reasons. It feels good to be in a fully conscious mind.
Yet… I also listened to a shiur recently about wine. It was so beautiful. Actually before Pesach I listened to a different shiur about wine that was also remarkable.
The one for Pesach asked why is it that we don’t have four slices of cake (Kosher for Pesach) on Pesach? Why wine? Well if we had cake we would get more full. The last piece of cake would feel stuffing, unpleasant. Meanwhile, each glass of wine is like leaving the body more and more. So it’s a spiritual effect.
What did I learn in the other shiur about wine (serious question because right now I forgot)? Ummm… I think that it also mentioned the spiritual element. Yet if I remember more then I will post. Otherwise it is on TorahAnytime.
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RebYidd23: Thank you and you are right.
Legal drugs are just as bad. I know a few individuals in recovery because of legal substances. It bothers me that someone may have gone to the doctor and falsely obtained legal drugs to sell to individuals. That’s my assumption at least. Though likely there are other ways that people get legal drugs to sell too.
Regardless, abusing or misusing narcotics/drugs/medications is certainly an issue.
Taken that you’re a Rebb, maybe you have professional feedback on how drug/substance abuse education is handled in Jewish schools.
Thank you again and I am sorry for being unappreciative of your post.
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lilmod ulelamaid: Amen I hope that it is unusual.
“This guy is probably suffering from denial. Either that or it is just desperation because he doesn’t know what to do and can’t deal with the situation.”
True, I’ve seriously questioned myself a number of times in the face of someone else’s denial. In this case, I went back and did research just to make sure that I wasn’t just being prude.
hmmm… Thus far I have prayed for this person.
Thank you for your feedback <3
LightbriteParticipantAww
Thank you Moderators!!!
<3LightbriteParticipant“Use it to teach them the difference between goyim and Yidden, and the reason that we don’t strive to “get to the top” in the secular world. “
Granted without naming anyone in particular, have you not come across a Yid who gained prestige by being a big contributor to the shul and yet behaved rudely to members?
We don’t live in a bubble. Unfortunately politics happen in our communities as well.
One already-spoken statement of the Trump win is that it reflects society. Being frum does not make us immune.
Money still buys its way into our communities. It can silence opposition. Yet it doesn’t have to be this way, baruch Hashem.
B’esrat Hashem all of us can reveal the light in this extreme circumstance by improving our middos.
LightbriteParticipant“Monday’s child is fair of face.”
It’s Mother Goose and def not Jewish… “Saturday’s child works hard for a living,” (Googled it)
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Guess what though?!!
Even more exciting is that Monday is associated with the creation of angels (Chabad).
“In the Midrash Rabbah we find two opinions on this matter:
Rabbi Yochanan taught that angels were created on the second day of Creation. He sees this reflected in Psalms 104 where we read in the third verse:
LightbriteParticipantI am asking because I know someone who thinks it is just something to do to relax. He knows that someone who drinks and becomes aggressive does not need to drink because the behavior is unbecoming.
Yet since someone in his family is a happy drunk, he sees no problem in this person using alcohol and other illegal substances [if you want, you can substitute “legal” here and get the same point] regularly. This family member used to be in recovery.
I expressed my concern about this to someone who works with people in recovery (not lashon hara). I wanted to know what I can do to help. He asked me how is it that this person does not understand that supporting this family member’s substance abuse causes brain damage.
In my secular world, generally speaking, even individuals using drugs knows that doing it isn’t healthy.
I learned that “drugs are bad” from tv commercials, elementary school programs, and continued messages in media and obviously my parents.
I wondered how is it that he doesn’t know these things? Then I thought about it and maybe Jewish schools don’t have anti-drug programs. We already established here that there are many communities that shun watching television.
So are people learning this stuff or is it not part of common knowledge?
Thank you
LightbriteParticipantLet’s return to the question please.
Again please
, we are not talking about someone taking anxiety meds one time a day per doctor’s instructions sans addiction. The same goes for Tylenol for a fever. Nor is this thread about someone with no history or vulnerability to an addiction drinking one glass of wine at a kiddish every Shabbos.The question again, for anyone who cares to stay on topic please:
Do Jewish children or adults know the effects of abusing drugs, regardless of their legality? This includes alcohol abuse.
Sometimes regular use can lead to tolerance, which in turn leads to someone using more and may become an addiction. If this happens, does one think it is normal and okay?
Do Jews who didn’t learn from D.A.R.E. or take a mandatory drug education program in public school, or watch tv specials about the adverse effects of drugs on the brain…
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KNOW
that misusing drugs causesbrain damage
?LightbriteParticipant“Legal drugs are just as bad.”
This thread is asking how Jews who are educated in Jewish schools, as opposed to public schools, are taught that drug abuse is “bad,” as you said (RebYidd23).
Abusing legal drugs is indeed unhealthy and can be “just as bad” as illegal drugs (RebYidd23).
LightbriteParticipantThank you Moderators for omitting it.
I just came back to thank the Moderators really quickly. Now they know way tmi but I appreciate them for not posting it because it was very personal. It was wise to omit it from such a public forum.
Sorry for piquing your interest lilmod ulelamaid. I hope you understand.
BRIEFLY:
I haven’t been to seminary. I went to retreat once where we learned that The One needs to fit into a Sandwich.
Top slice is good open communication.
Bottom slice is attraction.
Middle meat and filling of the sandwich is values and same vision, same goals.
That indeed would be hashkafah and figuring out my goals and planning my direction. Yes I am still figuring that out.
So yea I still need to figure out what kind of sandwich Hashem put me here to make.
Thank you for the thoughtful reply, as always.
LightbriteParticipantI wrote a long reply. Dunno if it will be approved. If not than thank you and tbc
November 13, 2016 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm in reply to: If all shoes were bright red except sandals and boots #1192163LightbriteParticipantSome people wear shoes to protect the dirt.
Some people have smelly feet. They are just being respectful to Adam 🙂
LightbriteParticipantFlatbusher: It was I who bumped up this thread. I thought we are supposed to work off old threads if they apply vs starting new ones. Anyway I was searching for something related and came across this one.
lilmod ulelamaid: Toddah rabbah!!! Omgosh I didn’t even see that he was labeled a “troll.” No wonder! And that is good advice. I just assumed that there was an actual rabbi who said that it was assur. I don’t need to take this information as fact especially for such a blanket thing without context.
Okay thank you and no further questions from me about this thread.
Let’s return to the regular CR programming.
LightbriteParticipantBreslev Rabbi Brody is big about health and exercise. I cannot imagine why a man cannot lift weights. Not even at home? Wouldn’t it help him have more stamina and strength as a father?
LightbriteParticipant“why Trump will disappoint you.”
It’s already sad to see the effects of this election. I know that I cannot see Hashem’s broad picture, and thus have to have emuna here regardless.
Still, I voted and prayed for Hillary because I both wanted her as our president foremost, and also because I did not want Trump in office.
I did not think that Trump would be any better for Israel than Hillary. I am relieved that some rabbis at least supported Hillary, especially after more of Trump’s history of assault came to light.
I thank Hillary for her courage to stand up for America, for us, people, humans, our children, present and future.<3
LightbriteParticipantSeat changes are such a big deal. If you need a certain seating arrangement, then yes it’s good to call and send an email.
The email is good for documentation purposes, just in case.
Yes have her call again for the seat change, in my opinion. If it will help you be a better student, then even if it’s another phone call, it’s worth it. Ask your mother to document or send herself an email of the conversation with the teacher with a time-stamp.
Okay this may be more than necessary, but it helps to have backup if you should need it later on.
B’Atzlacha 🙂
LightbriteParticipantIf Trump was Jewish then he would win the lashon hara contest.
As a person who has survived abuse on many levels, Trump in office can be very traumatic. There is no question that he is abusive. I want to keep it general on this forum.
That’s one thing.
Another… How do you explain to children that this man is no role model? The president represents this country. There is a reason why people compare him to H. He is normalizing violence and xenophobia.
Finally, Trump has not shown sensitivity women’s issues, to put it lightly. Based on my observations, having Republicans in office is a threat to women’s bodies. Even Judaism prioritizes a woman’s life before an unborn child.
IMHO, America had a bigger problem with letting a woman take a leadership role than it wanted to admit.
Thank you. I have emuna and wish Hillary the best life and health and blessings always.
LightbriteParticipantBrita to the rescue again
November 12, 2016 11:57 pm at 11:57 pm in reply to: Would you date someone on anxiety meds? #1193287LightbriteParticipantThis sounds like a question that he is most qualified to answer.
LightbriteParticipantIsn’t the tailbone the “etzem luz,” a seed of resurrection?
Maybe Vashti’s tail was a way to see that in her death would be the Jewish People’s resurrection.
That’s metaphorical, right?
November 11, 2016 5:22 am at 5:22 am in reply to: Please post healthy filling and easy to make lunches for men #1191170LightbriteParticipantLol LU!!!
LightbriteParticipantBananas and they help you fall asleep
LightbriteParticipant“If you are scared of getting old do something meaningful with your life. “
Good advice. If you contribute to the world in a meaningful way, then you will be eternal. We’re all here temporarily for a reason. B”H.
LightbriteParticipantBored214: Are you asking because you have a bottle of Malibu rum and are wondering if you can drink it?
Maybe you’re asking because you were at the liquor store and they had a good machir deal?
Or you are in Malibu and want to do as Malibu’s do?
…Or a plethora of other reasons… curious
LightbriteParticipantlilmod ulelamaid: What if their initial attraction or unattraction was based on whether you looked like his mom?
“Why Your Partner May Be Like Your Parent”
I wonder if somehow the whole “makpid on looks” might be a subconscious attraction to a bochur’s/bochurah’s mother/father. Though that would mean more than a physical 10.
November 11, 2016 4:02 am at 4:02 am in reply to: Please post healthy filling and easy to make lunches for men #1191168LightbriteParticipantSpunk: It’s nice to know that some men can fend for themselves in a healthy way. Some guys won’t touch vegetables unless their wives hide them in their foods. Others consider potato chips vegetables.
LightbriteParticipantjhonny appleseed: I am unqualified to respond to your question for I am not a teacher.
That said, at least you care! What do teachers think of parents who aren’t engaged?
LightbriteParticipantShopping613: “Ambivert: A person who needs energy from both social settings and being alone equally or like 60/40. Being alone for too long will zap their energy, and being in a social setting for too long will too. They need to jump between both.”
Wow!!! I didn’t know that there was such a thing. Makes sense. I guess the -vert thing is a spectrum. It must be culturally influenced as well, depending on social norms.
Goldilocks: So cool. I went to a shiur yesterday at my LOS (S = shul). Turned out that I was the only one who showed up so it was a private session and super amazing to study with the rabbi.
This post really gave me chizzuk so thank you all!
November 11, 2016 3:48 am at 3:48 am in reply to: Pareve versions of dairy foods are not worth the calories. #1191062LightbriteParticipantWinnieThePooh: “Enjoy and don’t forget to save a piece for lightbrite.”
!!!! I’m so flattered and in awe.
minyan gal: Heart you! <3
Thank you thanks… such a yummy recipe. May it be delicious and nutritious 🙂
LightbriteParticipantI know at least one religious family who has a tv and ones that don’t. My friends who do are the children of baal teshuva and chassidish.
Based on imamother threads, sometimes having children watch a religious children’s DVD is the most realistic way that some mothers juggle their duties in a busy household.
I think that DVDs that have religious music and teach Hebrew are great. Though I am just one person and still growing in observance.
It’s a good question. Honestly I think it depends on the family and the family’s needs. I am not sure if people are comfortable outing their tv watching, even if it’s just DVDs, IRL.
LightbriteParticipantDoes it make a difference if you bake the kugel in a circular pan vs rectangular?
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