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Dunno how to answer this question most sensitively.
However… this is my attempt:
No, I don’t know, but all that I do know is that it likely just makes your breath a joy.
If all you ate was honey, theoretically you wouldn’t ever have to wash your dishes. Not even in Boro Park.
“I just don’t think that one should be critical of those who feel that it is not the right decision for them to go out with someone on medication for anxiety, etc. “
Totally okay for someone to not be with someone based on this person taking medication for anxiety. We all have different needs and circumstances that influence our choices.
I have even heard doctors warn someone against dating someone else with a similar condition. It’s not a judgment against the person. Rather, seeing whether together they bring out each others’ strengths, especially in the long run. So even the person with anxiety may not even want to date someone else with anxiety. Who knows. Anything is possible.
There are posters speaking up against this because of stigma. It is unfortunate if someone is overlooked for something that another person may see as a strength, and another as not a big deal at all. Thankfully we are all different and have different needs.
Ultimately you have to do what is right and healthiest for you.
lol golfer… It’s been so long since I’ve heard ichsa. Thank you. That just warmed my heart 🙂
…Ischa yes true, but imagine if you then dipped the gefilte chip in stuff. Hummus. Guacamole. Something that overpowers the taste buds.
It’s the way to eat it without realizing you’re eating it. Much better than the ice cream version.
The little I know: Yes especially now that there’s all that backlash against NYT Soup.
Really. Just like you can ask for “no MSG,” I think it’s totally fine if someone simply requests “Dioxin on the side.”
Do we really know that there was no MSG?
Let’s just think soy-based ink and exhale out doubt.
In just a few breaths soon we’ll all just pretend that a hot bowl of NYT Soup is just like miso.
Isn’t it amazing that honey lasts forever.
We have until November 13th 2017 to incorporate.
Imagine if they made dehydrated gefilte fish chips.
Like slice the gefilte fish into thin discs and then dehydrate until crispy.
It’s like Jewish space food. Someone needs to patent it for NASA.
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Maybe kapusta is outing herself IRL to someone. They had a conversation about the CR last Shabbos. One of her friends talked about how she’s always on the CR.
“No way!” said kapusta.
“Way way” said RL friend.
Kapusta said that she can prove that she’s on the CR way more. The RL friend wasn’t comfortable sharing her username with kapusta to prove it. So kapusta said that she’ll post a new thread to show her just how much presence she has in the CR.
With a banner in the sky, like in last week’s parsha, kapusta created this thread where she is merging the two worlds into one.
Amen.
I don’t think this is one of those black and white yes or no kind of decisions.
The child needs to feel:
-Free to make decisions, learn, explore
-Loved, protected, respected, safe
-And maybe even close to one’s parent(s) or caretaker while being out and about.
There are so many circumstances, temperaments, needs, situations, and etc that may call for the best option to be with a harness at this certain moment or maybe not. It has to be weighed with the side effects and risks.
Also we have to remember that there is no perfect option here.
Red flag for what? (That wearing a harness early in life may lead to a later passion for sky diving or hang gliding, c”s?)
Anxiety.
We must also remember that anxiety can also indicate a clash between one’s environment and oneself. The person can be totally functioning but in a totally unsuitable social climate. If someone experiences anxiety for a prolonged period of time, chronically, then in some cases anxiety could become second-nature.
When we cannot change our environment, then yes sometimes we can change ourselves to adapt.
lilmod ulelamaid: Are we talking about the same story? It’s where the man doesn’t want to have children (even if it’s about marriage, per se) because he had some sort of prophetic information that told him that he would be giving birth to a dangerous son, something like this. This wasn’t Issac right? No I don’t remember.
Anyway, it was about him asserting control of whether or not his offspring deserved to be born. The point was that we don’t make that decision.
The same is true in halacha. Abortion for the sake of the mother’s life, is permitted because the fetus is a rodef. Yet, from what I’ve learned, if the same woman simple wanted to abort the child because of an issue with the baby (generally speaking), then it’s not her place to make that choice. That’s intervening with Hashem’s Will.
Yet…. we do see that some rabbonim do recommend genetic testing for high risk couples for Tay Sachs. So if both parents have the genes, then oh well, it’s not beshert.
Finding the right person to marry isn’t black and white.
I agree with you that we have to use our head in this matter, to help guide the heart. It requires thought and discernment.
Thanks
media: Thank you for sharing. So beautiful <3
May you always be best friends and live to 120 🙂
Ahhh… Thank you for the clarification kapusta.
Yea I had no clue. I still don’t know whose attention you’re trying to attract and how exactly. Maybe it’s an insider thing.
Anyway thanks for explaining.
B’Atzlacha 🙂
Awww!!! You’ve traded in the emerald sword for Torah 🙂
Thank you Moderators!
I want to be more grateful. There is a real human reading our posts and making the decision on whether or not they get posted. Plus sometimes they edit them to provide us only with suitable content for our viewing.
I wonder if Moderators need to practice amplified self-care to cleanse themselves of reading so much content, especially content that never gets posted.
Do they observe HIPAA? Can they talk about their readings with a spouse or coworker or friend? Must they take mandatory vacations every two weeks to recuperate?
We are lucky to have them.
At least newspapers are kosher for Pesach.
OH!!! V’hamavin yavin… And understand understood
It’s like the game of telephone. When I googled your second to last post, all these “moon” related results came up.
Word.
Ummmm… am I the only one who doesn’t get what you mean here?
I have at least eight witnesses who can attest to the fact that we are all Simba from The Lion King playing on Rachov Soomsoom.
Questions please:
If it’s not posted as Decaf then will it still show up in the main decaf section?
Otherwise won’t people have to open up particular sections to find it?
Thus limiting it’s visibility and responses?
“Additionally, not marrying someone out of concern that they will pass on a trait to your children is quite ridiculous. Again, this is based on an attitude that we have more control over our lives than G-d does. Plenty of perfectly healthy parents have children with ‘something’- this is out of your control (oakandfig).”
This is in Torah right? When what’s his name didn’t want to have children because he saw that his son would live according to his yetzar hara and Hashem said that it’s not his business to make such choices. He must have emuna.
BTW: Starbucks’ kiosks have more kosher options. They may be more reliable than the grocery store.
Is this a thread about the moon?
“The Zchus should be that people are more careful and learn to properly treat their tfillin.”
zahavasdad: Really? Blame the victim much?
They were placed in a cubby. Maybe the trashcan was there, because if one noticed, the hallways were a bustle of lomdim coming and going. The tefillin falling in the trash can for all we know was unprecedented.
It was an unfortunate location of a trashcan. It could have been anyone’s tefillin. The storage was full. Maybe another bag was there or the cubby could have been deeper. Maybe the protective tefillin case and the wooden cubby had too little friction holding them in place.
Regardless… Is it not judgmental to insinuate that this person did not treat his Tefillin “properly” and failed to be “careless” (ZD)?
-Is he not in pain right now?
-Was it his fault that a trashcan was placed there? Is he the first person in history to have his tefillin accidentally fall from placement?
-Would it not typically been given a kiss and apology and life moves on?
-Is it fair to blame him for the unfortunate layout that day?
May the person who lost his Tefillin be blessed always. Baruch Hashem for all the people who are giving him support, sympathy, and empathy.
blame? suggesting people should be more responsible is now considered blame?
Thank you
This issue could be easily resolved if every afternoon parents just brought their children to a fenced-in Child Park where they got to run around for a few hours. It works for dogs.
Plus then communities can restrict play to only vaccinated children. The anti-vax parents and their unvaccinated children can start their own play group or something.
Of course I am not serious. Some children run around grocery stores. Yet they are too old to be restrained in a shopping cart.Even if the child is on a leash, he or she may still end up turning the corner too fast.
No one wants his or her child dashing into oncoming shopping cart traffic. For these moments, maybe a retractable leash works best?
Shavua tov 🙂
Yay I’m not the only one in suspense waiting for CR to update
Is the gluten-free pumpkin kosher?
I was thinking about tefillin that made it through Auschwitz, were a gift from father to son, and/or from one’s grandparents after Bar Mitzvah.
Even if someone bought it for oneself, does it not contain heritage?
lilmod ulelamaid: I totally admire the wisdom of the Tortoise in the Tortoise and the Hare.
I think that the Moderators are on point here. They also were exposed to the posts that never posted, which offer a greater picture of my growth.
I know that it sounds like I am growing at a reasonable pace. However, I’m actually doing this again. I started growing more several years ago and then quickly withdrew. There was a long stagnant backwards period, and then a spark.
This time I am really working on becoming closer to Hashem, and exploring how to still be and feel like myself all the while.
It’s a lot slower this way, but it also means so much more now.
Thanks always 🙂
PS… I’m trying to figure out what they’ll call you:
*The Teacher of Teachers
*She Learns. You Learn
*Her Learning is Your Lesson
*The Best Part of Waking Up is lilmod ulelamaid in your cup
*Forget CliffsNotes. All you need is her.
anyone other ideas???
Just because you can buy a new one doesn’t reduce the value of a particular pair of tefillin. Is this not the uniting band that connects one neshamah to Hashem in prayer every morning?
Tefillin to one man as the Torah scroll is to its congregation?
Joseph: What if your sleepy pilot needs a coffee? He’s frum. Are you going to deny him?
Oh thank you.
“Did you wait the whole year to buy something this black Friday? If so, what?”
Yes I see how that sounds like I thought that it had already occurred. I am just wondering if anyone here is ready to pounce for something next week. Then again, maybe the person wouldn’t want to share to protect oneself from ayin hara, c”v shalom.
Last night I shared the article about the search on my social media page.
A random friend asked, “Why is this thing as important?”
My reply: “It’s holy and so personal. This person cannot start his day without his tefillin. Often tefillin are passed down the generations. It’s more necessary and meaningful than a wedding band. It’s a big deal, to say the least.”
“Anyhow, it’s only an hour a week, and they can spend the rest of them time preparing and discussing together.”
True. I really like the idea of them preparing the material together and discussing how things went. I didn’t think of that part. Like maybe they could even teach a shiur on the same topic, like the parsha. They could collaborate and because it’s a mitzvah, it may make it more fun and rewarding to give back. A+++++++ 🙂
snooper: What are your thoughts? Sending you blessings for a good and sweet way to connect and reconnect to your husband after a long day.
It sounds like they need to veg out and want to spend quality time together. They are already committed to their family, and barely have time for each other.
Asking them about becoming mentors for Partners-in-Torah is asking them to take the little energy that they have left before they go to bed and devote it to strangers. While it’s noble in theory, imho it sounds counterproductive for their current needs.
Sorry I could definitely be wrong as well, and your idea may work for them. Either way, you brought up a good point of having them bring something new into their discussions together. That’s why I thought that they could learn something new together.
Granted in my area, bochurim were attacked when walking to shul. That’s a different issue of pikuach nefesh. Hate crimes unfortunately.
As for rain, where I live, when it rains it floods. Sometimes it just rains. But I am not exaggerating. The roads flood regularly. Only part of the route has a sidewalk.
On a normal rainy day, I wear tall rainboots. If I didn’t the rain would pour into my shoes. My heels slip in sandals.
Since one cannot carry an umbrella, a raincoat can only do so much. I live in a hot place. Thus, even when it’s raining out, the buildings are blasting A/C. I feel like a cold wet dog. And can easily catch a cold. But I have to take extra care of my health, and the normal person probably may be better able to handle it.
If you want to go to shul badly enough, then you will, regardless of the weather and even if it doesn’t make sense. For men, there is an extra sense of responsibility to join the minyan too.
Understandable
lilmod ulelamaid: I don’t get the whole walking thing for women who are wearing heels, especially in the rain. Do you wear Shabbos rainboots?
You’re right this is serious and I was insensitive. I’m sorry iacisrmma.
According to WHEC, they’ll be searching again tomorrow morning. People are literally coming from all over to help search, and donors worldwide are helping support the effort with financial donations (WHEC).
The Askanim and friends are now looking for volunteers for next week that are ready to join the search. They hired a local employment agency near Fairfield to assist in the search.”
Yeshiva World News… If you’re in the area then you may be able to help find it
What about learning something new together?
You can be creative.
Painting or ceramics (like Sculpey clay that you can bake).
For painting: Buy an inexpensive pad of painting paper, paintbrushes, and those $1 acrylic paint bottles to experiment with each other. Use a disposable cup to wash the brushes in water. Make it fun and simple. Let it dry overnight.
Clay projects: See what you can make. It can even be practical like a Channukiah.
There is no need to finish it in one night. Let it be free flowing, and discover something new together. It will help rewire your brain so tv will no longer be your outlet.
You’ll get to see how you’ve been spending time together too
I Googled these cemeteries but couldn’t find pictures of photographs on tombstones.
WinnieThePooh: Whoa I didn’t even realize that the US sends absentee ballots to other countries.
I guess people stationed at international military bases also vote absentee? Are there any frum Americans in the military?
iacisrmma: Are you speaking as Hashem’s messenger to tell me that next Friday I need to shop before Shabbos?
Only if they found it with the afikoman
Lost1970: You may have been autistic then and it was only diagnosed now. You could have been acting out. Sometimes children who feel different for some reason may feel better by putting someone clearly different down. Maybe you were suffering then and still have work on healing your wounds.
It’s okay to feel remorse. It shows that you care. Remember that you can forgive yourself too.
I know someone who made fun of individuals who were gay, incessantly, when he was younger. He learned that people are people and now is kinder. It was his teshuvah. Hashem did not turn him gay.
I learned dialectical thinking recently, and how to use dialectical statements. Two opposing statements in one sentence. This flower is both medicinal and toxic.
This situation where you once teased individuals with Autism and then discovered that you have Autism both brought you feelings of remorse for past behaviors and now has given you far more compassion.
Does that help any?