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Maybe some of them hesitated.
Yatzar hara was like, Do it do it DO IT!!!
Yatzar tov said, No just find a spot somewhere, keep driving.
Yatzar Hara: Park here, it’s totally fine!
And then some cars were coming from behind, so the driver steers to 34 inches from the curb. Right hand shifts gear into park. Yatzar hara hands the driver a beer before exiting.
I asked about skin color because I thought that tznius was also about not being too flashy.
Wait…. Then again, something that is not generally accepted and/or be considered trendy in the non-Jewish world, like black nail polish, wouldn’t be permissible.
Ahhhh… thanks for the reminder Moderator 🙂
+1 lilmod ulelamaid for EVERYTHING that you said today!!!
“But the general rule is that one is not allowed to choose to go through gehinnom in this world, and if you do, you will not be rewarded for it, and you may even be punished. “
~Wow, you put it so well! Thank you for explaining.
Also, this reminds me of a shiur that I heard where the rabbi said that we are not supposed to rely on miracles (well-known).
What was new (and maybe less well-known) is that if Hashem does give us a miracle (like miraculously turning an spouse who abuses into a mentch without that spouse doing intensive self-work over a long period of time), there will be a physical or spiritual consequence on the person who is experiencing the miracle.
If Hashem has to alter nature for someone to such an extent, then that person will become weaker for a certain amount of time, and/or in a different way.
That’s why rabbis at times have to be careful about their brachot, since giving someone a big brachah can take its toll on the rabbi.
Obviously the FD needs to step up its tefillah
Depends on your skin tone, no?
If someone has a complexion that is brown, then a hue of black may actually be fitting and/or tznius. If that same person used a soft pink, then that might be untznius. Wouldn’t that make sense?
Not really. Tznius runs deeper than aesthetics.
Not having one’s birth name does not make one a faker.
An anonymous username can protect oneself and one’s family.
Plus anonymity removes the “me” out of my words, making space for another to read and relate.
Why would they do that then? To simplify it to the masses?
Promise? Or by then you may have already annulled your vows during Kol Nidre
With birds?
Check it, LF told a tznius joke! It’s concealed
iacisrmma: Good thing we have records of what they said. Even if they don’t remember we can member, or something.
Actually this thread is awesome because I was considering buying a cast iron griddle a couple months ago. The whole making it a kosher vessel thing totally didn’t dawn on me at the store. Obviously now I realize that I would still need to immerse it in a mikveh, but really wasn’t thinking of that as something to consider.
Now that this thread came up, if I did buy one, I would need to check if putting it in the ocean would compromise the coating. Plus I would need to verify if the cast iron coating was kosher, I guess, too.
Especially Norman*
*Please note: If you or someone you know is named Norman, please disregard this post. Norman is a totally normal name and being a Norman may be a wonderful person to be.
If people were armed with extremely impregnated mosquitos, pro-NRA Americans would surely reconsider.
Avi K: lol I thought you were seriously before the Umm Umm
Health +1
What are people?
I had a really awesome elementary school principal. She knew everyone’s name by heart
Just as orange as Tropicana
Does Judaism allow collecting? Like if one was to have a cereal box or troll doll collection?
What us Irony? for 800 Alex
Maybe Normal is a female Norman?
I thought the CR doesn’t do advertising soliciting promoting etc?
Or is it permitted because Joseph owns this place?
If so, then Joseph will you please also post about mail order islands? There must be a free service that sends you an island that you can freely store somewhere like in a backyard, storage container, or balcony. It must be an island with real people. Preferably nice people. Dog friendly. Dry but not a desert. With papayas and starfruits and guavaa too please.
Thank you. Oh and yes please ensure that it has awesome cell reception. Yay 🙂
Is saving a life worth it?
Thanks lilmod ulelamaid!
“Abusive is the opposite of healthy by definition. “
Sometimes a “happy” relationship is associated as “healthy.”
IMHO, it helped to read Utah counter the argument that a “happy” marriage was also abusive. By explaining it as, “healthy,” it was easier to see how saying that an abusive marriage was happy. Abuse is not healthy. It doesn’t make someone feel happy either.
………That doesn’t mean that an abusive spouse did not have good qualities. Maybe there were some more pleasant moments, even happy ones, but that still doesn’t constitute as a “happy marriage.”
If someone thinks that abusive marriages were happy in the past, then maybe that person has no idea what it feels like and looks like to have a healthy, and truly happy relationship?
They do exist. Somewhere out there. Hashem helping.
Shavua tov everyone 🙂
I meant any type of relationship, like friendships and relationships with family.
My best friend growing up was abusive at times. I never even told my mother about how she treated me because I didn’t know that I didn’t have to be her friend.
That pattern likely started at home, influencing outside relationships/friendships.
Once I started dating, I tolerated way too much for too long. Retrospectively, t would have been great if someone explained to me that a healthy friend doesn’t get angry and yell at you when she’s in a bad mood. A healthy friend doesn’t put you down or get jealous and behave possessively if you have and want to spend time with other friends.
It starts with the most basic relationships. The neighbor down the street who goes to school with you. Your peers. Parents. Teachers.
Having a healthy model from the start can prevent abuse.
Iacrsmma: “And the person suddenly became physically abusive while pregnant with #9?”
Likely not. By #9 she couldn’t take it anymore and finally had the support/resources/koach to help herself and children. Maybe she didn’t want #9 to live through it.
Furthermore, abuse can escalate. The controlling behavior in early marriage can turn to harsher levels of abuse. Anything is possible and so common unfortunately that imho it’s alarming how much people are kept in the dark about it.
“There’s so much lying when it comes to Shidduchim, it’s definitely a miracle that anybody gets married and is able to stay married!”
Anyone want to call LH here?
“I once hitchhiked with a friend and was treated to a lecture about the dangers of hitchhiking by the person who gave us the ride. Only in Israel.”
lilmod ulelamaid: LOL!!!!! Seriously still laughing
It’s a beautiful sign! Thank you for sharing 🙂
Question Please: What does this say and mean?
What would you freeze dry? Cholent?
lilmod ulelamaid: What are the benefits of dating someone who has been married before?
Hopefully he has grown from the past relationship, has more realistic expectations, etc.
They say that an older single may be more fixed in his/her ways. I wonder if someone who has been divorced is more flexible to life’s unpredictability?
Obviously this is generalizing so I don’t expect any accurate answer. Just wondering based on your personal experiences, perspective.
Nuff said ~ thanks again 🙂
How’s someone else’s baby?
Babies are a danger to themselves; that’s why any normal adult is considered competent enough to have one.
Most adults aren’t wont to swallow mothballs.
lilmod ulelamaid: Thank you thank you!!!! That really helps. Okay I didn’t realize that on the flip side, my focus on doing what I need to do in this world could throw me off balance.
Thinking about the consequence of Yiras Hashem can help keep one from straying.
If I didn’t think about the after-effects of eating an entire cake, pie, and box of cookies, then it would be all too easy to nosh away. However, knowing that doing so would have dire consequences, and eating healthy foods is good for me, B”H prevents me from going that far today.
While I cannot prove that transgressions in this world will leave me feeling gross in Olam Habah, having faith in Yiras Hashem can be enough to make sure that I’m not consuming in, engaging in, or devouring a boatload of metaphorical transgressions while I’m still in the mortal realm.
Thanks again for the explanation. Makes sense 🙂
How did you post if you weren’t logged in?
****Eight month old thread****
RebYidd23: How’s your baby?