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Is the shidduch crisis exclusive to this generation?

What about the next? What can we do to nest prepare our children?

Guesses to Joseph’s Q:*

To Do Mitzvahs

Tefilla Derech Mitzvot

Teenage Davening Maven

….*Posted 50min late

Thank you for keeping me up in this thread and your understanding.

Questions::

1) If Chareidi Jews are characterized as being anti-Zionist, then wouldn’t that be a movement

Being against the legal and secular State of Israel is holding a political, social, and economic affiliation.

If anything it is at least a social movement.

2) If every generation has its tests, then why not give a name to the differences in this generation?

Is it so wrong to label the contemporary frum Jew who may be living in Israel and an anti-Zionist as a Chareidi?

I think that the desire to say that Chareidim are the same as the Jews on Sinai and only are labeled such because their environment gave them such a title is also avoiding to recognize the special mission and challenges that Chareidim have today.

Okay that was a long awkward sentence.

I was just reading an empowering book on being an even Hashem. It mentioned how we each have our own missions. So many of these stories of the Gedolim and Jews of generations ago cannot be a model for us to live by today.

Hashem expects us to take on the challenges before us and see the value in our nissayonos.

So I was thinking… what if saying that Chareidim are just like Jews of the past; they just have a different social environment, is like omitting the very reason and uniqueness that Hashem wanted this group of Jews to recognize and value.

Maybe the Chareidi mindset is focused on conforming our identity with our Torah-observant ancestors, so that may be the reason why someone who identifies as Chareidi may defend against the notion that Chareidi is a movement.

Point is… Maybe there is bias here against the word “Movement.” As if it delegitimizes frum Jewry from being just plain frum.

It is a strong word.

If we look more objectively at the selected definition of Movement and our collective definition of Chareidi/Haredi, would associating Chareidim/Haredim as part of a movement reduce the group’s value?

Hopefully not.

If we recognize the differences between Chareidim/Haredim and religious Jews of the past, maybe that can highlight the great and special details that it takes to be a Chareidi/Haredi Jew today.

Does lilmod ulelamaid’s subtitle come from “learning lishma”? For Hashem’s sake. With the right intention.

I’m reading a book and it has some quotes that felt like lightbulbs.

Some of these subtitles are so deep. Mods could have explained it all but they’re here to be explored.

Thank you

Is anyone has an answer for Mazel.

Dunno if Mazel is still around and hat shopping. Either way this sounds like a genuine request, and yet the other thread ended up getting more attention thus far.

Can a $150 hat last 6 years?

Just hoping that someone has some helpful info here, that was my “please”

Thanks Meno 🙂

Abba_S: What about when a guy (or girl) is online dating?

The guy is chatting and making plans with girls during the same time period he is scheduling dates and meeting others.

Or he could be dating one girl while waiting to hear back from the online shadchan on whether or not another girl accepted his interest to meet.

These girls are also being compared with the others.

Maybe having comparisons helps put things in perspective for someone to see that no one is perfect.

Still having more than one person in mind during any given time may complicate matters and impact one’s ability to invest fully in seeing if his or her date and her or him aresponding matriage compatible.

MRS PLONY +1

Oh… Sufganiyot aren’t all about the oil. We can thank Israel for making them a Chanukah tradition.

From TIME:

From its Germanic origins, the dessert quickly conquered most of Europe. It became krapfen to the Austrians, the famous Berliners to the Germans and paczki to the Polish. Substituting schmaltz or goose fat for the decidedly un-Kosher lard in their fryers, the Jewish peoples of these regions also enjoyed the dessert, particularly Polish Jews, who called them ponchiks and began eating them regularly on Hanukkah. When these groups migrated to Israel in the early twentieth century, fleeing the harsh anti-Semitism of Europe, they brought their delicious jelly-filled doughnuts with them, where they mingled with the North African fried-dough tradition.

The latke, the classic fried potato pancake that was already associated with Hanukkah celebrations, is a dish that can easily be made at home. A perfectly filled and fried sufganiyot is much more difficult. Even some of the most talented at-home cooks will agree that the treat tastes better when left up to the professionals. Which is exactly what the Histadrut wanted: a Hanukkah treat that involved professionals. As many important Jewish holidays are concentrated in autumn, the end of that season often brought a lull in work in Jewish quarters. By pushing the sufganiyot as a symbol of the Festival of Lights, as opposed to the DIY-friendly latke, the Histradut could encourage the creation of more jobs for Jewish workers.

Sufganiyot can now be found throughout the United States as well during Hanukkah, produced by Jewish and non-Jewish bakeries alike. After all, as people all over the world have been discovering for centuries, no one can say no to a truly delicious jelly doughnut.” (TIME)

—-“Emelyn Rude is a food historian and the author of Tastes Like Chicken, available in August of 2016.” (TIME)

Joseph maybe they can meet in the desert with his camel like you did with your future wife? 🙂

LU +1

Thank you I just caught on to that huge detail

Meno +1

Q please: Does Chareidi imply anti-Zionist [Torah-observant Jew/frum/religious]?

Do you mean Rah in menorah or in ra’ah?

Rah is Reish Hey and menorah ends in Reish Hey.

So does Orah.

And Torah.

“All the oil in those sufganiyot will soon have you buying a bigger size coat”(golfer)

golfer: Did you make this up? It’s a nice lyric to keep in mind when tempted to eat another [latke in my case].

Who was criticizing?

Imho the OP was saying that there were so many hat stores or choose from and wondering if somehow the abundance of retailers would offer customers a financial advantage.

I cannot speak for Hashem but I know that praying for parnassah according to His Will is permitted. Earning parnassah through a halachically respectable Torah-abiding business is also permissible.

Saying that hat store owners are working for money shows how they work to support themselves and provide goods to the community.

I’m trying to guess what else you can find fault with here but I’m done.

Mods is it just me or have we’ve been Dan Lekaf Zechut?

Thank you

Labeling the brachot according to fruits and vegetables is not a literal translation. It can be misleading when taught without context and the Hebrew.

I thought that tomatoes are “Ha adamah” because the tomato grows from the ground like a berry, or melon.

It does not have a tree trunk that grows tall, branches, and bears fruit

What we get from a tree “etz” is a fruit from the tree, thus “ha etz.”

Tomatos like strawberries and blueberries don’t grow on trees. They grow close to the soil/ground/dirt, or “adamah,” on plants, so they are “ha adamah.”

Also I don’t think the same rule of waiting three years to pick the fruit from the tree applies to something like a tomato plant or melons.

Sometimes these “adamah fruit” only grow for a season and the seeds have to be planted again for the next year.

Growing up, we planted our tomato (vines?) plants before harvesting season. They didn’t survive past winter’s frost.

OTOH My neighbor’s apple trees B”H blossomed every year.

PJ: I think that the OP wanted to buy a hat and this thread was a natural progression from that initial desire.

Maybe we can comment on the other thread with relevant assistance in helping the OP find a hat?

Okay hope this isn’t a damp rag on a flame… on the flipside, having an emotional connection can exist independently of a healthy relationship.

So maybe this doesn’t affect the example of *Fiddler on the Roof*.

It is important to note that true love also comes with respect and the voluntary ability or choice to give and receive. Giving to someone wouldn’t be enough if it comes with unhealthy behaviors and such.

I mention this because it can be confusing when someone both gives to and hurts someone a lot. It can look like love from the outside but inside it’s quite different.

Regardless, yes the desire to give to another may indeed indicate a bond or emotional connection.

Abother look: One may also be giving to one’s spouse to ultimately establish a stronger bond and emotional connection to Hashem through the mitzvot.

I don’t know how often that happens but I know of at least one person who explained his desire to give to his wife as a way to strengthen his relationship with Hashem.

At first it sounded foreign but a friend made sense of it to me. She said that she could relate. For example, she is makpid on tznius for Hashem’s sake. It may strengthen her relationship with her husband but the main drive is to do it for Hashem.

Yes.

I’ve bought hats (maybe less than ten over the years) online.

I have returned or not been so fond of at least half of them.

I try to purchase from stores that offer free returns (includes free shipping back).

For a small business, I picture frequent returns and/or exchanges adding up to a big burden.

Hmm… maybe they sell other inventory online, like used hats? On eBay. And keep the hat store retail front a hat store.

Anyone else in Lakewood? Maybe someone is a hat store owner and has an answer.

Maybe there aren’t so many hat stores and a lot of mirrors next to the one hat store?

OR… There is a restriction on opening up retail stores in Lakewood after a new zoning law. So when a few stores wanted to close their business, one hat store owner urged them to stay and put his/her hats in those stores so that they could keep their zoning rights.

Or maybe people in Lakewood like hats.

golfer I second your bracha for LU!!! 🙂

DY: And after his father?

Side question… When an older rabbi’s long-time teacher is no longer living (alas), does the rabbi ever defer to a much younger rabbi for personal psaks?

I am guessing rabbis have their own rabbis. Like doctors go to doctors.

Is age a factor?

I just thought of how the Chabad Rebbe of blessed memory would pray at his father-in-law’s kever. Did he have a rabbi to guide him after his father-in-law, of blessed memory, passed?

LU: May your impression of me be a bracha and amen.

“In any case, everything I wrote in my previous post still holds true: You are a Jew who trying to be an Eved Hashem and to grow in her Yiddishkeit (just like the all the rest of us :))” (LU)

Amen and may we all grow as Evedim Hashem and in our Yiddishkeit 🙂

LU +infinity

Maybe the Lakewood hat stores also sell online?

They expanded their market, which helps them all get more than enough business for profits.