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Thank YOU Rational!!! 🙂

Abba_S, yes B”H working often does keep people out of trouble. Excellent point

Avi K, so what do you do if someone waves for you to come closer to the baby at the bris to benefit from the brachot? If the room is packed, do you sardine yourself in there? Do you say, “No thanks, it’s just a segulah? It’s against Torah for me to do it for the sake of the brachah.”

What about if someone tells you to “Eat eat,” in the sukkah when you’re not hungry and don’t want to eat something? Often, I end up eating a bite in that situation.

Maybe most Jews don’t find themselves in such situations because their practices and directions are already established in the community? I’m a BT, so people enjoy involving me in new practices?

For those who ignore segulot because they go against Torah, then would going along with a segulah be like putting a stumbling block before the blind?

(For the record, I appreciate it when people care to include me in gaining blessings and such. I’m not a fan of having to eat what feels like random food at times, but I do my best and take a bite when possible. Thanks.)

Would that newly combined Joseph be roughly double in size?

Avi K: I don’t get it though.

Many Jewish practices appear to be done to result in a segulah.

For example, here are two things that I’ve been told:

-Eating in a sukkah during the last day of Sukkot is supposed to bring you extra blessings and success.

-Proposing to a woman during a bris is supposed to bring extra blessings to the marriage.

-Simply being present at a bris will bring you blessings.

-Giving tzedekah will result in you making/receiving more money.

Interesting… both posts involved cooking beans.

DovidBT’s recipe sounds like an unpalatable combination of overcooked pasta and undercooked beans.

Gadolhadorah posted about vegetarian chulent being a less than box-office worthy hit. However, even if CR chefs are not into the vegetarian chulent, maybe there is indeed a tasty vegetarian chulent recipe already in the CR.

Is there really a Tikun Olam Cookbook? I didn’t find one when Googling it.

Whoa… a 1985 study found that certain pastas had different glycemic indexes irrespective of how they’re cooked!

Glycemic Response to Pasta: Effect of Surface Area, Degree of Cooking, and Protein Enrichment

T M S Wolever, BM, MSc, D J A Jenkins, DM, J Kalmusky, RPDt, C Giordano, RPDt, S Giudici, RPDt, A L Jenkins, RPDt, L U Thompson, PhD, G S Wong, MD and R G Josse, MD

🍫Syag Lchochma, thank you!!! I love the way that you offered practical examples of how a wife’s influence can come into play in a marriage. Thank YOU for making the Rav’s words easier to digest.

Everyone in general – THANK YOU ALSO. You’ve helped me appreciate the Rav’s message and take it to heart. <3

Shabbat Shalom 🙂

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Example:
But what if a wife, who is not perfect, lifts her husband up to a level much higher than he was before marriage. Without her, he would have likely been keeping on keeping less mitzvot. Is she not helping him even though she’s not perfect?

This example is about a couple that I know. Someone, who learns with this Rav, told me that the husband would be so much higher if only his wife was higher. Based on what I’ve heard, which I admit I don’t know the whole story and wouldn’t be able to judge, since having his wife in his life, he has committed and followed through with major mitzvot (top tenants of living a frum life) that he had no interest in keeping before meeting her.

Do men and Jews in general judge wives more harshly than the men they are married to?

As a woman, it sounds like being a wife comes with significant risks if one’s husband would ever dare veer off the path.

I am not unhinged… I am working on making sense of what I’ve learned.

Thank you

Hi everyone… just to clarify, a real life respected Rav did tell me that:

-A husband’s spiritual level and observance is dependent on his wife (thus connection/closeness to Hashem is up to the wife)
-The wife has the influence and power in the relationship to bring him down [no mention of the man being responsible for bringing down himself or his wife]

… Now for context, this talk was in regard to a specific shidduch match. The Rav, I am guessing, was warning me tht aa marriage can make or break a man’s connection to Hashem.

Looking back at the conversation, this question came up in my mind… wait, is it always the wife’s fault? What if she is doing the “right” things and observing Yiddishkeit according to Torah Laws and her husband gets involved in something bothersome?

Marriage is already scary and entails so much pressure…

Anyway, thank you for your honest and sincere answers 🙏🏼

Milhouse, wow, I did not even think about not telling the guests as an option.

You’re right that it’s not like I give a detailed description of each recipe.

Hmmmm…. thank you…

Thank you Besod Emuna 🙂

Neville ChaimBerlin, thank you!

Okay you answered my question 🙂

CTLAWYER!!! Thank you for your clue 🙂

Levi, the shiur is by Rabbi Kin and available on YouTube.

Title: “How to Recognize One’s Soulmate”
May 14, 2012
Rabbi Kin
Torah Ohr
Posted by 7200beverly

Part of a lecture series titled, “The seventy most difficult questions in Judaism”