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This is exactly what it says in Pirkei Avos about 3 people sitting together and no divrei Torah between them is as if they ate from”zivchei maysim”, dead karbanos. It is interesting that the more awareness there is about Shmiors Halashon, the Yetzer Horah is there to show he is even stronger, nebach!
If you personally know at least one of these “mean guys”, you should confront him in a nice way.
If someone rings our bell we try to give(some impatient collectors don’t give you a chance to get to the door). And acquaintance of mine told me one never knows who Eliyahu Hanavi is.
About the teudas,one should check the date and also look if it is real,in other words that the date or name doesn’t look like it has white out and corrections. I was once at Copy Corner and there was someone photocopying,whiting out and putting in corrections/changes.
One who insists on coming into the house, is allowed in and my husband will gladly listen to his/her story.
At one point there was a certain man who would ring our bell close to Shabbos. Each time he had another story(and often another type of hat) and yet i would give him no more than a dollar. Once he came about a week or two later than a previous visit and his story contradicted what he told me earlier. I nicely told him and also added that his stories were so good that if he would publish them he would make more money than ringing peoples door bells. We never saw him again!
If he would again ring my bell, he would probably get his dollar no more or less!!
Is someone trying to push a new type of non dairy so called “milk”?
Even the ODA joins folks in the mountains so they no longer have to travel in(to the city) for services. The people get free pick up too!
No, we don’t fall into that category ,we help pay for services(with our taxes)… we go upstate because our family “work” travels upstate too, so we women have to join ,some of whom would prefer to remain in the city…. but gam zoo l’tova! All in all the daycamps here in the city are full B”H and so are the mountains. Therefore, to sum it up it’s Yidden here, Yidden there and B”H for all us Yidden everywhere!!!
Good idea for families without sons!!!!
wellmeaning busybody…you forgot the extension number, either 102 or 103!!! This is a well meaning company that stands behind their product and always had a hechsher!!
BDE, how painful to lose a loved one and someone close. We are just finishing the year for our dear sister A”H and the memories are coming back like a tsunami(not only of her but of others we already lost). Who can even think of going to sleep. Anyway, it is important to consult with your Rav and follow his derech. If you live in NYC, you can at anytime call 1845HALACHA and there is a dayan(both Yiddish and English available) on call at all times. May you no of no more sorrow. ….and remember we at the CF are almost always available, if not one member then another.
In my opinion it is disgusting! Being around alot of non-Jews who take care of my mother, i asked their opinion and they too felt the same. No they are not religious! We have to do whatever we can not to let this finalize…let’s remember what happened to Sodom!
B”H and Mazel Tov! Being that we don’t know who you are,could you let us know your real age! Enjoy your engagement and remember we here at the CR are here for you when and if in need!
Yes, it definitely does! When my children saw my name, they couldn’t stop laughing!!! There is something know as constructive criticism…l’divre toeles!! Up front when asked my opinion, i will state that i am critical.
It is not fair to lump all into one group. To my understanding, Rav Avigdor Miller Z”L, who was looked upon and frequented by all types Litvish,Chassidish,Modern,Heimish, etc., did not approve of therapists. One should have a Rav as it says in Pirkei Avos. However, in many extreme cases the Rav who will recommend therapy will give his follower a name of someone he is familiar with. In many so called more modern kehillos, the Rav in addition to his semicha has to have a degree in such as psychology or social work. In addition, before hiring him(the Rav) , the Rebbitzen is interviewed too and that is why they usually have a great team and community.
In many yeshivos there is what is called a mashpia to help those who need someone to talk to.
One should not go to any therapist before checking them out and seeing what schooling they have/had.
Nefesh, which is an organization for orthodox therapists in psyche field lists many and they are rated as well. For example, we have a family friend whose daughter was secretly taken from her home. The daughter was over 18 so it could be said it was her choice. To make the story short, the therapist who the daughter was seeing and listened to one side only and recommended the escape. When we checked her out on Nefesh, her ratings were the lowest with schooling that the lowest IQ could do. In presenting this to someone who so called led the daughter to this so called shmerapist, the answer was “she was the cheapest.” The damage is done to a family who may never be reconciled on account of an uneducated therapist who too(when inquiring) has a dysfunctional family.
Unfortunately, the 25+ situation is common in the Chassidishe crowd as well. The bottom denominator is very often money. The Rosh Yeshiva in our group whose daughter just got engaged at 23 B”H, when asked what the story was, we were told that most boys want at least support of $1,000 a month to which he replied he does not have and won’t lie, when a shaddchan suggested that he lie and after 2 months say he can’t. I know of 26+ girls who already own a house(no mortgage) and earn enough to support a family but many boys(actually it is usually the parent(s)) want the support to come from the parents!
About girls marrying widowers, it is happening in all circles. These girls are very special as the ones that i know who did it are doing a great job. The most recent is a shidduch of a 26 year old engaged to her brother in law, a widower of her sister A”H. Who are we to understand the ways of Hashem!?!?!?!?
It pains me to read this post. Is this what we are coming to? My heart goes out for many of these unmarried girls, many of whom were not even given a fair chance except being labeled as picky or don’t know what they are looking for, without even haven ever spoken to them. I hope some shaddchanim out there who so easily make nothing of some of these girls are reading this post.
I am sure that many of these girls would be excellent mothers, some even better than some mothers who do have a husband, yet i hope they will be mothers in the way Hashem created the world to bring children into this world!
If the furniture is in good condition, what’s the matter. About bedbugs…they were recently found in new matteresses from a famous brand. Before moving we gave away lots of furniture in good use…the people called to thank us and to ask us to let us know when we are ready to give the rest away. The matteresses were old and we recommended that they get their own.
Wow! It’s unbelievable what harm/damage some of our teachers can and sometimes do. In my experience, when beginning the parsha of shidduchim with my sons, when i called the principal, a female and presented two names for her, the feedback was about scholastics and not middos. The girl with the higher marks was of higher caliber in her eyes. Being upset i called the main principal, a known Rav and mechanech and told him how upset i was and what a miracle that i ever got married…to which he replied “look how far you got and look at some of those girls with the high marks” and that he would definitely look into the matter…which i hope he did. Some of the so called labeled girls end up being top teachers because of their sensitivity to those who don’t fit into the normal mold and some do great shidduchim because someone realizes the common sense they have, which is more important in life than getting 100% or all Alefs and A’a…so don’t worry, Hashem watches over us.
With supermarkets opened till late hours, try to do your shopping without the children. Obviously, we don’t know what mood parent was when in the store. Maybe the parent had a bad day and was less tolerant of the child and took our their frustration on the child and now realizing what they did are feeling a little guilty and venting in the CF !?!?!?!?!?!
I did realize that the person opeing is writing in second person form but perhaps they are really writing about themselves and know they need some help!
A Verizon prepaid phone. In Boro Park it can be purchased at Duddy’s or maybe even Hi Tech!
By next year, hopefully Moshiach will be here and you will be featured on the annual Bnos Melochim program!!!! Kol Hakavod to make this change and with such strong feelings. Keep going and striving higher and higher !!!!
How old are you and how can we contact you if we think we may have a shidduch to redt you?
Considerations are a computer programmer, pediatrician, speech therapist, early childhood teacher going for degree in Psychology. All are from intact frum homes and looking for a mentch.
Thanks for your comments! I am still waiting for some of those so called older boys to let me know how to contact them. Unfortunately the boys are not considered old even at 40 but the girls are labeled “older girl” by the age of 22, some at the fault of shadchanim who label them.
Here is another story. My neice was a great catch and still is great….B”H she is married. When in the parsha of shidduchim, my brother in law drove down to Lakewood on a snowy Sunday, when the roads were dangerous and with black ice. The appointment was to meet the famous Rabbi____( i don’t want to identify him) and i don’t know if he really has semicha,but the title Rabbi was added to his last name. He never even once picked up the phone to redt a shidduch. Then there is the famous Rabbi ______ from Boro Park, where the job as shadchan is handed down from generation to generation. Anyway, being his father davens in the same shul as us, we suggested my brother in law call the son. My brother in law calls him and he answers that he will call him back. (B”H my neice is married and has a beautiful family.)
Guess what, last week , after 5 years Rabbi Boro Park shadchan calls and asks to speak to Rabbi____, my brother in law. Yes, they have a son learning in Eretz Yisroel. No, my brother in law will not call him back. If this shadchan manages to get him, he will get a dvar torah with halachic backing(something my brother in law is known to be an expert in) to show and how wrong he and others(shadchonim) are in their dealings with great girls and how they make nothing of them.
An old friend of mine told me 10 years ago, “today even a half normal boy can luck it out”!
Do we count if we have an apartment or karka in Eretz Hakodesh?
It is especially important to remember those who left no offspring such as aunts, uncles, cousins or such as our neice who was young and married but did not yet merit to have children. Yes, we also never forget our father who was niftar at a very young age over 40 years ago and especially our dear sister who was taken us suddenly now a year ago from a sudden brain aneurysm in Eretz Yisroel. How hard it is for us with simchos coming and no they are not here with us. Yes, many of us learned to go on with life, with a feeling of a whole in our heart.Yes we know Hashem has His hidden ways, yet it is hard on us and a real nissayon. How hard it is when you want to pick up the phone a share something with a dear loved one and you realize you can’t! For those who can’t understand, may you never understand us and remember to cherish what you have a try to live b’shalom, in peace! Chag sameach to all.
Pinters Seforim accomodates very nicely. Call them and they will pick up too. They are located on 14th Avenue between 44th and 45th streets in Boro Park. Yes, it is their parnossah so there is a nominal fee!
In moving, we had boxes of shaimos which included some of the above. Shuls are not a dumping place for shaimos(no we don’t have a shul). We paid $10 a box/bag. We too don’t bring home bentchers unless it is close family, which rarely happens as most of the neices/nephews are in Eretz Yisroel and go with takanos so no glitz or overspending even if they are able to afford.
I know of a High School principal who does save such as benchers from each student’s chasunah and he mails it to them for their 25th anniversary, by which time most of them no longer have a copy of their own and it is really appreciated.
So, each to their own for who does hand out souveneirs and for those who choose not to…Mazel Tov to all!
All opinions are well taken.
My nephew, who is married and learns in Lakewood also commented that there are many eligible older(30+ boys) in the Yeshiva, but there are not enough shadchonim to deal with all the available boys.
Now back to the comments of who marries who….
We all heard of stories i have some too. Currently a 32 year old girl is engaged to a divorced with 4 or 5 children; one of our Lakewood neighbors divorced with 9 children married a girl and together have 3 children; a divorced man who married off all his 4 children married an older girl about 38 and B”H have 2 of their own; girl in her high twenties helps a family of 8 for Chesed, the husband divorces his wife and marries this girl. This man was a full day learner. All the above couples are B”H happy. It is not for us to rationalize but we have to try to help others. So young man who feels his fate is hopeless, if you are around 35, i have some eligible girls who may want to meet you, if you are frum and ehrlich and not wasting your days with watching the clock. Two are 28, one a computer programmer and the other a pediatrician. Another 27 year old who is a certified early childhood teacher now going for another degree in psychology. In addition she writes for frum daily/weekly publications. These girls are ready to marry serious learners who may even want to stay in learning. They are frum, dress tzniusdik according to halacha not some piece of trash who tries to tell frum people how to dress(or not dress). If you fit the bill let me know how to contact you. I will charge you $1 for shadchanus, because of the minhag to pay a shadchan.
The original owner Mr. Friedman was niftar. His son who used to work in the store and sold lives in Staten Island. He also has a sister whose husband is a Rebbe in upper classes at Y.O.B. The store was sold to someone who at once had affiliation with Glatt Mart. In my opinion, had they stayed small as in the original store, business would have not gone down and force them to close.
About Pomogranate coming to B.P., yes it is true they are an upper class type of store. However, many of their customers travel from elsewhere. Their valet parking makes it convenient.
There is no sign saying only such and such welcome. There service is great and their store was a pleasure to shop in the few times i did drop in. So if they come here, it may be closer for those who travel to get to the store and the Boro Parkers will have it in their backyard. About Boro Parkers being more price conscious, maybe with food but not when it comes to such as clothing!!!!
Friedman’s is supposedly to become Pomegranate #2! Watch for details during the summer.
Of course there are BPs in the CF!
In a recent article, Dr. Susan Shulman wrote about the danger of such holders as result of two babies who choked on a bead, when the string tore.One child was B”H okay but the other was not.
In my eyes it reminds me of rosary beads, which Catholics use when they pray. There is a string of such beads with a cross at the end and they count the beads. With this gadget it has the pacifier at the end. Unfortunately, many have gotten used to these, some of them have real silver. I also think it looks rediculous besides of where the idea is coming from!
If you are hiring Headstart Teachers then you should know the rates as the program who sponsors hires, such as Yeled V’Yalda,Shira,U.T.A.,Pupa or others who began programs independently years ago.
So perhaps, you may be interested in such a job, rephrase your question to “what is the usual salary for a new Headstart Teacher”?…at the same time ask what are the job requirements too!
Sounds familiar! In moving we used an all in one handyman whom we paid alot of money,in green stuff! We did calculations and realized for the amount we were charged we could have bought new items of the same we transferred. On Friday we realized the Shabbos timer was not advancing and called this all in one handyman. It is Monday, and yes i was told he knows about it, but he has not returned yet.
As we have blondes in our family, we have been very satisfied and pleased with Shevy wigs the past few years. Some of us have also bought Eva wigs(formerly of Bnei Brak and now mainly in Boro Park).
The reason some girls have their degrees by the age of 20, which is quite rare, is because they CLEP many courses while in High School. There is only one program that is a quick fix and it is not The Sara Schneirer nor Touro mentor program. There are agencies that will not hire those whose degress is through a quick fix program, so better do it the right way, not where the name of the program may sound right! The boys can pick up yeshiva credits, where the girls must take core courses, so ask around and hatzlocha rabbah!
The Skulener Rebbe is known to give this advice to women. My daughter in law’s friend had been diagnosed with a brain tumor(something she kept secret and did not tell her family about). She consulted with the Skulener Rebbe Shlita who gave her the same advice and she followed the advice. She too is not Chassidish but considers herself and family Heimish. She is B”H healthy and fine and is building a beautiful family.(The Rebbe says that cancer=kain sayar, meaning no hair).(I know you B”H did not fall into that test). This friend told my daughter in law whose family has a minhag and does shave, to discuss her feelings about it because her(freind’s) family would be opposed to it. Yes, it is not an easy undertaking.If your husband is very against it then consult with your Rav whom you asked shailos and discuss with him. Hatzlochah Rabboh!
Perhaps you did not yet receive the lawyer’s bill if you are ready to tip him. Even if you did and you want to give him something for Hakoras Hatov, i would wait. In dealing with such as buying homes, wait as things come up. If you bought a condo and you may have a leak(which will show up later such as after a rain) you may need the lawyer to intervene as the builder may ignore your calls. In our dealings we never tipped, the price was very well paid. Let me ask you, how often do you get tipped? Don’t get me wrong, any delivery person gets tipped when he drops something at our home. Even if we are not home, i will double tip next time i see the same delivery person.
Mazel Tov and ignore Yenta questions or answer in a way that one will get the message to mind their own business.
There are certain people who want to know everything about others but don’t dare offer or answer any of themselves. When talking to such, i for example, when asked howmany children i have, the answer will be as many as Hashem gave us.
In listening to a lecture on such as Loshon Hora and Richilus, the speaker who had a sense of humor, in her English accent said,”Hashem gave you one nose and it belongs on your face,not in other peoples pots”. It is your choice to answer or not. When our son was engaged someone asked if he’ll put on long (meaning a long rekel), my husband answered “sure, when it’s cold he’ll wear long johns”. After such answers, the yentas should/will get the message.
My sister’s Home Depot kitchen looks nice and the deal was good.
However, the hinges are of a poor quality and she forever is ordering new parts which are sometimes a little different than the original. If you are trying to avoid agmas nefesh look around elsewhere and keep on asking. Hatzlocha Rabba and enjoy!
If you open any local phone directory you will find many kitchen places that are local. Remember, competition is good for the consumer!!!
That is so nice and thoughtful! Do you have enough leichter for her to light for Shabbos/Yom Tov? Or perhaps a piece of jewelry that she wants but you have not gotten to it yet!
Mazel Tov and lots of nachas and easy raising this prince to be an erlich Yid!
Believe it or not you’re not alone!
My grandchildren have the same issue and no they are not junk eaters. The dentist explained that even the carbs such as bread that they eat can be the cause, as we know carbs convert into sugar. Another factor was the drinking water, so now they drink bottled water only. Brushing teeth more than once a day is also helpful.
Genetics are not ruled out but any protective measure must be tried.
Good Luck!
Years ago there was a division of classes. We all knew where we belonged and accepted it. Today most want to be WANT TO BE(S) and have the same. You can’t buy a car but you can lease it and pretend you have it. On the same hand there are many couples who are doing it on their own and B”H surviving. They may not live in a Condo/House bought by Tatte/Shver but live in an apartment building and yet some may be happier because they don’t owe anyone anything except to Ribbono Shel Olam!!! Now don’t get me wrong…we do help our children. My husband is not American and his children come first. However, now in the process of moving(nows my turn) we are giving away some of our home furnishings for free. One of our children were here when a young,just married Chassidishe couple came to look and our very used furniture(in excellent condition but over 25 years of use), and considering taking some. My son openly told me that it was good he was here. Had he not seen it he would have not believed me….and he had a good lesson to be extremely thankful to Hashem to landing him to parents that are there to help pay his bills etc. and that he can learn without headaches.
It is very nice to see such acdus about this case.
At the same time we should think about innocent people in our own backyards who have unjustly been incarcirated and it is as if they disappeared off the face of the earth. Can we start listing names that we haven’t seen/heard about in a while and daven for them too and help them with their court hearings if still possible?
On my block it seems that the word “helmet” is unknown to vocabulary but such as Lexus is not. I may comment to the child because the parents obviously don’t care!
My earlier comment to similar posting was about a frum pediatric neurologist who knocks on peoples door and tells them(when he notes such as riding bikes without helmets),”…then you come crying to me to save your child”. I also commented that Cabrini Hospital(i know they close but the patients were transferred elsewhere) had one floor just for children who were unfortunately just lying in bed, some as result of such as TBI included bike injuries due to not wearing protective head gear.
Any large Judaica store such as Eichler’s in Boro Park or Flatbush should have a variety to choose from. You may try to access either on line and see what they have available before you even leave home.
First of all it’s spelled laser.
Yocheved Youngwirth is very popular and you will find her ad in Torah Times!
No, i have no need of such services but live nearby and see the night traffic to her office.
Gavra…i grew up when tznius was not such an issue as it is today. Our family was very makmid on tznius in so much that when we moved to Boro Park, Mora Dina Rosengarten commented on my way of dress. Yes, i must add that i wore braids till teenage years. We had teachers who were role models and looking at them was enough. Some of the teachers we had were Rebbeim such as Rabbi Godlewsky Z”L, who if noted a girl whose sleeves were rolled up he would comment that perhaps it was warm in the room and the windows need to be opened.Other Rebbeim we had was Rav Avigdor Miller Z”L and Rabbi Gabioff Z”L. I think i don’t need to continue.
Unfortunately today the word of a teacher is not as strong as the salespeople who sometimes convince to purchase clothing that is not fitting.
Unfortunately, as mother of boys who sometimes started their days as early as 6:00 A.M., the secular part of education was a challenge. First there were the boys who were not interested and disturbed the rest of the class. Two, the teacher was frustrated and sometimes dealt very negatively in handling these unruly behaved boys. Some teachers coming from Public School after a long day with different elements would take the frustrations out on these boys too.
What i did with my youngest was homeschool him. We set up a program where we had frum accredited teachers come to our house(after yeshiva hours at 9:00P.M. and Friday afternoons) to teach him all material necessary for a Regents diploma. B”H it took 2.5 years and yes his diploma is in the drawer with other documents. If in the future he does want to go into such as CPA or other field for which a diploma is needed, he has the needed diploma. The teachers who came to our house were impressed and we had others who wanted to teach other subjects as our son was the perfect student, opposite of what they were faced with in the classroom(of a yeshiva). There was no funding for this, we paid cash for the service and his old High School let him take regents through their yeshiva for which we gave a nominal donation.
Let me mention that we a a chassidic family and boys go to what is considered ultra. The Rosh Yeshiva knew about our plan and agreed as long as it did not effect his Limudei Kodesh.
Try calling Bnos Melochim to accesss their phone shiurim and to speak to someone when necessary. 718 906-6451
Ask your Rav that you consult with on other matters.
In the past we did sign lease with a tenant right after Pesach which is sefira time.
We are reading the opinion of one side. Perhaps we should listen to the MIL’s opinion which of course we won’t unless she visits YWCF and figures out that she is subject of discussion.
By the way, is this man who is complaining receiving support from the wife’s parents? If yes, then some parents who support go with the old Yiddish saying of “ver es hut the maya hut the daya”, meaning whoever has the money, has/gives the opinion. It is very rare that this will not happen!!!!
And if this is not the case,then discuss this with your Rav who you feel comfortable in discussing anything with.
Pessi Miller in Kensington has very good deals and very nice gowns for rentals only. If you will be needing the same in the near future it pays to buy, if not go with a rental or gemach if you find what you are looking for.