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There is a huge difference between making kiddush and drinking to get drunk!
In our shul which is real Chassidish, a group of bochurim from a so called Litvish shul came by and asked for aliyas which they could not get in their shul(maybe they overslept and came too late). They nicely each got an aliya and then asked if they could make kiddush. When shown where the kiddush would be taking place, they went made kiddush and got so high and rowdy and i will not write the end. One of the men, who has a daughter in shidduchim
(and only wants a Litvish boy)commented this is what i am supposed to commit myself to at least $30,000 a year for support!?!?!?!
Boro Park Mensch
Calm down, i mamesh can hear you screaming like the Rechnitzer Rebbe. No one is speaking loshon hora, it is ledivrei toeles to try and help your shul. Sometimes people look at life through a mirror(where they see themselves only) rather than through glass/window, where they can see others.
Like i mentioned, i enjoy coming to the shul and contribute nicely and will continue doing so even for the few times i may attend.
Listen and be realistic or else you’ll need a box of Kleenex for your tears of mourning(the Shul), chas v’shalom.
Tell me where you sit and i will say hello when i come next time!
Maybe one of you should invite him to a Rabbi Rietti lecture, who with his humor can bring him to do teshuva. Yes, he may not be interested but perhaps if exposed to what is available today he may change his mind.
What are some of your topics of interest and how do you spend your time away from CF?
No, i don’t agree with the last post to rent the shul.
The shul should stay with the Rabbi and board becoming realistic and open to changes suggested to make the shul more vibrant.
I understand that the current board members may be somewhat wary and rightfully so. But, when having a meeting it should be done at a time when notes can be taken and reviewed and thereafter all should be typed up in black and white to protect those who are long time members. Yes, they must be careful of who wants to jump in because they may take over slowly as has been done with one such shul in the mountains. One relative of the people who built the shul and are no longer among the living and their children are not affiliated was hurt to see the shul officially becoming a Chabad site. No, the Rabbi is very nice and devoted but by officially becoming a Chabad site, he receives funding and can survive even if there is no minyan many a time. It is not fair to the oldtimers, to those who contributed and if the same would be done to Beth El that too would not be fair and correct.
Meet Rabbi Frand and get a good mussar shuz!
soleik and anonymous
Your ideas and points are well taken.
Now that the long nights are almost upon us, perhaps you have an OPEN FORUM one evening where all who are concerned could come and discuss their concerns about this lovely shul and perhaps some kind of decision or direction could be determined and tried to make this shul more vibrant.
About the shul Chas V’Shalom being knocked down, i am starting to remember other that were knocked down and forgotten along with Temple Emanual and Eitz Chaim Yeshiva.
Another thought/question of mine is how is Shomrei Emunah doing with this community change?
Another factor or type which can be attracted are the Med students at Maimonidies Hospital such as the Congregation Ohr Hachayim of upper East Side in Manhattan does for the med students from Mt. Sinai and Lenox in N.Y.C.
This is a very important topic and we all have to try to keep this shul alive.
Even though i attend rarely such as for High Holy Days or special Shabbosim, i make an effort to give a nice contribution annually.
Perhaps their website should be updated weekly and there should be communal functions such as inspiring lectures that may attract more(for a fee of coarse).
You have some very valid points.
On occassion i frequent the shul and too found that the Rabbi, knowledgeable and nice is giving a sermon rather than speak to speak to the people. Yes, there is room for improvement to attract more people which would include trying shidduchim for many of the older singles that are looking to get married.
One of our day workers who was in U.S. for many years and received their driver’s liscense here in U.S. returned to their home country. Their U.S. driver’s license was not recognized and they had to take the whole driving course and lessons which are more stringent there.
In short many driver’s and pedestrians here in U.S. do as if they are the only ones out on the road!
Ofcourse
Would you agree that you are having a harder time getting a date/bisho for some of these very “aidel” and fine looking girls?
We all know of such girls who are 25+, dress tziusdik(not skimpy and fit clothing), wear their hair nice and neat and are not made up like clowns or those of front cover,so called “fashion”(garbage) magazines? Is one of the first questions, when redting a girl “what does she look like”?
In my opinion, even a girl who is out of school does her hishtadlos to listen or go to a shiur to keep her frumkeit. Some girls change as time goes because they feel perhaps looking and behaving more “with it” will get them a shidduch.
All in all, there are many great girls out there, too many 40 and 50+ still eager to be married.
How would you deal with someone who refuses to listen and does not want to keep Shabbos and has in the past!?!?!? No, this person wants no part of such as Partners in Torah.
Most of us are aware of the saying that “everyone has skeletons in their closet”. Yes, it is true that not all is perfect in life. However, some people deny it or pretend they don’t know who you are talking about if you ask them such as “are you related to so and so”. Recently at a wedding i had such experience and the side that wants to be in denial is playing a good show…they think so!!!!
I was appalled at seeing people texting in shul at the prime of selichos. One young lady came in very late, about 20 minutes befor the end. She sat in front of me so i couldn’t help notice that she was busy with facebook and taking photos of the men’s section and texting all. Perhaps, the shuls should have phone detectors to prevent this sickness on Yom Tov. I wanted to tell her something at the end of the services but she left! No, she was not the only one busy with this texting. This texting has become a real sickness!
Arig, i feel for you and what you fell for!
Now that she is there, you have to try to work things out and teach your daughter some real life lessons.
Perhaps you speak to the mechanechet and help set your daughter up with a family where she will feel comfortable and the mother/father can be her mentor and hold her hand while you are not close to her.
In Mir, the bochurim are today hooked up with such. I know, as my son is the shoulder for some bochurim. They feel close enough to discuss their doubts for whatever it is and have a place for a good home cooked meal and some real family life, not yeshiva/seminary lunchroom dynamics that sometimes does not see a mechanech/mechaneches and the kids are busy with such as bottomless texting and that starts their sliding down from Torah life!
Hatzlochah!
If your daughter is adamant of coming home, tell her that the condition is to get a job and pay back the $21,000!!!!
Gut Shabbos, Good Luck and a Gut Gebencht Yuhr.
In short we at CF are all well meaning.
Some of us, however just post without rereading and therefore may hurt someone unintentionally.
Perhaps, CF should have an agreement we sign before we can enter.
I have seen young mothers verbally abuse their young children who tried to get their attention because they were busy texting.
Not only is it addictive but too many are doing so on Shabbos too,with many admitting to it and looking for a heter.
What have we come to!!!
just me
Unfortunately i am quite aware what is going on with todays kids , especially those who are handed cell phones and credit cards freely.
But woe to the parents that went into hock so their children can freely loaf around and they think they are studying or learning!
In my corner of town, B”H i don’t see any boys and girls mingling and i hope it stays this way.
Yes, we do have children and grandchildren who are our crowns and joy for the nachas they give us.
Kol Hakavod for people who undertake this mission.
There is a however.
People are sick and very promising when they need a kidney.
However, once they have the kidney some go back to their bad habits and feel they can eat whatever they want and end up sick again.
Before one gives part of himself, they should not rely on the info from the coordinator but do homework on their own in regard to the personality of whom they will be giving their kidney or other organ.
If there is secrecy involved, the coordinator should have some form that the recipient will sign as to how he/she will take care of their health.
Unfortunately, i am writing from experience and talking to the recipient is like talking to the wall.
Just returned from Eretz Yisroel and the danger that i saw was possible outcome of too many so called seminary girls and yeshiva boys from U.S. mingling together on Friday afternoons. Even if they are cousins or family friends it is not correct.It does not look good and goes against what Pirkei Avos says about “al tarbeh sicha im isha”! To top it off, the meetings are in middle of Meah Shearim which is an absolute disgrace. So maybe this will shake them up and they will go back to what their parents, some of whom went out of their way and even had to take out loans to send their children to learn in a makom kodesh, as Eretz Yisroel.
Make sure to treat your husband better than your cell phone which you should use for phone only. Make him #1 and not your friends.
Sounds like the child expert who had no children.
Yes, today many young recently divorced women both here and in Eretz Yisroel are becoming social workers. With some of these fly by night college programs it is a very easy route to take and these people have some money in their pocket to help pay their bills.
The Hebrew edition of Hamodia lists different customs and their source, as well as Yahrzeit of others (besides known gedolim) and where they are buried, especially in Eretz Yisroel.
Let’s all give a standing ovation for the CF where people could vent without identifying themselves and yet open the eyes for people who sometimes choose to close their eyes and ears to reality of what is happening.
While purchasing some school supplies yesterday i came home disappointed. There in the store were young teachers excited to purchase items to beautify their classrooms but were bumping into people and nothing in terms of “middos” visible. These young girls who couldn’t even say a simple “excuse me” or “please” will be educating our children. They may end up with a new “yisomah” or a child of recently divorced parents and we expect them to know how to deal with such. In my head i could see them going down the throat of these kids who may not be doing their homework or not get a 100% on such as a spelling test….so what are we to do? Perhaps getting the PTA involved in such as making schools aware of when there are family issues and the family is afraid to say something and hope the issues will just disappear!?!?!?!?
To me this appears to be written by someone who has some underlying guilt and wants to hang on to one thing going against “cholov yisroel”. My question is does this person have the latest model phone and texts and is busy with “shmutzbook”(facebook) all day ,which is a waste of time and and a mode of destruction.
Reb Moshe is not with us for a while. Yes, he was a WOW of a person and we have to realize that some of the answers he gave was adapted to the times. Bashing something as Cholov Yisroel will not make you a better person the same way someone drinking only Cholov Yisroel but doing alot of other wrongdoings will make those wrongdoings okay.
It’s Chodesh Ellul…wake up to the real things important to a Torah Jew.
In my opinion this couple should live out of town meaning not a place you can easily drive to. such a Australia or Eretz Yisroel is far enough and they should consult with a gadol of their choice to help them set themselves up in a community of their likes so that the community becomes family. Staying here will just end up with problems that will get worse this time!
Oh my,am i that critical?!?!…and if yes, what are your suggestions for change!?!?!?
Honestly speaking one of our daughter in laws is not from New York and all i can say is she’s is one of the best things that happened in our family. Recently, i told my son how he lucked out and that his wife was not a WOW but WOW,WOW,WOW,WOW…..
Not only that,her parents are the most unmeddling and appreciative for everything we do….
and no we did not have to fly overseas for anything like vort or wedding as they have alot of family here.
Hatzlochah and good luck!
P.S. She doesn’t run shopping but loves to help others.
Thank you Hashem for showing us more of your wonders and teach us more real life lessons!!
People got married right after liberation of the holocaust. In fact there are stories of people who were married during the war too! Yes, the hurricane was a frightening experience but when you think into life, you realize it is not a picnic either!!!!
The objective of this raingear is to protect you from getting sopped from rain.
If the same were offered by a high fashion garbage magazine/company would you say the same?!?!?!?
Reporting second hand from Boro Park where effects were very much felt.
My son was in the bakery and felt the shaking so that at 9 this evening was still feeling dizzy. This was his second experience, the first being while living in Yerushalayim.
One of the grandchildren came home saying they were on the rooftop playgroung and felt the shaking so that the whole building was quickly evacuated.
My mother’s nurse said she woke up because her bed was shaking so, she thought she was dreaming at first.
Yes, with their music and other online free listening to nice music, we have no need to pruchase CDs!
Perhaps CF should put a timer that automatically disconnects those of us that are spending too much time here because of our addiction!
True to the above comments that we don’t know what it was like living under one roof with husband #1.
Another reason for her attitude is perhaps jealousy, assuming the first husband went on with his life and living a normal life and she is trying to convince people that it’s not what they see.
Lo Aleinu what attitudes have seeped into our frum world from the outside goyish world.
Our needs for an apartment was the same as yours and we were successful through a broker, as many people(with apts. to rent) don’t advertise to try to make sure they will not end up with “problem tenants”. Yes, we did have to pay one months rent as her fee but it was far less than what our old neighbors had to put into such type of an apartment.
Our apartment was in move in condition and the rent very decent.
Papers as Hamodia and Yated will have apartments listed through brokers. You won’t regret it. Good Luck!
Sorry, but life experience makes me sound older…many people ask me where i was during the war, so no i am not insulted.
Perhaps one day we can have a CF masquerade where we all have to guess who all members are and admit to a correct guess. After masquerade we will choose new names for the CF.
Potomac River
Country Yossi still has a program but at a different time each week. Upstate i haven’t heard this season.
He is for all types of children both young and young at heart!
be carefull for the people you let into your homes…you never know what they bring with them! One of our family member’s nurse moved from an infested apartment and one year later our member’s house was infested. It was no picnic but we got rid of the bugs and the person who was the carrier. Yes, it was in Boro Park.
An acquaintance of ours who lives in a mini 8 apartment building watched as the bugs craweled from a neighbor to her. She B”H caught them in time and was spared unecessary aggravation.
when you all are done i’ll meet you at the gym!
Take the sheitel back immediately. The hairs are not put in properly. Hope you have a receipt….but don’t go on T.V. to prove your point!
Perhaps looking into the option of putting the house into a trust or LLC about which you should consult with your financial advisor of his/her recommendations.
Your concerns are very valid!
Good Luck
oomis 1105
Sorry, but not only was i born in a leap year and actually am a drop younger.
i also remember….
the pharmacy selling Coca Cola in a special glass with its’ name
Kahal Cholov Yisroel Milk
Stumer’s Bread
being permitted to eat such as Devil Dogs,Tootsie Roll, Nestles Crunch, Oh Henry bars because if the kosher grocer sold it we assumed it was okay for us to eat
Klein’s ice cream machine, with ice cream pops for ten cents and a pull up crunchy paper wrapper
Lieber’s candy store on Lee Avenue
Madanim potato chips
How old do you think i am? Give a 5 age range and i will let you know if you are correct or not!
….here are more
Turkish Taffy
The Three Stooges
Chazan Hass and his daughters
Molly Pikan
The Art Raymond Show
Tzvi Sekula
Der Vetter Nuvi
Bernard Melzer
Watching the Eichman Y”S trial
Nachlei Emunah bungalows in Monticello, located on Joyland Road
there are all types there
It is the minhag of some, not all. The reason, they have no choice. We are here and they there and you have a choice of giving or not giving but let on not be mekatreg on holy people. Yes, they are holy and think of how they feel going begging!
Try it and maybe then your opinion of criticism will change.