Letakein Girl

Amen! Thank you, Randomex.

I changed my screen name from letakein to letakein girl cuz I wanted to show that my essence is letakein, to fix my mistakes, to change the world, to use my God given talents to spread the light of Torah. Lol, I just noticed how idealistic I am. And i probably thought a bit too much into my screen name. It’s not every day that I get to choose my own name, so I care abt it.

You know the cutest thing? Nechama Cohen (heartbeat) is Yaakov Shwekey’s niece. Isn’t that heaven?! They’re such a talented family!

Cuz you’re human!

Hashem created you. Inside of you, and inside of every single human being out there, he created a bug of sorts, that causes us to make mistakes. But unlike bugs on apps, this bug isn’t a mistake. Hashem created you so that you could get pleasure from basking in His presence, according to the Mesillas Yesharim. If it would be straightforward to do re right thing, with no struggle, then it would be cheating to give you that pleasure. You wouldn’t deserve it! Would you reward an app for doing what it’s supposed to? No, cuz it never had the choice. Unlike us, it doesn’t have bechira. The fact that you keep falling, keep making mistakes, that is exactly what will allow Hashem to give you Olam Habah.

Yaakov shwekey and baruch levine are also amazing singers, but I know what you mean about his voice. He has this way of injecting so much emotion into s song, it’s amazing!

I’m so annoyed- I just wrote this whole long post to Cuzimjewish and it got erased by mistake… Oh well, gam zu letova. I guess I’ll try again.

So in my post, I was writing about how so many people that are ffb have such a harsh relationship with Hashem. We feel like we’re constantly being judged- good girl, bad girl.

I heard a shiur by Rivka Malka Perlman, in which she discussed a medical emergency she had been through. When she left the hospital, she looked around at the world and noticed all the love Hashem is constantly pouring down on her- and on all of us! And that made her realize how wrong she had gotten it. She used to think (like you, me, and every other frum teen) that life was as follows:

Do the wrong thing= get punished

Do the right thing= get rewarded

Try harder, work better, make the most of your life.

NO! That is not what Hashem wants. He doesn’t want us to be wracked with guilt- He is our father! We were born cuz Hashem wants to send love to us. He gives us gifts cuz He believes in us, and He wants us to use those gifts to bring light to the world. He is encouraging us every moment of the day, and He is quick to forgive! You know who’s slow to forgive? We are. We don’t forgive ourselves for our mistakes but He does.

“I’m sorry Hashem, I did this wrong, could You help me fix this?”

“Of course, my darling, of course I’m going to help You! Come on, let’s try again!”

And you know what? He gives us another day. We’re not banished from the world and sent to sit in a tub of fire cuz we make mistakes! We make mistakes cuz we’re human. Hashem thinks we’re adorable!

These days, I don’t have guilt, I don’t have a constant conflict. Not because I’m perfect, and never do aveiros, but because I’m trying. And you know what? If I mess up- which I will, cuz I’m human, then I can fix it right away!

Get out of this mentality. It’s not me against Hashem, it’s us together.

Hope this helps.

Read the rules in the sticky thread, and you’ll find out.

I don’t know if this question is still applicable to you, but I’ll answer it anyways, cuz others may find his thread in the future.

What I do to prepare for Yom Kippur every year, is listen to Rabbi Ephraim Waschman’s Erev Yom Kippur Teshuva drasha. Bli ayin hara, the rav has the ability to make even the most hardened heart understand what Yom Kippur is all about, and get us in the right mood. Last year, 18,000 people called up to listen to his shiur live- I don’t have the numbers for this year, but I have no doubt it’s higher than last year.

My Yom Kippur wouldn’t be complete without him.

I think the recording of his shiur is up on the Chazak phone line, which can be reached by calling 845- 356- 6665.

Believe me, it is worth your time! I have many speakers that i listen to on a constant basis, but rabbi Waschman is without a doubt, my absolute favorite.

Lol, I like cozimjewish’ new subtitle. 🙂

Was the name Roni given at this person’s bris?

It’s a very clear app, and it works really well. I haven’t found any bugs yet. I just don’t see the point in it cuz it’s the exact same thing as the website! Know what I mean?

(IPod touch)

Something’s a little funny about the thread title.

🙂

Lol, it’s just like I siad. Now I feel like an old timer. 🙂

Mazal tov, 42 and Nechomah!

Is it that time of year already?

(Sigh.)

Try searching the cr for info on those sems. Most seminaries have already been dissected by the cr’s esteemed members.

Nothing personal, Maayan, but I really don’t think it would be safe for her to exchange email with nishtdangesheft. Any serial killer can say he’s an writing an article and needs info from people on the cr. Once they’re emailing Abt this article, they might develop a personal relationship and nisht might share some personal info.

I’m really not saying that Maayan is a serial killer! 🙂

Just saying that there’s a reason for the rules.

Evatchbechinor,

Notice that I wrote “generally.”

In some cases, it is indeed the kind of thing where everyone is playing a game of follow the leader. But the majority of times, society has some logic to the way they do things. To say otherwise is just stupid.

Rock out, I’m not very knowledgable in these areas, but the way I understand it, there is no way to permanently fix anxiety with one dose of medication. You either have to go to therapy to learn how to deal with the symptoms, or permanently be on mess. Sometimes you even need both.

Did I get that right?

I remember reading someplace that if you keep replacing negative thoughts with positive ones, your brain eventually gets the hint. There’s no off button, if that’s what ur looking for. 😉

Gryffindorable hasn’t been here in a while either… Maybe she’s in sem?

Please daven for Chaya Esther bas Rochel to find her zivug bekarov.

Thank you!

Omg! So sad…

I had the same question as you guys! I emailed someone the question. As you can see, I was tired when I emailed her and so it came out wrong. Instead if saying that death represents the loss if our ability to do Mitzvos so that in turn, we will get reward, I said that death represents the end of our ability to get reward . Oh well, gam zu letova! Ok here’s what I emailed her:

I’ve been struggling with this question for a while and it’s kind of hard to get down in writing, but I’ll try.

Basically, why would any intelligent human being want Mashiach to come, if when he comes Hashem will take away our Yetzer hara and we’ll just do Mitzvos without any real effort, which means that we won’t get rewarded?

Now at first glance, my question may seem selfish, but when you understand that our reward is connection to Hashem, it comes out better 🙂

To me, Mashiach’s coming is like death. After death, we have no potential. That’s why death is feared: cuz it represents the end of our ability to get reward. If when Mashiach comes, there will be no potential, then how is it better than death?

AND HERE IS HER REPLY:

Hi,

Thank you for your feedback and for your question. I don’t see it as a selfish question at all. I can see where it is coming from. It’s coming from a good place, a place of yearning for closeness, connection and positive growth. You want to keep moving but you’re worried that when moshiach comes you’ll be stuck in the same place and wont be able to grow.

There is a lot we don’t know about the time of the coming of moshiach. I don’t know if you’ve heard this but there’s a quote that says, “Those who say don’t know and those who know don’t say.” Meaning-it is something hidden from us and those who talk about it as if they know, really don’t know and those who do know will not talk about it-because they are great enough and know that it cannot be revealed. Having said that, I probably shouldn’t say anything because…what do I know? and what can I say? 🙂

But I’ll try to answer your question.

Do we know that when Moshiach comes we will do mitzvos without any effort? What does the destruction of the yetzer hara mean to you? Does that mean we still won’t have bechira? Free will to choose between what is good and better? Will things be easy for us and we will not have any struggles at all? Does Moshiach’s arrival along with yetzer hara’s death mean that life will be all bliss? There are a lot of medroshim about the time of moshiach that are not meant to be taken literally yet when people talk about it, they translate it word-for-word as if this is exactly the way things will be. It wasn’t spelled out for a reason. Hashem put things down in allegorical fashion so that we won’t know what will be.

We also don’t know what it means to be connected to Hashem from the spirituality of living with the bais Hamikdosh…watching the korbanos and everything going on with kohanim, leviyim, yomim tovim. Those times are meant to increase our awareness of Hashem and our connection to Him. So I’m not sure that Moshiach’s arrival will mean that we will lose or that our connection will decrease. If anything, I imagine these things will help our connection get stronger and better.

There’s a small piece about moshiach in the middle of this post. Read it too. Perhaps you’ll find it helpful.

Why is that how you define death? Physical death means a person is not alive in this world and cannot do any more actions to receive reward. However, spiritual death would be more scary to me. A person who lived his life properly and left a legacy or impacted other people can continue to reap rewards for the actions being done down here that he started, actions that were caused by the ripple effect-because of the actions during his lifetime. I don’t see death as an end to our ability to get reward. Once a person dies, they just begin to be rewarded for the good they have done down here and the good that continues to be done because of them. Death is only fearful because that is when a person can no longer do their own actions and impact other people to do positive actions. But there is still potential for reward after a person dies.

I like when people think and ask. It says a lot about you that you care about your spirituality this much. Let me know what you think of this and if you still have any questions, please don’t hesitate to ask!

Oh. Ok then, thanks.

Isn’t Iran a part of Yefes? I think I remember hearing that in a shiur once. Omg that’s really scary!