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yitayngwut,

Permit me to try again.”She has the right and the chiyuv to give mussar for whatever she believes is proper “.

She does not have that right. Just because we follow different hashkofos and psaks, why does she have the right to lecture me? Why can’t she be happy doing what her rav says is right while I follow mine? Why do I have to bothered arguing back?

emoticon613 said “because i don’t agree with that outlook, that’s why.and why do you assume that “it is not really hurting” me?”

Your attitude is selfish and mefirst. You have every right not to like Eye of the Tiger and to not have it, or any other song, at

YOUR simcha. But to decide that because you don’t approve, it has no place at any Jewish simcha is wrong. Not everyone share your outlook. By stating the song doesnt belong at any Jewish simcha, you assume that your outlook is the only one that ounts

. emoticon613

My mother ( she was a widow ) could not affoed it either. An English teacher in my yeshiva suggested and put me in contact with the Speech Department at Brooklyn College. The therapy was done by students, under the guidance of a licened speech therapist at very little cost.

BP Totty said “

I have a friend who stutters, as does several of his kids. Yet, for some reason, they do not have the problem when they read kryiah. No idea why, but its just an interesting fact.”

I can offer an explanation, from personal experience. As a child I had a terrible stutter. It was a result of my mind going at 90 miles per hour and my mouth could only go at 55 mph. In my mouth’s futile attemots to catch up, the words would collide and produce the stutter. However, when I read from a prepared text,

my mind and mouth went at the same speed, and as a result, no stutter.

I’m still a stutterer, but because of the therapy I underwent as a teenager, I learned to recognize the signs of when my mind is starting to accelerate and to learn how to get it to slow down, rather than try to have my mouth catch up. I’ll alwats be a stutterer,it just doesn’t manifest itself as much any more.

All kids with this problem should get speech therapy and support

as other kids can be cruel. What they don’t need is an aunt like mine who thought it was funny to call me a shtimma bebbick, loosely translated as “marble mouth “

Mosherose,

If we are supposed to have bitachon, then why so many shidduch investigations?

Putting this issue another way, how would you react if the government enacted a law forbidding non-Jews from patronizing Jewish-owned stores?

hereorthere

, you probabbly think this a just a feminism plot. With HIPAA privacy rules and patient confidentiality, how do you know , for a fact, about all these horror stories? What are your sources?

Here we go again. If there were such a thing as Jewish music, with no input from goyim, why does the music of Eastern European Jews, Sfardim, Bukharin Jews, etc sound much more similar to he music of the surrounding goyish culture rather than that of other Jews?

Jews born 50 years from will think today’s music is Jewish music since they won’t know the music it was adapted from, in the same way todays commentors have no knowledge of the Russian tunes of 150 years that were modifiedinto Jewish music

Feivel, I’m reminded of a story a friend of mine once told me.Shortly after he married, he invited his parents ( of Eastern European extraction ) for Shabbos.

His wife, an Italian Jew, prepared a meat lasagna. His parents, aghast, said who serves this for shabbos? She repkied, my family is from Rome and this is what we ate for Shabbos.

The point is, not all Jews eat kugel and chulent and gefilte fish. My brother in law is Iraqi and his Shabbos table is otally diferrent

I agree we shouldn’t take Hashkafa from the Goyim but we have been adapting their muic

I’m curious as tio why this topic keeps popping up. What defines what is” Jewish ” music is a function of culture and age. The surrounding Goyid=sh culture has always influences Jewish Music. That’s why my brother-in-law’s music ( Iraqi by way of Israel )souns Arabian and my neighbor’s ( Bukharia ) is from somewhere in Central Asia. Neither sounds like the ( Eastern Europe )music that is being defined hee as Jewish Music.

With age, each generation considers their parents music as old, their’s as perfect and their kid’s as horrible.

Halevi said

” I happen to be a big fan of classical music. Many Gedolim listened to classical music”

“It might sound wild, but I’m very sure that the state of our music has played a big role in bringing up a generation of spiritless youth. “

The generations that created classical music also created the Haskalla and Reform movements

Shtayger,

Your concern should be waht is best for your son, not what the friends in your circle will say.

My grandnepew went thru thst stage. My niece, who is yeshivish, decided to let him go thru his ” pink shirt’ stage without drawing a line in the sand because he continued to learn, and showed no rebellion in other areas.

The phase eventually passed and now he is in High school, well adjusted, happy and a top learner.

Please tell me this is a joke.

A600KiloBear said

“BS”D

Most of the chilul Hashem caused by kapporos is that caused by the self styled modern Jews who cause trouble for their betters by stirring up all sorts of allegations and complaining, which in turn leads to outright mesira. They are unable to live Yiddishe lives because of their own weaknesses, and instead of improving themselves they complain about those who are stronger than they are. “

and how do you know this piece of lashon hora?

Back to the point, a dowry is the fathers responsibility and if the choson demands an apartment, it is not the community’s problem.

By the way, if weddings in Israel are so inexpensive, why do peoples spend over three thousand dollars in airfare and expenses to come here and collect door to door?

sjsinNYC “My in-laws don’t do holidays the way I want to (they sort of just have the meal and thats it, and don’t treat the holidays that special) so we always holiday by my family. “

Did your husband have any say in this decision, as it had to have caused him some

problems with his family. The only place you mention “we” is the part about always holidaying with your family,

Joseph

You also need to be able to write and communicate effectively in ENGLISH for many of these positions. You may noy need a four year degree but most of the jobs you have listed require traing of one sort of the other. Youjust don’t walk in of the treet and start repairing elevators and operating nucler power plants.

Charlie Hall said: The greatest obstacle to it, by far, are the teacher’s unions. “

This is incorrect;A better method than union-bashing would be to get the unions to join us! Most Catholic schools in NY and NJ are unionized;

The biggest obstacle is the one union you didn’t mention, the United Federation of Teachers, If students are allowed financially to leave public schools, their members lose jobs.

Joseph:How in the world did the modernishe velt manage to invent a blatant sheker about the yeshivishe velt? We’ve learned from you

It seems to me that one of the fundamental and historic issues is the disinclination of most , if not all yeshivas, ( be they MO,Litvish or Chassidish ) of opening their books to outside scrutiny. Some the yeshivas in the 5 Towns on LI floated the idea of getting access to school tax funds until it was pointed out that with the money would come the same requirements that the public system has: an open budget subject to

voter approval and an elected board ( the voters in both cases would be all registered voters, not just parents ). They thought they would get the money with no restrictions.

I understand the plight of BY. But I don’t think they can ecpect outsiders, with their own schools to support, to just throw money without some assurance of how the money is being spent, what the budgeting process is, and how they determine their scholarship needs.

Kilobear,

you still haven’t answered how you’ve been able to termine the numbers and nature of religious zionists, or “In fact now a small crocheted yarmulka is part of the rapper style and does not even mean its wearer is in any way shomer torah umitzvos “. So, now you’ve also slandered evry frum Jew who wears a crocheted kippa. I believe you said you live in the FSU (former Socet Union? ). If that is the case,where are the studies and sources that form the basis of your “facts”?

SJSinNYC,

I’m with you. The parking lot is not attracting cars as the cars were already there, but illeagally parked. The Eidah can’t shut down Yerushalayim, they don’t own the streets and non-Jewish tourists drive cars as well. I don’t see how this is chillul Shabbos

to chaverim and kilobear,

If the Turks still governed, would you obey the laws? It seems you are trying to have it both ways. If it is a secular, non halachic government, what is your justification for not obeying the law? and kilobear, where are you getting your facts from re religious zionists? Can you cite the studies? What would you and chaverim do if the zionists decided to eliminate the learning exemption and made you subject to army service?

Askan,

“good people must step up to defend and support worthy organizations be it the Agudah or anything else and silence the critics.”

Don’t be so sensitive. Agudah does many good things, but they are not immune from criticism. I can think of at least 3 items where we can agree to disagree.

1. Their opposition on requiring fingerprint backchecks for private school employees ( required for public schools ) 2. Their opposition to prayers for the IDF (included only in the Rabbinical Council edition of Artscroll ) 3. Their position on the Markey bill.

Disagreeing with Agudah does not constutute bashing.

ames,

Perhaps you never realized that not all frum kids can go to yeshiva. A frum man in our community had to send his kids to the local public school because the kids had learning disabilities that the yeshivas wanted nothing to do with. Speak to anyone who went to public schools in the past and they will tell you what it feels like to be one of a few Jews in a class and the pressure to conform when their holidays came and they recited prayers in class.