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Having to drive home is all the heter you need
Simple. Don’t drink alcohol!
All I’m saying is that in 100 years, if Moshiach hasn’t arrived, girls will be learning Gemarah and no one will remember a controversy
PBA, I’ve no idea what you’re talking about. I’m just pointing out that people who oppose expanded education for girls aren’t aware that Bais Yaacov was opposed for same reason.
It’s ironic but the ideology that today opposes Torah shebealpeh for girls opposed 120 years agobthe creation of Bais Yaacov or any formal Jewish education for girls
Why do yidden lack knowledge of history, leading to threads like this
Great speech!!!!
Two other free sites are Indeed and The Ladder. The correct spelling is CareerBuilder.
Why give your money to countries that gave up their Jews to the Nazis? An exception would be Italy, which protected Italian Jews and over 70% survived. In one incident, the Nazis rounded up over 1000 Roman Jews and demanded a ransom. Italian Catholics came up with the ransom money but the Nazis reneged and deported them anyway. Don’t confuse the Vatican with the local clergy. Local priests and bishops went out of their way to defy the Vatican and protect Jews.
There are free web sites like CareerBuulders and LinkedIn. Based upon your requirements ( you fill out a form indicating your location, skills, type of position you’re looking for etc ) and they will send you daily e-mails listing available positions. There is no fee
Good luck
I’ve seen Aron Kodesh covers with symbols for five yom tovim on each side. Yom Kippur was always linked with Purim
Marijuana has been ( in liquid drop form ) shown to be effective in controlling glaucoma.
Sam2, minhagim often don’t need, or have, a rational reason for being. Theoreticaly, one waits six hours to allow the body to digest the meat. If the six hours starts from when you bentched, then the six hour time frame is meaningless ( as one could end up waiting up to 8 hours ) and arbitrary.
Kj, the Crusader massacres, the Arab pogroms in Spain, the Black Death slaughters, the Cossack mass killings of the 1600’s, the Czar’s repeated pogroms all took place prior to Zionism. In fact, it was the Dreyfus trial and its demonstration of rampant French antisemitism that prompted Herzl to found Zionism.Jewry in Eastern Europe in the 20’s and 30’s was unfortunately catching up to Western Europe and the USA on the path toward assimilation.
Lior, how often do you kiss a baby on the mouth?
Lior. Would ask about a restaurant without questioning its kashrus and hashgacha?
In New York City it’s illegal to rent out an apartment using Airhub. Just this past week a landlord was able to successfully evictva rent stabilized tenant who was advertising his apartment thru Airhub. Airhub was made illegal because hotels lose revenue, the city loses taxes and neighbors dislike strangers coming and going at all hours of day and night
DaasYochid, that comment was uncharacteristically rude and sarcastic. Unlike Shabbos and kashrus,music and being frum are not mutually exclusive
contact the dealer but I doubt it can be done
A pack of tissues would have a lot less than $20. From health perspective,why would you sneeze at somebody without covering up?
Lior l, what if the cashier needed the money to pay shul dues?
Now that his son has a profession in addition to his Simcha , he doesn’t have to support him. Not exactly a jerk, but he does love his kids
Only if they don’t charge for food and lodging
PBA, that was never an issue with my kids; we were on the same page. However, two close friends dealt with situation. A son came back from Israel and announced he was not going to college and would instead become a melamed in yeshiva. My friend didn’t argue but, every time his son asked for a sefer, his father bought them and showed him the bills. Finally, the son asked what was going on. My friend responded that 12_ yrs yeshiva, yeshiva in Israel and sforim are expensive. A life as a rebbe would not allow him to provide for his future family as his father had provided for him. My friend made it clear that he would not fund a lifestyle he disagreed with. His son ultimately got Simcha at YU and bacame a CPA. PBA, you call it cutting off. I call it the parents choosing to not fund a lifestyle they disagree with. One big problem is that most children have been so shielded that they have no clue as to how much a frum lifestyle costs nor what poverty means
FFBBT613, I’m not saying you’re obligated to endorse your parents lifestyle. Just don’t expect them to pay for yours. Have you given any thought how you are going to pay for airfare, living expenses and seminary tuition? Are you even aware of how much it costs?
With his parsonage, between $130,000 and $150,000. Many Rabbis have to work second and third jobs because they can’t live on the shul salary
When I lived in Brooklyn there were people who davened Kabalas Shabbos in our shul every week because it was nearby and they didn’t want to make the 20 minute walk to their “regular” shul. Since we weren’t the Shabbos morning shul, they felt no obligation to contribute any amount to the shul’s upkeep.
The largest expense our shul has is payroll ( Rabbi, office secretary, caretaker,youth director ) and related expenses ( health insurance etc ) . $400 per family could not cover our non payroll costs as well as pay our Rav a living wage without having to work a second job. Our dues are $1200 which includes seats for Rosh Hashana
Charging for seats started on the lower east side during the high tire of immigration. Many people had stopped being religious but would come for the Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur. They wouldn’t pay membership so selling seats was the major fundraising.
Funny, in the shidduch system, no one objects to the parents deciding which boys are appropriate, but in this case the parents are viewed as controlling
As long as they are paying the bills, they have a vote. Pay for seminary and college yourself and you can do as you wish.
Any time I hear of a mother of a 27 year old boy turning down a shidduch, what comes to mind is what a lucky girl! Any 27 year old that allows his mommy to run his life truly is a boy and the mother would be a source of aggravation for any future wife
somehow a phrase was misplaced
woefully unprepared when faced with the realities of work,unpaid bills, and an endless and exhausting day. Kolel life can be very rewarding but seminaries should prepare their students to deal with the hard and difficult parts as well
Oomis, it saddens me when I hear middle class girls come back from a year of seminary in Israel brainwashed into believing the ideal marriage is to live in poverty supporting a learning husband. Only someone who has never experienced poverty would willingly embrace it. The reason I said brainwashed is that, for the most part, the seminaries present only an extremely rosy scenario which then leaves the women woefully unprepared when faced with the realities of work, life can be very rewarding but seminaries should prepare their students to deal with the hard and difficult parts as well
Yayim. Hurricanes are tracked from the time they form out in the Atlantic. Since they rarely move faster than 30 miles per hour ( I’m not talking about wind speed of the hurricane ) there is ample time to prepare and evacuate. Prior to hurricane Sandy the MTA, for example, had time to move all of their trains to high by round. We were given orders to evacuate many hours before the storm struck
Yayin, unfortunately adults cannot be trusted to use good judgement. In previous bad snowstorms numerous cars were stranded on highways. This had several bad outcomes: drivers/passenger lives were at risk, rescue workers were forced to put their lives at risk and, by blocking roads and impeding snowplows, made the job of sno clearance that much harder.
In addition, you do know that the Metropolitan Transportation Authority ( which operates the subways, busses, Long Island railroad and Metro north Railroad ) is controlled by Gov Cuomo and the MTA chairman, not Di Blasio. They made the decision to shut them down.
I’m no fan of Di Blasio and there enough issues to legitimately criticize him for without making up new ones.
Lior, Are you saying it’s ok to ” Buy a Chinese knockoff and brand it Borsalino “
Lior, Please do not lie and exaggerate. Neither Di Blasio nor weather forecasters ever said 40 inches and the mayor spoke 24 hours ago ( not a few hours )when the storm was on its original track
Lior, once again, you are woefully wrong and paranoid. Meteorology is not an exact science. All the preparations were made based upon the best information available, as they cannot wait until the last second to take emergency steps and get word out to the public. As it happened, sometime last night the storm track suddenly shifted 50 miles eastward. As a result, New Jersey and the Hudson Valley got less than 6 inches, NYC up to 12 inches and Suffolk County already has 20 inches on the ground and, as of this writing, blizzard conditions still prevail and snow is still coming down 2 inches per hour.
Would you rather have had the storm kept on the original track? Be thankful to Hashem that you don’t live in Suffolk.
My concern with the OP is that he talks about growing up fearing his parents. If that pattern carried over to the relationship to the OP’s children, it’s hard to respect a parent whose actions caused you to fear them.
oyyoyyoy, On the contrary, if you have the self control and motivation to work out on a regular basis, you have the self control and motivation to mind your own business at the gym. Gyms are not overrated. Where in your house do you find the room to keep all the equipment that the gyms have.
To all those with kashrus questions, I strongly suggest that you call the Vaad of the Five Towns and Far Rockaway and ask them directly instead of speculating
Check the shamash website. They identify who gives the hashgacha
Lior, if you only she from shcits “X”, would you argue that all other shcitah is trief?
Lior, if the person asking holds that chalav stamm IS kosher ( and there are many poskim to rely on ) you can tell him.
Ave J and around East 13
picturesq, it’s not that simple. My aunt’s landlord kept sending exterminators but she refused to let them in. If these parents are doing the same, they can’t withhold rent
I’ve never understood the issue regarding age and why it is such a big secret. It’s a fact of life and nothing to ashamed of. If you are looking to get married, your prospective spouse is going to have to be told eventually anyway.
I never said that married dysfunctional parents were the only alternative and I do understand the topic. The reason for bringing up the married dysfunctional couple could be a greater problem than the divorced couple. As DY correctly pointed out, the divorce is out there on the open for all to investigate while not so with a married couple. How many times have you heard, when told of a divorce, that people thought they were s perfect couple. In addition, people are very telunvtant to ruin a shidduch by answering a question honestly
Nisht what must your sad reality be that you must always get personal? No, that is not my reality but Lior appears to focusing on children whose parents are divorced, as opposed to children with married, dysfunctional, parents.