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There is a story, which I don’t know whether it is true, where a rebbe of talmidim had a special talent that he could depict for each talmid his intended mate to marry. One bachur was shown someone very ugly. He figured that he must escape from this and travelled somewhere to Africa. The custom of modesty was that they wore veils and one could not see the face of the chosen until after the wedding. When he uncovers her, it was exactly the girl the rebbe depicted, so you cannot run away from what is bashert. So trusting that the most compatible was assigned, should daven so that she should be revealed to him.
The above of realizing that one dies will keep Shlomo Hamelech humble.
coffee addict, would you elaborate, how is President Biden an extremist who wants to destroy the country?
The Chasam Sofer explains that David Hamelech before his passing he commanded his son Shlomo לאמר to constantly say in his life הנני הולך למות I will die and therefore to keep in mind וחזקת והיית לאיש to strengthen myself to be a mentsch like we say daily לעולם יהי’ אדם, to be a mentsch constantly.
When this club established?
Rav Moshe paskened being more accommodating according to his audience like saying slichos at night.
According to the Shevat Sofer that might not be so good. She becomes an ezer, a help by being kenegdo, she can see his faults more than he can, so by disagreeing, he corrects himself and vice versa.
Maybe it is hinted in this weeks Parsha where the Torah is also talking to marriage mates to see each other as shoftim and shotrim to help each other correct their ways.I am not coffee addict which you call yourself.
When looking for a partner, keep the mezuza in mind which is not placed vertically or horizontally but slanted to remember the importance to compromise. Marriage is called nesuyin to get to elevate each other. Make a list of qualities you are looking for and those that are deal breakers.
By wanting a king it says ככל הגוים, like other nations but when placing a king, שום תשים עלך מלך, you can get a king but not to be like other nations.
We always look for the middle way as extremes are no good. When we go to extreme according to the Rambam is in order to end up in the middle.
The Midrash Shmuel says that we stand by an argument because hearing the opposite view of the Beis Shamai first allowed the Beis Hilel to arrive to the truth by seeing the other side and not stumble in tunnel vision, only seeing one side of an argument and thereby the Beis Shamai became also praiseworthy.
Currently we don’t understand their view but leasid lavo, by the resurrection we will come to a new understanding, so the majority will follow the Beis Shamai and we will pasken like them.We are not suppose have a king ככל הגוים, like other nations but the king keeps the Torah in front of him to know how to lead as Chasam Sofer explains וקרא בו כל ימי חייו, his life behavior he should read from the Torah.
coffee addict, don’t drink so much coffee as it effects you.
The Chasam Sofer explains that this is the means to be mechadesh something as even a Navi can not be mechadesh something outside of the Torah. It lies in the Torah and through kashyes it gets revealed.
This occurs through a talmid’s inquisitiveness where the Rav Haflaah in Parahas Bo says that a kashye comes from a siyata Dishmaya, Divine intervention by helping the rebbi to reveal the sodos Hatorah, the hidden part of the Torah. He compares this to a simpleton who receives a diamond. Liking gold, he goes to a goldsmith to get it covered with gold. The goldsmith is no expert, so he leaves some holes. The simple person sees only the gold but the smart person sees the diamond underneath the gold. This can be the comparison to the bitter water becoming sweet through a bitter tree. One learns a piece of gemara and its bitter because he does not understand it at all even to ask a kashye, Now he gets a siyata dishmaya to ask a kashye which is still bitter without an answer. When he finds an answer, it becomes sweet. The talmidim help the rebbi by asking kashyes to find answers.
AAQ, The rebbi teaches the talmid such that the talmid showing a cheshek to learn now encourages the rebbi to teach him more as he learns from the talmid. This becomes a cycle which encourages the talmid and then the rebbi etc.
AAQ, to learn from your students you must teach them. See the Binah Leitim the 6th darasha on Pirkei Avos, Darush 39 which goes with darasha 30 for Shiras Hayom on Pesach.
Look up the Sefer Hatodah on Shevuos how Yishai took a pilegesh to give birth to Dovid Hamelech but she substituted the wife for herself which Yishai was never told.
There is an interesting GRA on לבני הפלגשם where Rashi says that a yud is missing and a pilegesh has no kesuvah. What is the connection? איש, אשה and כתובה Hashem י-ה-ו-ה resides in it. The yud in ish, the heh in ishah and the vov heh in kesuvah where it should have been called כתב. The pilegesh has no kesuvah so the vov heh is missing by halfing the shem as פלג שם.
In our chasiddish yeshivas in my time they held that one should rather go to public school.
These clubs will dissolve automatically if there is no attendance. The schools should teach their detriment.
BDE, May Hashem console you among other mourners of Tzion and Jerusalem by bringing Meshiach with the redemption and know no more sorrows.
There is a benefit in milchamto shel Torah. It helped the Beis Hillel through allowing the Beis Shamai to come first because of their humility. They arrived to the truth by seeing the other side and not being blinded by tunnel vision, seeing only one side of an argument. Being humble, we will admit when we are wrong creating peace,
Sam, it is emunah and bitachon as the Ramban’s sefer not in reverse. Emunah leads to bitachon not vice versa as in English, faith and trust.
Covid is the opposite of kavod. Who runs towards covid, it will run after one and who runs away from covid, it will run away from one whereas kavod when running towards it, it will run away but when running away, it will run towards one.
I want to make my statement above stronger. Dr. Fauci can give the ‘best’ advice but people will die ch’v of he is not listened to. It is interesting that ‘listen’ and ‘silent’ have the same letters. One must be silent to listen.
Go to the website marbitz dot com the play a gemora game like gemora tutor to reinforce the gemora expressions, idioms.
The more often we scrutinize our actions in the year, the easier it is at the end of the year as the loan will be paid up.
Sam Klein, obviously we should do teshuva but it does not mean that we should dig our own grave as in the Midbar without listening to advice how to protect ourselves. You always encourage people to do teshuva but do you do teshuva? בכל עת יהי-ה בגדיך לבנים, we should not need a wakeup call to keep our cloth constantly white. The Dubner Maggid explains that teshuva is like the payoff of an installment loan. Some people account for their actions every night others every week end or month end and others once a year. The importance is that by the next year the loan should be paid.
Keep Rebbi Nachum Gam Zu’s saying always in mind, גם זו לטובה, this is also for the better. It could have been worse. Emphasize the positive. כל מה דעבד רחמנא לטב עבד, everything Hashem does is for the good. The Chasam Sofer interprets the pasuk וראית את אחרי ופני לא יראו. We don’t see the big picture. We see things from hindsight. איזהו עשיר השמח בחלקו, the truly rich person is happy with their lot.
Fauci might give the right advice but if he is not listened to, people will die.
It is not the same to be a tzadik ben tzadik where one has to work hard to live up to it and then he has double zechusim. The Mayanei shel Torah brings the Rebbi Meir from Premislan who says זה א-לי ואנוהו if a person recognizes his own G-d is beautiful but yichus G-d of my father might bring to gaive, haughtiness.
Learning between mincha and maariv might be based to learn day and night which ben hashmosas might satisfy as well as learning at dawn.
Through the Shechina which we can feel even if we don’t understand it. We should make Tikun Chatzos. Before I sit on a chair I say it.
AAQ, PhD in what?
My father had a favorite saying in yiddish, ob es ist bashert tzu tantzen, tantz man, when it is fated to dance, one dances. It is based on a story where the brothers spent over night in a motel. Their room was located next to the bar. A drunken soldier, being in a good mood, picked one of them up from the bed and started to dance with him. He periodically would do this. Eventually he had enough and he told his brother to change places, figuring that as he was dancing with him, he will continue dancing but now with his brother. When the soldier came back, he said, I danced enough with you so I will dance with him. He ended up dancing with the same brother, so he said the above saying.
Moish, you yourself still are not sure if Syag is a woman, so what are you talking about? I don’t see their personality revealed but you have revealed yours. Probably a bachur who is not sure about himself. You have not shown any halacha that this is an issur. Over here we discuss ‘gender neutral’ topics.
Mosh26, are you a Rav? If not, don’t tell people what to do. Your own reference about talking to the opposite gender indicated it is ok as no flirtation is allowed here where even her voice quoted from the Beis Shmuel is not a problem. So if you are unhappy and have a problem, no one wants to hear your views and get off this platform. As pointed out the mods are available to make sure that no private and personnel information is conveyed. I think you are speaking shtusim and lakshen as כל הפוסל במומו פוסל, one faults with his own faults. The women over here communicate just as men where their views are gender neutral. Only you care if the communicator is a woman or man and no one else, so it looks like you have a problem. I don’t ask anyone because I don’t think it is a shaila. I will tell you a story that my father a’h told me. A Rav gave a drasha about the issur of bowling. Someone who wanted the Rav to see what he is talking about took him to a bowling alley and showed him how it is played by throwing the ball and knocking down the pins. The Rav said this is a game but not bowling. When asking a shaila, one must tell the Rav the full circumstances how people on the CR mostly don’t know each other to whom they are talking to by writing in public and the mods (supervisors) don’t allow any private and personnel information as I quoted by the policy and principles that have been instituted here for the communicators by threatening them to be booted off.
Is there yichud by a doctor or he is tarid bemelachto, busy in his work, if no nurse is available?