LAmother

Hmm, maybe it’s my imagination, but seems to be only MEN commenting…good luck guys

Totally disagree maidodCH
As a bt 27 yrs and kiruv work I see that if a couple mainstream themselves (doesnt wanna only live near other bts) their families are beautiful. An added edge is the passion for hashem rather than things being rote. and openness to have a real discussion when their teens have questions. Been there, done that, your questions wont scare me. Anyway this is my opinion. Like with anything else there are going to be the sad cases of otd. One extra point. It’s really helpful if we dont live super near our extended and super secular family. Eg made aliyah. If we do live near family we have to be super smart and subtle how we handle intermingling so the kids don’t feel “it’s not fair”, or asking parents super nicely no tv at grandma

1. I met my husband on Jwed, then called frumster. Internet with all its faults, does open up the world for long distance marriages
2. Im a 4 yr matchmaker on sawyouatsinai its defiently worth a shot. I could send u a month link for free but I dunno how to get my email address to u or vice versa on this site. Theres all different on there but modern yeshivish is well represented. As is modern machmir. When I do matches I look at such things as would soemone watch movies in theater or at home etc. There slots of ways to see basic hashgafa. I want u to know theres more girls than guys in this category. That does NOT mean theres a shiduch crises. I dont believe there is! Hashem doesnt decide plonk for ploni only for men and not women. Join for a month spend the money and pick me as a mathmaker I’ll search for u for a few weeks I have an email address actually I can provide I dont check too often [email protected]

Havent had time to more than glance at soem comments (too busy doing aish kiruv!)lol)
But couple points. After being heavily involved with aish for almost 3 decades and husband formerly running a branch and having gone to eyaht and being a total baalas teshuva (from aish) as well as thousands of people I know who also became frum (not all aish)
Zehavasdad you are so wrong. I just picked up an 18 yr Girl from the airport who went to the zone (oorah) with 26 other pre-sem baalei teshuvas all wanting to grow. Joseph trust me its not just chabad. Altho I joke u can be FFA FFB or FFC… And there arent many people close enough to old school Aish and Rav Noach like rabbi berkovits who is officially taking over the helm and is so smart he will know the way to go in all decisions. The generation has changed and kiriv may have adapted. But people are desperately needing that soul connection more than ever. Be them people that left the path or those that never experienced it. Hope to find time to read the comments as aish is so close to my heart I wanna put right any misconceptions

1, we can have this convo. But there is nothing like byla. Nothing like toras emes. I loved in 6 major cities in USA Israel and Europe and l.a. is up there with the best . Apart from et of course

1. With online websites like sawyouatsinai.com where i am a matchmaker i ignore those without pics… its a way to understand who this person is and if I can see them possibly together . 2. If it is a long distance shiduch involving money spent on plane fares etc and time off work/ yeshiva, i think if a guy wants a pic and vice versa, or SHORT skype meeting, i totally get it. as two minutes into the date he can be like no way and i could have saved us both money and energy. and vice versa. I thik if an FFB wants to do the old shiduch way, meet the shadchanit, no pic on profile like my daughter did and bh she married a great guy that also didnt have his pic- the shadchan knows how they both look and can describe it- go for it, its great if its good enough for the couple, i think sometimes if a pic is requested to be sent in the young bais yaakov circles it should ONLY go to the mother of the boy or girl. I guess it all depends on the situation, BUT one thing for sure, NOT ENOUGH people realise the value of a GOOD PROFESSIONAL PHOTO> too often i have a profile of a guy who doesnt smile, is looking over Niagara falls with a tiny pose of him which isnt clear, or the girl in a casual outfit out doing whatever, THE FIRST IMPRESSION IS IMPORTANT> like u wd get dressed up for a date that had real promise so when you first walked in they would see u at your best, a shiduch pohoto is not different. smile. look at camera. show ur best side. do your hair make up wear shabbos clothes etc…

Rent is crazy. Starting without rent control duplexes in la brea over 4500 a month (they are v large) houses probably 6k valley can still get house rental for 4k+ pico apartments start about 3500 smaller than the duplexes in la brea
Schools seem less than n.y. and work with u. Taxes no clue the difference google.it. if u keep chalav yis everything is a dollar more (mile, cheese etc) than ny prices

Hard to make it here but v special community (I’ve lived in a. Lot of places and had kids in 3 continents)
I doubt any of my married kids will end up here. Too expensive. Even upper middle class here often cant buy a home and even if they can admit they camt keep their married kids here. But again it’s awesome great choice of schools awesome bais yakov, great yeshivas and several kollelim.

I dare anyone still pro vax and vax is only way to go, to just listen to Some rational arguments against them. Take an hour or two of your life. Look at the videos and back up proofs of anti vax experts. Open mindedly. Not saying in theory vax is wrong but the safety is highly questionable and often compromised. Big pharm believe it or not is still all about money. Partly the huge amount of documented commission that pharmaceutical companies pay to doctors per vial they inject PNLY IF they reach a certain high percentage of their patients otherwise they get zero. Partly the documented proof that for 20 cents more costs per vial the dlsaftey could be much higher (eg used to be dpt not dpat as much cheaper unless specifically requested and demanded by parent) .
One slight example. A lady I know had a kid become vegetative after a vaccine. She then had 2 normal kids she didnt vaccine. Then in another kid she was convinced by doc to vaccine again. Once again became vegetative for life after..just sayin

ask your rav not coffee room, ours said no

BH years later i got a get arranged from my dad and got my mother remarried al pi halacha in a tiny service w 2 witnesses

To clarify, I don’t know many about to go on shiduchim that find out they are not Jewish, there is one right now we are dealing with, but we know many who were raised Jewish and are not, and vice versa. One guy is 1/4 Jewish (correct quarter) super frum now, his girlfriend 3/4 Jewish (wrong quarter) who found out she is not considered jewish. And it is not so easy to convert. They still must verify it’s legit and it takes a while to ostart the process get the appointments complete the syllabus etc.

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Why was this question asked? Who has it easier a man or a woman? A tall person or a short person? Being BT many years it’s awesome there’s challenges like everything in life but the biggest compliment is when someone thinks I’m FFB. That means I am “home”.

I’m in LA and sometimes go to Ralphs super arles even tho the chalav yisroel milk is $2 more it lasts better. I also hate that own brands make a date 3 weeks out and after one week it’s ddefinitely bad. For this reason I never buy a certain brand unless it was put on the shelf within 2 days. I like pride of farm ait lasts longer. There’s one I don’t like but wouldn’t slam it here

U guys are a riot. Thanks for making me laugh so early in the morning in l.a.
18 minute matza, enjoy ur date !

I’m happy reading all this cos I just transferred my 9th grade son from a. Reg yeshiva where for specific reasons he was miserable to a chofetz chaim where he is thriving. And the rebbeim, I can’t even tell you what tsadikim they are. Iyh my son will have excellent middos, love learning and besras has hem be a talmud chacham too