l8nighter

Jewish&working; I agree with you wholeheartedly. Unfortunately, the Shidduch system has turned into a business- just think about the entire process! Girls go to Shadchanim and get “interviewed” – they bring their “resumes”, and then are pretty much judged upon how they answer the Shadchan’s questions. The girls want to get “hired” (i.e suggestions, or a date) so of course they write every positive thing about themselves on their resume! I always wondered how guys who are dating handle all the resumes they receive? Is there a structured process – read all resumes, weed out the ones that just don’t sound good, call up all the references for each of the remaining resumes, and then pick the “best one”? Like you said, the entire process has become faulty. Long gone are the days where one can just ask people around if they know of a potential match. Sad as it is, that is reality. Some are lucky and still meet their spouse the “old fashioned way” without all of the business interactions. And yet some need to go through a longer, more difficult process of dealing with shadchans, resumes etc. in order to find the Right One. Hshem should bless you and all of us singles out there who are trying and trying in this upside down world to get married.