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Jews are a national religion. We’re a “family”.
The family can change but it survives so long as it retains its identity.
For example, in a few hundred years, the Jews went from a small family of herders to a nation of slaves to a nation of nomads to a nation of farmers and herders.
You might want to consider the agenda of some of the books being proposed here.
The Scarlet Letter has clear Hashkafic problems in its treatment of religion and sin.
12 Angry Men and Mockingbird have pro-crime agendas.
You may want to look at some Jane Austen novels, this is a class of high school girls. If you’re going contemporary, that will be much harder.
The real solution is the same as for all challenges, exercise self-control.
Statistically most jobs are found via networking. So in the secular world it’s also who you know. Look at the public school system if you think that’s some merit based wonderland.
The frum world does suffer more from it because it’s more family based and there’s less quality control. The onus of the yeshiva is not on the teacher to teach, but on the students to learn, and that can be okay for 50 percent of the class, but not the other 50 percent who get shifted into gimmel classes and then squeezed out completely.
Today there is much more attention on the problem of teaching students, but there also needs to be other wholesome options besides the standard yeshiva track.
Right now students have a choice between the standard yeshiva-shidduch track and going OTD. We need to create better options for those who are not able or emotionally ready for the first track otherwise they end up on the streets.
Yes no doubt the girl watching television is much more likely to build a bayis neeman be’yisrael than the girl who wants to learn.
Aside from the question of what Allah Akbar means, there’s the question of what Muslims think it means.
If a Muslim hears you saying Allah Akbar he thinks you are endorsing his religion.
It’s a Chillul Hashem. Bottom line.
What Sam 2 said.
Some people enjoy being cruel, but make it clear to them that there is nothing frum about their behavior whatsoever.
More troubling the article smears an entire community of Jews as irreligious based on hearsay.
Because Toeva marriage affects our institutions and us. Wait until we’re being sued by their activists.
The general rule is that older books are safer than newer ones. Even ‘mild’ current books will have problematic materials and lifestyles discussed in it.
Among older books avoid pulp and noir.
Interesting. The article is a must read.
Minchag Yerushalayim
Obama is the one who made military cuts.
What if we put up a mechitza on the stage so the girls can’t be seen and speeches are delivered through voice distortion equipment
problem solved
Having last names, especially of the kind we mostly have today, is not a Jewish practice.
Taking a hyphenated last name is no more Goyish than taking on a husband’s last name.
I rarely see hyphenated names, but there’s nothing particularly wrong with it. When someone is called up to the Torah, we use the father’s name. When we make a misberach, we use the mother’s name.
“umm you are a woman.; woman can look deeper than looks”
I am not a woman. And this is why using pictures helps.
Personality and looks are not mutually exclusive
most people, guys and girls, want someone they enjoy spending time with, but they would also like someone whose appearance is pleasing
someone who focuses only on looks is asking for a bad marriage, but realistically most people are not going to be able to ignore looks entirely, nor should they
a marriage is not just friendship, there’s also a physical component to it
many girls, in and out of the frum world, feel excessively judged on their looks. And they often are. But that doesn’t mean that asking for a photo means that the guy only cares about looks. It means that looks are one of the things he cares about.
Your idea of a issur d’oraysa, is not all that clear cut actually. And television and the internet have plenty of material on them that is a violation of tznius. Are you saying that it’s worse to wear a skirt above the knee, than to expose your family to all sorts of tumaa?
But as long as you’re picking and choosing, which warnings from the Gedolim to take seriously. And proposing courses that they didn’t approve…
But why limit public shaming to just skirts you have an issue?
We can issue an entire bulletin with the names of everyone who is seen doing anything that is in any way inappropriate.
We can have a list of names of everyone who wears skirts above the knee, everyone who has a television in the house, everyone who talks in shul, everyone who acts like a baal gaiva, everyone who has internet in the house, everyone who has a non-kosher cell phone, everyone who does not buy chalav yisroel… and everyone who embarrasses someone else berabim.
This will be for their own good.
And when everyone sees their name has already been submitted by someone to the paper, they will actually start working on their own middos. And Klal Yisroel will reach new heights.
How about we stop giving Aliyahs to people who talk in Shul? Talking in Shul was blamed for some of the worst massacres of Jews.
I’m not bothered by women, I am bothered by people who talk in shul. You can choose not to look in a given direction, it’s hard to choose not to hear people who insist on talking in shul.
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“gavra was comparing eating pig on the street to acting non-tzanua on the street. And I don’t think anyone can disagree with that point.”
The issur of eating treyf is in a quite different category, than people who have issues with women being out in public.
Comparing them to pigs for being outside be is not exactly a beautiful form of speech.
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Gittin Tzadik Amud Alef
Take a look at the case of Pappas ben Yehuda who kept his wife locked up all the time, and what happened because of that.
The Gemara advises a reasonable middle course for most people, not being comfortable with obscene behavior, but not going to extremes either.
Extremes of either side are dangerous.
If you crack down on teenagers, boys or girls, too much, they may start doing much worse things behind your back. Allowing them a reasonable amount of freedom for permitted things is healthier.
We don’t have a Tznius crisis. We have a common sense crisis.