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Rebsidduch we are all proud of you for taking limud ulelamaid dvice.
Now when and if you and the kollel guy get married
You can invite us all to come to your simcha.I think yeshivas should look for ways to save money and thereby lower tution .
One of the the ways to save money would be to fire secular studies teachers and tape secular studies lessons and have students learn from these tapes well enough to pass the testThe only people I know that are winning the battle against technology are the Amish people.
Furthermore the Amish people are modest and humble people .
IMHO they are the best of the gentiles.I have a friend who was engaged to BT girl.
He called off the wedding when he found out she lived on a farm.In the modern world the definition of dating is meeting someone for the purpose of a casual relationship and the definition of courting is for marriage.
We that live in the orthodox world are blissfully unaware of the definition of dating.Oh by the way sardines are a great source of calcium
The skinless and boneless kind tastes better then regular sardines
Since sardine skin has a bitter taste.I love a sardine , lettuce and tomato sandwich.
Preparation time is quick and the price is reasonable.
I see nothing wrong with corresponding with the opposite gender when Torah is also OK with it.
For example the Torah
writes about a female prophet and shofet (judge) called devorah who taught Torah and even sung a shirah (song)
The Torah also tells us about a female prophet called Hulda who taught Torah.
So we see from the Torah that it’s permitted to communicate with a female.I remember reading in the safer shar-ray teshuva concerning the many challenges given to the bal teshuva as punishments for sins committed in the past.
In other words in order to be free of punishment in the post life
the bal teshuva must pay something in this world for his past bad behavior.
This then maybe the reason for your difficulties in finding a shidduch.
But don’t fret.
When the all mighty will send you a kallah no one on earth will interfere.
I remember reading in the talmud.
Someone asking what does hakadosh borach hu do all day ?
The answer was arrange shidduchim.Let’s not forget king achasvarosh was makpid on looks.
thats one of reasons we say malech tippish hayah.
He was a dumb king.
What is the point ?
Why does a girl have to pretty in her husband eyes ?
Why does the torah agree with this statement ?
Can’t judge a book by it’s cover.
Someone awfully pretty can be pretty awfull at the same time.
I believe most of the shadchanus business will eventually evolve into trusted Internet dating sites.
Of course I am single.
If had a wife and kids I wouldn’t feel free to make controversial statements.
Stika kehoda ,if there is no rebuttal to my controversial statements then according to the Talmud I must be right.
Someone said yeshives couples have fewer divorces.
That maybe true but it doesn’t indicate these couples have happy marriages
It may indicate these couples have unhappy marriages but are staying together for the sake of the children or the fact that divorce is often more painful then staying together.
A Talmud chacham actions are more rational then emotional.
Modern technology is also a solution.
Men an woman can hold video conferences.
Woman dressed modestly of course
And talk as long as they want untill they are ready to take the next step.
To marry after only a brief beshow.
May end in a tragic divorce.
No one should be hustled into a marriage before they know each other well.
Those frumies who pressure people into quickie marriages should be put into chairim (excommunicated)
On the subject of dating.
First we have to admit that yichud is prohibited.
There can be no lieniency on this point.
Furthermore the prohibition of yichud dating is veharag Val yavor.
We have to withdraw from this type of dating as soon as possible.
Having made that point it’s important to note that there is a shiduch crises going on and we need to find solutions before it gets worse.
There are kosher dating alternatives for our generation.
I believe speed dating events organized and supervised by our rabbinical leadership can solve the problem.