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kiruvwifeMember
ames you seem intellectually honest with yourself. If you can ask yourself-will this in anyway enhance my relationship with HKB”H, and there are many ways that can happen, and the answer is yes, then great-it’s l’shem shomayim. If you really WANT it to be lshem shomayim, then ask Hashem for help in that too.
kiruvwifeMemberI think it’s amazing that you (moish, anonymiss,etc.) are able to articulate the way you feel about these things. I remember feeling the same way, but could never find the right way to formulate these thoughts.
I have tons of responses, but it doesn’t seem you want the “spiritual dogma” response. If you’re interested though, I have been itching a little to stand on a (very low) soap box 🙂
kiruvwifeMemberwell done PM! (Vayomru……) for those who want the source Miketz perek mem bais, pasuk chof alef
kiruvwifeMemberanon-yes, that’s where I got the idea from-for ladies it’ll be harder-men get to wear suits.
kiruvwifeMemberoh my, well I used to have a hard time dealing with identity crises- I thought it was just a societal issue……..:-)
kiruvwifeMemberMyshadow-it sounds like you’re attached to it for the right reasons. It doesn’t define you, it helps you be who you want to be in your avodas Hashem.
ames- just have an outfit ready now–then you’ll have nothing to worry about.
kiruvwifeMemberYW mod 39-I can’t take credit for some of these great questions, the backwards name one wasn’t mine (if that’s what you meant), but the Lavan name does sound good.
Anyone have an idea of the six words in a row that start with Aleph?
kiruvwifeMembersqueak-noach es shem es cham?
anon-i was referring to a different parsha
kiruvwifeMemberthis topic is interesting-one of the reasons we eat a hard boiled egg on Pesach is because it represents klal yisroel througout the ages. With all the persecution we have endured throughout the generations, we remain strong in our convictions and loyalty to Hashem-just like the egg that becomes stronger inside when boiled.
But, I agree with some posts that we sometimes are a little of each, although I like when I’m being like coffee—have to work really hard on being like that in the kiruv world.
kiruvwifeMemberI humbly suggest that no matter where anyone is going to be for Pesach, to quote a well know speaker “just be kadosh”! However one gets ready for pesach, whatever the amount of money spent, just make sure the goal is being kadosh.
kiruvwifeMemberAnother one: Where in the Torah do we find six words in a row all beginning with the letter Aleph?
kiruvwifeMemberIf your attitude towards your material possessions is modeled after the way Yaakov avinu felt towards his “pachim ketanim” and it is stemming from a place that everything we have in this world is a means to serve HKB”H, then it is ok to have a ruchnius attachement and be responsible in taking care of them, and even some nostalgia.
If the attachment is “this car makes me who I am” and there isn’t a differentiation between self and car then it’s in the range of problem. The car is it and you’re you.
Since it doesn’t seem that you have a problem with attachment, then if you channel the time you put into material possessions to ultimately be a vehicle to serve Hashem sincerely then you’re on the right track.
kiruvwifeMembereltzafan became the nasi of shevet zevulun. The reason yitzchok didn’t tell yaakov is cuz he saw Hashem didn’t want yaakov to know. It was all part of the Master plan. As I noted earlier there are meforshim that say that after the laws of incest were taught Amram being Yocheveds nephew divorced her allowing her then to marry eltzafan.
kiruvwifeMemberAOB-rashi holds that she married Eltzafan/Elitzaphan after Amram passed away, and some meforshim hold that Eldad and Medad weren’t even brothers themselves and not related to Moshe.
kiruvwifeMemberI’m with aob and seeallsides-it has something to do with islands
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kiruvwifeMemberRegarding Yitzchok-look in the Rashi in Parshas Vayeishev perek lamed zayin, pasuk lamed gimmel. Rashi quotes Bereishis Raba that Yitzchok knew, but did not reveal this information because he said “if HKB”H doesn’t want to reveal it then surely I can’t”. There is also and explanation that the brothers put a curse on whoever would reveal such information to their father and made Hashem part of that ban and curse. Binyomin however I believe was not part of that ban because he was not present.
kiruvwifeMembersorry jothar, I posted my post before I saw your serious one….I guess they can be adjusted as needed.
kiruvwifeMemberwell, I haven’t had success in finding a credible source. I found it though in a book of questions without a source quoted, so l’maysa I can’t say with certainty that it is accurate. If I do find a more credible source I’ll post it bli neder.
Another question-Did Binyomin know if Yosef was alive? If yes, then why didn’t he share this information with Yaakov to relieve his suffering?
kiruvwifeMemberhmmm, any serious ones that can just plug in chosson and kallah?
kiruvwifeMemberanon-i’m working on getting the source-I remember learning it though, so hopefully will come up with it soon.
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kiruvwifeMemberThis discussion connects to R’ Zushe-who is famous for saying-“they (bais din shel maala) won’t ask me why I wasn’t Moshe Rabbeinu, or Avraham Avinu-they’ll ask me Why I wasn’t R’ Zushe?
As far as bad things happening to tzaddikim/good people—there is a fascinating ma’amar by R’ Eliya Lopian explaining the depth of this “question of life”-and he explained that to outsiders it seems that these tzaddikim are suffering, but to them, their bitachon is so enormous that it doesn’t feel like suffering, they feel Yad Hashem in everything and feel loved by every move Hashem makes.
kiruvwifeMemberanon-sefer hayashar is Sefer Bereishis and is referred to as such I believe in Yehoshua and Shmuel. I think it’s because the Avos are referred to as yesharim…I think.
kiruvwifeMemberThere is a machlokes regarding when Yocheved married Elizaphan bar Panach who became the nasi of Shevet Zevulun. The issues that everyone has with How could she marry someone in between her remarrying Amram are valid.
So, Rashi in I believe Rosh Hashana, says that she married him after Amram passed away.
Da’as Zekainim miBa’alei Tosfos is quoted as saying that Amram divorced Yocheved (his aunt) after the halachos of incest were taught and that’s when Elizaphan married her.
There are also those who hold that Eldad and Meidad were neither brothers nor related to Moshe.
kiruvwifeMember10 is correct
kiruvwifeMemberJM19-don’t keep us in suspense over purim!
another question-how many generations were between Yehudah and Dovid HaMelech?
kiruvwifeMemberI believe it’s sefer hayichus
kiruvwifeMemberJM19–was it Amaslai bas Karnivo or am I mispronouncing it?
kiruvwifeMembershimshons mother was Tzlalponis.
Anyone know Avrohom Avinus mother’s name?
JM-hmmm 12-well there’s the shevatim, months of the year, shelves on the shulchan….am I getting close?
kiruvwifeMemberWhat is another name for Divrei HaYomim?
jaymatt-i’m stumped!
kiruvwifeMembermoish01-impressive!
Jaymatt-yes, a hint please-and I’ll try to keep my questioning to fit a “nice” criteria.
aussie,and jaymatt-yes shimshon.
kiruvwifeMemberwoops-sent the post too quickly-
Who are the four people that died without any aveiros?
kiruvwifeMemberjaymatt-yes-those are the hunts I know of-not sure if there are others.
A couple more: Who killed more people on one day than in his whole life?
kiruvwifeMemberI’m not sure who makes the titles, but how about Torah Quiz-(this thread idea I took from one of “anon’s” questions on a previous thread.)
kiruvwifeMemberName all the hints related to Purim in the Torah.
(I hope we’ll get some answers to all these questions–they’re good!)
kiruvwifeMemberSjS–I guess we’ll find out. JayMatt was kind enough to start the thread so I think it will be fascinating to follow.
kiruvwifeMemberwow! Thanks so much JayMatt! Ok got to get thinking…….
kiruvwifeMembercould Joseph, Jothar, Feivel, Feif Un or anyone else start the interesting questions in tanach thread? (like the question anon started?) {I prefer just to be a poster not a starter}
kiruvwifeMemberthank you.
March 5, 2009 4:03 pm at 4:03 pm in reply to: Is a Boy Looking to Date a Girl or a Chavrusah? #1218031kiruvwifeMemberSo? After reading all these posts- a girl or a chavrusa?
I say girl.(woman-to satisfy e/o)
kiruvwifeMemberanon-I don’t know the answer, but could you start a new thread on those types of questions throughout tanach? I think that would go over well.
kiruvwifeMemberOne of the great talents of the yetzer hora that comes forth after one has done teshuva, is the ability to send the person back in their mind to where they were, which brings on tons of guilt. The yetzer hora reels with frustration when a person does real teshuva, and his tactics are many. What you are describing is a very accurate method of the Y”H doing his job well.
An eitza that is given to those who are trying to FEEL that they have done real teshuva, is to work on believing that Hashem has accepted it. If one has changed their behavior, has committed himself never to do that again, then it’s done. Gone! Hashem has no interest in people wallowing in guilt their whole lives, or even to the extent that they can’t get past what they did.
Teshuva is one of the greatest gifts Hashem has given us. I would suggest learning Sha’arei Teshuva, which should boost this person’s realization that they are truly loved by Hashem, and they have the ability to conquer the Yetzer hora’s ploys to make them feel negative.
Hatzlocha!
kiruvwifeMemberI just heard recently that the shulchan aruch; mishnah berurah writes that one should be dressed in Shabbosdik clothing on Purim. Could someone please confirm?
kiruvwifeMemberthanks again–my ability to decipher jokes is sometimes rusty-especially when they’re typed.
March 5, 2009 2:51 am at 2:51 am in reply to: Is a Boy Looking to Date a Girl or a Chavrusah? #1218029kiruvwifeMemberThank you, that information was very helpful.
kiruvwifeMemberThanks TJ- as an aside, I don’t think my poseik will encourage me to get dead drunk even if he holds it’s muttar. And I don’t have any interest. I’m not here to judge anyone’s level of Torah scholarship-i was just pointing out the assumed dispute once I had a definition of “dead drunk”.
kiruvwifeMember22oldgold-I want to get this straight-one of your stories seems to say that the shadchan redt a girl to her own brother? If that’s what you were saying that’s hilarious. if not please explain.
kiruvwifeMembersjs-I agree. Drinking soda, I believe as was discussed on another thread a very long time ago, was categorized as superfluous gashmius/ indulgence. That aside, we need very much to teach our children about health/nutrition…it is so neglected, and it can be taught in the context of a mitzva to satisfy those that need justification. I would also add to the list managing money. I don’t think having a certain level of bitachon should be a one way ticket to irresponsibility-in the money or health realm.
March 5, 2009 1:44 am at 1:44 am in reply to: Different Pshat on Breaking the Glass at a Chasunah #640136kiruvwifeMemberFrom what I understand it is not preferred to use a light bulb. Unfortunately many non-observant clergy use the “it’s the last time he’ll get to put his foot down” line-it really takes the depth out of the whole purpose of breaking the glass.(but from them not much else is expected-this is pity I’m expressing btw.)
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