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If I take money from the medina doesn’t that mean they now have less money?
How many non-jews were ever given the name Fruma? Not having an origin in tanach doesn’t make a name secular.
Take Best Buy to small claims court for false promises and ask for your money back for the phone and whatever AT&T overcharged you. They’ll probably offer a settlement right away. Well worth the $15 filing fee.
When a woman covers her hair with a shaitle that looks like her own hair, yes, she is technically covering this Erva, BUT, it is exactly the same if a woman covers other parts of her body which are considered Erva with skin colored, tight clothing and a photograph of exactly what is underneath. Yes, she is technically covered…but you can’t really tell.
Okay, going with your example. What is wrong with wearing skin colored clothing? I can think of two issues- 1) it’s provocative 2) maras ayin. Regarding issue #1 if a wig is refined it’s not a problem. Regardng issue #2 as established earlier in this thread, in a place where sheitels are commonplace maras ayin doesn’t apply. And btw- the only time I have ever been unsure whether or not a woman was wearing a sheitel was when she wore it further back blending it in with her own hair. The skin colored part doesn’t fool anyone (unless they’re not used to it)
It depends on which community you are from. In my community standard practice is to have food on the table which nobody touches during the meeting. The first time you take a drink is when you drink l’chaim.
How ironic is it that on top of this whole thread is an ad for a wig company with the slogan “The best wigs go unnoticed”
Exactly. The best wigs are not there to provoke, just to blend in and be less visible…
I know I’m coming into this late in the game…
The Sefer HaChinuch writes that, while according to Halacha Kiddushin can be performed with any marginally valuable item, the custom is to utilize a ring. The reason he gives is that it serves as a “constant reminder” to her status.
Joseph- a ring is far less obvious to others than a large necklace; obviously the reminder is intended for the woman herself. I’m pretty sure a woman is constantly aware that she is wearing a wig especially as they aren’t known to be particularly comfortable.
Is there any prettiness lacking in nice hats and fancy tichels?
So even according to R’ Ovadia Yosef a woman may look pretty. I think it’s obvious when a women is a tzanua and when a woman isn’t; and it isn’t related to what type of covering is on her head. An immodest woman can be wearing a black headscarf and she’ll still give off the wrong impression.
They’re cold, so that’s unnecessary.
What if she makes them oatmeal?
You can have my invention: You know those ejection seats that military jets have? How about an earthquake-ejection-bed. If an earthquake occurs while you’re sleeping, your bed ejects you 200 feet into the air, and you safely land with your parachute.
Ouch. That would mean hitting my head against my ceiling pretty hard.
I would say the kesuba written when her parents were still alive is probably more accurate.
Joseph- regarding assets I believe you’re incorrect. The husband isn’t entitled to gifts his wife received during the course of the marriage, only the “fruits of her labor”. For example if the husband gives the wife a necklace for her birthday; that stays hers. If she chooses to give it back of course she can but she has every right to sell it and keep the money. Same applies to gifts given by others. There are more complex situation where halacha can be complicated (say she volunteered for an organization and they gave her an expensive thank you gift).
Too bad the shelving isn’t made of pyrex.
I believe Pyrex can shatter with drastic temperature changes as well. I know the packaging warns to wait for it to cool completely before putting in the freezer.
I’ve cleaned my fridge shelves in the bathtub several times. I took care not to have drastic temperature changes or uneven temperature (one part of the shelf in hot water with the other end sticking out. It works really well. I have had glasses shatter on me if I wasn’t careful to dry them out before pouring in hot water.
For the “my hand did it” you answer “so let’s cut off the hand and put it on trial”. Here he’s claiming the yetzer hora took control of his body. Unfortunately for him, if he unable to prevent the yetzer hora from doing so in future since society has a right to protect itself…
Per the new website he seems to be produced by “Sonic Duo” now, not Suki and Ding. The new mascot looks cute and reflects his current look much more (he’s been gray for quite some time now but the drawings never showed that)
To my knowledge the only good explanation for giving homework at all after these kids have already put in so many hours in school is so that the parent is a part of the education and aware of what their child is learning. If this homework is being done with a tutor then what is the point? The parent is just as involved as he is with work being done in the classroom. With older boys though it is a good idea to hire someone to learn with them individually once or twice a week as a rebbe has to many boys in the class to be able to properly teach all of them gemara skills. There’s nothing like one on one learning for that.
People have been predicting moshiach’s arrival for centuries but nobody knows. Maybe they want it to happen so much that they make silly calculations about it and convince themselves that its true. Some people become so absorbed in these calculations and moshiachs arrival date, they dont live like they should. We should not focus on these things. Live a good life, helping people and doing the right thing. It is very possible that moshiach will come very soon but its also very possible that he will not.
In every generation we say “achaka lo b’chol yom sheyavo”. We need to wait every day for him. No, we don’t know exactly when Moshiach is coming but I definitely don’t look at it as a gnai that people actually expect him to arrive now. We should certainly be living our lives in a way to make Hashem proud but I don’t see how expecting Moshiach’s arrival on a daily basis would interfere with that.
You put the kids in two different bedrooms and have the babysitter go back and forth.
VERY VERY USEFUL IPHONE TIP:
THROW IT IN THE GARBAGE!
YOUR CHILDREN WILL THANK YOUNo they won’t. Why would they thank me for spending a ton of money to buy an iPhone only to throw it out as soon as it arrives? Maybe if I would sell one on ebay for a profit and buy them something they’d appreciate it.
Meh, not worse then the outrage if they would price gouge, or even if they would run out.
Right, but price gouging gives them more money.
It shouldn’t be too hard to explain rationing when there’s a shortage.
so you’d think but reality is different
How, pray tell?
Limit per customer, like they have on some sale items.
The only reason they would limit someone’s purchase would be out of the goodness of their heart
In states without a law preventing it, the only motivation for a store not to price gouge would be because it’s bad PR. Similarly, it would be good PR to limit the amount per customer, to look like good citizens.
If I recall correctly they set limits on gas purchases by Sandy but by the time they got around to setting the limits most gas stations had run out. The only way setting limits would be good PR is if they paid to advertise it as such. Otherwise social media would be full of “What the ***??? I went to fill up my tank and the attendant was just like ‘sorry, 5 gallons per customer’. I am never shopping at XXXX again”
You can ration without price gouging.
How, pray tell? Until the government formally sets out rationing rules the supply is used up. If they’re enforcing price gauging rules suppliers have no reason to ration themselves. If they’re anyhow not earning more money; the sooner they sell out the sooner they can go home. The only reason they would limit someone’s purchase would be out of the goodness of their heart which we certainly can’t rely on.
When there was major gas shortages by Superstorm Sandy until the city came out strongly against it many gas stations raised their prices significantly. This meant that people only took 3/4 gallons to save money, which meant more people were able to get gas. When the city was enforcing price gauging laws people started filling up their tanks which meant most stations supplies were wiped out within several hours. I think increasing prices when there is an actual supply shortage encourages people to ration which ends up helping everyone.
name me all the older single girls that you know and I’ll name a older single guy. Unfortunately, I have never lost this challenge.
Of course you’ve never lost. You only need to know one guy.
I say:
Malky
Chani
Toby
etc, etc, etc,You say:
ChaimYou win!
(Sorry- I couldn’t resist. In actuality though I doubt you’d be able to come up with a list of as many single guys as the list of girls I have.)
apushatayid- the reason I addressed my post to you was because you referenced relieving oneself. I was just comparing the options one has in either situation without elaborating on your example.
While I do think if it’s not too difficult a woman should use a cover, I don’t believe it should be mandated by law. For one, not all babies cooperate with the cover. One of my babies would constantly throw the cover off to be more comfortable (and yes, this was a baby not yet old enough for solid food). I’m imagining an overzealous officer coming by just when the baby throws the cover off and slapping a fine for indecent exposure… not a good idea. In addition if the mother’s shirt is loose enough she’ll be able to nurse modestly without an additional nursing cover. From what I’ve seen women that are dressed modestly tend to nurse modestly as well. I haven’t seen any nursing mother be as immodest as some people are as their everyday wear.
apushatayid- Have you ever tried nursing a baby in a public restroom? Not quite as easy as you might imagine. There are no chairs and the toilet seats have no lid. Which means you have to balance on the edge of the seat and keep the baby from hitting the cubicle walls. Some department stores have fitting rooms with a narrow bench but what should a woman flying with a newborn do? Let her baby starve for the entire flight?
Difference here is halacha is on the side of the woman feeding the baby. Hilchos erva is different for a nursing mother. (If you don’t believe me ask your rav).
I buy non-iron clothes mostly. It’s also not the end of the world if what I’m wearing is slightly wrinkled… I only iron if I’m going to some event or it’s more than a little wrinkled.
Always use the proper name for things. Fear of a name increases fear of the thing itself. – Dumbledore
Joseph- that is incorrect. The halacha is that a man shouldn’t walk behind a woman, not that he shouldn’t be behind one. There is a huge difference between the two. I see men (including very chashuva men) sitting behind women on city busses all the time.
Personally I feel that if a company wants separate seating they should either do side by side (like on the Monsey bus) or do women in the front. This way a pregnant woman who is easily nauseated isn’t subjected to the additional bouncing of the seat from sitting in the back.
lowerourtuition11210- that can happen in Eretz Yisroel as well. Rosh Hashana is two days yom tov regardless of where you live.
so she appears as a “live in”.
I don’t understand this. Isn’t a man taking a second wife supposed to provide her with her own home -not together with first?
I’ll bear this in mind before I schedule my next lavish event. Oh, wait, I don’t do any. What’s the point here? Is anyone here on the CR (apart from CTLawyer) considering hosting a fancy party? What’s the toeles here?
Personally I prefer to use “moss head”
For those who didn’t understand RebYidd23’s comment:
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noun: DecadentGamanit – 1.5% is not second to nill, its a risk that is there and happens to some people, besides this is just postpartum hemorrhage there are a few other conditions that can cause life threatening hemorrhaging such as abruptios which can be life threatening.
There are a few grades of abruption with some being true life threatening emergencies, I am aware of several cases in which the patients life was saved with not much time to spare, these patients needed aggressive volume resuscitation and blood transfusions and of course life saving surgical intervention. I admit that this is not the every day occurrence but its there. Sometimes these can be treated without surgical intervention such as with medication like Pitocin which is even given prophylactically.
I am not familiar with the details of this case other than what was posted here and hearing of it this case at the time.
2scents- of this 1.5%, 99% is already in the hospital. 1% of 1.5% is pretty close to nothing. As a first responder you still have to take every precaution that this isn’t the case with your current patient even though it’s unlikely. Yes, abruption can be life threatening. I’m not disputing that. I still think that the story as it was told here isn’t very plausible. Do you remember how it was discussed at the time when it occurred? Sometimes a story has a kernel of truth in it to make it sound more believable even though as a whole it’s false.
Those were fun…. I remember them. We used to get them as prizes.
Gamanit – What are the statistics that you are referring to? It would be nice if I can take a look at those numbers. To say that it is close to nill is very inaccurate, There are algorithms in place for this and these types of emergencies do occur. Not sure from where you take it that there need to be or these patients usually present with a prior indication. While some patients are at higher risk for abruptios and previas one does not need to have any prior indications to have an abruptio or significant post partum hemorrhage. In fact, every woman in the third trimester presenting with abdominal pain is considered to have an abruptio until proven otherwise.
I will ignore the personal attacks, It is irrelevant if I claim to even have any prehospital certification or not. Treating shock is beyond the EMT’s scope of practice. True, the EMTs can place the patient in shock position which might preserve the patients vital organs and even keep the patient warm, yet they cannot offer fluid replacement which is the first step in treating any hemorrhage or even transport to definitive care without an ambulance. Is that not so?
From what I’ve read the risk of hemorrhage post delivery goes up to aproximately 1.5% at about 20 weeks gestation. While you always have to take precautions (if a person complains of chest pains you assume heart attack even though it’s more likely heartburn) the actual risk is fairly low. This 1.5% is risk altogether- if you’ve read enough you know how the typical progression goes. There is pretty much always several hours of worrying symptoms before it becomes actually dangerous. In rare cases it gets serious after only about a half hour or so.
Note – the main reason we are so concerned about abdominal pain in third trimester is because if there is partial placental abruption an emergency c-section can save the baby’s life. I have an online friend who actually had no abdominal pain but called EMS after slipping on the ice and they got her to the hospital on time to do a c-section with no lasting damage. In this case it seems the woman already knew her pregnancy was non-viable. There was no baby to save.
As I’ve said previously- people don’t call third trimester losses a miscarriage. Even laypeople. It sounds like the person who was writing this story was referring to first trimester. While EN doesn’t have their own ambulances, they do transport with other ambulances. They wouldn’t have placed her in shock position and walked off. Typical transport time (even with FDNY these days) would still get her to the hospital with plenty of time to spare.
GAMANIT – CHANCES ARE NOT AS LOW AS YOU MAKE IT SOUND, THE RISK OF POSTPARTUM EXSANGUINATION IS HIGH ON THE LIST. THERE ARE MANY OTHER CAUSES THAT CAN PUT AN OB AT RISK FOR HYPOVOLEMIC SHOCK (HS), TRUE THAT MOST OF THEM WOULD NOT PRESENT WITH A ‘PUDDLE OF BLOOD’ BUT SOME WOULD. THAT IS WHY THEY HAVE THE OR NEAR THE OR IN THE LD UNIT, FOR THESE TYPES OF EMERGENT SITUATIONS. ARE YOU SAYING STUFF LIKE ABRUPTIOS DO NOT OCCUR, THEY SURELY DO AND HIGHER CLASS ABRUPTIOS ARE TRUE LIFE THREATENING EMERGENCY’S?
I am pretty aware of the statistics. The chances of sudden hemorrhage with no prior indication such as heavy bleeding is close to nill. Woman are typically given guidance as to what is considered heavy enough bleeding to come into L&D. There is usually several hours from when bleeding would be considered heavy to when there is actually a life threatening issue.
IF THIS WERE A MEDICAL REVIEW THERE WOULD HAVE BEEN A LOT OF QUESTIONS AND ADDED DETAILS, WAS THIS A TRAUMA PATIENT THAT IS IN SHOCK? IS THE MISCARRIAGE SECONDARY TO ANYTHING ELSE THAT IS GOING ON?
True. I’m talking about the story as it is told here.
REGARDING THE TERMS USED, THIS DOES NOT APPEAR TO HAVE BEEN WRITTEN BY A DOCTOR OR A LAWYER, SEEMS MORE LIKE STREET TERMS WERE USED. TO SOME LAY PEOPLE MISCARRIAGE/STILL BORN/SPONTANEOUS ABORTION ARE ONE AND THE SAME.
In my experience woman are more likely to use the term stillbirth in error when referring to a late miscarriage than use the word miscarriage (which gives a connotation that it’a not such a big deal) for a late term loss.
YOUR OTHER POINTS ARE ALL SITUATIONAL AND YOUR OWN ASSUMPTIONS.
Could be. So are yours.
I AM ALSO SURE THAT EN WOULD HAVE FOLLOWED PROTOCOL, I ALSO BELIEVE THAT DID FOLLOW PROTOCOL WHICH WAS TO DIAL 911, WHAT ELSE CAN THEY DO FOR THE PATIENT?
If you think shock protocol is to dial 911 then I don’t know how you passed your EMT course. You are supposed to place patient in shock position, give them a blanket, and closely monitor vitals. In NYC MAST trousers aren’t typically used but you’re supposed to carefully monitor vitals. Not sit there waiting for transport.
2scents- you do know the chances of going into hypovolemic shock from a miscarriage are extremely low, right? I don’t buy this story for one minute. Especially these points: She says her sister called her doula for advice. Which woman has a doula before the third trimester?
If this was in the third trimester it would be a stillbirth, not a miscarriage. Also, for medical issues like this people generally call their doctor or midwife not their doula. A decent doula would have advised her to call her doctor, not say she’s coming over. A doctor would have given her guidance as to when to come into L&D. She also says her sister was so dizzy she felt she had to lay down on the floor. Really. The floor. There was no more comfortable place in her house? The dizziness was so so sudden that there was no option? Also, the supposed pool of blood on the floor. Any woman that knows she is having a miscarriage takes precautions not to leave a trail of blood on the floor wherever she’s walking. I’m sure that would have been the case here as well. And if she was going into shock as the story is told I’m sure EN would have been following shock protocol, not sitting and holding her hands.This reminds me of when I was a guest at someone and they used dark blue glass cups. When I looked in my cup it was all dusty. Ew. With a clear glass you can easily see whether it’s clean or not. Not that my host would have noticed either way…
Most adoptions these days are open or semi-open which means you would know almost anything you need to know by asking the birth mother who is in regular contact with the adoptive parents. What is wrong with adoptive children seeking out their birth families? Many children have wonderful relationships with both birth and adoptive families.
Why not? I cut my husbands hair many times. If there’s a halachic issue I’ll have to tell him I can no longer do it in the future.
I think right now the only expectation is that the artwork actually exists.
We weren’t allowed to use pens until our teacher decided our handwriting was good enough to make the switch, sometime in fourth grade. She would give out a “license” to each girl along with a pen once they were allowed to start using them. She gave me the license on the second to last day of school even though my handwriting was awful just because she felt bad for me. In the upper grades I used to write with colored pens. There was a rule against students using red pens but no rule against purple or any other color.
Hey Simcha Perlman! Welcome to the CR!