commonsense

m, one year after we cleaned our car from head to toe we found a pretzel sitting on the floor. We recleaned and were convinced it was as clean as could be, and soon after found cheerios. We could not believe it!!! Also had no idea where these things were hiding. My husband realized that there was a built in cupholder in the middle seat that retracted and when there was food in it(which was often) it sometimes got deposited inside the back of the seat and would fall out when it got jostled. the rest of the year we would not have noticed because our car is not the cleanest to be honest but when our car was spotless it became evident. We didn’t want to have a problem over pesach, so we took off the back of the car, cleaned and put it back on.

cherrybim, i do understand not mishing yet buying products. If you trust a hecsher then you trust that the mashgiach is making sure that all care is taken with the production of the product to make it kosher l’pesach, but you have no way of knowing what is going on in people’s kitchens. Also people have different minhagim when it comes to kashrus (for example, there are very frum people who hold that cooking chicken in an oven does not make the oven fleishigs, and We hold that the oven needs to be cleaned well and burned out after cooking chicken.) and on pesach people like to be extra careful.

i have the number of an agency that has russian and polish cleaning women. I am not comfortable posting it in public as it is more of a word of mouth agency than an official agency. If the mods let i can email you the number or send it to the mods and they can email it to you, please let me know. they are supposed to send me someone on Friday but I am not taking her so for sure she should be available.

of course, I too often called Rabbi Blumenkrantz even erev yom kippur during the seudah hamofskes and never felt like I was inconveniencing him. He truly made himself available, there are very few Rabbonim that are that accessible… BPT, you would be amazed at how many people do not have a Rov they consider their Rov. Mnny people daven at shul because it is local and do not feel a specific kesher to the rov.

i don’t know, the shnitzel stores around here (brooklyn) seem to have plenty of business and they are take offs of Israeli stores.

Seahorse, I don’t know where you live, but a lot of girls come to brooklyn to date because it’s hard to find single boys out of town.

eclipse if she’s available I’m desperate, maybe she has a friend?

Sac, where in Brooklyn? the frum neighborhoods are much more expensive than that for such a big lot. I live in Kensington where there are many big lots like that but the houses are at least in the 5-6 hundred thousand range for a lot that size.

make that the ad on the left

do you have to do a paper?

easier recipe, take 2 peices of white bread, challah or any bread, put 1-2 peices of cheese in between, place in toaster oven and bake until cheese is melted, enjoy …. sorry ICOT yours sounds delicious and gourmet, but too many ingredients and work, so I’ll continue with my way

Sorry popa, but although I think Aries is laying it on a bit strong I echo her sentiments (as shown before). the fact that any of you don’t recognize how out of line the behavior exhibited was is mind blowing in the frum world. As parents we struggle with all kinds of issues to try to raise our children to be mentchen. i am sure I am not the only mother who at times has had to behave very differently in front of her children than she would like to in order to show them the correct way to behave and not the way that feels good but you know is wrong. If we aren’t mechanech our children how can we expect them to be mentchen? Esther acted in heat of the moment and once megillah started it was too late to change but for anyone to defend what she did or see it in any positive light in the glare of 20/20 hindsight is just anti everything we expect frum jews to be. I don’t think coming down on Esther like a ton of bricks will help as it will just make her feel defensive, but to condone what was done is just wrong! to be honest, I have been is similar situations and i walked away, yes, I carped about it for a long time after to anyone who would listen (without names) but I walked away because sometimes you cannot teach people mentchlichkeit and if this woman was rude enough to refuse to move Esther was not going to change her.

anon, I’m willing to try if your’e willing to sponsor

eclipse or wolf def.

the woman might be a crackpot or just a mean bitter woman, you won’t change her and at the end you go home with a 10 year old that learned the lesson that all that talk about middos is just that, talk. the lesson the 10 year old learned will probably outlive the older woman and not in a positive sense. At the end you were all stubbborn, no one one and not one got the zechus of overcoming their yetzer hara. Popa, you are forgetting the particulars of this story. they were all there to do a mitzva, the daughter’s chiyuv is only for chinuch, what chinuch did she get? Esther’s reaction here is similar to someone who is crossing a street on a green and a car goes through on the red. Most people will jump out of the way even though they have the right of way because no one wants to be “dead right”. We all have to learn the lesson that sometimes it just doesn’t pay to fight. Esther had the opportunity to show her daughter that we show kovod to zekainim even when they don’t deserve it, simply because they are older. We actually have a mitzah to stand up for an older person like it or not. No question the woman acted wrongly but two wrongs don’t make a right.

Jersey Gardens, in NJ but only a few minutes away fron NY

I laughed so hard when i read this but to be honest I am apalled at the lack of derech eretz on all sides. Yes the woman was absolutely totally wrong!!!but that doesn’t allow you to show equally reprehesible behavior. You missed a huge chinuch opportunity that might come back and bite you later on in a big way. How can you teach your daughter to behave like that. You needed to validate your daughter’s right to the seat but teach your daughter to show good middos in all situations including those where you are mistreated for being right. You may have acheived your short term goal but I feel you ignored your long term goal of being mechanech your daughter. As Halevai said you could have offered to change seats with her and had your daughter sit in the less desirable seat. It is hard to believe that the three of you thought you were being mekayaim a mitzvah through such behavior. I am sorry to come down on you like such a ton of bricks but I think it needed to be said. MODS, if you think I am being too harsh or that this will insult someone then please don’t post, maybe you can forward it to her email privately.

toa aries, the market became friedman’s grocery which recently closed down and supposedly a pomegrante type store is opening there.

passion, can we come to? who prepares all that food?

thanx eclipse for this thread, i too appreciate the laughs, keep them coming.

I’m sure all boys schools had half a day and all the girls high schools I know of did too. Bybp had no school today but I do not know about other girls elementary schools. Bybp has school tomorrow and I do not think the high schools do.

maybe we don’t talk about it so much, we just do..”Emor m’at ve’aseh harbay”

how can I have a second name without a second email address?

time to end it already, they stretch out these stories too long!

sorry, got mislead by the subtitle as yenta is usually used for a woman.