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๐ Is this going against CR rules or something? I’m not trying to make trouble or anything… (Honest!)
80?
What exactly does that mean????????????
Sorry. I meant just because someone is not frum doesn’t mean their parents did something wrong. There are plenty of other reasons people go off unfortunately. (Bad friends, internet etc.)
Maybe explain to your mother that its important to you now, and you want your husband (IY”H) to be behind you in regard to the length of skirts and someone who wont agree to go out because your skirt length is too long is probably not the type of person you are looking for… Sorry if this was already posted.
I, (one very little person) say stick to your guns and respectfully try to explain (again) its importance to you. Hopefully, soon she will realize how much you want it and you will be able to do it with a full heart. Again, I’m one very little person. Hatzlacha!!
The other option I see is for you to get engaged and married ASAP to someone who feels the same way as you. (That was a bracha.)
Mods was my post deleted or just not approved yet?
Very sad. You should keep in mind that her parents are in no way a reflection of her. Unfortunately, both people from the best homes and people from not-the-best homes go off the derech.
Besuros Tovos. (That goes for always here also)
I found the posts, and probably it would fit many people. I’m going based on what you’ve said about yourself here, but if you want the info and a mod is willing to pass it over, I’ll send it.
Mods?
I read through the “what are you looking for” thread and she fits the (loose) description, the other one I didnt even bother trying to find (there are waaaay to many shidduchim threads).
80, would you be so kind as to forward the info?
Friend, if you’re reading this, I guess by now you figured out its me. Hi ๐
Ironically enough I had to miss the lechaim because of a date … Which bombed majorly … Bleah
Think of it as a good story to tell your grandchildren ๐
On a more serious note, is there any way to get a (sort of) detailed description of the type you generally go out with? This discussion makes me think of a friend of mine… And if the info does get to you and you’re interested, would you be willing to do the work to find her and then have someone redt it?
And are you in/willing to come to Brooklyn?
You can continue in a different thread (teen thread?) if you like.
Anyhow, hatzlacha!
SDHN, I just logged in to post the same thing. If only people would learn and daven with the same feeling.
Just curious, is getting drunk/possibly vomiting all over the place and in general looking like a total fool/possibly causing a chillul Hashem (c’v)/possibly doing something stupid (like getting behind a wheel) part of the mitzvah?
At first I was wondering how the adults got in (J/K) and then I started wondering which side I’d actually be on…
Scary thought.
To be really honest here, I dont like the way I (or most other people, but thats a whole separate issue) look in short. A few things to mention quickly if I may.
Similar to what was mentioned, the idea that you bothered starting a thread about it means you want to do something about it. And the resolve to change something is the hardest part.
I know when something is hard for me, I think to myself that any zchus gained from doing it should be for a certain thing. What also may work, is not letting yourself wear anything short even just one day a week. You’ll think twice before putting it on even on an “ok” day. Like someone I know would say, if this is how far the yetzer hara is going, its probably more important than we realize.
Maybe most importantly, you are completely normal. We were put on this world to perfect ourselves, and even taking what may seem like a small step is really a big step.
Habah l’taher misayin oso.
(Some things I mentioned were similar to things mentioned by other people. I wasn’t trying to copy anyones comments and my apologies if I did.)
I probably would have done the same (with the slight possibility of also giving them a “tell me you’re kidding/nebech” look).
Any one remember switching delaney cards on subs?
You do? Care explaining the joke to our juniors?
This is where technology helps subs all over. They use pictures now. ๐
IIRC, the rental thing happened because people were sharing music (one person purchases the cd, a few friends copy the music to their ipods). The renting changed the Halachic and/or legal status since the buyer never actually owns the music. I’ve heard its ok to make copies for your own use, but please ask your rav to clarify.
Someone who dresses non-tznius.
From my experience, tznius is a separate issue. Its possible to have both, but one doesn’t necessarily mean the other.
“finding a Frum Nutritionist” why does the nutrionist have to be frum??
I was wondering that myself. Just a guess here, but maybe the idea is that someone frum is more familiar with the average diet (cholent, kugel etc) and it would be easier to keep to a diet. (Ok, maybe I should keep quiet next time.)
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I did hear once that its better to use lemon juice than alcohol on pimples. Alcohol dries out the skin more which can mean wrinkles later on in life. (Not recommending using lemon juice or alcohol though, I’m not a doctor.)
Someone materialistic, who has an appreciation for money because it makes them feel like something. Usually someone who is very insecure.
If its so important, ask if they would be willing to put down a rug or carpet (the expense either split between you or even if you need to cover the cost alone) in the whole apartment or at least in the room on top of yours. As far as the earplugs and not hearing the alarm clock, I think they sell something that shakes instead of making noise, maybe something like that would work…? Is it as bad in the summer (with air conditioning)? If that works, maybe a sound machine would help. It might mean investing a few dollars, but its probably worth it to maintain Shalom.
Hatzlacha!
i had a bird do his bussiness right on top of me (more then once) since then i am scared to walk under a flock of birds
…you might want to avoid walking under planes for the same reason… ๐
This might be considered a “smaller” story but I’ll say it anyway. I was listening to a certain song over and over, but the lyrics were impossible to understand and it was driving me crazy. I opened a Siddur to say something (which I had started to say not too long before) and I “missed” the page. The song was still in my head and as soon as I looked at the page, I realized I “bumped into” the lyrics.
No, you wouldn’t. The State Constitution is very clear on this. If religion is taught in the school (or if the school is controlled by a religious organization) then *no part* of the school can be funded by state funds — not the secular studies, not the arts and crafts, not the gym, not the electricity, not the rent, not the administrative staff — nothing.
Dont Yeshivas get funding for books etc? How is that possible?
The updated version of the shidduch threads. J/K.
I know who she is in real life. Well some of my relatives do anyway.
Nope. I just saw it before and I liked it ๐
And if I can ask a favor; if you end up in contact with any of my relatives, is it possible to keep this CR thing quiet?
Thanks.
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“If you’re single it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough for anybody, it means no one is good enough for you”
Is this for real? I’m still hoping you’ll change your mind… This is late in coming, but I’ll be sorry not to see your name popping up here. Your posts are (were?) always very sincere, and have genuine caring. And if I were to leave the CR, I highly doubt I would generate a thread of 80+ posts, and that says a lot. Hatzlacha with everything, and please come back once in a while.
eclipse, can I take part in that bracha? I’ve got a little way till the social security checks start coming…
To everyone here turning 18 (or whatever age you might be turning), realize Hashem brought you to this point in your life and He will continue to help you with everything. Its only hard if you make it hard. I also went through the same thought process, but while its normal to be nervous, there is no need for it.
Hatzlacha!
The Goq- lol!
To add to what eclipse mentioned- I heard from a teacher of mine not only to praise your spouse in front of his/her family, but also in front of your own family (parents especially). It gives reassurance that you are happily married and the right choice was made.
I say to women or a woman walking with her husband. I wouldn’t say first to a man but I would probably answer.
Some of the reactions are hysterical.
Fry?! I hate to ask this (I’m afraid of the answer) but do you mean frei?
A rat, a cat, a bat… Wheres Dr. Seuss? Seriously, I think I heard mice don’t like the smell of mint. I would imagine that would go for other strong smells as well, I don’t know if it actually works though.
I always say someone should come up with some cat-scent in a bottle…
Hatzlacha!
We actually made butter in first grade (my class), it was so exciting. A shame someone actually decided school meant work instead of fun. If you wanna teach me about dinosaurs though, I’m up for it. J/K
Yep. And IIRC it was pretty easy to kill them.
Maybe. Seriously though, when you learn things as a kid it becomes second nature to you, while something you learn later in life you might need to think about. I think theres a certain “logic” to computers and tech stuff, and once you get that down pat, you can probably do most computer related things. Todays kids were born into a computer age so its normal for them to understand computer stuff very quickly.
This is for all the 90’s kids out there… Tamigatchis (no idea how to spell it, sorry), slap bracelets.
Dial up internet, walkmans (I think they stopped making them pretty recently).
I’m getting very nostalgic now, thanks guys.
popa, you’re getting predictable.
Rezdy, I beat you. I fell asleep a couple of times. (I think it was during test season.)
When someone needs a listening ear, the person who provides that is worth more than anything. Even if it feels like you’re not doing anything to help her, by listening you are helping more than you can imagine. Outside of that if you want to help her, daven. Thats real stuff.
The Goq, was that a compliment? I’m taking it as a freebie.
Mod, you trying to take over for Human Spellchecker?
Sweet Kapusta,Do not worry at all,I wanted it gone,because the whole business was not good for anonymity,I don’t always think of that on time!
Ok, just happy to hear it wasn’t me. Sweet kapusta… I think I could get used to that… ๐
Btw, theres a section on YWN community calendar if you want to post it there…
Refuah Shelaimah to everyone who needs it!
Mods:
Was the thread about the new film deleted because of me? I didn’t mean for that to happen.
eclipse:
I’m not sure why the thread was deleted, but seeing that it was active only over the weekend (when some people probably missed it) maybe its worth posting the info again…?
Secondly, for those people who put down middos and everything is secondary, I don’t believe you. Middos may be a extremely important characteristic, but intellect, looks, family, level of religiousness, play an extremely large role. I know plenty of people in shidduchim (both boys and girls) and anyone who has said they only cared about middos suddenly started caring about other things when I tried setting them up.
I’m one of those people who would put down Middos (and I think I did on a similar thread). Its only realistic to want to marry someone in the same general category (frumkeit, intellect etc). If they are to build a life together, they need some common ground. As far as the Middos thing, what I mean is thats the one thing I wont compromise on. The other stuff we could talk about, but no Middos and hes out the door.
Maybe this is just me, but I think to myself that Hashem has never given up on me yet, and I have no real reason to think that way. It helps to keep the nerves in check.
Hatzlacha!
How much are you looking to spend? What type is he? (Like what kinda things is he into?)