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practical/real life comments: bpt, eclipse, oomis
I must be a true editor
(not gonna comment) 😉
Take a little nap (not in bed so you don’t get too comfortable). Or caffeine. Hatzlacha!
How could we wish someone well on a grumpy thread?
Maybe it should be retitled “the formerly grumpy thread”.
Papa Bear: Refuah Shelaimah! I feel for you
tbt: Amen, thank you. And positive feedback is always nice so thanks for that too.
brotherofurs: virus. And I think you need a post report treat (cake etc)
eclipse: lol, thank you.
I’m not really posting but eclipse, I just wanted to tell you I kept both you and your daughter in mind in my davening earlier and I do know that no tefilla is ever wasted.
I am looking forward to (IY”H soon!!) your letting us know that she is doing better.
Hatzlacha rabbah
What happens when the posters fall asleep? This place is getting a little quiet lately.
“Kol haposhet yad nosnim lo”. When a person sticks out their hand for money, we don’t look, we just give without asking questions. When a person “sticks out their hand” and asks for something, Hashem doesn’t look, just gives (if its best for the person).
There are two separate issues here. One is telling him something about talking during davening. The other is telling him anything at all. In regard to the first issue, you were completely right. If next time he has something to say during davening and then decides not to because you asked him not to, it goes on your “record” that you stopped someone from talking during davening, and the people around him were actually able to daven. Thats an A+ right there. The second part is another issue entirely. Everyone is allowed to make a mistake once in a while. And losing control is a temporary thing. One more thought: often feelings of guilt will make someone be extra careful in the future. Not so terrible.
We are not talking about baalei teshuva. We are talking about the opposite — frum people that became mechalilei Shabbos, etc.
For some reason, I automatically assumed becoming frei was used to mean temporarily and returning to Yiddishkeit and only that. Sorry about that.
Someone who was never frum might be a tinok shenishba. Someone who was frum and became frei is a rasha.
“Bemakom sheba’alei tshuva omdim…”
Did you see the Kommon Kiruv Blunders video? It was pretty good.
The last one reminds me of:
A guy walks into a dentists office and asks what it costs to pull a tooth.
Dentist: $500.
Man: That much?!
Dentist: Yep.
Man: Cant you do it for any less?
Dentist: Not really. The only way is to do it without using any novocain but most people cant handle that. You would need a pretty high tolerance for pain.
Man: Oh, dont worry about that. How much would it cost?
Dentist: Without novocain it would be $50.
Man: But you can do it, right?
Dentist: Well… yes. But again, most people wouldn’t be able to handle it… Are you sure about this?
Man: Oh, yes. Show him which tooth it is, dear.
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A man awaiting test results from a doctor finally gets a call.
Man: So?
Doctor: Well I have good news and bad news.
Man: Whats the good news?
Doctor: You have twenty four hours to live.
Man: And…
Doctor: I forgot to call you yesterday.
Sorry, joke telling isn’t really my thing 😉
Ok, StuffedCabbage, who are you?
And for your question, Shalach Manos has become in some form or another a bit of a status thing.
I say very careful monitoring on texting. IMO taking away the phone will accomplish nothing because unfortunately plenty of kids go out and get phones on their own. This way at least there is some control over the texting.
I’m thinking do whatever it takes to keep the lines of communication open. If it means keeping quiet (maybe easier said than done) or taking an extra step it wont hurt.
The Pintele Yid never goes away. Hatzlacha!
anyone? (See earlier post)
Thats really amazing.
I’d love to see the page, anyone know what words in a search would pull it up?
I hope this wont come off the wrong way, but Tehillim can be the best form of therapy around. Music is also good, but not just anything.
Hatzlacha!
Vegetable parmesan (eggplant or zucchini)
I once saw something along the lines of lasagna but with mushroom caps instead of noodles. (One layer of mushrooms, tomato sauce, shredded cheese)
Meatloaf/meat lasagna
There are plenty of things to do with chicken. When you say you’re bored of it, do you just mean you want new recipes?
Do you do any slow cooker recipes?
Just saw an ad for a clothing donation drive to benefit the Shelly Cohen A”H Bridal Fund. They accept (clean, gently worn) clothing, shoes and sneakers, handbags, linens and stuffed animals. (In great condition only: furniture, appliances, books and working computers.)
Pickups available in Brooklyn and Deal area. 732-747-0083
If you go there, can you take my sister a package?
So how far is Bnos Chava from BJJ anyway?
Oops. Next time I’ll have to read the OP instead of just the first few words.
(sheepish look)
Esther?
Yup. Maybe people are too busy looking for parking because they came late to write anymore.
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ICOT, next time warn me in the beginning not to eat anything until I finish reading the post!
I hear where you’re coming from but think of it this way: you’re friend may have something which seems amazing, but she also has a different tafkid in this world than you do so maybe theres no need for you to have that specific thing. Example- someone has a huge house and ends up hosting people for neighborhood Simchas. Her friend who delivers packages for Tomchei Shabbos doesn’t need all that space, so even though she might like it, its not connected to her purpose on this world. (Am I just rambling here?)
Who was the first one to milk a cow?
You are not being cruel. (I’ll go easy on everyone and not write that 500 times for you.) Cruel is something done by a nasty/mean spirited/evil/completely insane person, none of which you seem to fit. More likely that you’re trying to feel a certain sense of normalcy.
Mishenichnas Adar Marbin B’simcha. IY”H for you, this Adar.
that should put her out of her Missouri
Isn’t that why she sipped on Minnesota?
Wheres the rest of the song?
On the youtube video, there was a link to a site with more info about the whole case. Maybe theres a way to contact someone through the site…
Good luck!
Kapusta-Its good to know SOMEONE understands! Anyone who was never in the situation can’t and that’s why everyone tells me I’m cruel.
A huge thank you to everyone!
Cruel? I think accusing someone is stupid and often wont help things but that one just doesn’t make any sense. First, there is nothing wrong with you, second, there is nothing wrong with you third, there is nothing wrong with you. And it is not a hopeless case.
I would really love to help you any way I can. I’m not sure what exactly I can do (other than understanding you and where you’re coming from) but if theres anything, even just listening, say the word. I did keep you in mind in my davening earlier, and will bl”n continue to do so until you let us know some good news IY”H. Depression gets a bad rap as someone not being able to deal with things, and that can be the case but not always and in this case I’m guessing its very far from the truth.
Please define what you mean by doctor.
I really believe that things not only can, but will IY”H get better for you very soon. The very fact that you bothered writing anything is already a big step in the right direction.
Hang in there. 🙂
I know what you feel like. (I almost feel like in certain ways you’re describing me exactly not too long ago.) About people being insensitive, heres a tip for life: some people are just plain stupid. My thinking is that most people aren’t trying to be mean, it just happens that way. (And believe it or not, they might not even realize it.) Yes, its very annoying. And as many times as you might hear that everyone has their little package, and everyone does, because you are going through yours (which is tailor made for you) it might seem harder. And its part of human nature to compare. If it helps you to know this, I do feel because I’ve seen what I have in my life (B”H) I’ve come out a better person from it (and I don’t think I’m the only one to say that).
About the attitude thing, I know maybe you can’t believe me right now but I’ll say it anyway. I have no idea what specific challenge you’re facing right now (and I’m not asking). I’ve gone through certain things, and some of them haven’t changed too much but B”H my attitude has. Did I think it could at the time? Absolutely not. But it did. Even if it means indulging yourself (good food, a good book, a new cd etc) once in a while, if it brings you up, its probably worth it. I’ll say it again, talk to Hashem. If you ask me its better than any anti-depressant (any kind) around.
(filled rant quota for the day)
I think life is really about being happy. Yes, there are some things that aren’t perfect but when you weigh the options of being happy (most of the time) or not feeling anything, what would you choose? And how often does pain translate into good things? It might not be fun while its happening but so often it triggers positive things.
And what would be the purpose of life if there were no emotions? So many things (especially in a frum lifestyle) are based on emotion (Yomim Tovim, Shabbos, Simchas and for c’v the opposite).
mischiefmaker-
Been there, done that. I know what it feels like, but dont fool yourself. Attitude is everything. Maybe even more than the situation which you are put in. Anyone can talk about having a positive attitude from today till tomorrow but until you come to the realization yourself, it wont help. I know from experience that a situation doesn’t need to change to feel better. It might seem like a completely foreign concept right now but know that its possible. Depression or a negative attitude is not anyones fault but its something to overcome. What I’m understanding from your earlier post sounds like anger more than depression (or anger coming out in the form of depression). Am I right? (Just trying to help).
When the hardship is in YOU its impossible to escape. It follows you around which makes you not be able to have relief, even in school.
Just like you said. The hardship is in you. It is not you. People are not cookies. There is no all good and all bad. Every person (yes, you) is good with certain things that need a little polishing. Dont put yourself in the wrong camp because there is something making you look at things through broken glasses.
As was already mentioned, talk to a friend. Friends are very good, but let me go a step further. Talk to Hashem. Not just during Shmone Esrei. He is the best listener around and your best friend. Go into your room (or a quiet place) when no ones around and talk to Him. Tell him exactly what you would tell a friend. And think of something good that happened (in a related area) and thank Him for it. Guaranteed results.
Getting the idea I have a lot to say on this? 🙂
Lots of hatzlacha!
(end rant)
How long a break are you talking about?
observant: feeling better?
Yup, email.
Now we know that the head honcho at Y.W. is named Ed. 🙂
Hmmm… Any relation to Mr. Ed?
Kidding!!
😉
Am I correct in thinking that post was really addressed to me? Last I heard, a mod was trying to contact yossi but never got a response. With facebook being what it is, I feel uncomfortable about it, even if its just to transfer info.
staten island, particularly mariners harbour “SI2” on the locations list, is the easiest place if you want local. dont take road tests in brookly, they are retarded. starett city has a lane change and a bunch of traffic.
havemeyer avenue in the bronx is probably the easiest place to go, but its an hour and a half drive so most driving schools dont go there.
I’m pretty sure MH has at least one place to switch lanes and Havemeyer definitely does.
Was that a compliment? Well, thank you. Anyway, since you’re the mod who bothered answering, maybe I could pick your brain on a way to do this…?
Or if there are any other nice mods out there…?
Even if something goes wrong, don’t give up.
Try to schedule the test for earlier in the day. Most people don’t feel like doing their good deed for the day after a day of a bunch of people trying to prove they can drive when they cant.
I’m pretty sure theres another thread about this, maybe even two…
Hatzlacha Rabbah!!