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The person up and decided after 3 months that they didn’t have feelings for me.
Actually, Sam2 is correct, and Lior is building a straw man. Whether or not Lior’s community holds by that chumrah, its stringency as it relates to his community has no bearing on jfem02’s question, since this is something that differs by community, aka, minhag. So strongly asserting that jfem02’s community might possibly be noheg is useless; jfem02 simply has to contact her LOR and ask what is the minhag of her community. End of story.
…And from his side, he was heartbroken because he couldn’t understand why you’d broken up with him after it going so well…I sincerely hope you apologized because yes, this sounds typical. Like I said, these things don’t “just happen”; people do things that cause heartbreak, and after 120, they’ll have to answer for it.
It happened to me too. What I have to say is, there’s no reason for him to consider himself a mentsch if he waited 10 dates to break up and couldn’t even tell you why. Clearly he has issues, and you can do so much better than him. These things don’t “just happen”, ok? People do things that they will have to answer for after 120; just know that your suffering and heartbreak today will lead you closer to the one and help you grow as a person to be more sensitive to others. It’s unfortunate that some people weren’t raised similarly to do so.