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didn’t read through this whole thread, but I have a niece in Masores Rochel and if you

really wan’t legitimate info. the best way to receive that is to speak to people who have children in these seminary’s and ask very specific questions. Not through a website.

Is he in a yeshiva where wearing jeans is normal, or at least not frowned upon? I’m trying to understand the scenario here. Is he away in a dormitory and he came home for an out shabbos wearing jeans? Did he leave for yeshiva in the morning dressed one way and in the evening he came home dressed differently?

I’d be more concerned if he came home wearing a dress. I didnt see the apostrophe (‘) after the S in guys and originally understood this topic to be about a yeshiva and his dress.

When I use the BB shortcut to YWN main page I see no ads/graphics, only text. When I link to the Coffee Room, then all ads are displayed. Perhaps a BB link for the CR is in order?

“You mean someone might be presenting as one gender but is really another? That’s a little creepy… “

Its why the biggest concern parents (not just frum parents, but the general population) have with their kids online is not the sites they frequent, but WHO they interact with.

“On youtube there’s a colored fellow singing Lipa’s Vhiskin loi meemeni”

Hey, the Hazkeni singers have more soul, than Yackov Schwecky (check em out on you tube, moderators didnt allow my last attempt at posting a link) and certainly “out schwecky”, Mr schwecky himself. Gospel singers, singing carlbach niggunim is all over youtube, his music moved the soul, which is what gospel music, lihavdil elef havdalos, is supposed to do as well.

With that said. I dont mind playing todays jewish music. I’m often in the car for long drives on the highway, and I’d rather hum along to a fast song with hebrew words than something from pink floyd, zz to or the doors (which i find myself increasingly doing as todays jewosh music gets worse and worse).

Perhaps he just came from the gym, or from helping clean up the yard of his rebbe or from helping a newly married couple shlep furniture into their apartment or any similar activity where the standard yeshiva attire is not appropriate. Perhaps he is concerned with your money and has no interest in runing his clothes while engaged in these activities. I think

Rolls and roles.

If the smell didnt come out, this will have to be escalated to the level of a Laundry Crisis. Once it is labeled a crisis all the closet askanim will emerge and use their connections at the best chineese laundries to ensure your shirt comes out smelling like a bed of roses.

Lichvod Harav Hagaon Hachasid Hanagid Pe’er Hador Ish Tam Viyashar R’ Jack Shlita.

Without yiddish you’d be lost on rosh hashana. You wouldnt know what food is paired up with what yehi ratzon.

For me, its still Bubbys. Yum.

Think about it. The last shidduch you heard mentioned, was the bachur “learning in lakewood, after learning 2 years in the mir and several years in some other yeshiva” or “he is a wonderful bachur a close talmid of “r’ zundel shlita”.

The yeshiva is basicly a status symbol for a shidduch. The fault lies with noone except a dor that places its priorities on fitting a mold instead of people as individuals.

The mold says that you finish mesivta, go to e”y for a few years, with several acceptable names on that list (mir, brisk perhaps) then on to bmg. Once married, stay and learn in bmg. Kesher with a rebbe? Which one did you develop this kesher with? The one who knows you as a mesivta bachur, the one who knows you as a 20 yr old or the one who knows you as a 24 yr old?

You have to know math to calculate ERA, WHIP, slugging percentage and other statistics (you need advanced English to know what these abbreviations mean). Then there is the advanced math for those who belong to the Bill James school. You have to know how to calculate WHIP for day games when the weather is below 75 but above 50 that dont come out on a Tuesday, or how to calculate the odds that the pitcher will throw a slider on a 2-1 pitch to a left handed hitter with runners on 2nd and 3rd and less than 2 outs. A real gaon would even be able to figure out the ods that they will go with a suicide squeeze on said pitch.

“You can maintain proper hygiene even without intermingling.”

Last time I checked they had sinks and showers in the dormitory of boys yeshivos and girls seminaries. I am certain they are not used only by those who have a shidduch meeting later that evening. You know what they say, “like flies, if you ignore your teeth, they too go away”.

“then why is someone who previously neglectful of hygiene but then cleans up only doing it to ingratiate himself with the opposite gender?”

When I was in Yeshiva, those who neglected their hygiene were called “greasers”, which was evident by the slick atop their head and the shine on their face (and unfortunately, if you sat too close, evident on their breath). Those same bachurim were never seen on the bus at any time, they were always in the beis medrash. Its been a LONG time since I’ve used the bus on a regular basis, have things changed?

I told you I didnt read it carefully 🙂

I also didnt write carefully. I neglected to write he also mentioned “taking care of ones bodily needs” in the same halacha and he is discussing the need for a new netilas yadayim upon waking, if it was done once during the night. Dont quote me.

Siman Beis Sif Ches.

I understand. I just looked up the halacha as brought down in the Kitzur.

. It is sixty neshimos (which he says is approximately half an hr)

I wasnt paying attention to what I was reading because I was looking up the number of neshimos, but I think I saw him say that if you do wash negel vaaser in the middle of the night and then go back to sleep and wake up after daybreak you should wash again, without a bracha. Need to double check.

OK. Want to place your hand in front of a horses mouth and count the breaths?

This statement must be a typo. “the shiur is derived from how many times a horse breathes a certain number of breaths.” The number of times a horse breathes a certain number of breaths would be the number of times it breathed. I think you meant, the number of times a horse breathes in a certain amount of time.

The role of every frum person, male, female, single, married, parent, child whoever, is to always be growing in avodas hashem. That means something totally different to everyone. The goal of every frum person is the same, the means to achieve that goal is as different for everyone as people are different from each other.

The issue you describe getting on a bus is also true in any store before Yom Tov.

It is an issue of mentchlichkeit. Its something that seems to be lacking in great measure (in me too, at times).

Its good chinuch to remind your children, always slide feet first and never slide into first base.

“How dare you single out yeshivah guys in stating that they can not write.”

I believe it is Rav Gifter Z’l who said, “bachurim are illiterate in three languages, Lashon Kodesh, Yiddish and English”.

“Why would bochrim want to learn in Lakewood when they have Brooklyn?”

. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence

. It became the “in thing to do” if you want a shidduch

(I personally have been to Lakewood less than 5 times in my life. I know many such people. B”H we are not lacking places to learn torah or people to learn from, neither are our children.)

“Also it does not answer the question of why there are no big yeshivos for bochrim after EY in NYC.”

See above.

“I was just at Bar Mitzva and a song came on I felt I was at a disco.”

I was listening to JM in the AM wednesday morning and a song comes on that was using a tune from the movie shrek (the tune was popularized by the movie, but was out even longer).

“How permissive is it to take questionable/treif songs and make it kosher?”

This is not a psak halacha, just my opinion. If your going to listen to the billy joel tune “because its a catchy tune” (just like you read the magazine for the articles) buy the CD and

NYMOM. Maybe i’m wrong. I’m pretty sure they told me fairlawn. I didnt keep the box that the cookies came in (they were delicious too) with the address on it.