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“Pritzus on the Internet”.
There is?
Is a garlic bagel a reference to hungarians? an everything bagel the child of a syrian married to a litvak? is a plain bagel a reference to someone with an empty head?
You can teach proper middos in the context of a ballgame. One of the more inspiring stories in print. “run shaya run” takes place in the context of a baseball game.
“It is copyrighted”
“I may have the tape of the 2005 band that I can send you”
It would have to be the copy you have. If it is copyrighted, it is against halacha and against the law to duplicate and send her a copy.
AZ. What percentage of 19 year old boys are even thinking of dating, let alone dating? 20?. 21? 22?
Girls?
If people want to believe in a so called crisis, invent THE cause, and propose what they believe is THE solution to THE problem and declare that they have THE solution, fine. Imy”h in 7-8 years when my children enter this stage in life I’ll be sure to stay abreast of the crisis of the day, ITS cause and THE solution.
Until then, I think I’ll try to understand why the 2 single girls ages 19 and 20 who live on either side of me keep saying yes to the 23-25 year olds and not the 21-22 year olds. Perhaps I should show them your posts and assure them that they will find their bashert among the younger group of guys because they are doing their part in becoming part of THE solution to THE crisis by dating younger guys and leaving the older guys for the older girls.
Who said they are marrying?
Perhaps they never made a crisis out of themselves, so you dont pay much attention to them.
I really cant discuss this with you any longer, as you clearly are wearing blinders.
Who said it has anything to do with age? Perhaps it has to do with the products that come out of our chinuch system. Way to many “flawed guys” for the girls to choose from. Fix the chinuch system and we wont be in a steep recession when it comes to the availability of “good” boys. Tightening the age gap masks this bigger problem, at best.
If he washes on the Tuna Bagel then you know he is not Chassidishe even outwardly.
I know a number of people who stopped dating someone for any number of reasons and some time later (in one case, almost 2 years later) the shidduch was brought up again and the parties agreed to date again. I personally know of 5 such instances that resulted in a marriage, while some of the other couples stopped it again after several dates. People grow wiser and learn new things about the world and about themselves as they grow older and the person who dated 6 months ago, may be a different person now.
Carlos Slim -that dude in mexico-might have enogh money to bail out of BoFA if they lose this case ):
If a shadchan, or anyone else for that matter, feels they are being taken advantage of, they should speak up to the offending party.
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Unbalanced.
The first 2 things handwriting analysis will tell you about a person is that they are desperate and gullible.
Let me get this straight. You are advocating a fixed fee for mentchlechkeit? Perhaps I should ask my Rav if I can start charging old ladies when I help them across the street?
If a professional shadchan decides to hang his/her shingle and declare these are my fees, including handling charges for shidduchim that require X number of phone calls, or last X number of dates or require X amount of time, then go for it. Whoever utilizes this shadchan has by default accepted those terms. Those who dont like terms, will go elsewhere. Period.
Unbalanced. The word is so appropriate in this topic.
I’m all for utilizing shadchanim that are closer in age to those they are setting up. This age gap between shadchanim and those they set up is reaching crisis proportions.
“jphone, intown only”
One can travel from Flatbush to KGH in Queens faster than many parts of Boro Park.
Is Queens really considered “out of town”?
Tzippi. Of course natural selection takes place. Any shadchan who spends an inordinate amount of time with a nudnik is either a saint, or an idiot (im leaning to the latter).
If you (not you per se – unless of course you are a shadchan, talking from experience) dont like the profession, dont join it.
Yes. Tell her to stop dating until she grows up.
Someone is all up in arms over Chafetz Chaim.
Neither are “issues”. Just narishkeiten that people have.
Try Mesivta Yesodei Yeshurun, in Kew Gardens Hills, (Queens).
Therefore? Stop asking so many questions, including, how old is he/she.
I don’t know if this scenario is required under hilchos tzedaka, or not, but one of the more inspiring things I have ever seen involved a lady collecting outside a shul, and when the last person passed by her, she counted what she received, took out 10% and asked someone to put it in the pushka.
You all misunderstand. Its not her handwriting they want to review, its the shtikel torah, she wrote. That is the sample they asked for.
Bottom line. If there is a rule, the principal better enforce it.
If this mother in law wants to waster her money, she can give it to me. I will charge her half, what the so called expert will charge her.
We have a saying in english. Mind your own business.
“Boys get married,Girls remain single.”
Last few chasunas I’ve been to, the boy married a girl.
You’ve got to get over this age gap nonesense already.
From my view, the “issue” is not age gaps, shadchanim or available pool of people to date. We (all involved in shidduchim are meant) ask to many questions and too many dates are shot down because the answers did not match the script we wanted to hear, or the voice inflections seemingly implied something else, or we couldnt find answers etc… Stop asking so many questions, go out on the date and find out for yourself.
With very few exceptions, I have asked people not to use my name as a shidduch reference. Too many people have misconstrued too many things I did or did not say that shidduchim have been broken off or dates not gone on. For example.
Caller: I understand you know shprintze yentas family. What are they like?
Me: (having answered the phone after an hour of studying with my child for a chemistry test, and am all frazzled). Yes, I know the family, they are neighbors for several years. Very nice family.
Caller: Very nice? I notice you didnt say wonderful, why?
Me: Because very nice and wonderful mean the same thing to me, and very nice is what popped into my head at this moment. If it makes you feel better, they are a wonderful family, absolutely wonderful. (It was all downhill from there…shprintze yenta had no chance at a date with this guy, he probably figured I was hiding the fact that mr yenta was an axe murderer or something.)
Another time:
Caller. How would you describe her looks?
Me: (deliberating whether I should bother telling him that looks are in the eyes of the beholder, and then considering a tasteful way to describe a rather good looking girl, figuring it isnt appropriate for me to discuss the looks of my wifes friends, finally settling on….) “people find her to be an attractive girl”.
Caller: People? what about you, does that mean YOU dont find her attractive?
Me: With all due respect, I have a wife and this discussion is beginning to make me uncomfortable. Tell you what, why dont you make a date with her and determine for yourself since everything else apparantly meets your criteria.
OR.
Caller: Do you know Ploni?
Me. Yes, pretty well. In fact Ive known him for close to 25 years.
Caller: Great. What was he like in sleepaway camp?
Me: Hmm…lets see, camp, we were in camp xxxx…
Caller: WHAT??!??! THAT CAMP??!?!?
Me: Well, he was all of 11 years old and today he’s over 30, people change – as I’m sure you have – in 20 years.
Caller: But THAT camp?!?!?! Its hashkafos are so “krumm”.
Me. Since attending that camp, Ploni has grown as a person and as a ben torah. In fact he has learned in some of the finest yeshivos in E”Y and the USA including Brisk and Lakewood.
Caller: (Still hung up on that camp) this really throws this suggesiton for a loop.
Me: Make believe you didnt hear me thinking aloud and pass the info to the girl in question, let her date Ploni and let her decide if THAT camp is a problem for her. Who are you to decide what is or is not good for her, after all she is close to 30 herself, by the way, what relationship are you to this girl?
Caller: Her father.
Me: Well, with the way you carriers on about a camp ploni attended 20 years ago, I’m not surprised your daughter is still single, you dont let her date anyone.
Caller: (inaudible mumbling, likely something unprintable on YWN), good night. SLAM.
So, stop asking ridiculous questions. Stop infering from answers what people may or may not have meant, let boys and girls date each other and see where the “crisis” goes.
Wear someone elses shoes? Eeeewww.
Dibbuk removal (is that the proper term) is done publicly? I would have thought that something so kabbalistic in nature would be dealt with privately.
“You don’t enforce a no cellphone policy as if the students are going to murder 100’s of innocents. Airport security and cellphones in Yeshiva’s have nothing to do with each other. Its comparing apples and oranges.”
Remember, cell phones are not banned in yeshivos (perhaps we should clarify what type of yeshiva we are talking about?) because they are a distruptive to the classroon setting (which they may be as well), rather, because they are deemed dangerous to ones yiddishkeit. Apples and oranges?
This principle is lazy and fostering rechilus among his talmidim. He should be fired.
“Why treat all the students as suspects?”
Did you fly recently?
Have you ever driven a commercial vehicle through a bridge or tunnel in NYC?
The head in the sand “ameich kulam tzadikim” approach, or as the army calls it “dont ask dont tell”, is the cause for a lot of problems. If there is a zero tolerance policy, then thats how it should be enforced, otherwise modify the policy. “Give them a finger, they take a hand” is quite appropo to high school boys.
“Good morning” (evening, night) always works. As does, “have a great weekend” and “enjoy your time off”.
I must live in a Greek neighborhood, then. 🙂
Yingle. Pretty popular boys name where I live. In fact, almost every boy in shul is named Yingle. The ones not named yingle, are named Tzadik.
“Why can’t we do our own music? Why does everything have to have a rock beat behind it with Hebrew words only to “kasher” it?”
One word. “Sales”. The Yeshiva Boys Choir would put out a “Best of Chazzanus” CD if it would sell.
“Yeshiva Principal Enforcing No-Cell-Phone Policy; Proper Or Not?”
Are you really asking if a principal should enforce school policy? If the principal doesnt enforce school policy, who should/will?
Are you really asking if the policy is a good one? If so, the policy banning cell phones, or the policy if random search policy?
The most popular 1st name in my boys yeshiva is Friedman. 🙂
Squeak. I’m glad someone remembered.
Pashuta…if you were hit in the head as many times as he was, you’d also name all your kids George 🙂
Uncommon jewish male name: sara.
Heard from a mohel who made a bris for a not yet religious family and was informed that the baby would named moshe sara, “after grandpa”.
The most popular jewish surname is (and I hate to be morbid) Z’L followed closely by Shlita.
In Atlantic City and Las Vegas they follow the chumra of the Admor MiCreedmor and are machmir to play not just every night of the year misafek, but even during the day. All day, every day.
Moshe. when calling, just leave a message for the single to call you back. If a female, have your wife/sister/daughter (any female) leave a message to be called back.
Just say “it is related to a shidduch”. you’ll get called back.
Real easy recipe. always worked for me in the dorm.
Fill pot with water. Place in eggs. Bring to boil. Turn off after 5 minutes.
Peel. Mashed, sliced or eaten whole with a pinch of salt and perhaps some mayo. Cant mess it up.
Speaking of strange names for Jews….
Mark, Matthew, Paul, Peter, Jerome (lots of yidden use these names, all are names of “the apostles”).
Yes, chazal say to look at the brother. In this case it says this 19 year old is intellectually honest with himself and everyone else. A nice midda.