Joseph

Jothar, are you sure you addressed your comment to correct party? Nothing I said implied, disagreed, or even addressed, any of the points you made.

In New York State, a minor is ALLOWED to posses and consume alcohol with parental consent under ANY circumstance at any time. Not just for religious purposes.

Per the National Institutes of Health.

There is no law prohibiting minors from being mekayim the mitzvah of drinking on Purim if the parents allow it.

LMA: Since you claim these are “documented Israeli statistics”, please advise us all where to find these public statistics documented.

As far as I always knew, the category of lebo gas bo is much stricter and this category has many more restrictions in hilchos yichud.

Indeed by Libo Gas Bo the restrictions in hilchos yichud are stricter.

And the Shulchan Aruch (E.H. 22:8) and the Aruch Hashulchan (E.H. 22:6) present examples of a man and a woman who grew up together or are related – such as cousins. Libo Gas Bo also applies to a man and a woman who are very friendly with each other, such as those who work together in an office or if the man and woman dated. Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach (cited in Nishmas Avraham 3:94-95) and Dvar Halacha (7:17), state that Libo Gas Bo applies even if the man and woman have only had minimal interaction such as a woman who has visited a doctor a number of times or a man and woman who had some business dealings together.

So the idea of a guy/girl friendship being completely free of hormonal input is bogus.

And I must reiterate that the prohibition here is NOT the words that are spoken. It is 100% permitted to speak to a women for a purpose such as business, asking directions, or having any essential discussion. It is the unessential, unnecessary, and especially friendship-oriented interaction that is prohibited.

Rav Moshe’s famous Teshuva prohibiting m’doraisa girls and boys being friends is based on a statement of Chazal in Avos D’Reb Nosson, and a ruling of the Ran. Basically, it says that any friendly interaction between boys and girls is prohibited. Rav Moshe ZTL continues by saying that there is no such thing as a platonic friendship between boys and girls. He points out that objectively boys should logically choose other boys as friends, – they have more in common, they are more alike etc., and not girls – and the only reason someone would prefer a female friend is because she is a female. And that is Asur.

Now Rav Moshe ZT’L does NOT mean that every boy/girl friendship is for the purpose of lust. The dynamics of mixed gender friendships are so different than same gender friendships, and the reason is because of the subtle but oh-so-obvious sexual dynamic taking place between the parties.

WB ames.

What’s the difference if it is the sole factor or not?

As long as it is a contributing factor, we need to be very worried about it.

Welcome back kids. 😉

I never heard about a pidyon being required for a second child if the first was by C-section.

Correct. Although it is a machlokes in the Gemora if the firstborn son was delivered via Caesarean section if the second child (assuming its a son and is born naturally) requires a pidyon. We pasken not.

Also, I believe, but may be wrong, a pidyon is not required if the bechor was delivered by C-section.

Correct. A pidyon is not made if the bechor is born via C/Section.

Hey, that’s what I am here for! 🙂

1. The OP was asking a hypothetical question regarding a shidduch he “recently heard of”.

2. The OP stated that the brother “doesn’t go to Yeshiva or have a regular seder (the boy is 19).”

3. The OP then asked “My question is should a siblings behavior impact the making of shidduchim? And if you think it should, then why?”

So the correct answer to the OP’s question is that Chazal advise everyone in the shidduch parsha to consider the girl’s brothers; Not having a regular seder (i.e. a chavrusa; a shiur; or even learning themselves on a regular schedule) is not proper. So, yes, a siblings behavior should impact the making of shidduchim. And the reason why, as explained earlier, is that Chazal stated you can expect you’re children to share personality traits with their mother’s brothers.

A store owner makes a sign to hang in his window:

FRESH FISH SOLD HERE

A critic walks into the store and asks the owner if he would like his store critiqued. He says yes.

“Well, first thing’s the sign,” says the critic. “‘Fresh Fish Sold Here’? Well, where else would you sell ’em?”

FRESH FISH SOLD

“‘Fresh Fish Sold’. What else would you be doing, giving ’em away?”

FRESH FISH

“‘Fresh Fish’. Kinda obvious. Would you sell rotting fish?”

FISH

“‘Fish’. People walk by, they see a fish in the window. What do they think you sell, chicken?”

Chazal advise us to look at a prospective wife’s brother’s, since Chazal say her children can be like her brothers.

So the person described in the OP has a strong basis.

Nittel Nacht predates the Chasidim. And the Chasam Sofer held of it.

BINGO!

squeak,

You missed the overall point.

Was the Lithuanian standard to have intermingling?

No comma?

PY: We are talking about Jewish families here.

truthsharer:

The answer to your inquiry is provided in the first eight posts over HERE.

The weddings in Lita were not mixed seating either.

Wolfish: If you violate A, it does not give you license to violate B.

Yes rescue, I meant head covering (double).