I have never posted here before but felt behooved.
Middlepath, Happiest, you are two of the strongest individuals I have ever read about. I cannot being to tell you how impressed I am with both of you.
Middle, the right girl will see the sterling soul you so obviously possess and not care about things beyond your control. I don’t know if this is up your alley, but have you considered a site like Frumster or Saw You at Sinai? You may get less questions about your family there.
Happiest, what good boy would let this be an issue? There are so many things we do wrong that can be considered when considering a person. Surely, where you are the victim, and have obviously grown so much and become a better person from it, this should be held against you? Just the opposite!
I wish you both only bracha and every happiness from now on.