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Mommamia without knowing too much abt this its clear its not ur weight. Any husband who loves and respects his wife doesn’t really care about some pounds and wldnt make a fuss of it. He seems to have issues(story with the cup…I can’t believe this)and needs help but needs to wanna take help. You should never bury ur own life cuz of it neither should u blame urself. Wish I could say more
id recommend everyone should listen to rav eisenbergs hesped by the levaye…i know its in yiddish maybe still you can make some sense out of it
we didnt have guests right in the beginning of our marriage. we live in a rather small town when it comes to jiddishkeit and bh we never had a problem with any of the friends couples my wife invited. though i am less of a socialguy then my wife is still neither she nor me or the guests developed anything for anyone. i am not saying its ok or good or bad. it probably depends on each of the individuals involved. i just wanna add one thing: i have seen among those guests that we had how degrading couples spoke to each other. if that happens infront of the hosts how more terrible it must be when they are alone…
It seems somethings going on that you also dont know besides his tfillin benching issues. Someone doesnt just stop putting on tfilin like this. its something that doesnt take too long and anyone knows how important it is to put on tfillin. but i think that getting divorced with kids especially a kid with special issues when the father is taking care of that should be mamesh the last thing to do. Something needs to wake him up. to shake him to the core. one thing that i dont understand is that he didnt wanna participate in the counsling which sounds like he thinks that he is 100%ok. there are things, especially in such a situation, where husbands(or wifes)issues is something the other spouse has no influence on but here it seems youre talking to a wall that hurts you. Sad!
totally right. i was unemployed(or working mamesh only a bit) but did alot at home while my wife went to work. she just couldnt take the ol parnuse anymore and we had to switch around. but doing nothing that cant bring any good and should be taken care of immediately
the only i can say is that i cant stop crying. everytime i hear or read something about leiby. i am filled with anger towards the murderer. how much did leiby suffer!!!! no words for this. only anger and tears
Any half normal person understands that asa u divorced ur on the street. Hell more or less loose his soroundings his kids etc. Unless his aiming for that and wants her to be the bad one
what helped me was that wife was seriously thinking of getting divorced. that was the drive behind me looking for a serious job i bh found afer little time. though i helped more than alot at home still money was one of the biiig issues. Of course counsling and evaluation if the husband is depressed or not would be more than just good
i agree with tikvuchka. noone has told me how hard itll be and bichlal i believe many boys and also girls have no clue how to handle a spouse. There is no perfect. Theres only hard work 24/7. That i can say from my own experience and were 11years on the way and went thru alot. if something goes wrong take help. nothing to be ashamed of.
comeon ppl which kind of husband rejects his wife over some pounds???? Drag him to some therapysts and if that doesnt help…what kind of guy is that? id suggest he has diffrent issues as well besides your pounds…
ill tell what a rabbi told me: alpi halacha he cant be executed but i dont mind if theyd put death penalty on him…
everyone is right there are cases where divorce is better and cases where staying together is best. from my experience in my marriage so far i am convinced divorce would not have brought us anywhere surely not with the kids. I must say my wife is the driving force behind going to therapy and taking help in general and although we have come nearly to a zero point the only way is up and will be up. therapy is a very good and effective way to solve problems. But first u have to want to seek help and accept it. i wish no couple in this world should come to the stage that divorce will be an option. and i agree(not that he needs my agreement)with rav avigdor miller: the word alone is poisen!! may hashem give us shulem bais and koiach to deal with todays problems