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i do like syag does. For one kid it works. the other one sometimes just needs to be taken out(or threatend to be taken out)of bed. and hes heavyyyyyyyyy. It can be very frustrating at times. but it has to be done….

theres deff a change towards reaching out for help. no doubt

@loyal jew: the same is with doing any parkematya(business)with jew and non jews alike. Yet we do business with the opposite gender on daily basis. If there is no yichud problem or shaking hands involved i just cant see why therapy is diffrent than any other professional meeting. Just btw every therapist is supposed to have someone who he/she talks to in order to see if theres a problem coming up

from my experience: i am a male, married with kids bh. i have tried therapy with both genders and just couldnt connect to men. Id say it depends on each case.

oh really?? so u come and are mekatreg on erliche yiddenes now who gave u the right to do so? according to haluche theres no problem with sheitlech that are tzinusdig

it takes alot of understanding and emnua to keep oneself on the yiddishkeit track everyday. i fully understand that. been and maybe am in ur place myself. but im older and can tell you that almost every action you take as a teen can have tremendous consequences later on when your grown up and see things in diffrent light.

its deff good to speak to someone about it. maybe even more than once. never forget that lemaase your never alone. reach out and keep on g(r)o(w)ing. Good LUCK to you

well almost noone of my town married someone from my town…its usually london, antwerp, nyc or israel. my brother went on a date to melbourne and got married there but lives in vienna. i am one of only heimishe who married a heimishe girl from here i deff agree with aries on this. btw usually kids come for yomtov etc and im not “fortunate” enough to go anywhere, my inlaws live 2 streets away and my own parents 10 min walk…

I can’t go thru all the comments if there plenty of them and also if the main topic was already forgotten…there are topics where I look comments of particular users like aries but also arwsf because we have similar backround and lifesituations. What I mamesh dislike is the fighting, the tone of it. I love also the funny statements but since I’m not american I don’t get evry joke. Its though good to see how ppl support eachother here and I love to read diffrent opinions on a topic. Sometimes when a comment refers to another I do look for it when I’m convinced its important.

first of all kudos to cindarella that you did this. I dont know Rav Abadi from Lakewood but we live in europe and our kashruscommittee(which my father in law is leading who is a renown rav and expert in kashrus in europe and abroad)gives out once a year a little booklet with products that have been checked which once can buy here without hechsher. I have had many talks to my shwer and cannot imagine one can only say somethings kosher out of looking on the ingrediantslist. There are so many shaales on the rest that i believe anyone who understands the value of kashrus besides the fact you can get in usa kosher things in any place(with hechsher)will just never pick up a product and just eat because he thinks the ingrediants are kosher. Thats my opinion after dealing with kashrus issues for a long time. I also have visited factories with my shwer and am not sayin now nothing can be kosher without a hechsher but it needs proper checking. and i guess baal nefesh hamachmir tavo alav habracha

id do the drums..

never happened by us to have yeshiva boys or girls for shabbes but it doesnt seem toooo right to offer. and cinderella its sad that ur ex not real friend is misusing alcohol there must be a reason for this…what i did see was bucherim under 18 on purim that got sooo drunk during the day drinking here and there and it wasnt a pretty sight. i agree that purim a little is ok but it seems noone cared to look what this boy(age 15 max)was doing

ill put it this way: lots of ppl are struggeling his problem is that hes a celeb. So evryone sees the changes. and his music…well since its the closest to goyish music possible and still somehow considered jewish music im sure its good for those who try to stop listening to goyish stuff

i cant talk for women because im just a man but what blabla and aries said is at least in my case 100% true. i suffered and still suffer from depressions and am taking meds. It took over a year and changing of psychiatrists to get to the meds that really worked. and of course im on therapy as well and the same applied for this as well: it took more than 2 therapists to find the right one. The issues can be widespread as mentioned above. getting off meds is not a simple thing to do. it has to be with the doc ur seein, slowly and most of all the right decision. i had my bad experience with it as well. meds are no solution its just a way to help you be able to deal with urself much better. distancing urself from the turmoil(or whatever it is) that your in. And yes many men take anti depressions.

@bsd if someone has no internet access the post wouldn’t help if he can’t read it here onlime

@always runs dus freg ich mich oichet….any suggestions? di kashe is efsher vus is jo oisgehalten

ALways run evryones a bt somehow the question is how to deal with what we grew up with. With music its like this that only little jewish music appeals to me so i mostly listen to what my kids do

i wanna pick up on something that was said here. the diffrence between modern and ortodox. I grew up in a non chassidish(and so to say non livish)kehila and of course home too. Modern to me means people that pasken sheiles for themselves…meaning when they wanna eat something that is not surely kosher they say “what can be inside already thats not kosher”…whereas frum ortodox people would never do things like this. I have seen this so many times here where i live.

i dont get u guys. This is about child abuse here. wanderingchana started it so i dont see whats to hak on aries now.

though taut akum is not considered theft but a kiddush hashem its certainly if the money is returned plus its 10yeme tshuva so that makes a good impression up there

adorable you wrote in that very thread that u googled him up etc…and it was a one day thing or so dont worry i promise you noone thinks bad about u

im having a problem to understand whats going on with shiduchim nowadays. haifa says men say no. why is that??? i know its the wrong thread maybe i should open new one. haifa why on earth wouldnt they want u???

aries i read your comment carefully and am aware of some things we did and do wrong at home. 2 of my boys are 9 and 10 do you think its too late for really seriously implementing the “not too much choice standing firm” program? one of the biggest challenges is that both of them a very picky eaters. cookin for them is a desaster. i have no clue how to make them want to even taste something new or do we have to cook almost everyday the same?? bh other things got much better with time…btw satmar lady i laughed tons but also pitty you. its hard very hard and one has to be sooooo clever and have tremendous siyate deshmaye raising kids…hashem should give all of us koiech and brains to do it right.

as someone not from usa we miss the action when were asleep…and in the morning we need to catch up…