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I’ve seen different places that says it’s origins are from Islam hand of Fatima. But also may have other origins. Also supposed to protect from the evil eye and you’ll see some times there is an eye in the palm of the hand.
Fantastic
Speaking out against shmutz. What a chutzpah. Could you. Believe the chillul Hashem involved?!? Saying it’s assur to look at shmutz what’s next they are going to come out against avoda zarah? Too many chumras. People don’t need any social pressure or inspiration. They outside world had zero affect on us people with super yetzer tov powers. It’s not like any one is doing things they shouldn’t on the internet anyways. Stop living in the past people give into the new way of life. Out with the old.
Joseph are you married? If so have you tried to convince your wife to stop wearing her sheitle? Have you spoken to American rabbanim about this or are you speculating about their views?
Why don’t you get one? Did the avos have dogs to help with their sheep?
Meno – at least in some places many different smaller farmers deposit their milk in a central location. It’s mixed and then distributed. So you would have to talk every single farmer bar none into having a Jew on their farm.
If instead of Halloween it was called Hitler day. Would you still give out treats? And don’t worry it doesn’t really have anything to do with the nazis. that was a long time ago its just a fun things kids do today that has nothing to do with anything.
Just because goyim are happy we do something doesn’t make it a kiddus Hashem. I’m sure they would be happy to if we all converted CV.
How about on Rosh Hashanah give them an apple an honey and wish them a sweet (real) new year.
High returns low risk. Good luck. Either you live with low returns or you learn to stomach some risk. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. If you refuse to take risk and you need more money then save more.
Very scary thought. Even teshuvah will not get out the shmutz.
Joseph – many couples have poor relationships. They don’t communicate well, don’t spend quality time together, don’t go out together. So they are married but live parallel lines ra. So what other relationship can we compare to? Friends.
What do you think you should do with that feeling? Btw I’m not sure what emunah has to do with it. You feel bad that Hashem is doing everything and you aren’t living up to your obligations?
Little froggie – I didn’t realize. In case those people are around they could read what I wrote.
Little 🐸 – some see to have a attitude of chumras always being bad. Although it is true that being chamur on everything isn’t the way to go. There are some time we are usually for diorisas and times we are not usually for drabanans. In any important relationship like marriage you have to go above and beyond sometimes or it will not work. Same with our relationship with Hashem.
+1 Tom. The reason people have a hard time with it now is be in society at large it’s an issue and we get influenced by the goyim.
I saw a study where they listed the most trusted people in America. Many of the names were actors. I thought it was so ironic since those peoples job is to be fake. To make something fake seem real. It’s the exact opposite of truth.
Thanks Joseph. I agree that you should put Rav Miller in the subject.
CT lawyer- how could it be the witnesses are the only ones who have to tell the truth how is that moral?
The second part I heard about R Ozer is that it was all richnius
What % of of the frum tzibur are addicted without a legitimate need.
Joseph- I know they shouldn’t but from what I’ve heard some if them do. Maybe bc they are scared the civil court will overturn their ruling if one of the parties isn’t happy with the psak. For whatever reason people have told me it’s done that way. If someone then doesn’t listen to the beis din they can be put into cherem or whatever the beis din does to people who don’t listen.
Can’t the beis din also claim Dina dmalchusa?
Joseph- or others. If a beis din is following the goyish standards regarding custody division of assets etc. In place of halachah must the parties follow the beis din?
Avik – another great example of the different is what CT said above. The lawyer will (perhaps in a round about way) tell their client to plead not guilty aka lie. That is the “ethical” thing of a lawyer to do.
Avi k – lawyers aren’t concerned about “morals”. They deal with their code of “ethics”. These are often in conflict. Also about proposing “alternative theories” is usually immoral. Both sides present what happens and the judges decide. Have a lawyer look at the evidence and then make a story that fits around that evidence is immoral. Both sides should present the truth as they see it.
Avik – CT could give you a better answer. But as he already explained a lawyer is an advocate. They often give ideas of what to say. They may not directly tell you to lie but they may day if you say xyz you will lose the case (ie leave that out). They could also bring ideas like if you say ABC we can get this much money. They also may know the judges and what kind of arguments work better on them and which not as well. So it’s very different. Lawyers may also help you deal with legal loop holes etc. They may give you idea of other things you could push for that you never thought of or even intended to try and get.
You should treat others the way you would like them to treat you. If you can hear him he can hear you.
Become the gadol hador yourself.
Avik – a toen is supposed to be used when someone is not able to present their case themselves. Let’s say someone who is very shy or is not too bright. They can help to formulate ideas in a more clear and precise way. In most cases there is no need for a toen. It’s become much more popular as a way for beis din to get people not to go to secular court.
A lawyers job is very different.A toen is not supposed to act as a lawyer. A real beis din is one that follows Halacha.
I think aish and ncsy do some kind education alternatives Some times. There are shuls who do more singing too. As far as out education goes there is not much time spent on tiffilah, connecting to Hashem.
In a real bais din there aren’t lawyers. It’s not the Torah way. Maybe you could become a dayan or a toain.
Inspiring, excellent advice. Thanks for sharing.
A classic Shmuz or Chadian classes is when a classic teacher or rabbi teaches a backup who is engaged about obtain relating to marriage. Both Halachah and hashkafah.
You can go much faster with a bike. But it is faster than. Walking
AvraminMD – I was writing in response to Joseph. My point is that different people have different areas of expertise and you should go to the person most qualified in the area you bed guidance in.
Just be a rabbi has “dealt ” with an issue doesn’t make him trained or qualified to give good advice. I’ve had plenty of really bad teachers who have been really bad for 20 years. It’s true that a lot of people in others fields lack a Torah perspective which is a problem. It us not easy to get good guidance. You need a good CPA good Dr etc. But thinking your Rabbi who is a human not a navi and probably doesn’t have ruach hakoshesh can some how know more than anyone else in their area of expertise is just foolish. Good Rabbi will admit when he doesn’t know something and send you to people who do know. Be wary of someone who claims be an expert at everything.
So if someone wants to learn about taxes he should get Simcha? Ugh wants to invest in real-estate he should become Rabbi? After all they know best forget me school learn basar vchalav and heal the sick.
There are frum experts in all these areas to seek guidance from. Pal who learned in kollel for years too.
Going to your LOR for things like marriage and career should be done sigh caution. Unless your Rabbi also happens to be n expert career coach and family therapist. How many years at did this rabbi spend becoming an expert in so many fields and e be n better than those who focused their energy on one area. The rabbi is one part of the picture but he isn’t a doctor a lawyer accountant or financial advisor.
How about big guns like they have on tanks or the ones ships? An we have those?
Bearing arms isn’t tznius especially womens military arms.
I think a big part of the debate is. Was the amendment meant for people to fight back against a corrupt government. Or perhaps guns weren’t are powerful, accurate, fast as today and maybe we only have the right to muskets.I think some people are missing the point. Some people want to live away from large frum populations and prefer to be around more forum or to be more alone. Rag Miller is saying it’s fantastic to live with frum yiddin the more the better.
You could list your goals and prioritize them. Then determine how much time you have a day to learn. (Don’t over estimate it’s better to make small goals then add on later sometimes.) Then figure out what you have to go to reach your goals. For example if I learn 1 day a week , 2 mishnahs a day, 1 halachah after x time I will have reached my goal.
This bachur is working. He didn’t say he is looking for someone to support him in kollel.
Also just because girls have hard things too has to relevance to that fact that this bachur is having a hard time with paying for dates. Both people could have problems. There have been a lot of suggestions on how to reduce costs. If s girll asks maybe she will get some tips too.
Btw at least from people I’ve spoke too the guy pays for several things like the band, photographer, flowers etc which ends up around 1/3 of the cost.
Shidduchim can be a difficult time. I think alot more sympathy is given to girls in this area. It’s hard for guys too. And when you spend alot of time and money on a girl and after 7 dates she’s not interested that can be difficult to deal with.
If you are really struggling financially you could try and do more low cost dates. You could do ten hotel dates for the.cost of one fancy restaurant. Going to movies?!? Not something that should be done. Even if it was allowed it’s a waste of time being that you aren’t interacting. But it’s not allowed so don’t even have to go into it.I don’t know if you have had to travel for shidduchim but the flights and car rentals add up really fast. So if you haven’t, consider yourself lucky.
I don’t know about this but sometimes people may be able to figure out if it’s the right person or not earlier on and Don’t need to keep going on so many dates. For example if you aren’t attracted, how big differences in hashakafa or want different life styles then it’s probably time to drop it. No need to keep going out.
It’s also always important to remember that Hashem is with us. We put in our hishtadlus, work on middos, clarify to ourselves what wee need in a shidduch and what we want but can do with out.
Hatzlacha
I am not sure how one could possibly prove that his yetzer horah is so strong that it was impossible for him to do otherwise.
Although when it comes to addictions maybe it’s different?
In what ways are you asking if they are same? Are there specific aspects of the boropark community you are referring to?
What I meant is that in general if you walk into shul and there is no indication that someone else “owns” that seat either bc there is a name there a shtender or something then it’s fair game to sit there.
If the shul has some rules such as if you bought a seat last uesr you get first chance this year that’s one thing. But without any set rules you should be able to get what you want.
Reb yid – if it’s an elephant with six arms.
Is having a picture of the late lubavicher rebbe that days yechi hamelech avodah Zara? And having a picture of him in your siddur and gemorah that you look at before learning and davening?
Many big rabbis have pictures of gedolim in their houses. Although as pointed out in another thead I think it’s becoming more the style to have alot less stuff including pictures around.