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I’ve heard some people argue that the embassy move makes the Arabs made and when they are made more angry they will try and kill more of us therefore the move is bad.
What they want is for all the Jews to leave Israel. Anything less than that will make them mad. So are those making the above argument implying we should just give them the whole country? And that will lead to less Jews dying?
I think everyone agrees that someone who tries to replace mitzvah observance with falafel and planting some trees is a rasha. The question is what do we do now? Do we say we’re better off without the current Israeli government and prefer Arabs to take over? Or do we say it sure is terrible that there are so many atheists in Israel and in the government. But since I don’t want to be killed by Arabs and these guys are standing with guys between me and those guys with guns and are letting me keep Torah and mitvos in communities with the highest level of such observance in the world. And if the USA wants to help support my living in Israel and being able to daven at the kosel. Maybe I’ll take that over the alternative.
I’m not sure how to feel about the comments along the lines of, there were lots of miracles around regarding the modern state of Israel and therefore this is what Hashem wants.
Everything that happens can only happen with Hashems approval. And part of how He runs the world is that bad things happen like the Holocaust.
Our job is to keep the mitzvos the best we can and maintain our emunah. It’s all somehow for the ultimate good. In the meantime we’re very limited as far as what we could see. We don’t know what the outcomes will be. We just have to keep the Torah the best we can.
I think ideally both people should be emotionally mature and have worked on their medos. There are people of all ages who don’t have that.
Perhaps more so today generations are getting shorter with more cultural changes happening quickly. In general the more you could have in common the better. It makes for less areas of potential conflict. So similar hashkafic backgrounds, langual country, income. All that could help but is not essential.
It’s also important to have similar goals in life. How many kids you want, learning vs working. Views regarding Torah vs secular world etc.
You also should be honest with yourself. Just because you may think intellectually that you don’t need a taller guy, you may really feel differently. Don’t fool yourself. You risk being unhappy in your marriage and that will likely show up in how you treat your spouse even if subconsciously. So be really honest with yourself. If you can really get over such issues like high and see yourself happily married to someone shorter or younger than you, then go for it.
Because we suffered alot that means mashiach should come? If the suffering leads to teshuvah then that would make sense. But I think we’re a very long way from deserving mashisch. Some 90% of yiddin aren’t even shower Shabbos. And of those of us who are how many are real yerei shomaim, honest in business, baalei chessed etc. Still plenty of Sina going around…
Doesn’t seem like this mitzvah is done very often.
Instead of I work in a store say you are a consumer commodities consultant entrepreneur.
Don’t marry someone you aren’t attracted to. Getting married is a very important mitzvah. You have to do your best to find a girl. There are frum girls who want working guys. Maybe that is more common in out of town cities so it may be worth traveling for dates. It’s a hard situation and the shidduch crisis is also for boys not just girls.
Coping the goyim is real creative.
Maybe there is no Joseph. Maybe he was just made up by the mods to increase the number of posts.
Things have gotten a lot worse since 1993
Do people not realize that there are tens of thousands of Jews in public schools? That the intermarriage rate as something like 50%? That most Jews in America aren’t shomer Shabbos? Does anyone not know that?
Mentch you don’t like the definitions. So what definition would you like? Are there certain guns you would ban? Or is your whole issue about definitions irrelevant since you don’t want any guns band? Btw anyone else could answer this question too since a few people have made similar comments.
It may not be a bad idea to limit car speeds to something like 100 mph.
Nyob – you gave a lengthy explanation about why you need sch types of guns of self defense then say it’s impossible to know if that is true.
Yugerman- just bc there are other ways to kill ppl doesn’t mean you shouldn’t deal with this one. Cancer kills even more people so let’s just ignore this all together.
If you agree with banning certain types of guns then it makes sense to ban the guns People are using in mass shootings. Who cares what they ar called? Assault rifle automatic it doesn’t matter. If you want to argue that it won’t help that’s another story.
Maybe their involvement was getting hit by men.
Mentch so ban those too.
Noyb – how many lives have been saved bc someone had assalt rifle instead of something else? And how many have been killed?
Joseph- she can cover her sheitle with another hair covering.
Rebyid- people no who can do things themselves save lots of money. Mechanics can easily cost $150 / hr. And an job that takes 20min they charge an hour for. So if someone works at a job making $50 and hour it’s definitely a big savings.
If you have 5 kids in school and paying $50k plus with after tax dollars. Then a mother who would otherwise make that would make $50k working.
For some people it would work financially others not.
The parents also need to be on board and want it. It takes time and effort and part of parents but some are willing and able to do it.
Isn’t it curious that the articles oh ywn often bash charadim but not modern yeshivish people or modern Orthodox?
If you are able to organize a bunch of people maybe they could make changes to the school or even open a new one.
Btw this is the case with many issues. If only we could come together about internet, smart phones, otd, drugs, abuse. The problem is we can’t come together on these issues at least haven’t yet.In some bigger communities there are home schooling groups.
With in business or shiduchim stay far far away from someone’s trying to impress you by trying to use cash or credit.
You’re goal should be to increase your mitzvos and middos. To make a Kiddush Hashem by being a good person a good yid. Honest in your dealings with others. Not trying to decieve them with wads of cash. And if someone is impressed by that I’d also advise staying away.Yehuda- if you can avoid those girls as much as possible you should. So you shouldn’t hang around streets with lots of girls if you don’t have to. And you definitely shouldn’t go out of your way to be in places where you will be tested. You don’t need to be at the baseball game. Maybe people avoid public transit for that reason. Same with going to malls.
Maybe they use tofu in place of pig skin.
It’s not the 1960s anymore. And main stream frum rabbis and yeshivish bachurim don’t do it anymore. That’s just how it is you could complain about it or accept the reality and move on.
Pig skin is assur b’hanna’ah.
You seem to be mixing two points
1. Reading books that don’t have an educational value just to relax.2. Reading secular books to get educated.
Before getting into it I commend you on your years of growth. Yesher koach.
As far as reading just for entertainment perhaps that would be suitable for someone who watches TV and is trying to stop. If they can read relatively not such bad books that is an improvement. However a Rav who grew up ffb and doesn’t need that stuff shouldn’t waste his time and risk filling his mind with hashkafos which are against the Torah.
In terms of “outlets” this is something that takes time. There are people who waste very very little time and accomplish lots of good things. You probably know people like this. You can’t get there over night.
As far as reading for education. Let’s think about it. Let’s say you want to learn how to fix your car, how to knit a sweater, how to paint, pay your taxes, play the piano etc you are not going to get that from learning gemarah. You just aren’t.
So for those who can’t learn every waking hour reading about some of the above could be a very good thing for them. It may help with the needing outlets problem too.
Zahavas dad get over it. When I live it doesn’t go bad before the date. And if it does so what just drink it before it goes bad. Is that supposed to be some sorry excuse not to keep cholov yisroel? Thousands of people manage it just fine. Rav Moshe himself kept it. Are you going to bash him too?
The point of learning is to do more mitzvos. If when you have free time you spend it watching the Superbowl maybe something is wrong with your learning.
Outlets are for plugging in your iPhone so you can read ywn.
Ford was a big anti Semite. Don’t buy gas from any co that gets oil from anti semitic countries.
Where is all the outcry about needing outlets and not just learning all day?
You are definitely not the only one unfortunately eating disorders aren’t that rare. Neither is fear of speaking about it and stigma. Sure some people probably won’t know how to react and say stupid and insensitive things, even if you are careful who you tell. But if you do speak to people you are bound to find others who have gone through it too. If not the people you talk to then people they know. Hatzlacha
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It would help if you provided more specific information. Some general things to keep in mind when dealing with others is that you can’t control other people. You could control yourself. Your thoughts actions and what you focus on. You could choose to be Dan lkaf zchus or not. You can give grudgingly, with no strings attached or not at all.
Respect is earned not demanded. And you can’t get everyone to like you.
It would help if you provided more specific information. Some general things to keep in mind when dealing with others is that you can’t control other people. You could control yourself. Your thoughts actions and what you focus on. You could choose to be Dan lkaf zchus or not. You can give grudgingly, with no strings attached or not at all.
Respect is earned.
So if your kid went to India and brought back an idol and he worshipped it ever night. You would allow this in your house?
There is a difference between now allowing behavior in your home and rejecting your children. You may not be able to stop.them from doing it when they leave the house but not in your mikdash miat.
There is a difference between having a home in which you keep Shabbos and disowning children. It’s completely normal for a home to have basic rules that must be followed. The 10 commandments isn’t outrageous rules. No one is going to die because they didn’t turn on the lights at their parents house.
Everyone is motivated by schar and onesh. If you think you aren’t it’s bc you don’t believe it. For example, if someone with a whip in his hand says if you do that aveira I will give you lashes you better believe that will be motivation. If someone tells you if you give maasur I’ll give you 100 times that back, of course you will be motivated by it.
Haimy- machlal Shabbos and the like is not acceptable in a Jewish home period. Your kids should be and feel welcome. If they are doing something outside the home that’s one thing but bringing in an avodah Zara into the home is not acceptable. We do not compromise our beliefs for “kiruv”. We set an example. And it happens to be that is the best kiruv.
The time of bais shaini was pretty bad. And towards the end of the first also
Hence them both being destroyed. There were great times for short periods here and there. But lots of bad too.There were many tzadikim with all of the above problems.
Joseph – if the person is a psychopath or has narcissistic personality disorder then yes. If someone had depression and is hiding it then yes. If there is a mental health issues which they are open about, medicated and seeing s therapist and have a proven track record of stability and healthy relationships then it can work.
In the case of many mental health disorders they can not be diagnosed in children. If the warning signs are there but ignored the person who did not warn did the wrong thing. Everything in the world after the fact is bashert. But doesn’t mean the actions were right. It doesn’t mean that it’s ok to do avoda Zara after the fact. And doesn’t mean you should stay married to a narcissist abuser bc he was diagnosed after you were married so it’s bashert.
It deppends who is certifying it. Is it apple or Samsung? Verizon? Then it’d probably just as good as new maybe even better because problems have been fixed. If it’s some random guy on eBay…. Obviously should not be trusted. Sure it could be good but could be not.
Moshe- there is a shidduch crisis for boys too. It’s not easy. If you are in a smaller community you may have to look at other cities. Also if you have a bad reputation from your friends and family that doesn’t help at home either.
I’d like to point something out that may be hard to hear but could be helpful if you are open to hear it. If your family and friends are otd, something is up. You have undoubtedly been affected by having family otd. And why are all your friends otd? Most people don’t go off. If you have a few friends that understandable. But if it’s too many why are you ending up with such friends? It is worth while to find a very good therapist. It’s hard to find. Most perhaps aren’t that great. If you have Relief where you live ask for a referral. Almost certainly working through things will help you. Hatzalah.
Shopping613 – this happens to regular people like you who follow their Rabbis. Your Rabbi isn’t a Navi who could know everything about everyone. Even people who at “fum” do this. The best defense is to get information about the boy from people who are on your side. Who ate your family and friends. And you have to know how to ask the right questions to get them to be open with you. Bc many yes even frum people don’t want to be the bearer of bad news.
Shopping 613 -. Many mental illnesses aren’t diagnosable or don’t show up until mid twenties or later. But there are warning signs. Many people who have gone through had all the same assumptions you did. You must be very careful and there are no guarantees.
I don’t know where you people live but many of the yeshivish people I know drive late model Toyota siennas and Honda Odysseys. Either that or some big SUV, suburban etc.
It’s not a fact it’s assuming that current trends will continue until there are no more secular Jews. Maybe the growth rate will slow? Who knows what will be in the future? How about trends like people keeping “half Shabbos”? Who knows what changes will come in the future? Social change, tech changes, war, politics.
Who thinks it’s right? People do bad things because they want their kids to get married. It’s obviously wrong.