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This isn’t new and this is probably happening at many hotels. There are many stories very similar to this. It’s too bad that the plaster is not saying the name of the place. It’s a hard test not to want to face the retaliation but on the other hand people may be eating tried because of it. There are many people who don’t go to hotels for this reason among others.
Joseph I have a feeling (and I get this feeling often when you so questions) that you already have some ideas and answers to your question. Why do you think the answer is? And also is there something about the fact surprise you? And if so why?
Alot of this has to do with you and knowing yourself. Perhaps the rabbi wanted the leave the question open ended to see what’s important to you.
That’s great that you want someone who is a yirei shomayim. However there is a lot more than that. For example if there is a guy who really wants to learn for the next 30 yrs and is planning in living in poverty does tat work for you? Is that what you want? Someone else wants to be a doctor and work 80 hours a week is that what you want? Another guy will only live in bnei brak. How about a sfardi or ashkinazi? Out of town vs NY. Modern Orthodox or chassidish? Do you want guests and kiruv every Shabbos?
I think it’s important to figure out what you want in life and what your goals are. What are you looking for what are you strengths and weakneses?
The same reason any other movements have leaders.
My understanding is that the amount you work does not affect your parnassa (beyond a minimum hishtaelus). There could be other benefits to working though such as, keeping busy as not to since, opportunity to be honest in your work and do mitzvos etc. Another piece has to do with our level of emuna and training ourselves to realize that parnassa is only from Hashem. Similarly someone who doesn’t really deeply believe and understand that parnassah is only from Hashem risks going OTD if he stops working and ends up poor. So that person has to work too. Most of what I’m saying is from michtav meliyahu and chovos lvavos.
They aren’t paying enough for people to live in that’s why there are so many people who work full time at places like Wal Mart and are on food stamps and Medicaid. There are states and counties with higher minimum wages and their economies haven’t fallen apart. 50 yrs ago the minimum wage was higher and someone the economy grew.
Joseph – many Republicans higher illigals to work for them. If they stopped more would leave.
There are more Mexicans leaving the US then coming in that’s been the case for years.
Phil you are clearly not a successful business owner. How things in the real world work is when a good business owber sees a challenge they invovate, find a way to increase productivity, improve their product or service so they could charge more, negotiate better deals with suppliers expand the customer base, offer new products. All kinds of stuff. A business owner who is operating on track margines counting his pennies isn’t going to be very successful. That’s just how the real world works.
Government programs like food stamps to a large extent are actually subisidies for Walmart. Instead of paying their employees enough to live on the government chips in to pay part of Walmarts employees in the form of government benefits and tax credits.
Productivity has also increased tremendously but not wages.
Many places have raised the minimum wage by large amounts without hyperinflation. What causes hyperinflation is printing tons of money.
employers don’t just fire people when minimum wage goes up. This has proven true over and over again across the world.
In cas you haven’t been awake for the past 20 years or don’t know anything that’s been going on for the last 100 there have been tremendous advances in tech that has taken over human jobs. But guess what there are still jobs even though machines have taken many because they are cheaper than paying someone.
The real issue is the rich business owners don’t want to pay people enough to live and the workers want o earn enough to live.
Coffee – what difference does it make if it’s possible. Have you ever had such a relationship? If so can you be sure it would never change?
Joseph what about modern Orthodox who have coned schools and camps?
Git people spend much more time driving then they spend lighting fireworks. Also if you’re u outlaw driving cars there will be chaos. Nothing will happen without iligal fireworks.
Gadol – correlation does not imply causation. We have to work because of Adam’s cheit. In order to realize that Hashem sustains all living things. The idea is to earn back what Adam had before the cheit. We have to see through the seemingly real nature of things and understand that Hashem runs it all.
Litvishchosid- it’s true that Hashem can give you more money if you run out. I don’t know if there is a way to know how much Hashem planned to give you. Just because Hashem gives you money after you blew your salary on a fancy sports car doesn’t mean you didn’t waste the money. Maybe you are using up zchusim for that, who knows. But we don’t judge our actions based on the outcomes. We judge them based on the information we have at the time we make the decision.
It may not be so easy to know if your wasting money. If you are spending money because you are jealous if your neighbors car, house, vacation, clothes etc then that is probably a waste and worse.
Knowing if you are spending you money properly really takes a lot of introspection. Some people spend too much other’s don’t spend enough on their family or to take care of their own health for example. It could also be useful to have a Rav or chaver to help with this.
Avik – my understanding of Rav Dessler is that the amount of work you do doesn’t affect your income. It may be the right thing to work for most people for various other reasons. Also there must be some kind of human effort made to allow a needs to happen but it could be something very small such as buying a lottery ticket. To be clear I’m not advocating do that. I’m just saying that I don’t think your income is dependent on the hours you work.
Your parnassa is decided by Hashem. You can burn all your money and then have nothing left for your needs. But that would be a bad idea.
You can’t control how much you earn but you can choose if you will waste the money you have.
If you have kids and plan on paying for their bar mitzvahs, tuition, weddings. If you plan on living till 90 and not working till that age you’ll have to save too.
There are basically an equal amount of boys and girls born. (Very slightly more girls). Therefore whenever a guy gets married so does a girl. For every girl who decides not to get married there will be a boy not married.
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Could it be that the halachos were written at times when the goyim accepted hitting kids and that’s why it was considered acceptable?
Btw if that answer is no then I why would the halachah change now?
Let me get this straight. If you move to eretz Yisroel you think eventually you want like it and want to move back. But if you live in chutz laaretz you will want to live in Israel. Well then you are just fooling yourself! You aren’t really longing to go, you ate just trying to convince yourself that you are.
So let’s assume that you really would want to move back to America or wherever. (Which btw might not be true, how would you know?) But if it’s true you shouldn’t move there. Now the question is should you try and change your way of thinking about Israel and figure out a plan for how to live there and be happy and appreciative to be there? Figuring that out will take some halachic analysis and serious introspection.
There are ffbs who are very frum and there are bts who are too. At the same time there are both who are more lax in their yiddishkite. Bts don’t always have this huge high they just live off of. There is a lot of hard work. All else equal of course it is harder to be a bt there is just all more you have to change with a lot less support. If it was eaiser to be frum by being a bit then it would be better to raise your kids not frum to give them a better chance of being frum which doesn’t make any sense. Ffbs could also be Baal teshuvahs in the sense that they could work on themselves and grow.
I don’t mean to highjack the thread here but perhaps the question here is should you dress at a level above yourself in hopes to reach greater heights or should you dress in accordance with you current level.
I’ve seen people go through this. Not at work specifically thought. Sometimes the person has told me directly other times I’ve heard it from others. By the way this also happens with non Jews. People with Muslim or Chinese names for example but it happens it lots of people. At first it may feel a little uncomfortable but I think most people are pretty understanding. It’s up to you how much of an explanation you want to give. But if you start wearing you tzitzis out for example and didn’t before people will probably get the hint. You deserve to be referred to by whatever name you feel most comfortable with.
How do you keep your yarmulke on when driving in a convertible?
Does everyone else like the idea of driving in a convertible with a girl in the passenger seat?
Uncle Ben – only if people do crimes should they be punished.
I would think maybe some people in business are sociopaths perhaps more than psychopaths. There is this documentary called the corporation. In it the diagnose the corporation as a pscyhopath.
Btw believing that Hashem abandoned you and you abondoning him in return is the opposite of athiesim. It’s the belief in Hashem and being mad at him.
If you can’t judge those who last their emuna you also can’t judge those who kept it.
I think it’s also important to define what we mean by judge. There is the judgement of that which is right and wrong. And then there is judgement as to how hard it is for someone to do the right thing. The latter we can no judge but certainly we can deal with what one augut to do in certain situations. That’s what the Torah is for telling us how to live.
Uncle Ben – I said some. Murdering one person is enough.
Avi k – thanks for sharing that gra. Derech eretz kadma ltorah. But that quote really takes that a whole step further.
One of the big problems with ppl sychopaths, narcissistis and the like is that they don’t want to change. If someone doesn’t want to change there isn’t much you could do about it. If someone actually wants to get better a combination of medication, therapy, social support and a lot of hard work may help. For some others the death penalty is the way to go.
Isn’t there a basic idea that Hashem wouldn’t give someone a test they couldn’t pass? Is there someone in the Torah that says if really really super horrible things happen to you you no longer have to keep the mitzvos?
I am in no way implying that I would do better at such a test bus someone who totally goes off the derech and doesn’t keep anything has failed has he not? Maybe he doesn’t deserve a sever punishment because he faced such a hard test. However he certainly didn’t pass with flying colors.There have been many times in history when people point to different signs and gematrias and crazy things happening and conclude mashiach is coming. Guess what? The world is full of crazy things and wars and gematrias and he hasn’t come yet. He is going to come whenever he comes. The reason to want mashiach to come is so we could have peace in order to do more mitzvos. So we just have to do as much as we can now and build our desire for more.
It seems that people like to escape into fantasies of some life changing world altering event. For some it’s nuclear was with North Korea for others it’s a financial crisis for others moshiach or aliens or cliamte change. Your crystal ball is no better than the rest of ours.
Sorry for what you are going that. If you are in a community where just about everyone does one thing and you are doing something else there will be people who will take that as a red flag and not look into it. If they are being redt enough shidduchim that may work for them. Whether right or wrong I think that’s how it is. Same with someone who works in a learning community or someone who goes to a different type of yeshiva.
It’s unfortunate that there isn’t more flexibility to allow for more differences after all some boys would be better off getting married at 20 and other and 23 and still others aren’t ready at 25.
CTL – I’ve heard from at least a few females who cry and or flirt their way out of tickets. I’ve never heard such a thing about men. Couldn’t that affect the statistics?
And some scientists could get millions from companies and countries who palute in order to “prove” that humans aren’t affecting climate change.
Neither men nor women should drive. The car should drive itself.
When your car breaks you call the mechanic. When you’re sick you call the Doctor. When you want to know about the climate you go to the people who study this stuff. Hashem runs the world. He made the world with rules and order and gave as bechira to be able to function in it. He made gravity and we rely on that to function. He gave us food to eat and if we didn’t eat it we’d die. Are you going to say I don’t have to eat or breath bc Hashem gives life and not science? So there is Hashem and there is a world and what we do matters.
If you want to say they are all biased because they are all atheists thats a pretty bold claim. And even if it’s true you have to refute the claims not the people.
Just because someone is a scientist doesn’t mean they know anything about this specific area of science. But what people do is when they don’t know something they go to the experts in that field.
According to Wikipedia “IPCC, Climate Change 2013: The Physical Science Basis – Summary for Policymakers (AR5 WG1)” (PDF). p. 17. It is extremely likely that human influence has been the dominant cause of the observed warming since the mid-20th century.
Do people disagree that the vast majority of climate scientists agree on this issue?
Or are they just wrong because they are atheists? (Which you would have to prove) how about those athiests you built your car do you trust them?
From a Torah perspective the climate change is being caused by a society that is extremely gashmiusdig. Living with unbelievable excess of physical things driving around in huge vehicles throwing out millions of tons of gifts from Hashem. Mostly ignoring Hashem spending most of ours days chasing after more and more money and material positions. Should it be surprising to us that there should be some negative consequences of this anti Torah life style? Or shouldn’t it be expected that there should be negative consequences when we stray so far from Hashem?
If a company is too big to fail it could be split up doesn’t have to be downsized. I’m not saying this should or shouldn’t be done.
I didn’t read the whole thread but I heard a Rav mention a sale and they specify the total value to be a certain dollar amount. So the got could pay that full amount and take the chometz. I suppose the Jew can demand it too. Unless someone can come up with a clause to get out of it that wouldn’t invalidate the sale.
Keep in mind your goy may not want to do business with you next pesach it you force him.
There may be an issue with say a pizza place that sells his chametz dough. Unlike a normal case where you would be happy to get the full value for your chametz. This pizza store owner does not want to sell his dough for a few bucks when motzei pesach he can sell the pizza and make a big profit. Probably they find a way to work around this or perhaps his intentions don’t matter.
1000’s of jobs paying $8 an hour.
Joseph a few years ago a bunch of Rabbis from Lakewood went to jail for beating people up to give gets. In Israel they through men in jail. As the poster above writes, if a woman goes to beis din and say my husband hurt my feeling they push him to give a get.
Fruminnj- how about the women who abuse men? Will the beis din force her to accept the get? Will they force her to pay him financial support?
Has anyone ever met a mamzer? Because with all the forced and gets there most be quite a few around.
EliY – the point here is calling out the people who look like tzadikim on the outside but aren’t. It sounds like this fellow is only not. Maybe he has ADHD.
Joseph- the people who could call out the fake tzadikim are the real ones because they have credibility. If the simple folk do it they will just be seen as otd and speaking lashon hora. Also many of those who’s words would be effective got to their position through making friends not starting machlokes.
Litvishchossid – achdus is very important but it seems to me that isn’t enough. There are many Jews who have achdus in medinat Yisrael. Or achdus through their JCC or whatever. We need achdus in serving Hashem don’t we?
Laskern- I’d still think we’d need a lot of good and just some bad no?
Litvish – if people suffer then go off the derech because of it I don’t think that will be mechaper. But maybe it is? Now if the suffering leads us to cry out to Hashem and that leads us to teshuvah then we’re getting somewhere. In my mind yerning for the beis hamikdash does just mean saying it. It means you are keeping all the mitzvos you can and are frustrated by the fact that you can’t do more. It’s wanting to bring corbanos to be closer to Hashem. In personaly feel far from that maybe others aren’t.
Based on the video I wouldn’t be surprised if a human driver would have hit that person. Why would someone cross a street in the dark holding a bike and get hit by a car that was presumably doing the speed limit? It would seem also that if the car was better designed it may have been able to stop in time even if a person couldn’t. To say that all self driving cars should be stopped because of this one video is stupid.