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“I think its cute how all women automatically identify with Channah, when their own nature is most similar to Pennina.”
Sure…because “all women” identify with Chana…and “all women” are more like Penina. Hey, wait, Chana and Penina were both women! So Penina identified with Chana and Chana was like Penina?
If you “wouldn’t know”, then don’t speculate.
Softwords, that’s a very nice story about Rav Elyashiv, except for the minor detail that it doesn’t really make sense. Can you explain how a man being unable to find a chosson for his daughter is “pikuach nefesh”?
Fiction? Non-fiction? What are some books and authors you’ve enjoyed in the past? It’s difficult to give recommendations without knowing at least a little bit about what you like.
Grilled asparagus and cherry tomatoes (made in grill pan) on bed of fresh baby spinach
Homemade mozzarella sticks with homemade marinara dipping sauce
Fruit salad
Served with onion rolls from bakery
“Why do we need themes? It’s cute but many people cannot afford to do it or don’t have time but NEED to because everyone else is…”
Who says themed mishloach manos have to be complicated and expensive?
“Goodness”? You mean quality?
Anyhow, can’t we all agree that music is a matter of personal taste/preference and to each his own?
8 months is “shortly after”?
You would like more information…regarding the seminary that you already thoroughly researched…and have already committed to attending?
Am I missing something here?
No, it can’t just “be skipped”. What I mean is that a) you should not get married until you’re really ready and b) you should not get married to the wrong guy just for the sake of getting married.
Amen!
It doesn’t have to be either/or. Many of Hashem’s commandments also make us feel good. There’s nothing wrong with that. When you get married, you should do it a) because Hashem wants you to and b) because you want to. You should NOT get married to someone if you don’t genuinely personally want to do it, thinking it’s a pious thing to do. It’s not. You have to really be emotionally committed to it, or it won’t work.
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Am I the only one who thinks it’s weird and inappropriate that someone’s wife is baking cookies for someone else’s husband?
I don’t think it’s wise because if you tell her that your husband liked her cookies and he knows she made it it’s just not smart especially if this cookie baking happens often. It doesn’t smell right if you know what I mean. I’d put an end to it or just not give your husband the cookies. You are in shonoh rishona don’t give him excuses to compare you to yenems wife.”
Um…so wait…does this mean that one should never invite shabbos guests, or should only invite female shabbos guests? Because otherwise someone’s wife will be cooking/baking for someone else’s husband. I don’t see how a shabbos meal should be any different than a plate of cookies. In fact a shabbos meal is perhaps more intimate because the wife may be directly serving the other husband.
“You have also significantly diverged from observable truth by stating ‘…to protect and save the Jewish people from the enemies who wish to destroy us.’
What you mean is ‘…to protect and save the people living in Israel from the enemies who wish to destroy them/Israel.’
Not all of Am Yisroel lives in Eretz Yisroel. However, when we say “us” referring to the portion of Am Yisroel that does live in Eretz Yisroel, we do in fact mean “us”. They are our brethren. This is fact #1. Fact #2 is that, were Eretz Yisroel to come under Arab control ch”v, the danger to our brethren would not in any way dissipate. Yes, they are after control of the land and state, but they are also after our blood.
But handwriting is so much more elegant, and adds a nice personal touch! I always like to see a hand-addressed envelope show up in my mailbox. I hand-addressed all of the invitations for my wedding, and also hand-wrote the name cards with table numbers. It was time-consuming, but very much worth it.
TED talks!
I made paninis on onion rolls spread with spicy guacamole, with mixed baby greens, tomato, onion, and Havarti cheese with dill.
What’s wrong with ketchup?
“Because they’re just married, it’s very hard for them to restrain themselves in public.”
This does not make sense. Yiddishkeit is all about restraint and particularly in marriage. You’re telling me they “just couldn’t help” holding hands instead of waiting another thirty seconds to hold hands in the yichud room? Either holding hands in public is mutar or it isn’t, but don’t tell me there’s some special exception for newlyweds. There isn’t.
A person can look ugly or beautiful depending on the perspective of the viewer. A trait that one person considers ugly may be beautiful in the eyes of another person.
However, there is no denying that there is such a thing as “conventional beauty”. I believe there have been scientific studies analyzing the criteria that make up a conventionally beautiful or classically handsome person.
“(My belief is that a non-jewish song sung by a Jewish singer is not as bad as the original because of the improper thoughts that are absent when a Jewish singer sings that same song…)”
I don’t understand this. Can you clarify?
Some JCCs have male-only and female-only hours in their gym facilities. I know Baltimore does and I assume many in New York do as well.
Oh, give me a break. Long earrings can be perfectly tzanua (and they look great with tichels).
Starting to get back into cooking now that life is a tiny bit less hectic. For breakfast today, I made Israeli salad plus what I call a popeye and my husband calls eggs in a frame (egg fried inside a piece of bread with a hole in the center).
Nothing! We just moved and kind strangers in the community have been bringing us meals! We have a lot of nice new kitchen stuff, though, and I’m really looking forward to trying it out when we get a little more settled 🙂
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I call troll
Who says yeshivish modern “has something to do with modern orthodox”? You can’t be yeshivish and modern orthodox at the same time. Yeshivish modern means a yeshivish person who has more ties to secular society than other yeshivish people.
Sure, if they ask, it is appropriate to say that the shadchan prefers money. However, if they don’t bring it up– yes, they really should be paying the shadchan, but it is not appropriate to ask for payment.
Also, I’m sure there is something in between “clutter” or a “candy dish” and a check for $1,000.
Also also, I would really be wary of making assumptions as to what the family does or doesn’t intend to do based on a vague comment made at the vort.
With regard to privacy, I think birth year is a pretty safe one.
You can find celery seed in the spice aisle. Do try it; it’s one of my favorite spices and much underappreciated! (Just don’t overdo it– the flavor is stronger than you might expect).
I don’t expect him to wash his dishes. But I always appreciate it when he does, and I always say thank you. This way, it encourages him to do it more, but I am never disappointed when he doesn’t.
People who say things like “I have three brother in laws”
No you DON’T…you have three BROTHERS-IN-LAW…they are three people related the same way, not one person related three different ways! Drives me crazy!!
I agree with those who say that “blizzard” is not defined by number of inches of snow. For example, parts of upstate NY frequently get, say, 6-8 inches, and the city plows and it’s business as usual. On the other hand, 6-8 inches elsewhere could be devastating. It also depends on what the temperature and wind conditions are.
“We are already seeing the initial stages of disintegration of MO (as prominent MO writers have been decrying for years now); those leaning ‘to the left’ become, CH”V, Conservative or worse, while those leaning “to the right” become traditionally Orthodox, B’H.”
To the contrary, it is in fact the Conservative movement that has been disintegrating for years, with many right-wing Conservative individuals and families becoming Modern Orthodox. Yes, there has been somewhat of a trend toward modern yeshivish, but Modern Orthodoxy is alive and well.
New medications are constantly being developed. I just read about a new drug that was approved for chronic hepatitis C. Of course the pharmaceutical industry has many issues, but we should also appreciate the countless lives that have been saved by modern medicine.
My cousin got married while her brother was in the middle of learning for smicha. She put “Rabbi” in front of his name on his place card at the wedding. He has now finished smicha, but jokes when people ask him where he got it that it came from his sister!
To show whom, exactly? Great mekubbalim who already know about the greatness of the alter doros? Why would Hashem demonstrate the greatness of the alter doros to the masses (i.e. those who don’t already appreciate it) through a sod that they will never know?
Does anyone know the meaning of the name Pia?
Possibly derived from the Italian ward for pious.
Vogue, are you still planning to go?
The little I know: Ouch!
I’m Jewish, and a feminist, and my birthday is February 2nd (double 2s).
However, I created my account 4 years ago, and have changed a lot since then. Although I still identify as a feminist, I do so in different ways now, and would probably not include it as part of my username if I were creating an account today. I also would not feel the need to indicate on a self-identified “yeshiva” website that I am Jewish (why did I do that 4 years ago? no idea)
What do you mean by “let you down”?
gavra_at_work, manipulating the chodesh l’toeles is completely different than unintentionally calculating the chodesh inaccurately. If that’s not an “error”, what is?
I don’t understand the OP.
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“…it’s not that individual chachomim are infallible; as great as they are, they’re still bosor vodom. Hashem, however, doesn’t let them err when it would cause an error in halacha.”
Really? So explain to me Mishna Rosh Hashanah 2:9.
(This is me, not my husband.)
“A lot of times I’m in a shul and the shliach tzibur gets up there and starts baruch attah…… she’asani goy, the same goes for aved and eesha (and believe me they’re different people in different shuls)”
???
“How is it that you ‘can’t speak for men’ but could speak for “my friends”? Are you saying you don’t know any men?”
I’m saying that I don’t discuss these things with the men I know who are not my husband. That would be completely inappropriate.
“Additionally, even if you could accurately speak for your friends, it may be a stretch to project their experiences onto ‘most’ [religious] women. It may just be a flawed sample.”
I have a diverse group of friends, including many who are not religious and some who are not even Jewish.
“While women too were created with some animalistic tendencies, they are [thankfully] not nearly as overpowering as those that men have, giving women a far, far, easier time controlling inappropriate thoughts.”
I am not arguing this point. Reread my post. What I said is that women HAVE inappropriate thoughts just as men do. I said nothing about controlling those thoughts.
“Feminists and their friends, who campaign against things like abstinence education, and advocate for things like birth control to be more and more available, to younger and younger women, are likely desensitized, and are therefore a flawed sample.”
Thank you for making assumptions. I do not “campaign against” anything, and the vast majority of my friends do not identify as feminists.