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Let’s just remember that the YU motto is “Torah U’Madda” rather than “Madda U’Torah”.

Hey, still here. I just took a lunch break, but boy is it slow at work. Good thing I’m leaving early today.

Anyone else around?

Okay, I’m back! Probably temporarily though; it’s just a slow day at work.

Snopes.com says this is legitimate, though the added note at the end is a subjective test and therefore not as useful as the first three. Also, time is clearly of paramount importance, but no surgeon can offer an ironclad guarantee of total recovery even if the patient is taken to the hospital within 3 hours.

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My friend sent this to me and encouraged me to post it and spread the word. I agree. If everyone can remember something this simple, we could save some folks. Seriously… Please read:

STROKE IDENTIFICATION:

During a BBQ, a friend stumbled and took a little fall – she assured everyone that she was fine (they offered to call paramedics) and just tripped over a brick because of her new shoes. They got her cleaned up and got her a new plate of food – while she appeared a bit shaken up, Ingrid went about enjoying herself the rest of the evening. Ingrid’s husband called later telling everyone that his wife had been taken to the hospital – (at 6:00pm, Ingrid passed away.) She had suffered a stroke at the BBQ. Had they known how to identify the signs of a stroke, perhaps Ingrid would be with us today. Some don’t die. They end up in a helpless, hopeless condition instead.

It only takes a minute to read this…

A neurologist says that if he can get to a stroke victim within 3 hours he can totally reverse the effects of a stroke…totally. He said the trick was getting a stroke recognized, diagnosed, and then getting the patient medically cared for within 3 hours, which is tough.

RECOGNIZING A STROKE

Thank God for the sense to remember the “3” steps, STR . Read and Learn!

Sometimes symptoms of a stroke are difficult to identify. Unfortunately, the lack of awareness spells disaster. The stroke victim may suffer severe brain damage when people nearby fail to recognize the symptoms of a stroke.

Now doctors say a bystander can recognize a stroke by asking three simple questions:

S * Ask the individual to SMILE.

T * Ask the person to TALK to SPEAK A SIMPLE SENTENCE(Coherently) (i.e. It is sunny out today)

R * Ask him or her to RAISE BOTH ARMS.

NOTE: Another ‘sign’ of a stroke is this: Ask the person to ‘stick’ out their

tongue. If the tongue is ‘crooked’, if it goes to one side or the other

that is also an indication of a stroke. If he or she has trouble with

ANY ONE of these tasks, call 911 immediately!! And describe the

symptoms to the dispatcher.

A cardiologist says if everyone who gets this e-mail sends it to

10 people; you can bet that at least one life will be saved.

“Mods: you can’t delete it cuz this is the random thread!”

Actually, it’s the Random Questions thread. I didn’t see a question anywhere in your post. Incidentally, though, I happen to agree with you that the quality of writing in Jewish books is overall inferior to the quality of writing in secular books, albeit with some exceptions.

Oomis brings up a rational point, written respectfully, and suddenly everyone is attacking her…yup, this reminds me of why I left the CR six months ago. I guess some things don’t change.

GoldieLoxx, learn to write and maybe I’ll take your points seriously (maybe I’ll even understand what you’re saying, too. Half of that was totally lost on me.)

Haha…yes, well, it hadn’t been such a long time. I just said “hi, how are you” and the like, then casually mentioned “oh, by the way, was that you in the CR…?” but he said he always uses his real name online. I guess he and Daniel Breslauer would really get along.

Okay, that’s it. No more information until after tomorrow night.

And my point is that the Bais Medrash need not be a male setting.

Why does the learning need to be done in the bais medrash for men?

Never mind, I just spoke to him on the phone and he’s not mickey. We are seeing each other again after all.

So mickey, what made you guess that this happened in Jerusalem? Are you my secret stalker?

Because it increases their yiras shamayim.

I will gladly argue with you as soon as you give me a logical point. Why exactly don’t women belong in the Bais Medrash? (Or are you just trying to get me riled up, and don’t actually believe it is so?)

Yes, it was at a restaurant in Jerusalem. Why do you ask?

(Btw, it’s spelled “chauvinist.”)

All right, my turn. (Yes, I’ve started dating since I last frequented the CR.)

I was very nervous to go on my first date ever. The guy said he didn’t care where we went, so I picked the restaurant. I had only been there once before, and that was with a large group, so we had made a reservation. This time, I called and they said we didn’t need a reservation for only two people. I incorrectly assumed without asking that we would still need to be seated by a waiter. We walked in and stood awkwardly next to the doorway waiting for someone to find us a table. He started chattering, asking me all sorts of questions, and meanwhile I was getting more and more anxious why nobody was seating us. Finally, after about ten minutes, a waitress noticed us and informed us that we could just pick a table and sit down. I was mortified- what a first impression!

The date actually went very well after that; it turned out that we had a lot in common. We were still talking when the bill came, and were so engrossed in our conversation that we paid and then thoughtlessly got up to leave without bentching! We had walked about two steps out of the restaurant when he turned to me with a horrified look on his face and said, “We forgot to bentch!” I found a bentcher in my purse and we quickly sat down outside to bentch.

We did have a second date, but not a third.

Point taken. Sorry.

Coke not pepsi, are you talking about any short sleeve shirt over any long sleeve shirt? The original thread was started specifically with regard to tight Lycra long sleeve shirts, which is an entirely different issue.

Personally, I don’t see anything wrong with wearing a Lycra shirt as long as the shirt on top is not too skimpy. As someone mentioned before, the Lycra can cover the sleeves, but if there is nothing over it in the chest area, that is clearly a tznius problem. Then again, if you have a loose-fitting long sleeve shirt, you can wear pretty much anything on top of it. It’s more a matter of personal preference; if you don’t like the style/think it looks ugly, that doesn’t automatically make it untznius.

Ames, you can’t make a bracha at any time for no reason unless you leave out Hashem’s name. Women are permitted to say the bracha with Hashem’s name if they are actually performing the mitzvah at the time because a) it’s a statement that Hashem commanded Bnai Yisrael as a whole with the mitzvah, and b) the bracha is applicable to the mitzvah currently being performed. Is that clearer?

Squeak, I do know women who stay up to learn in their living rooms. (This makes childcare easier because they can just get up to go to the baby’s room when they hear it crying, calm it down, then go back to learning.) However, learning is always better in chavruta or group settings. Women who gather together to learn are gathered so as to enhance the learning experience all around, and even if it’s in a public setting, it’s not like we’re talking about a co-ed learning environment. I don’t see why a group of women getting together to learn Hashem’s Torah should raise a red flag. Are women suspected of “trying to prove something” every time they leave their houses now?

Ashkenazic poskim permit women to say a bracha on a mitzvat aseh shehazman grama, while Sephardic poskim generally do not. Basically, it states that Sephardic poskim believe that for a woman to say “asher kidshanu b’mitzvotav v’tzivanu” etc would transgress bal tosif, since she is saying that she is obligated when she is really not. However, Ashkenazic poskim believe that since the bracha is in the plural, a woman who says it is merely acknowledging that Hashem blessed Klal Yisrael by giving us this mitzvah, even if it doesn’t specifically apply to her.

Haha, I’m here, better late than never I guess.

Areivim, by asking “where’s the mitzvah to do this” you seem to be implying either that women shouldn’t do it, or that it’s somehow strange or unnatural for them to do so. Guess what- there are many mitzvot that women are not commanded to do that we nevertheless do because we can. How many women do you know who bentch lulav and etrog on Sukkos? Well, we don’t have to do that either, but I can’t think of any frum women I know who don’t do it. As long as it doesn’t interfere with other obligations, why not? In fact, isn’t it commendable to always be looking for more ways to serve Hashem? As someone pointed out, there are considerations of young children, but for unmarried women, women with older children, childless women, and women who have secured babysitters, staying up all night learning on Shavuos can be a wonderful opportunity.

The real chilul Hashem is with the passengers who shouted at Daniel and his wife, publicly embarrassing them- don’t we learn in the Gemara that publicly embarrassing a person is akin to killing him? Furthermore, I have never understood the rationale behind Mehadrin buses. Any accidental brushing up against a person of the opposite sex cannot be connoted as Derech Chiba, unless perhaps the bus is particularly crowded, and anyway, in this situation we are talking about a married couple, so negiah is not even an issue. I see no reason why the passengers should have gotten so worked up over this.

Nu, what was the verdict?

I’m here, but probably not for long.

This is adapted from a recipe on allrecipes.com for dessert pie crust. I have found that it works well for pizza too in this modified version; however, better double the recipe if you’re cooking for a large family.

3 cups whole-wheat flour

1 teaspoon salt

3 teaspoons baking powder

6 tablespoons cold water

1 tablespoon sugar

3/4 cup softened butter

1/4 cup soymilk (you can use milk but I personally prefer soymilk)

Mix flour, salt, baking powder, and sugar in a large bowl. Transfer 1/2 cup of this flour mixture to a smaller bowl, and gradually mix in the water. Cut the butter into the rest of the flour mixture until it achieves a coarse, meal-like consistency. Stir in soymilk, then transfer the flour/water mixture back to the bowl and knead together until it forms a dough. Chill in the refrigerator for at least 1 hour before starting to work with it.

As far as I know, it’s pretty difficult to get excused for not showing up at all (unless it’s on a Friday afternoon) but once you get into the courtroom they ask you certain questions to determine juror eligibility, like “Would you trust the testimony of a police officer more than that of any random person?” I know people who answer yes to that one on purpose just to get out of serving. I happen to think jury duty is very honorable and would love to be a part of it, but as yet I’ve never been summoned. Anyway, the likelihood is that you won’t get picked to serve- they call hundreds of people in and end up with a jury of 12 plus a few alternates. My mom recently had jury duty; the main thing that bothered her was that security wouldn’t let her in with a crochet hook! If she has to sit there all day waiting for her number to be called, she’d rather get some work done on my brother’s next yarmulke.