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Day camps pay almost zilch. You’d be better off working as a cashier or a retail associate for minimum wage (or waitressing in a kosher restaurant, but those jobs are harder to find).
Oh, and as for brands, I like Arbonne for everything. Pricey but well worth it!
Lip color is not going to stay on overnight, much less for 3 days, so don’t even bother trying. If you use good quality makeup for the rest, and don’t touch your face, and sleep on your back, you will probably be ok.
As for hair– my hair is curly, and I used to just run my fingers through it in the morning to settle frizzies etc. If it’s really bad, just put it up!
My mom studied really hard for the Regents and then they were canceled that year because some kids stole the answers (this was in the 60s I think).
rebdoniel, “Chabad” is the name of an organization so there is really no reason to use Sephardic transliteration. You are actually misspelling a proper noun.
Tom Sawyer
Why look to Mishlei when you can see from the Gemara that corporal punishment is mutar?
The Gemara accepts corporal punishment to the extent that a rabbi or father who accidentally kills his son/pupil through corporal punishment is not even sent to an ir miklat. (Makkos 8a, Rambam Rotzeach 5:2). However, this is true only when the person giving corporal punishment is doing so for the sake of educational or character improvement – it is not a license for physical abuse, and this line can often become blurry.
In modern times, our thoughts about corporal punishment as a whole have changed. Today, we must follow the judgment of batei din based on their assessment of the needs of society (Aruch HaShulchan, 424:17).
All credit goes to my husband for the above.
At the same decibel level they will cause more damage.
Yes, more than regular headphones because they go inside your ear and can therefore do significant damage to your eardrums. Lowering the volume will help, but refraining from use of the in-ear kind will help more.
You won’t be able to hear anything your wife says anyway, because excessive use of in-ear headphones will make you deaf.
shalom aleichem malachei hashares malachei elyon…
What is fennel sausage?
Throwing the crust away? Chas v’shalom! It’s nice with some marinara, but otherwise I just eat it plain.
I don’t, but my father a”h used to. And I don’t think it’s a New York thing because he grew up in Chicago.
So it’s not “worthwhile” for a bachur to learn with someone who is not at the same level of learning? Every time he learns it has to be with someone who knows enough for him to “respect”?
Those who know less, whether because they are women, baalei teshuvah, etc, should not be considered unfit to learn with at all. I am not suggesting that bachurim make their mothers their regular chavrusas, but again, to learn with them once in a while if they want to should not be so remarkable.
What a shame that a yeshiva bachur having respect for his mother is considered remarkable, not normative.
Thomas Friedman
My husband just finished his first year of law school at one of the top 14. We will be saddled with a lot of debt when he graduates, but on the other hand he will be well positioned to get a high paying job. Yes, the market for lawyers is becoming increasingly competitive, but from what I have seen so far, those who are passionate, charismatic, and bright can succeed (but with an important caveat: you can no longer afford to be picky about where you go).
Your situation, though, is different. You just need to do “decently well” in law school and you get a free degree and a guaranteed job? Sounds good, but make sure it’s something you really want first. If you’re just in it for the convenience, RUN AWAY NOW. Law school is hard work, but you CAN succeed if and only if you care enough. You should not make this kind of commitment based on money alone. If you don’t care about law, don’t do it.
If, however, you are passionate about law, you’ll be fine. Study hard for the LSATs. If you can get a 165, you’ll have your pick of schools. Even if not, you’ll find some law school to accept you. Once you get there, show up to every class barring a Yuntif conflict (unfortunately, “spring break” doesn’t always overlap with Pesach) or a serious emergency. If you miss class for any reason, you will fall behind. Do the assigned reading well in advance of class and volunteer to comment in class often. Don’t be afraid of giving the wrong answer.
You must realize that law school will take up a lot of your time and energy. If you are willing to commit to that, you will be fine. I assume when you say “decently well” that you mean at or just below the median. Please correct me if you mean something else.
Keep us posted on what you decide!
I don’t know about pizza stores, but Carlos & Gabby’s in Riverdale does serve nachos (they’re excellent!)
I have C-SPAN on in the kitchen while I prepare for Shabbos. Representative Alan Grayson just made a really compelling speech pointing out that the NSA’s statements contradict its own website, and that the agency promises things that are impossible (e.g. it says it only monitors the activity of non-citizens, but no one can tell who owns an e-mail address).
Mazal tov!
Um…pretty sure DaasYochid was making a joke…
Anyway, this recipe looks super complicated and honestly not worth the effort, especially since it calls for some exotic and expensive ingredients that most people don’t keep in the pantry (and, although I haven’t tasted beef in years, I highly doubt that the seitan can mimic it closely enough to be called “authentic”).
I agree, it does not qualify as a chatzitza. I only mentioned that it was my instinctive reaction to think that it was before I considered and realized that it wasn’t.
And oomis, I agree, mikveh ladies should not make women feel uncomfortable for having tattoos. B”h the women I know do not experience that kind of judgment every time they go to the mikveh, but only sometimes when they are traveling and have to use a mikveh where no one knows them. Also b”h although the mikveh ladies are clearly wrong, my friends just shrug it off and don’t let it bother them.
The rabbi who was mesader kedushin at my wedding is unmarried. My husband and I are looking for a shidduch for him and hope that he will find his bashert soon. He is perfectly qualified to be a shul rabbi, but is teaching in the meantime.
I think a crucial aspect of a shul rabbi’s job is one that most people don’t think about because it goes on behind the scenes– pastoral counseling. There are so many congregants who meet with the rabbi for counseling as they are going through difficult times. I myself met with a rov several times while I was in the dating world and was very confused about a lot of things. A rabbi needs to understand his congregants’ issues, and he will not be able to, for instance, counsel a couple who are having marriage problems if he does not have the life experience to know what marriage is like.
No, I stopped wearing yarmulkes around Pesach of 2010.
No, I do not. I cover my hair with shaitels, hats, and tichels now.
I conveniently have a life of my own, including a husband (as of two weeks ago) and an important meeting at work today. I will answer later if I have time.
And at least “Anat” is better than “darling”, though of course it is not my name, and it should be clear from my posts that I am not Reform.
How are they “evil”? Perhaps you can say they are not flawless in their observance of mitzvot. Okay, but no person, no matter how chashuv, is innocent of that. They are not harming anyone. They want to observe Rosh Chodesh at the Kotel, the site beloved to all Jews, which by the way was built well before such distinctions as “Orthodox” existed in the world.
I remember reading a frum children’s book when I was young with a mashal. I am sorry that I cannot remember the title or author, but I think it was published by ArtScroll or Feldheim. The mashal described a young boy who went to shul with his father on Yom Kippur. As the chazzan davened, he sensed that the prayers of the kehilla were not being accepted by Hashem. He continued to daven with kavanah, tears streaming down his face as the day wore on and nothing changed. Meanwhile, the little boy did not know how to daven and could not even read the Alef Bais. He stared down at the machzor, unable to daven with the kehillah although he desperately wanted to, and eventually when he couldn’t stand it anymore he took a small wooden whistle out of his pocket and blew it. Everyone turned around to stare at him and his father turned bright red and began to chastise him. The chazzan, however, silenced the boy’s father and explained to the kehillah that all day, he had sensed an obstacle and that only the boy’s simple whistle had been able to open the gates of shamayim to the pleas of the kehillah. Yes, the boy in his ignorance had violated a Torah prohibition, but only he had sufficient kavanah and desire for closeness to Hashem to elevate the entire kehillah.
The only photographers I know of are those who show up voluntarily from media outlets to get a good story. There is no evidence that Women of the Wall hires its own photographers, and the suggestion that the group is only doing what they do for attention contradicts 20 years of activity with no publicity whatsoever. If you wanted attention, would you keep doing the same thing for 20 years thinking “maybe this time people will look at me”?
It is our job to make judgments of actions and things. It is NOT our job to judge PEOPLE and to call them names. I certainly do not mean to make personal attacks on you or anyone else here, and I apologize for giving that impression.
As I said, I would not dress or behave the way Women of the Wall do. I don’t judge that to be appropriate for me and I wouldn’t judge it to be appropriate for my daughter, whenever Hashem sees fit to give me a daughter. But I firmly believe that Women of the Wall are sincerely motivated, beautiful neshamas, and it hurts me to see them disparaged in this way.
Shreck, it is not at all obvious what WOW’s motivations are. You seem to be under the impression that “c’mon, anyone can tell!” is an adequately logical argument. It is not. Have you heard of the reflexive property in math? It is the final step of a proof, given as x=x or n=n or some such. What you are giving me is x=x without “showing your work” from the entire proof. This is basic stuff that children learn in grade school.
With regard to those who wish that Women of the Wall would stay home and exercise their understanding of Torah Judaism within their own walls, I will reiterate that if the charedim didn’t make such a fuss, the Rosh Chodesh service on the women’s side would be unremarkable. There is NO issue of kol isha and NO reason why women must pray silently at the Kotel while they are surrounded by noise. Women of the Wall observed Rosh Chodesh at the Kotel for twenty years in peace and quiet, and the group would be happy to return to that paradigm. As long as the mechitza says up– and there is no doubt that it will, no matter what the women want– the men do not have to be concerned with tznius. They should not be paying attention to the women’s side anyway. And, yes, the women may expose their elbows, but they are certainly not trying to attract attention by the way they dress. They are just wearing their normal clothing, which may not meet our standards of modesty, but last I checked there was no tznius police at the entrance to the Kotel. As I said before, I don’t pay attention to what the women wear, but I’m sure they did not show up in bathing suits.
Should the women focus on their obligatory mitzvot before taking on others? Perhaps, but let me point out that they do not meet every day. They only meet on Rosh Chodesh, which is a chag special to women. What this tells me is not that they disdain the woman’s tafkid, but that they want to fulfill it to the greatest degree possible. There may be individual women in the group who take on the men’s chiyuv of davening on a regular basis, but this is not characteristic of the group as a whole.
Finally, I want to point out that the kindest characterization of WOW that I’ve seen on this thread is “misguided”. Some other choice epithets include “wackadoodles”, “crazies”, “garbage spewers”, “nutcases”, “avoda zara worshipers”, “stroking their own egos”, “arrogant”, “conceited”, “ignorant”, and “worse than Moslems”, in addition to a comment that indicated the poster was “sick and tired of hearing about v’ahavta l’rayacha kamocha”.
Please. How are we growing from this? Is it really l’sheim shamayim? Is the lashon hara really l’toeles? Can we criticize others for breaches of tznius while we waste our time with slander and hatred for the purpose of making ourselves feel superior? It is not for us to judge Women of the Wall or anyone else. Only Hashem is the True Judge, and I for one trust Him to do His job.
To those complaining about the mechitza issue: it is clear to me that WOW will never actually succeed in getting the mechitza removed, even temporarily. I do not see what bearing this has on their current activities. I will also repeat that the group does not include taking down the mechitza as a central goal within its mission statement.
Oh Shreck: if sarcasm and condescension are your attempt at civility, I’d hate to see you being rude. But to respond to each of your points:
First of all, no, I do not share the views and goals of Women of the Wall. I do not wear a tallis nor want to wear a tallis, and I do not count myself in a minyan.
Women of the Wall state that they want to wear taleisim and that they have a “right” to do so. This is not the same thing as proclaiming total equality and egalitarianism. You know what? Sometimes I show up for mincha and I’m the only woman there. It’s not common for women to attend mincha, but I do it anyway because I have just as much of a “right” to be there as any of the men. This must mean I want total equality! Next I’ll be demanding that I be allowed to daven from the amud!
As for creating a spectacle by reading from the Torah “collectively” and “out loud”– this certainly does not mean that they are yelling. In fact, I’m quite sure that the voice of the baalas koreh cannot be heard over the sounds of davening, song, and conversation. The Kotel is a busy and therefore noisy place. A woman reading from the Torah as part of a group of other women is not a spectacle unless bystanders decide to make it one.
As far as why Women of the Wall cannot take their prayers into the bathroom: if you’re so offended by them, why can’t you take YOUR prayers into the bathroom? You tell me why you’re so superior. You tell me that you have ruach hakodesh to know that Hashem doesn’t accept their prayers and wants to evict them from the Kotel. You tell me that you are blameless, flawless, without sin. You think they don’t dress in a tzanua manner? Maybe they don’t. I don’t know, I don’t spend my time looking at women to scrutinize what they are or aren’t wearing. But if they are in fact not tzanua? Well, no one is free from aveira, but one of the beautiful things about Yiddishkeit is that Hashem will accept our prayers anyway. You cannot tell me that someone who commits an aveira– which is to say, every single Jew– has no right to daven at the Kotel because he or she can’t possibly feel kedusha and is making a mockery of Hashem.
Conceited, arrogant, ignorant? Who knows? I am not personally acquainted with these women. Are you? Would you like me to make something up about you?
As far as “spewing garbage”…well, I hardly have the heart to continue. What ever happened to v’ahavta l’reyacha kamocha?
I am not asking you to agree with WOW’s activities. I have already said that I don’t personally agree either. I am just saying that sinat chinam will get us nowhere as a nation, and like it or not, WOW are a part of Am Yisrael. Mashiach will not come until we can ALL get along, even with those who do not behave as we do. Condemn their activities? Reiterate the halacha? Sure, as long as you do it politely and respectfully. A Jew should always have a kind word to say to another Jew, and certainly this should be the case if you want the percentage of kiruv successes to rise.
You’re completely missing the point. Those quotes make it clear that Anat wants all of Am Yisrael, including those who are not or not yet frum, to feel welcome at the Kotel, not that she wants the Kotel itself to be Reform headquarters.
My first thought was that the tattoo might qualify as a chatzitza at the mikveh. On further reflection, I realized that anything– including a tattoo– that is a permanent part of a woman’s body is not a chatzitzah.
I believe it is, however, assur regardless for reasons already mentioned. And incidentally, I know a few baalos teshuvah who have tattoos from before they were frum…and apparently, they’ve raised some eyebrows at the mikveh!
I’m not your wife. Don’t “darling” me.
Also, see this excerpt from an article written by two WOW members:
The group’s mission statement, taken from its own website:
“As Women of the Wall, our central mission is to achieve the social and legal recognition of our right, as women, to wear prayer shawls, pray, and read from the Torah collectively and out loud at the Western Wall.”
Nothing in there about equality, integration, breaking down the mechitza, or creating a spectacle. Anyone who wants to argue that WOW’s central goals are to do those things should be congratulated for his or her miraculous telepathic abilities.
I think you would be motzei your chiyuv without it if you couldn’t say it for some reason (forgot the text and didn’t have access to a bentcher, I guess?) but le’chatchila you should definitely say it.
Go to Ein HaNetziv!
thanks 🙂
Nothing wrong with it if you’re buying the clothes for quality rather than to show off, imo.
We finished approx 2:15 first night and 2:30 second night (par for the course; one year we randomly finished around 4, but usually we try not to go past 2:30)
5 expressions of redemption:
v’hotzeiti
v’hitzalti
v’lakachti
v’gaalti
v’heveiti
I have lost over 20 pounds in the past year and am now a size 14. Recently, I got engaged. I met my chosson several months ago when I was still about an 18. My weight didn’t matter to him then and it doesn’t matter now. (Incidentally, we did not meet through a shadchan). I’m losing weight in order to be healthier and feel better, not to look good for him, although of course I’m happy about that part of it as well.
When I called a gemach to ask about borrowing a gown for my wedding, the woman who runs it told me that she mostly had size 4s and 6s and a very small selection of 12s and 14s. I ended up buying a gown and taking it to a seamstress for tznius alterations (expensive, but what else can you do?)
Smashed macaroons? That’s creative. I’ll have to try it next time 🙂
Ground nuts are a common substitute for flour on Pesach. Ground almonds are more ubiquitous, but it does not surprise me that some recipes would call for ground hazelnuts instead.
Incidentally, ground almonds or hazelnuts mixed with melted butter or margarine makes an excellent Pesahdik alternative to a graham cracker crust, and is also useful year-round as a gluten-free crust. I like to use it for key lime pie, which is one of the few pie fillings out there that can be made Pesahdik without modifications to the standard recipe.
Where can you find kosher vegetarian chorizo?
Try Zichron Menachem, an Israeli-based organization similar to Locks of Love. I have donated hair to them in the past and plan to again at some point.
“The Rama says (and the Mishnah Berurah/Pri Megadim even say it’s ideal) to drink more than usual and fall asleep.”
Teenagers should not be drinking at all during the rest of the year except for wine at Kiddush and perhaps a drink on Simchas Torah. Therefore, drinking a small amount will be considered “more than usual” for them.
“it could be once an underage person drinks, he violates the secular law regardless of how much he drinks. So once he drinks more than usual, he has violated dina demalchusa dina, and drinking more won’t make the dina demalchusa dina worse. So once you have violated dina demalchusa dina to fulfill the main requirement, there might not be a reason (at least from the perspective of dina demalchusa dina) to stop there because you’re not violating any more secular laws.”
Incorrect. Secular law is more nuanced than you think it is. It’s not just a blanket restriction on underage drinking and that’s it. There are laws regarding providing alcohol to minors, public intoxication, etc. Furthermore, the more intoxicated a person gets, the more likely he is to suspend his common sense and do something that would be a violation of a different secular law. And of course, one should consider the fact that obviously intoxicated teenagers will attract more attention from police than those who have only had a little to drink and are functioning perfectly well.
LaBriut or even Asi gezunt works if you’re with frum people. Otherwise say bless you.
Vegetarian cholent does not have to have processed fake meat, or alcohol, or tons of oil. I make it with vegetarian baked beans, barley, potatoes, fancy mustard, BBQ sauce, seasoning, and pareve kishka.