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2-4 children per Jewish family? Where did you get that stat? And what do you mean by a “Jewish family”?
Modern Orthodox families typically have 3-4 children; yeshivish families have 7-8. Of course you have your 12s and 2s, but it averages out. My husband wants 3; I want 4; of course it is ultimately in Hashem’s hands! We will have as many children as He blesses us with, i”yh.
Shul membership fees can vary widely. $1000 is, I think, on the high end of the standard range. But no shul will turn you away if you really cannot afford the full fee. I know they have special arrangements with families that need it. And you can certainly help out the shul in other ways as a volunteer. My home shul, for instance, has a policy that each adult member must sponsor Kiddush once a year (this means twice a year for a married couple), but if there are financial issues, the shul will pay for it. They just want families to “sponsor” by shopping for the food and helping to set up/clean up the Kiddush so that the burden doesn’t fall on the same people to set up and clean up week after week.
We stayed with a Chabad family for Shabbos recently that has eleven children ranging in age from three months to 18 years. The rebbetzin told me she has seen so many women come to her and say they wish they had had more children and that from her perspective, you just have to have the children and the parnassah will come. I thought that was very brave and although I’m not sure I could handle a family of 13, I admire her for it.
I trim my husband’s beard with scissors! He says I do just as good of a job as a professional barber 🙂 Now, haircuts are another story. I definitely don’t trust myself with that.
“A lawsuit that will reach the media is good publicity for them…”
Not really, if your reaction to it as a consumer is to label them as greedy and money-hungry.
The reason academics don’t like students “dropping out” of programs is that the students have already invested a lot of effort and don’t ultimately come out with a degree.
There is no such thing as an equivalent “dropping out” of yeshiva because yeshiva has no end date, no degree, nothing to signify a completion of studies (unless you count semicha but I am referring to kollel guys who got semicha along the way years ago).
This, of course, is because we don’t believe in such a thing as a completion of studies. Learning should be lifelong. That’s well and good. But just because a bachur leaves kollel to go work does not mean he is c”v not learning at all anymore.
“jewishfeminist02- someone actually explained that one to me once, and now it makes perfect sense. It means you want to eat the cake and still have it after you ate it.”
Yes, that’s correct! But did you know that the correct way to say it is “eat your cake and have it too”, NOT “have your cake and eat it too”?
Otherwise it would make no sense.
We brought a bottle of kosher champagne to the hotel. It was our first time drinking real champagne (not the fake, sweet bubbly stuff) and we both really enjoyed it. I tried a little bit of the Scotch after the wedding also, but I’m not much of a Scotch drinker so I didn’t really feel like I was missing out on anything. I don’t think any of our female guests would have wanted to drink the Scotch anyway.
Incidentally, we originally were going to have wine on the tables, but instead we decided to use that money for sefarim because we otherwise couldn’t have afforded to buy my husband a chosson shas.
That makes a lot of sense. I used to wear cheap watches from Target as primarily functional items, but I got tired of them breaking all the time. So about a year and a half ago, I treated myself to a really nice watch and b”h it has lasted this long and doesn’t show any signs of giving out on me. I do use it to check the time, but I also really like how it looks on me. It also has sentimental value now because we used it for chalipin at my wedding!
B’zman hazeh, nobody wears pocket watches anymore so I wouldn’t think that is a concern.
Here’s one that NOBODY seems to understand.
There’s a popular idiom that means to have it both ways. The idiom involves a piece of cake.
Does anyone here know what the proper expression is, and why? Haifagirl?
How is it a boosha for a woman to sing zemiros?
I second that! And now that we’ve switched games, I can still call catcher!
If corporations did not sustain an actual financial loss in some way as a result of brands being co-opted, they would not spend millions of dollars on lawyers to sue the copycat brands. Whether or not there is “egomanical possessiveness [sic]” happening here, there must be a primary financial motivation.
Whatever you call it, it just doesn’t make sense. So let’s say the minhag is for women not to participate in kiddush levana because of a geder of tznius. Fine. In that case you have to say that kal v’chomer, the geder of tznius would also lead to a minhag of women not participating in any public gathering which is longer than kiddush levana, such as the examples I mentioned above.
I don’t know any woman whose minhag is to avoid barbecues because of a geder of tznius. As far as I know, this is simply not a practice that anyone follows. So why do we follow the minhag when it comes to kiddush levana, but not to other outdoor gatherings?
Wearing a watch is considered “carrying”? Really??
You want to be a cashier permanently?
Corporations are protective of their brand names out of fear that others will mistake copycats for the real thing.
I don’t think anyone here is suggesting that restaurant patrons will get confused and start worshipping the wallpaper.
So women cannot attend outdoor gatherings such as barbecues, block parties, and outdoor weddings?
Is that a problem? And must everyone under 25 be considered a “teen”?
Mazal tov!
I was referring to the prohibition of eating roasted meat at the Seder.
Welcome Moishi13!
Yes, it is convenient. If you have any questions about how to navigate the forum, I’m sure any of us would be happy to help you.
Conservative and Reform shuls that use “triennial” leining nevertheless celebrate Simchas Torah every year! This is something I never understood. Not only have they not finished the Torah, they’re not even reading in order…Rather than going through 1/3 of the parshiyos every year, they actually read 1/3 of each parsha. So year 1 will have the beginning of each parsha, year 2 will have the middle of each parsha…craziness!
That’s odd…if it’s only kosher-style, you wouldn’t expect the clientele to get the references, would you?
You get your hair cut every 2-3 weeks? What, do you have a buzz cut? Or does your hair magically grow in overnight like Harry Potter’s? I get mine cut every 6-8 weeks and that’s considered frequent. Hair only grows an average of about 1/2 inch per month.
Expenses that are incurred l’kvod shabbos and yom tov may be justified expenses and we may decide to spend more on them than we would on others. That does not mean that they don’t cost money. It may be well worth the money, but it would be irresponsible to not include that in a cheshbon whatsoever. You’re just shooting yourself in the foot that way by keeping inaccurate financial records.
If it matters to you to go to a shiur in person, do so. But almost all of them are free, unless you count gas money.
Breaking news (article from healthfinder.gov):
Whooping cough cases are escalating in the United States, and many American adults are unknowingly exposing vulnerable babies to the potentially deadly disease because their vaccinations are not up to date, a new survey finds.
“[Whooping cough] is a very preventable disease, but many adults may think their childhood vaccinations still are protecting them against it,” said Dr. Matthew Davis, director of the new University of Michigan National Poll on Children’s Health. “Findings from this poll show that few adults have received a booster shot within the recommended 10-year time frame and, in fact, two-thirds told us they were not aware of their vaccination status.”
Just 20 percent of adults said they’d received the whooping cough (pertussis) vaccine less than 10 years ago, while 19 percent said they were vaccinated more than 10 years ago and 61 percent said they did not know when they were last vaccinated.
The poll also found that 72 percent of respondents strongly agreed or agreed that parents have the right to insist that visitors receive the whooping cough vaccine before visiting a newborn in the hospital. And 61 percent of survey participants strongly agreed or agreed that parents should make sure all adults receive the vaccine before visiting a newborn at home.
Whooping cough easily spreads within households, day care facilities, schools and neighborhoods. Most deaths from whooping cough occur in children younger than 3 months old, and most infants who get whooping cough are infected by an older child or adult with the illness.
“Teens and adults who have received the [whooping cough] vaccine are less likely to get whooping cough themselves, and therefore less likely to spread whooping cough to other people, including infants who have not yet been protected by the recommended [whooping cough] vaccinations,” Davis said.
The poll results are encouraging because they indicate some awareness that visitors need to be protected against this disease, Davis said in a university news release.
“Expectant parents should have a conversation about [whooping cough] vaccine with their family and close friends before the baby is born, to allow time for them to get their [whooping cough] vaccine up to date,” he said. “If parents begin to take this approach, it may have a very positive impact decreasing the number of newborns who become severely ill or die as a result of [whooping cough].”
Whooping cough recently reached its highest level in the United States in 50 years. The disease can be serious or fatal in unvaccinated newborns.
Here’s another one I can’t stand– “If you would have thought about it, you would have realized…”
Solution: make aliyah! 🙂
Frum people can BBQ all they want as long as it’s not on Pesach!
Are you still taking Accutane? If your acne came back, why don’t you just stop taking the medication?
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Yes, some of the aveiras in the song are actual halacha and some are chumras. I think the humor comes from the way it is phrased– for instance, the line “I always get married during sefira” is my favorite. It’s funny because how many times does a person get married??
Yes, I did know that, but thank you for clarifying!
Please read what I am writing. I am making this suggestion for those social circles in which men and women DO NOT routinely have social relationships with each other. Obviously if they already do, this will not make a difference.
I’ll tell you why it’s important for singles to be themselves on dates. A shadchan calls up a boy and says “I have a great girl for you, she’s super outgoing and friendly!” He sets up a date with her, she gets there and barely says a word. Why? Because she’s nervous. He’s not going to want another date with her because he specifically told the shadchan that he wants a girl who’s outgoing. Conversely, a quiet girl might get nervous on a date and start babbling about anything under the sun. She will not get a second date with a boy who prefers a quiet girl.
If we allow men and women a little bit of unstructured time to meet and socialize (at a wedding, mind you, where there are plenty of chaperones and nothing untoward can happen) maybe they will feel more comfortable in the dating scene and the above scenarios will not happen.
It’s on YouTube. It’s hilarious!
“We’re eating by the Cohens on shabbos”
Accutane is prescribed for severe acne.
There was no liquor at my wedding except for the wine we drank under the chuppah and a few bottles of Scotch at the tisch. Certainly none of the singles (or other guests, for that matter) were drunk or otherwise “uninhibited”.
For those who are confused, please go back and reread my original post. I mentioned two shidduch issues– one that is relevant to mixed weddings, and one that is not relevant to mixed weddings.
Seating men and women together at weddings will not make the boys any more or less picky. It will, however, take the strain and pressure off of both the boys and the girls and allow them to “be themselves”, which will facilitate natural shidduchim.
They are very different types of jobs. They require different skill sets, offer different pay scales, and have different time requirements. You may well be suited for either one, but if you want to have a family (and not drive yourself crazy) you cannot do both at once, short of teaching in med school as mentioned above.
If you choose to become a doctor, you can also be a mentor for kids. Go into elementary schools and talk about what you do. Volunteer to be an adviser for high schoolers who need to present at mock career fairs. You can still stay connected to education without being a schoolteacher.
You might also consider becoming a nutritionist. You will be in the field of medicine, but more in a one on one adviser role.
Very nice. Yashar koach!
Yes, I agree that Bloomberg does not deliberately base his policies on halacha. That does not mean, however, that we should not support his policies when they happen to coincide with halacha.
I think I deserve a “welcome back”!
Mazal tov! So how was it?
nishtayngesheft, I was responding to your question about whether or not it is assur to consume large soft drinks.
I am not familiar with the book, but the underlying implication of plagiarism– whether true or not– is a serious one.
Think carefully before you spread rumors about this author, especially on an online forum where you have no idea who may come across your post.