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Nice plagiarism from The “V” Word blog.
Actually, she said it more than once– and then lied about using it.
She told a talk show host she had only ever used that word one time in 1986 after having been robbed at gunpoint. However, she admitted under oath during a deposition (involving a former employee of her network who was suing for race and sex based discrimination) that she had also used the word since then, including while planning her brother’s 2007 wedding. She originally had in mind a “plantation-style” wedding and wanted to hire African-American men to serve the food. This idea, thankfully, was rejected.
“…And proper or technical language does not diminish accuracy. There is a tznius in speech; especially when you have women listening.”
So…wait one second…
You are telling me that hilchos niddah, which concerns the halacha governing women’s bodies, needs to be discussed in delicate terms BECAUSE THERE ARE WOMEN PRESENT????
Are you kidding me?!!?!
I think women can handle hearing about their own bodies. If you are going to argue tznius, tell me that hilchos niddah should be discussed delicately in the presence of MEN. Hashem yirachem.
I’m pretty sure OP means “original poster” not “original post”, hence referring to the person who posted the first comment in the thread. For example, you might say “I agree with the OP” meaning you agree with the person who started the thread, not that you agree with the opening post in the thread (although both are probably true).
“For example, what if the ‘democratic process’ decided that ‘social policy’ requires all men, women and children to be michalel Shabbos and to disallow Bris Mila until the child becomes an adult and chooses then whether or not he wants a bris?”
Big difference, HaKatan. Those decisions would prohibit us from practicing our religion. This decision, on the other hand, doesn’t really affect anyone who doesn’t want to take advantage of it. If you’re not gay and don’t want a gay marriage, this decision has ZERO effect on you. And guess what– it doesn’t really encourage toeivah (although it does validate it). Do you think that any gay people out there who were previously refraining from toeivah are now going to engage in it just because the government says they can get married?
Because they’re just, um…
Pardon my ignorance, but what is an askan?
Or how about this: some singles just aren’t meant to meet their bashert when they’re young. My cousin got married last August at the age of 35 and b”h is expecting a baby in a few months. Was she too picky for 15 years? No, she just hadn’t met her bashert yet. Better to wait for the right person than to think “well, I’d better choose someone”, marry someone who is wrong for you, and get divorced.
How many people get to speak with a human king or judge three times a day? Many people forget to be careful because they fall into the trap of letting each tefillah, because of its frequency, lose that special kavanah. It is something we all need to improve.
I read the entire thing and I wish it were longer! Lol too funny!!
Stay away from studies of the Cohen gene if you want to keep your sanity. I was taught an incredibly chutzpadik apikorsus theory of the Cohen gene when I was in college and decided to take a genetics class. B”h that even as a freshman I had the courage to speak out against it in front of the whole class and I can only hope that some of my classmates believed me and not the professor.
“As opposed to making me feel more spiritual, it sometimes makes me feel more physical when I can only focus on these base needs.”
This in itself can be, paradoxically, a spiritual experience. Although I know that fasting is difficult for me, I am still surprised every time at how hard I find it and how much I find myself looking at the clock and thinking about when I will be able to eat again. For me, fast days call my attention to the fact that I am, as a human, a very physical being. Realizing how much I rely on food, showers, and other physical attributes makes me aware of the spiritual void that this can create and helps me to refocus my energy on loftier spiritual matters.
“As for what I said ‘on behalf of the entire CR’, I admit I took the liberty of using poetic license to get my point across. Turns out it was just on behalf of most of the CR.”
Turns out it was just on behalf of a tiny fraction of the CR. Unless the majority of users here are silent lurkers who never post and happen to completely agree with you, which I would deem unlikely.
“How could it be a meikel fast for those who need it to be. It is either meikel for everyone or not.”
The halacha says that everyone should fast, and for those who just feel the ordinary hunger, fatigue, and discomfort of a fast that is the case. However, you do not have to be elderly or terminally ill or have some kind of disorder to qualify for the heter. There is a middle case of people who do not fast well and experience extreme symptoms who are not, however, endangering their lives by fasting and can therefore be exempt.
It should go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway– consult your LOR.
younglady, so don’t read it!
SlichosGenendel, it sounds like you got a really bad steak. Good steak is supposed to be more tender and easy to chew. I have been a vegetarian since 2000, but I used to love pepper steak.
One time a kid told me he was going to poke out my eyes and pour ketchup on my head!
We invite you always to do that, to go to our website and write the reviews.
Yes, one should fast is he/she is able, but it is considered a “minor” fast day and therefore heterim are available for those who need them. My mother is not elderly and does not have an illness, so she has to fast on Tisha B’Av and Yom Kippur, but after nearly fainting on Sheva Asar B’Tammuz a few years ago she does not fast on any of the four minor fast days anymore. I also have difficulty fasting, but not to the extent that I can justify not fasting. I just make sure to get plenty of rest and not to go out in the heat.
Use a shallower container and stir it halfway through to expedite heating.
Just to let you know, I will be joining you for that two hour food fest with Dan Wheeler next hour.
Rahm Emanuel
The Supreme Court today ruled on a key provision of the 1965 Voting Rights Act.
Your preschool teacher told you that kiddush levanah was a “male conspiracy”??
First of all, that is highly inappropriate. Second of all…you knew the word “conspiracy” as a preschooler??
“I made wonderful meals…and that didn’t end up working.”
Obviously there is no magic button or “fix” that will land you a shidduch. It is, though, generally impressive if a guy can cook.
DaasYochid, Amen! Thank you!
rebdoniel, marriage absolutely is hard work, but it is so, so worth the effort. My husband and I may be young, and we certainly haven’t accomplished everything we both want to as individuals. But we have had many long conversations about how we will pursue those goals while raising a family at the same time. Marriage is a game-changer and babies are also a game-changer. But it does not mean that we have to give up on all of the activities we enjoyed as singles, or that plans for the future need to be scrapped. My husband is still in graduate school, but i”yh we will support ourselves through his loan stipend and my work.
We haven’t “settled down” yet and won’t do so for another few years, but this gives us more time to carefully consider our options and decide on a community that is truly right for us. If we have been blessed with a child by the time we are ready to make a commitment, so much the better! Both my brother and I were born outside of the community my parents ultimately chose. I know many families that moved while they still had young children. Being grounded at the onset of a marriage is nice, but it’s not a necessity.
I didn’t get married out of convenience. I got married because I was truly ready to be a wife and mother, and because I found my bashert. Many of my friends are still single, and happily so. But this was totally the right decision for me. “If not now, when?”
If you acknowledge that it is morally incorrect, why would it matter whether or not there is also a technical issur?
“bogged down by the constraints of married life”
Well, if that’s how you feel about it, I hope you do take your time getting married! I absolutely LOVE my marriage and don’t feel “constrained” at all. But you really do have to be ready for it. Hatzlacha with your career goals in the meantime.
My cousin goes to Stern and wants to be an optometrist.
Your wife, being the sister-in-law and daughter-in-law, should have been sensitive to the family dynamics at play and should have expressed her discomfort politely instead of yelling.
However, I certainly sympathize with her frustration. Your parents and sisters should not have agreed to keep quiet when your son was sleeping if they couldn’t follow through with that even after being reminded.
Absolutely. You have to say that the only reason would be that it’s politically expedient.
Rumors of Elvis Presley’s supposed Jewish heritage are just that– rumors. As a teenager, he was in fact a shabbos goy for a frum family that lived in his building.
Despite the above quoted post, “the entire CR” does not feel that way.
I can’t speak for anyone else, but I do read your posts and don’t want you to leave. I don’t think you post too much– maybe sometimes you post the same thing twice, but it’s really not a big deal at all. Please don’t think that we are all ignoring you or that we don’t like you. I do not pretend to know whether you are or aren’t addicted to the CR; that’s really between you and Hashem. If you really think you have a problem, then I wish you well. Otherwise, please don’t let a few insensitive comments dictate how you run your life.
I also just got married a few weeks ago and couldn’t be happier!
I love Harry Potter 6!!! The only one better than that is #5 (I’ve probably read it a dozen times by now).
If you are looking for this in stores, it may help to know that it is called “toothwash” as opposed to toothpaste.
Really? I couldn’t stand frumteens…sooo much censorship for no reason…
Stay away from Boost Mobile. My husband used Boost in the past and it is terrible service. Cheap, but not worth it. He switched to Verizon for the peace of mind.
Guys, if you really want to impress your shidduch date, why don’t YOU bake HER cookies? Even if they don’t turn out well she’ll be super impressed by the effort.
Chill out, WIY!
Of course nobody’s grammar is perfect, including haifagirl’s. But there are a LOT of people, in the coffee room and elsewhere, who like to write in “txt-speak” (a few particularly egregious examples of this have already been noted by the mods). haifagirl does not criticize anyone using personal attacks or just for the sake of being mean, but to try to educate others so they can write intelligibly in the future.
I might add that examples abound in the coffee room of users making harsh criticism of other users for everything under the sun. This nearly always includes some form of personal attack and name-calling. Before you start calling out haifagirl for her gentle corrections here and there, look to those who seem to enjoy constantly “bashing” others.
It’s very common to have anxiety at nighttime. Follow some of the suggestions in the insomnia thread and see what happens.
If you’re really struggling with self-esteem, try counseling. There is no shame in it and I will tell you that there is literally not a single person in this world who would not be helped by it. Many people stay away because of the stigma, which is so unfortunate. Your local Jewish Family Services can refer you to someone and you can also check Nefesh, the database of frum therapists, for someone in your area.
Coffee is an acquired taste. A few years ago, I couldn’t stand it. Now I love it.
Same goes for most types of alcohol. My husband and I just bought a really nice bottle of wine for shabbos– Segal’s blend of cabernet sauvignon and merlot. I’m really, really looking forward to trying it 🙂
Start a new topic if you don’t like the active ones!
Actually, the Rambam says that all fresh fruits (especially citrus) are unhealthy, with the exception of figs and grapes (Hilchos Deos 4:11). In the “particularly unhealthy” category are vegetables and legumes like lentils, cabbage, leeks, onions and radishes. (Ibid, 4:9). I’m sure one can live a healthy life without these foods, but it’s hard to imagine them being sufficiently unhealthy to cut out of one’s diet.
Credit goes to my husband for finding these sources.
Trader Joe’s does have one or two brands of cheap wines (about $6), both dry and sweet. They’re mixed in with the treif wines, so you have to look carefully. I think the moscato is called something like “Bella Bee.”
At minimum wage and variable hours, it will take you a loooong time to save enough money! If you are interested in higher education, apply for scholarships or take out loans (or a combination of the two).
The only people I know who use rocking chairs are young mothers rocking their babies to sleep!
I worked as a cashier for a few months. It really is a difficult job. You have to be on your feet for hours at a time, and you have to remember how to process EBT, SNAP, WIC, check, cash, credit card, nonprofit tax exemption, university department charge line, etc etc. You have to be careful not to double scan items because then you have to void one and you may need a manager’s key to do that. Then there are all the produce codes that you have to remember. You can look them up, but it takes longer and sometimes someone will put something on your belt that you just don’t recognize and you have to actually ask the customer what it is! And then, when you’re not going crazy with all of this, you have long stretches of time with no one coming through your line, and you’re not allowed to read magazines, have a snack, or do anything that might make you less bored. If you make any kind of mistake they will micro-manage you and put you on mandatory audit and hold you accountable for every last penny. One time a customer handed me a penny that she found on the floor and management yelled at me for being one penny over!
Kol hakavod, Vogue. I didn’t last long in that job; I hope you do better than I did!
DaasYochid: ?
I’m pretty sure yacr85 meant “they” to refer to the resumes, not the girls, as in “the resumes are dumb, boring, and utterly ridiculous”.
I only used a shidduch resume once, and in that case I was declined by the boy. The rest of the boys I dated did not ask for the resume.
The ones we never heard of are the greatest because they are practicing the highest form of tzedakah.
I read a children’s book when I was young about a rich man in town who was known for being stingy. Schools, shuls, and other Jewish organizations would approach him for money year after year and he wouldn’t give a cent. Eventually he died, and that week the soup kitchens were inundated with poor people he had supported without anyone’s knowledge.