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I was told by one of my rebbeim that jewish music is ais lassos (nowadays) but that one should understand that really its all assur.
@LAB where does the m”b say the issue is he will mix it into his nusach. additionally the bach and m”a and basically every other shita says that it is referring specifically to shirim of a”z (maybe even specifically shirim hamiyuchad lazeh).
Agav if any of the talmidei chachomim over here know what type of songs the girsa of the kol bo/biur hagra is referring to over there I would be grateful.
mazal tov i hope he is able to put all that horrible stuff behind him
I always crack up watching people patting their pockets during shemone esrei on shabbos – gets me every time.
anyone who knows me would know it was me anyway by my screen name.
wow thats a lot of autotune
My parents didnt particularly approve of my life choices either. At the end of the day I am considerably more successful financially and otherwise than they are. Parents may mean well but that does make them always right.
My tefilos are with you. Try saying one kapitol of tehillim a day for yourself too – it may sound silly or basic but if it is said with the proper kavana it will work wonders.
Keep talking to a mentor as that will help you have more faith in yourself, your abilities and your direction in life.
At the end of the day your parents will probably come around if they see you are serious about things that are important to you and are striving to do what you think is right.
I have the note 10 – so the visuals are pretty good and have 2 pages side by side. also the ability to highlight/write notes in books is invaluable to me. use a leather case with a strap so reading is extremely comfortable.
PBA: There are really 3 ner israel yeshivos as the high school is a completely autonomously run operation.
not a CC person and i agree with HaMaivin Yaavin.
I don’t know how much I would faith or trust I would have if it was a teenage boy we were talking about. But I do agree that no access at all will probably not work in most cases either. I am not looking forward to dealing with that issue once my kids are that age.
trying to be logical with a pregnant wife is not a recipe for success.
Basically agree with the rest of the posters that this is not an issue that you will be successful with at this juncture. Best idea is to have a rav/mentor you can talk to about such things.
I know of plenty of girls from a wide variety of good seminaries that have email addresses and access to the internet. I feel that realistically the most you can probably hope for even in the frumer seminaries is for them to have filtered internet and even that may be a stretch. I can guarantee that whatever seminary you send your daughter to she will be exposed to girls who have hashkafos that you don’t agree with. I don’t believe that such a degree of sheltering for a girl that age is healthy or practical. The smartest thing to do would be to ask your rav whether such a degree of sheltering is necessary.
batseven: TorahMom not allowing her daughter to go online is fine. TorahMom talking about not sending her daughter to any seminary that has girls who do have internet in their house is crazy and naive. good luck finding such a seminary because to my knowledge it doesn’t exist. I agree with basically everything Ma Chovaso said.
Never attempted to circumvent Nativ before – if someone who has it wants to invite me over I can try.
“The Radiance of Shabbos” might help. In general reading his books on hilchos shabbos and/or R’ Ribiat’s books are a good idea.
I never said that I used a proxy to circumvent it. Again google is your friend and I prefer not to publish my methods on the site lest the less scrupulous decide to take advantage. Lets just say if u have access to safe mode it aint too hard.
daven kabbalos shabbos together with other girls. my sisters enjoy it immensely. also set aside one food/ drink that you only eat on shabbos. these are only some suggestions. I am sure that if you look at Rabbi Simcha Bunim Cohens books you may get more ideas.
The director of admissions at Fordham Law hates FDU. And he isn’t the only one. Prospective students from Touro did a lot better getting in to good law schools and masters programs than did FDU students with similar GPAs. I have a friend who had a 175 and a 4.0 GPA from FDU and did not get into Columbia or NYU and had to push Fordham to give him a small scholarship. FDU sounds great on paper but their track record is not as good as Touro’s. For most frum jews the level of academic standards is not as important as what you can do with the degree and based on what is admittedly somewhat anecdotal evidence it seems that FDU is lacking in that department.
While touro does have a low reputation it is still significantly better than FDU or having a BTL. I have lots of friends who got into great masters programs and law schools and got great jobs off of touro degrees.
I too have been very impressed with the breadth of knowledge exhibited by many of the posters here. Its probably the primary reason I keep on coming back to the CR.
the topic of internet addiction has been discussed ad naseum in this forum and I am not particularly interested in rehashing that discussion. it is not an APA classified addiction and that is all I will say. you can google the rest of the debate on the subject. (I probably shouldn’t have thrown that bit in about internet addiction not being an addiction if I didn’t want to discuss it)
I think you have to have a subtitle 🙂
@Trust 789
bemechilas kevodach you are incorrect. being mechalel shabbos definitely affects a persons neshoma albeit in a different way. Every aveira creates a stain on a persons neshama. People seem to go way overboard on the concept of metamtem haleiv – it is an issue but not an overriding one to the point where a person can not do teshuva from it. There is no such a thing called internet addiction. The addiction you are referring to (I am assuming) is of a different variety vhamayvin yavin. Yes it is doable but a person requires the motivation. The most important thing as I mentioned before is not to tell the person that he is a hopeless case and to make the person happy with small steps if that is what he can do. It is doable and many have successfully controlled it before. A mentor/rav is crucial in this situation.
the maharal in nesiv hatorah is an interesting read on the subject he says it would be better if they had printed piskei harash on the side of the gemara instead of tosafos because then at least people would know some halacha.
veltz meshugener: which poster on the cr is my wife?
actually agree very strongly with VM that the way the op asked the question was ridiculous. just because a person does an aveira even countless times does not mean that he isnt capable of solving anything. this highly incorrect attitude is part of what drives people off of the derech. you are writing off a significant portion of the population be very very careful.
i am sure the masseh with r’ elazar ben dordayah has been quoted on this subject a thousand times. a person can do tshuva on such a thing even later in life. one of the tricks of the yetzer harah is to trick a person in to thinking they are horrible and have no hope. if a person would be able to have the self-esteem to think they are someone worthy sometimes it is easier to withstand temptation as a person would say how can a person like me do something like that. have heard this shmuess many times and it is worth repeating for the ones who don’t know.
the most important thing in this situation is a good mentor. unfortunately i have seen how many rebbeim have (mis)reacted to such questions so it is important to pick wisely.
bekious is definitely an underrated value in yeshivos. That’s what actually makes this story questionable – if he went to a real yeshiva no way he finished that much of shas.
nothing wrong with it. if anything you are doing the mitva min hamuvchar – in order to be yotzei shemone esrei one needs to be mechaven to pirush hamilos. For Yomim Noraim and Selichos the interlinear (Yesod Malchus) Machzorim are invaluable to me.
thats not a particularly good price on k cups. I try to stay within the 50 cents per K cup range. Bought a bunch yesterday from amazon for 33 cents per K cup.
my favorite was kosher lpesach water in a yated advertisement – the funniest part was that the teuda in the ad was expired.
if the tablet supports usb otg than your solution will not help (and many these days do).
making a bootable disk doesnt require internet – assuming chavra chavra is lei here.
I have rooted and installed custom recovery on many devices – it is not at all difficult and there are step by step instructions for everything. In the old days of android things were more difficult. Now a 7 year old could probably do it.
@crazybrit if the kid knows how to boot into ubuntu than covenant eyes/ web chaver is useless (which can be done on many tablets/ phones).
so you view chinuch as a pay to play arrangement? Thats just wonderful. I certainly hope you arent serious.
if you want to go really cheap try the jcpenny stafford shirts – was able to get them for $10-$15 and they are actually pretty good. joseph a bank for $20 when they have it is also a good option. Paul Frederick used to be pretty popular. Charles Tyrwhitt shirts are pretty good too – it pays to wait for a good sale as they were going for $30 earlier this year. Never buy my shirts in any of the stores as you dont typically get much quality for your money.
ner israel only officially allows 2 courses a semester (besides for the yeshiva credits) – might take you a while to complete a degree at that pace. also to my knowledge they are associated with Towson University not University of Maryland these days. Someone can correct me if I am wrong.
yes. the difference between this dor and the one before it are night and day. additionally the problem is jews have become more segmented so even if there was someone vocal no one would listen to him …
because they werent allowed to use a translator for the eidim as it wouldn’t be kashur eidus – it would be eid mepei eid.
I am assuming your comment was directed at me so I will respond.
There is a vast difference in accessibility and the acceptability of internet capable devices (which will be ubiquitous) and the “various other forbidden items for sale.” Besides for which the devices have other purposes and uses which appeal greatly to the younger demographic (such as gaming). It has nothing to do with rebelling – once these devices get to the point where they are practically disposable (because of the cost/cost of replacement) it will become difficult to monitor and filter each device especially when they may very likely be going on networks other than your own.
My main argument was against the one size fits all solution and it seems that most of the posters agree with the sentiment to differing degrees.
By popups I meant the “inadvertent argument” – that it is impossible to surf the net without encountering indecent advertisements.
That could and will happen even if filters become common place. In my humble opinion there is no reason why an 8th grader should have regular access to a computer with internet in the first place, filtered or not….
Pardes
I do not have the time to respond to every point right now as its been a pretty long day but no where did I assert that “since filters don’t work for those you know, they don’t work for anyone.” In fact I specifically limited it to adults in certain types of professions at work. Adults at work in general even according to you (I assume) are probably going to have weaker filters at work. I had mentioned adblock just in case you decided to make the antiquated argument that some make about popups. Not sure there is a point in countering the rest of your points as I am not really sure how to do it without mentioning personal details.
Also sorry to keep on beating a dead horse in regards to the asifa booklet but please read the whole thing if you get a chance as it goes way above and beyond the shemiras einayim issue – if it had just done that I wouldn’t be ranting about it.
I do believe that because of certain technological advances the arguments for and against filters will become moot because of a drop in price of internet capable devices and the availability of free or low cost access. This doesn’t mean that people shouldn’t get filters – but to assume that this is going to work even in five years from now is a poor assumption especially in regards to preventing kids from acquiring internet access surreptitiously.
Here is a paragraph from the booklet “It begins with running late for davening; next the daily shiur is dropped. How many mothers
and wives learned only months later that the
all-important shiur was really a daily chavrusa
with Mr. Internet? Minchah falls to the wayside
Why bother dressing as a frum Jew when there
is nothing frum about the person anymore. “
Because no one is talking about it (the asifa booklet) I can’t bring it as a proof of how certain organizations have a nonsensical view in regards to the internet? That seems kind of silly to me. Additionally you did say “in any event it barely if at all mentioned OTD rate, instead it goes on about the real risks to all of us” which did imply that you had read it and agreed to at least most of its content. I encourage viewers of this forum to read it and see what I am referring to – I have quoted some pretty insane passages from the thing before on this forum. There was actually a lively discussion about the booklet on this forum a while ago.
About the adults at work I meant that many can not use a filter. I don’t know what kind of standards qa has at your office but in most normal companies you aren’t allowed to install anything extra on a clean system. Having a filter defeats the whole purpose of running the tests. Talk to people who are in college and you will find out how frustrating it is for them to get by with a filter. And yes there are a substantial amount of medical students and women who need to access womens health related sites which have things a filter will find objectionable.
I have adblock on my computer which seems to do a pretty good job knocking off every popup and ad that I can throw at it. Also how do you propose to lock said filter in a way I can’t get around it in about 3 seconds? For adults the best you can really do is make sure you don’t come across the stuff if you aren’t interested. What kind of person or situation are you proposing that a filter will protect from (again we are referring to adults here) assuming that the person has at least a minimal amount of proficiency. Trust me I have helped plenty of friends struggling with filters they do block things they need all of the time and they are also for the most part ridiculously easy to circumvent.
I know plenty of developers and not a single one with a filter despite the fact that these people are highly educated about the technology out there and the dangers of the internet and they all feel the same way I do.
In regards to monitoring systems considering that you claim to be developer you gotta be kidding me. I have no interest in someone being able to reconstruct my ideas and actions from a browsing history – that could completely kill my business and I am sure that it would do the same to many others. Besides for the fact that again since I like many developers out there make a lot of use of virtual machines would make one completely useless.
You basically are asserting that since filters work for you they should work for everyone. To me that doesn’t seem like a very valid assertion.
The gedolim biographies were never considered to be authoritative history (at least I hope not).
Ironically I know one of the people who worked on the English Artscroll and his shittos are anything but mainstream guess they just had to beat it out of him.
If you think that the arguments made in that booklet make sense to you than that explains the rest of what you said. There has been a lot of hyperbole used in regards to the internet and in my mind it is incredibly counterproductive. Again the asifa booklet is exhibit A.
You are making a lot of assumptions about my business and my views on the subject which are not true. In my mind its not a one size fits all solution – to me kids, teens, adults at home and adults at work all need different levels of filtration (or in the case of kids no internet at all). Also various families will have different needs – ie. someone in medical school (or in college in general) will have a very difficult time with a filter. Anyone who runs a business which is involved in developing/testing software will tell you that filters will not work for them for obvious reasons and it has nothing to do with viewing inappropriate sites.
Unfortunately the argument that the internet affects the otd rate is not a straw man. Read the asifa booklet if you want to see it in writing.
As I have said earlier in these forums if you are using a computer for business purposes waiting for tag or a competent technician to come fix things is not an option. I haven’t spoken to a single person who has had a happy experience with a filter.
Let me put it this way – if everyone tomorrow morning decided to get filters i don’t think it would put a dent in the otd rate. Filters were not designed to combat people who are looking to do the wrong thing.
Again as zahavasdad indicated Amazon is different – sale isnt final until the seller confirms it and only then is the transfer of money initiated (except for FBA).
have dealt with a couple of kids who went otd. not a single otd kid that I have ever met went off due to the internet. maybe other posters here have had other experiences.
Rule number 1 on the cr – don’t feed the trolls.