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Please stop justifying his behavior
Please stop believing that you are the cause for his actions
Please stop reminding us that he is not hitting you, only your young daughters
Please stop trying to put each action of his into a vacuum, and rationalizing it.
It is the whole picture which you must look at. You can sit here and type as much as you’d like, but how much more do your children need to take from their “father”?
Their emotional scars are only imaginable to us here in the cr, how much must their physical scars increase until you’ll have the courage to protect them? broken bones? emergency room visits? teachers calling social services?
Like I said before, you know what is right and you know what you need to do.
May Hashem grant you the koach necessary for this.
PS I have strong reservations about the diagnosis of PPD. At some point PPD ends and real depression from that which is your reality, takes over.
please excuse my lack of grammar etc., I’m typing on a tablet
firstly, you are not to blame. do not blame yourself. you are a victim, your kids are victims. you are at a very important crossroad. I’m sure it is quite scary. the decision you make will have an impact on everyone. I can see from your posts that you know what the right move is. I also know that “right” doesn’t make it any easier. we are here for you in the CR. I wish you the best of luck and all the strength and courage in the world. I can arrange for you to speak with a mental health professional, pro bono, if you wish. If you do, I’m sure one of the kind mods will help me pass the info to you
be strong
be couragous
most importantly
BE SAFE!!!
Both Ben Zion and Zion are “old names”.
Just because there is a “recent” movement called the zionist movement does not all of a sudden turn these names into new names.
It quotes the gemarra in Kiddushin (71a) about the name Ben Zion (no I have not looked inside yet).
I love it how people in the CR are so quick to point out the other is “wrong” or needs “correction”.
Yes, Rabbi of Berlin, I see that on 27a Tosfos Mentions a R’ Chaim. He ALSO quotes a R’ Chaim Bar Mordechai in the only Tosfos on 27b.
In my gemorra it is on the line opposite the line in gemarra which begins with Tanu Rabbanan
Rabbi of Berlin:
You raise a fair question. Why can’t we create new names? Obviously R’ Chaim’s psak has been previously mentioned so we’ll move along. According to the Sefer that this topic is about. on page 168, it quotes (in a footnote) that R’ Eliashiv, R’ Mordechai Eliyau and R’ Z. N. Goldberg there is seemingly no problem.
HOWEVER!!
1. The name is a Hashba on the child, what Hashba are you giving your child with this new name?
2. IIRC, The sefer differenciates and says that Parents used to have NEVUA as to what to name their child, but only have Siyata D’Shmaya now
3. It is Absolutely Ossur according to all to name your child a name which they will be ridiculed for having. How many people would like having the name “Ohr Zaruah”? It might sound beautiful to the parents, but I’d bet it would be a tough name for a kid to have.
4. This also explains why this is less of a question with the Yiddish names. Since the name has a Hashba, if naming Feige cause of Bubby Feige or Zundle because of great Uncle Zundle, so there is your Hashba. (Whether that Hashba is the one you want for your child or not is another story)
5. That is why the sefer suggests one asks a “Shayilas Chachom before naming, especially if naming a “new name”.
Rabbi of Berlin
Look in Tosfos in Zevachim. 27b
btw. I once heard a pshat the Biblical Hebrew is the most encompassing language. It is just that the only parts of it we are privy to are those words in the Tanach.
It could also be the same thing with names. There were obviously more names used than just those which appear in the Tanach. It could be that there was a Mesorah that Mimon was a name. It is just that we know of this due to the Rambam. Could be the same thing with the name Chaim. It could be that it was around for a long time. Just that the first records of it was the above listed tosfos.
rabbi of berlin
It is in the back of chelek ALEF. Page SHIN PAY BEIS (382)
Can you name a boy Sue?
-Sure, he can be an ambulance chasing attorney.
I believe I saw a question about the name Chaim before. The seder Hadoros, in the back of the 1st volume, has an index of names. It lists Chaim quite often, and there are numerous persons listed in Gemaras with the name Chaim. (Rabbainu Chaim Cohen in Brachos, Kiddushin, Yoma and Bechoros and R’ Chaim B. Mordechai in Zevachim to name a few).
Keep in mind that not every Tanach name is in Tanach. Adina was the mother or Rochel and Leah (and wife of Lavan). Idit, according to some (Anat according to others) was the wife of Lot. Tov is another name for Moshe. I get the impression from the Sefer that these are still considered “Tanach Names” despite their absence from the Tanach.
yunger mann: Make sure you read the haskamos and not just look at the names.
Often the letter says that they haven’t read the book.
Sometimes the haskama is for a different sefer (e.g. The English Version of the Sefer Ma’alos Hatorah printed haskamos for the Hebrew Version written over 100 years ago!).
And every now and then you even get a haskama which says that the contents of the book is not Torah (still amazed the Mechaber has the chutzpa to print the haskama in his book when it says that)
Cherrybim: I thought Shpesel was just a nickname
Wolf: You are correct. I did not transmit that paragraph correctly.
Originally, the minhag was to name the shevet name with its animal. And YES, there were names Dan Nachash and Yissachar Chamor. Later the minhag changed to drop the shevet from the animal. i.e. the name Aryeh given by itself (Kesser Dovid).
The Chida is quoted in this sefer as saying that in ?????? (Italy?) the minhag was to give boys animal names, cause they had a kaballa that this saved them from ?????? . And therefore names were given like Zvi, Ayal, Zev etc.
The Keser Dovid by the way, vetos the names Nachash and Chamor.
As for the question about Shinui HaShem, that is an entire Perek on its own. If there is a specific question perhaps I will see what I can do, but a general “What about Shinui Hashem?” is a bit too much.
FYI R’ Chaim Kanievsky does state that when changing the name, one should use the closest equivalent possibly. E.g. if a Ba’al Teshuva says his name is Victor, he should be called Avigdor (and Ofir should be Efraim).
One should never change a name (e.g. Choleh), rather one should add a name.
The new name is always in front of the old name. (i.e. Rina becomes Chaya Rina and not Rina Chaya)
If one was given the name of a Rasha at the naming (e.g. Nimrod, Amalek, Jezebel), we change the name and do not add a name.
The minhag is to add one of the following names to a sick male: Chaim, Shalom, Refoel, Ezriel, Yerachmiel, Yechezkel, or Chizkiahu for a segulah for a refuah sheleima.
The minhag is to add one of the following names for a sick female: Chaya, Chana, Sarah or Yocheved. We do NOT add Rachel, Bas Sheva, Tamar or Leah (Chida)
A Shinui Hashem is only done for a Choleh, not for someone who has R”L gone off the derech. (R’ Chaim Kanievsky)
Thanks to whomever it was who recommended the sefer. I purchased it erev Shabbos and spend Shabbos going through it.
Here are a couple of points which come from the sefer, I am bringing them due to previous comments.
At the end of the sefer there is a list of 196 names which R’ Chaim Kanievsky says one should not give. YET IT SAYS THE OTHER POSKIM DO NOT AGREE.
Some of the names listed in the 196 include: Shira, Yoram, Tal, Gavriella, Daniella, Shlomit, Matan, Natali, Na’ama, Hadar, Danna.
After the list (which is a combination of modern names, as well as names from Tanach which one should not use). It says that the rest of the poskim in our dor say that any modern names which have “mashmaos tovos”, there is no inyan NOT to use them. In fact, R’ Chaim is makpid that one use Tanach Names.
On page 171 of the sefer, it quotes R’ Eliyashiv Shlit”a as saying that there is NO PROBLEM with “new names” since such was also the minhag in Europe. It also quotes R’ S.Z. Aurbach as saying “We have enough names, why do you need to use a new one”
The Chazon Ish is quoted as saying that one should not give the womens names from “doros kadmonim” (earlier generations) e.g. Basha, Breindel, Golda etc. so not to embarrass their child. Should one feel compelled to give the name, one should add the hebrew equivalent, giving the name “Faige Tzippora” or “Golda Zahava” and should only call the child by the Hebrew equivalent.
The reason why R’ Chaim Kanievsky is so makpid on “new names” is because the Arizal writes that from the zman of Bais Sheini, there is no such thing as a “new nishama”, rather we are all gilgulim. And since the name is a connection to the nishama, we should stick to old names.
The name Chaim is an “old name” and referenced to in the Seder HaDoros and Shem HaGedolim (name of a Gadol).
Animal Names: Minhag is to name “Chayos” which the shvatim were compared to. We don’t name after “b’haimos” even kosher ones”.
It is acceptable to name after flowers or other things which grow.
Food for Thought: It is nearly impossible to satisfy EVERY shitta when choosing a name. The Avnei Nezer writes that one should not use the name “Moshe”, many argue that his logic leaves no name left to use. The Arizal is quotes as saying that women should be given a name with the letter HEY. That removes Rachel, Tamar, Avigail and other Tanach names from the list.
Those who choose to follow R’ Chaim in this Inyan, Ashreicha. However, please dont bash those who choose to follow R’ Eliashiv who is in obvious disagreement. The sefer quotes both so that we can learn the Inyan. For psak ask da’as torah. They might pasken like R’ Chaim, or they might pasken like R’ Eliashav. Ailu V’Eilu Divrei Elokim Chaim.
If he denies there is a problem and he refuses to listen, then nothing can be done at this point in terms of the gambler.
The family, however, can choose not to stick around with the gambler out of fear, embarrassment or what have you. Having his family leave him might be the trigger which gets him to realize that there is an issue. And if it isn’t, well, at least they are doing the best for them.
It all depends on who you are dealing with here. If it is the gambler, you have your work cut out for you, you need to get them to realize that they have an issue and this is not a way to function.
If you are friends with his wife, get her to realize that SHE recognizes the problem, and sticking with him is, in essence, supporting the addiction. Get her to realize that she wont want her credit ruined nor does she want people barging into their home (in front of their kids) to collect money for shady people the gambler did his gambling with.
If you are this woman, you need to do what is best for you and your kids. And I think you know what that is.
Gambling is an addiction, much like drugs and alcohol. And like drugs and alcohol, one is never “cured”. One is always “recovering”. One drink is poisonous to an alcoholic, as is one bet by a gambler.
The issue with gambling, however, is that it is easier to hide. One can easily log on to gambling websites and place credit card bets without people realizing until it is too late.
Mazal Tov! Mazal Tov!
@Feif Un – “Imma613, who says that we hold like Rashi?”
It is always better to answer the question then to run away from it.
@g73 – I only see 3 in the rashi, please let me know where you see 13 in that quote.
A 3 year old then was not the same 3 year old now. Things were different then. People lived longer, and they did not age. We can already see from the story with Eliezer and the camels that she had high intellect and a high level of functioning.
@Feif Un
Looking at the Seder HaDoros, Most agree Rivka was born during the akeida.
There is something like a six way machlokes listed in the seder hadoros as to how old Yitzchak was when he was at the akeida. One opinion says he was 26 (meaning Rivka would have been 14 when they got married).
For a really interesting pshat on the subject, have a look in R’ Schwab’s sefer, Mayan Beis HaShoeva, the 3rd piece on Parshas Toldos
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Why does Moshe refer to Yehoshua here without the yud?
The Kli Yakar says that this is because Yehoshua didn’t need it anymore. Yehoshua got the yud in a tfilla from Moshe, asking for assistance against the meraglim. Now that all from the dor hameraglim have passed on, there is no place left for this tfilla.
I’d like to wish all of you a gmar chasima tova. Please take me off the sign up sheet. It looks like I will only be attending the CR sporadically, if at all.
To whomever is doing the sign up board.
Not sure I’ll be able to do the Sunday Night (Motzei Yom Tov) DT this week.
I am also unsure if I’ll be able to do both my day’s next week as well.
Sorry in advance, and a ksiva v’chasima tova to all
Please excuse me, this one will be done off the cuff and by memory (and it might look like nooseisko wrote it). I saw this in the Lekach Tov on ROsh Hashana.
The shofar is one of our greatest weapons against our prosecutor. Yet when Rosh Hashana falls out on Shabbos, as it does this year, we don’t blow on Shabbos.
Why don’t we blow when it falls on Shabbos. The Gemarra tells us that we are afraid that there will be an unskilled ba’al tokeah, who might end up carrying his Shofar accidentally, when he needs to find out how to blow. Lets look at this, the ENTIRE KLAL YISROEL needs to put down the shofar and face the full wrath of the Yetzer Hara prosecuting us without our main weapon BECAUSE ONE OR TWO YOKELS MIGHT ACCIDENTALLY CARRY A SHOFAR IN PUBLIC?!?
In the words of a hotheaded American Tennis Player: YOU CANNOT BE SERIOUS!!
The answer is extremely simple and equally as terrifying. We only think this is a question because we do not know how bad aveiros are. We put down the Shofar because it will be better for ganz Klal Yisroel to be without the Shofar than to have 1 or 2 averos b’shogeg added against us.
As we approach Rosh Hashana, Aseres Y’Mei Teshuva and Yom Kippor. We must heed this mussar as to how bad averos are and how far we go to avoid them. If this is how far we extend ourselves to prevent an aveira b’shogeg, imagine how horrible an aveira b’meizid is.
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R’ Moshe Feinstein asks, Why the double Lashon? Why does it say both ??-???? ???, ???? ????? (I cannot go or come) and ????-? ??? ???, ?? ???? ??-????? ??? (And Hashem told me I cannot cross the Jordan).
R’ Moshe says that Moshe Rabbeinu is giving Klal Yisroel an important mussar. A person has bechira, free choice. Moshe too could have chosen to go against Hashem’s will and tried to enter Eretz Yisroel.
When something is forbidden to us, we must view it as “we are incapable of doing it”. This is what Moshe Rabbeinu is teaching us here. Our game plan for battle against our yetzer hara should not be “I’m going to chose the other way” but rather we should view that which is assur as something which is impossible for us to do, just like Moshe did here.
As we rapidly approach Rosh Hashana, I feel the need to quote the famous Shla Hakadosh on Tkias Shofar (which I 1st heard from R’ Moshe Sternbuch Shlit”a).
Why is there always a tekiah in the beginning and at the end? And why must we redo the set of 3 if on errs?
There is a special mussar being taught by the sounds of a shofar. A person is born without sin. They are strong and straight, like a tkiah. However, we sin. It breaks us like a shvarim. It then becomes incumbent upon us to do teshuva, to cry to Hashem (teru’ah). By doing teshuva properly Hashem rebuilds us, we are once again strong and straight (the final tekiah).
For this reason if there is an error at any part of the set, we must redo the entire set.
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Rashi says that when we bring the bikurim, we need to show hakaras hatov to Hashem for the good which he does for us.
R’ Kasriel Aurbach from Ponovich asks, why mention Lavan over Eisav? Eisav tried to kill Yaakov too, and wanted to harm Yaakov before Lavan entered the picture.
He answers that there is two types of hatred. There is hatred due to events, and a general hatred (sinas chinam). Hatred due to events is a lesser hatred, as it can easily be dissolved if the events change. Sinas Chinam is worse since it is baseless.
Eisav hated Yaakov because of the brachos. Lavan’s hatred towards Yaakov was pure sinas chinam. Granted they both wanted to harm Yaakov, however Lavan was worse since he was coming with sinas chinam.
As such, since Lavan was worse, the saving from Lavan is considered greater than being saved from Eisav. Therefore, when bringing the bikurim and showing our hakaras hatov towards HaKadosh Baruch Hu, we state the salvation from Lavan since it is greater than the salvation from Eisav.
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Why not come out and say Lavan? R’ Yaakov Kaminetzky says that all of Aram were guilty. They all knew that it was Leah who was going to the chuppa to marry Yaakov, yet no one stepped up to tell Yaakov that he was tricked.
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What is the connection between Lavan and Mitzraim? The Gemarra in Psachim states that Hashem was going to exile the Yidden to Aram, however, after seeing their behavior, he chose Bavel instead.
Same here by Yaakov. Yaakov was by Lavan for 22 years. Those were supposed to be the 1st 22 years of the 400 promised to Avraham Avinu (Yaakov was just going to stay there already). However, due to the behavior of Lavan (???? ??? ???, ) therefore Hashem removed them from Aram and transferred the galus to Mitzraim. (Nitziv)
Here is a list of things which happened on the 29th of August over the years:
Vasco da Gama decides to depart Calicut and return to Portugal. (1498)
The Mount Washington Cog Railway opens, making it the world’s first rack railway. (1869)
The Goodyear tire company is founded. (1898)
The Quebec Bridge collapses during construction, killing 75 workers. (1907)
American troops marched down the Champs Elysees in Paris as the French capital continued to celebrate its liberation from the Nazis. (1944)
Soviet atomic bomb project: The Soviet Union tests its first atomic bomb, known as First Lightning or Joe 1, at Semipalatinsk, Kazakhstan. (1949)
Sen. Strom Thurmond, D-S.C., ended the longest filibuster in Senate history after talking for 24 hours, 18 minutes against a civil rights bill. (1957)
Gemini 5, carrying astronauts Gordon Cooper and Charles “Pete” Conrad, splashed down in the Atlantic after eight days in space. (1965)
Chicano Moratorium against the Vietnam War, East Los Angeles, California. Police riot kills three people, including journalist Ruben Salazar. (1970)
The Supreme Soviet, the parliament of the U.S.S.R., suspended all activities of the Communist Party, bringing an end to the institution. (1991)
Hurricane Katrina devastates much of the U.S. Gulf Coast from Louisiana to the Florida Panhandle, killing more than 1,836 and causing over $80 billion in damage. (2005)
A United States Air Force nuclear weapons incident takes place at Minot Air Force Base and Barksdale Air Force Base. (2007)
R’ Yechezkel Abramsky zt”l makes an interesting point in the beginning of this weeks parsha. In the case of Eshes Yifas Toar, the Torah basically gives in to the yetzer hara of man, and says since you can’t beat it, give in, but give in under the following conditions.
R’ Abramsky says that the above is the ONLY case where such action is permitted. He says there are many people who speak “hevel” who say that there are other such cases. Situations nowadays which one can go against the Torah because it is too difficult to keep the Torah.
The Torah HaKedosha disagrees. Yes the yetzer hara is tough, yes he is cunning and yes he offers the sweet taste of sin but he is ALWAYS beatable and the purpose of our being here is to improve ourselves by passing his tests.
Hey, I like reading the phonebook.
Not much of a plot but a great cast of characters
No clue where nooseisko is, so I guess I’ll post and have a chat with him before Shabbos
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There is something very interesting about this parsha of amalek. IT is writting in sigular form, yet the mitzva is only commanded b’rabim (Ramban)!
This parsha is writting in singular form to instruct us that there is a mitzva to rid ourselves of amalek. We each have the tumah of amelek inside of us. This is the tumah which cools our emunah and our belief in hashgacha pratis.
The ????? ????-?, ?????–???, ?? as it says in Parshas B’shalach, it the fight to strengthen our emuna and bitachon in Hashem, for this weekens the tumah of amalek which tells us things happen “by chance”, “is a coincidence” and “natural, without Hashem”. (R’ Moshe Sternbuch)
It is no fluke that this parsha is always read during Elul. One of the main areas which we all need to work on are our hashkafos and how we perceive the Ribono Shel Olam. There is Hashem and there is a koach of amalek, and they cannot successfully coexist in our minds and in our hearts. Lets evict the one deserving of the eviction this Elul.
nossond welcome back.
are you going to post more of your divrei torah soon?
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This tfilla can be explained looking at the 4 levels of one’s connection to Hashem (when on the way down).
???????? – Present tense. The person who is falling day after day from his madreiga. He is still falling, and he knows it.He desperately wants to land on his feet and resume his connection to Hashem.
?????? – One who has fallen (past tense) and cannot get up. He is lying in bed. He is paralyzed from the waist down (figuratively speaking). His arms and his heart still work, and if he gets enough chizuk and spiritual motivation, he will break out of his state.
????????? – He is incarcerated. His heart is a rock. He cannot free himself, no different than a jailed individual cannot free them self. However, there is still a spark inside, thus there is still hope.
????????? ????? – He is beyond the point of no return. There is no hope to work with them.
For all these 4 categories we still daven to Hashem and ask hat all be saved (on this world as well as the next) ?????? ????????. ??????? ?????? ????????? ?????????. ?????????? ????????? ????????? ?????.
(Shem M’Shmuel)
Here is a list of things which happened on the 23rd of August over the years:
Napoleon leaves Egypt for France en route to seize power. (1799)
The automobile tire chain is patented. (1904)
Japan declared war on Germany in World War I. (1914)
Hebron Massacre during the 1929 Palestine riots: Arab attack on the Jewish community in Hebron in the British Mandate of Palestine, continuing until the next day, resulted in the death of 65-68 Jews and the remaining Jews being forced to leave the city. (1929)
Germany and the Soviet Union sign a non-aggression treaty, the Molotov-Ribbentrop Pact. In a secret addition to the pact, the Baltic states, Finland, Romania, and Poland are divided between the two nations. (1939)
Hans Tiedge, top counter-spy of West Germany, defects to East Germany. (1985)
Saddam Hussein appears on Iraqi state television with a number of Western “guests” (actually hostages) to try to prevent the Gulf War. (1990)
West Germany and East Germany announce that they will unite on October 3. (1990)
Hurricane Katrina formed over the Bahamas (2005)
Democratic presidential candidate Barack Obama introduced his choice of running mate, Sen. Joe Biden of Delaware, before a crowd outside the Old State Capitol in Springfield, Ill. (2008)
The following is from R’ Moshe Sternbuch in his sefer Ta’am V’daas
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1. Why do the eidim need to do the killing?
2. What does it mean at the end of the passuk ????? ???, ??????
Everything we see and hear has an effect on us. These eidim who saw such a horrible aveira being done (e.g. chillul shabbos)it too will have a horrible effect on them. Therefore, it is THESE EIDIM who require ????? ???, ?????, namely, getting this witnessed sin out of their system. Therefore the Torah says it is these witnesses who must carry out the initial stage of punishment.
One who lives in an area with chillul shabbos occurring must take proper precautions to ensure that they do not become immune to it. R’ Sternbuch suggests viewing such people as goyim, lest one come to question why Hashem allows people to be m’challel shabbos without punishing them. (note: he is not saying we should treat them like goyim, but rather that we should consider it like a goy is driving when we see them driving on Shabbos).
Here is a list of things which happened on the 22nd of August over the years:
Jacob Barsimson arrives in New Amsterdam. He is the first known Jewish immigrant to America. (1654)
King George III declares the American colonies to be in open rebellion. (1775)
Nat Turner’s slave rebellion commences just after midnight in Southampton, Virginia, leading to the deaths of more than 50 whites and several hundred African Americans who are killed in retaliation for the uprising. (1831)
The United States annexes New Mexico. (1848)
The first air raid in history. Austria launches pilotless balloons against the Italian city of Venice. (1849)
Cadillac Motor Company is founded. (1901)
Theodore Roosevelt becomes the first President of the United States to ride in an automobile. (1902)
German troops reach Leningrad, leading to the siege of Leningrad. (1941)
Brazil declares war on Germany and Italy. (1942)
Romania is captured by the Soviet Union. (1944)
An attempt to assassinate French president Charles de Gaulle fails. (1962)
Alabama Chief Justice Roy Moore is suspended after refusing to comply with a federal court order to remove a rock inscribed with the Ten Commandments from the lobby of the Alabama Supreme Court building. (2003)
The Storm botnet, a botnet created by the Storm Worm, sends out a record 57 million e-mails in one day (2007)
Here is a list of things which happened on the 20th of August over the years:
Battle of Yarmouk: Arab forces led by Khalid ibn al-Walid take control of Syria and Palestine away from the Byzantine Empire, marking the first great wave of Muslim conquests and the rapid advance of Islam outside Arabia. (636)
Lewis and Clark Expedition: the “Corps of Discovery”, exploring the Louisiana Purchase, suffers its only death when sergeant Charles Floyd dies, apparently from acute appendicitis. (1804)
Charles Darwin first publishes his theory of evolution in The Journal of the Proceedings of the Linnean Society of London, alongside Alfred Russel Wallace’s same theory. (1858)
President Andrew Johnson formally declares the American Civil War over. (1866)
World War I: German forces occupy Brussels. (1914)
The Soviet Union publicly acknowledges that it had tested a hydrogen bomb. (1953)
President Lyndon B. Johnson signed a nearly $1 billion anti-poverty measure. (1964)
Viking Program: NASA launches the Viking 1 planetary probe toward Mars. (1975)
The United States launched Voyager 2, an unmanned spacecraft carrying a 12-inch copper phonograph record containing greetings in dozens of languages, samples of music and sounds of nature. (1977)
Lebanese Civil War: a multinational force lands in Beirut to oversee the PLO’s withdrawal from Lebanon. (1982)
“Black Saturday” of the Yellowstone fire in Yellowstone National Park (1988)
Collapse of the Soviet Union, August Coup: more than 100,000 people rally outside the Soviet Union’s parliament building protesting the coup aiming to depose President Mikhail Gorbachev. (1991)
Estonia secedes from the Soviet Union. (1991)
After rounds of secret negotiations in Norway, the Oslo Peace Accords are signed, followed by a public ceremony in Washington, D.C. the following month. (1993)
The Supreme Court of Canada rules that Quebec cannot legally secede from Canada without the federal government’s approval. (1998)
U.S. embassy bombings: the United States military launches cruise missile attacks against alleged al-Qaida camps in Afghanistan and a suspected chemical plant in Sudan in retaliation for the August 7 bombings of American embassies in Kenya and Tanzania. (1998)
A group of Iraqis opposed to the regime of Saddam Hussein take over the Iraqi Embassy in Berlin for five hours before releasing their hostages and surrendering. (2002)
Spanair Flight 5022, from Madrid to Gran Canaria, skids off the runway and crashes at Barajas Airport. 146 people are killed in the crash, 8 more die afterwards. Only 18 people survive. (2008)
Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice and Polish Foreign Minister Radek Sikorski signed a deal to put a U.S. missile defense base in Poland. (2008)
Here is a list of things which happened on the 19th of August over the years:
Salem witch trials: in Salem, Massachusetts, Province of Massachusetts Bay five people, one woman and four men, including a clergyman, are executed after being convicted of witchcraft. (1692)
California Gold Rush: the New York Herald breaks the news to the East Coast of the United States of the gold rush in California (although the rush started in January). (1848)
The first All-American Soap Box Derby is held in Dayton, Ohio. (1934)
A plebiscite in Germany approved the vesting of sole executive power in Adolf Hitler ym”s as Fuhrer. (1934)
Vietnam War: Viet Minh led by Ho Chi Minh take power in Hanoi, Vietnam. (1945)
In the Northeast United States, severe flooding caused by Hurricane Diane, claims 200 lives. (1955)
Cold War: in Moscow, downed American U-2 pilot Francis Gary Powers is sentenced to ten years imprisonment by the Soviet Union for espionage. (1960)
Saudia Flight 163, a Lockheed L-1011 TriStar burns after making an emergency landing at King Khalid International Airport in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia, killing 301 people. (1980)
Collapse of the Soviet Union, August Coup: Soviet President Mikhail Gorbachev is placed under house arrest while on holiday in the town of Foros, Crimea. (1991)
Hurricane Bob hits the Northeast. (1991)
A Hamas planned suicide attack on a bus in Jerusalem kills 23 Israelis, 7 of them children in the Jerusalem bus 2 massacre. (2003)
Internet search engine Google went public. (2004)
Elisheva
She married Ahron HaKohen
Rashi comments how important it is to look at the brothers of a potential wife
Here is a list of things which happened on the 16th of August over the years:
U.S. President John Tyler vetoes a bill which called for the re-establishment of the Second Bank of the United States. Enraged Whig Party members riot outside the White House in the most violent demonstration on White House grounds in U.S. history. (1841)
U.S. President James Buchanan inaugurates the new transatlantic telegraph cable by exchanging greetings with Queen Victoria of the United Kingdom. However, a weak signal will force a shutdown of the service in a few weeks. (1858)
President Abraham Lincoln prohibited the states of the Union from trading with the seceding states of the Confederacy. (1861)
Restoration Day in the Dominican Republic: The Dominican Republic regains its independence after 4 years of fighting against the Spanish Annexation. (1865)
The 1929 Palestine riots break out in the British Mandate of Palestine between Arabs and Jews and continue until the end of the month. In total, 133 Jews and 116 Arabs are killed. (1929)
The first color sound cartoon, called Fiddlesticks, is made by Ub Iwerks. (1930)
A McDonnell Douglas MD-82 carrying Northwest Airlines Flight 255 crashes on take-off from Detroit Metropolitan Airport in Romulus, Michigan (Detroit), killing 155 passengers and crew. The sole survivor is four-year-old Cecelia Cichan. (1987)
Vice President George H.W. Bush tapped Indiana Sen. Dan Quayle to be his running mate on the Republican ticket. (1988)
U.S. Representative from South Dakota Bill Janklow hits and kills a motorcyclist with his car at a rural intersection near Trent, South Dakota; he will eventually be convicted of manslaughter and will resign from Congress. (2003)
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There is a famous question as to how the Rambam can learn this out the way he does. The Passuk 1st mentions house, then vineyard, and finally marriage. Why then does the Rambam learn FROM HERE that 1st comes parnassa (vineyard) then the home and finally marriage??
Many offer explanations to this issue. The Chassam Sofer says that the answer is quite simple. First the vineyard gets planted, then the house gets built, and finally marriage. However, due to mitzvos on the vineyard (Orla, etc.) the vineyard will not provide fruit befitting for consumption until 4 years after the planting.
Thus, despite the vineyard being mentioned after the house, this is due to the fact that the house was built during the period (post planting, pre-harvesting) of the vineyard. The Rambam saw this, and was thus able to use these pessukim to teach what he did.
So, lets recap. 1st the vineyard was planted, then the house was built (1st passuk) then the grapes became ready (4 years later, 2nd passuk) and finally marriage (3rd passuk).
With Elul right around the corner, I thought this would be a fitting Dvar Torah
R’ Chaim Shmuelovitz said the following dvar torah in Yeshivas Mir, prior to tkias shofar one year.
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The Navi is telling everyone that teshuva needs to be complete. A person is not a ba’al teshuva if they want to remain standing in the middle. One must proceed ?? ???-? ?-????, until Hashem, otherwise one could r”l fall back into their improper ways.
The Gemarra in Sanhedrin tells us about ???, who did things which warranted the title of Rasha Nora.
However, once he did teshuva all that changed. He wrote the second half of ????? (??? ???? ????????) which, by the way is Roshei Tevos ???. When we analyze this tfilla, we see that it has no personal requests. No mention of parnassa, no mention even for chaim. All it mentions is how great Hashem is, and that his Kavod should increase in this world.
This shows us that ??? truly did teshuva ?? ???-? ?-????. For one who is able to reach the level of ?? ???-? ?-???? has no requests for his guf, and aditionally, he biews himself as nothing compared to Hashem.
Here is a list of things which happened on the 15th of August over the years:
Panama City, Panama, is founded. (1519)
A male servant of American architect Frank Lloyd Wright sets fire to the living quarters of the architect’s Wisconsin home, Taliesin, murders seven people and burns the living quarters to the ground. (1914)
The Panama Canal opens to traffic with the transit of the cargo ship Ancon. (1914)
Allied forces landed in southern France during World War II (1944)
World War II: Korean Liberation Day (1945)
India and Pakistan became independent after some 200 years of British rule. (1947)
The Republic of Korea (South Korea) was proclaimed. (1948)
President Richard Nixon completes the break from the gold standard by ending convertibility of the United States dollar into gold by foreign investors. (1971)
Vietnam War: The United States bombing of Cambodia ends. (1973)
The Big Ear, a radio telescope operated by Ohio State University as part of the SETI project, receives a radio signal from deep space; the event is named the “Wow! signal” from the notation made by a volunteer on the project. (1977)
A car bomb in Omagh, Northern Ireland, killed 29 people and injured 370. It was the single deadliest act of violence in 30 years of sectarian violence in Northern Ireland. (1998)
Astronomers announced the discovery of the first solar system outside our own – two planets orbiting a star in the Big Dipper. (2001)
Georgian President Mikhail Saakashvili grudgingly signed a U.S.-backed truce with Russia, even as he denounced the Russians as invading barbarians and accused the West of all but encouraging them to overrun his country. (2008)
Here is a list of things which happened on the 14th of August over the years:
Oregon Territory is organized by Act of U.S. Congress. (1848)
United States Senate leaders agree to rotate the office of President pro tempore of the Senate among leading candidates to fill the vacancy left by William P. Frye’s death. (1911)
China declared war on Germany and Austria during World War I. (1917)
United States Social Security Act passes, creating a government pension system for the retired. (1935)
Rainey Bethea is hanged in Owensboro, Kentucky in the last public execution in the United States. (1936)
Japan accepts the Allied terms of surrender in World War II and the Emperor records the Imperial Rescript on Surrender (August 15 in Japan standard time). (1945)
Widescale power blackout in the northeast United States and Canada. (2003)
Israel halted its offensive against Hezbollah guerrillas as a U.N.-imposed cease-fire went into effect after a month of warfare that killed more than 900 people. (2006)
Toy company Mattel recalled 18.6 million lead-tainted, Chinese-made toys worldwide. (2007)
President George W. Bush signed consumer-safety legislation that banned lead from children’s toys. (2008)
Mazal Tov nooseisko, I covered for you last week, but you still owe is one. I can’t ask you to do another for this week (especially with a newborn at home), so I went looking through my emails to post one of your wonderful pieces which I have saved.
(Note: nooseisko has been sending these divrei torah out via email for a long time, Only recently have I been able to convince him to post them here as well).
Here is one from the archeives, copied and pasted to maintain the same standards of grammar and editing we have come to expect from nooseisko 😉
As kids we all knew 1 thing about moshe………he stuttered, and our gentile neighabors also knew one think bout moses……..he had horns. Anytime someone made fun of a kid for having any speech impediment, the responsible adult would always say “well moshe had one too, and look how far he got”. Now i’m not actually sure what Moshes exact impediment (is that word ever used without the word “speech” coming right b4 it?), but it’s quite clear from the torah that he indeed has something going on…………..or did he?
This parsha (as well as this entire chumash [a.k.a chomesh- which is actually the correct way to pronounce it]) is one long speech from moshe rabeynu. U cant go and make such a huge, long, detailed and important speech with a speech impediment!!!
So maybe moshe was miraculously healed over the years? ( and indeed through the course of history described in the torah it seems to imply that indeed he did, we see that at first moshe describes himself as a “lo ish dvarim anochy”, and now he all of a sudden becomes a “eyle hadvarim” type of person!
So who exactly is moshe?
Lets go back to the “first” moshe, at the time of moshes dramatic afore mentioned statement, which was some sort of last ditch effore to get off the “shlichus” job, but now what type of argument was it? here is a guy that is talking to hashem for crying out loud, now if his speech is good enough for hashem, its obviously good enough for anyone else no? so why was moshe so scared, impediment and all, to speak to paro way back when?
Moshe indeed had an impediment, but he was not embarrassed of it (according to the medrash, it actually came about, by saving his life), he was not scared to speak to anyone, in any situation, and as we see in our parsha he had no problem giving a month long speech, of his own accord, to the entire jewish ppl (the nation which it is probably hardest to speak to!!!!!!), what he was scared of was speaking to a rasha.
Many ppl r very good public speakers, they know wo to speak to their peers, they know how to speak to their superiors, but they in no way know how to speak to ones under them, for that u need an exceptionally good speaker.
Moshe was never scared of his “stutter” it’s what hashem gave him, and he was more than happy with it, it never stopped him in the past, he rebuked the jew for hitting his friend, he spoke up in favor on yisros daughters, but paro……thats a different issue.
Speaking to reshaim is so complicated cuz if u do it even a bit wrong, it will be in the best case scenario pointless, and most probably even detrimental (MENTAL!!!).If u speak to a tzadik and u get mixed up a bit, the tzadiik will still judge u favorable, understand that u were just a bit nervous, and not take what u said in a harmful way, but to a rasha……………. even when u present yourself exactly in the way with which u planned it is still quite unlikely that the rasha with take your words to heart, he will simply distort what u said, and use it for his own twisted advantage.
And we see that indeed (for a certain period of time), Aharon was appointed as moshes lips, Aron the master of making peace had much experiance with speaking to respective “reshaim” throughout his carear, therefore better equipped with dealing with such a man.
When i say rasha……i dont only mean someone like paro, each and every one of us (me) has the areas with which he is a rasha, areas in which he will under no circumstances listen to anyone trying to speak to him, areas in which he twists every word to make it fit within his own idea. And if Moshe was scared that he would not be able to reach paro in this accord, we can see just how serious this matter is………hear yee all yee talkers and listeners
Here is a list of things which happened on the 13th of August over the years:
Spanish conqueror Hernando Cortez captured present-day Mexico City from the Aztecs. (1521)
Invention of stainless steel by Harry Brearley. (1913)
The first two-way telephone conversation by satellite took place with the help of Echo 1, a balloon satellite. (1960)
Terrorist attack killed 150 Palestinians in Beirut. (1978)
President Ronald Reagan signed a historic package of tax and budget reductions. (1981)
Libya agreed to set up a $2.7 billion fund for families of 270 people killed in the 1988 Pan Am bombing. (2003)
Hurricane Charley, a Category 4 storm, strikes Punta Gorda, Florida and devastates the surrounding area. (2004)
President Bush’s political strategist, Karl Rove, announced his resignation. (2007)
Wolf, Just wondering, why could you not have gone to everything but the chuppa?
By the way, this seems like one of those shaylahs which need to be asked to someone who knows your personal situation. I would highly recommend not following what you heard X Rov told Y person when they asked their own personal shaylah
FYI
The entire conversation about children attending their parents wedding, is ONLY a question about attending the CHUPPA. There is no issue of any type in attending the events prior the chuppa or post the chuppa.
There are different opinions on this matter. I know one person who’s children each asked their own Rov, some were told they could see the chuppa, and some were told they should not.
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In Parshas Re’eh, the above passuk appears. R’ Moshe Sternbuch says that the word ?? here comes to teach us an important lesson.
The same way that the succah is considered a temporary dwelling, so to Olam HaZeh, where all pleasures are temporary ones. Your permanent home is in the next world.
The word ?? is telling us that we must view our place on this world in the same vein as our succah. By doing so may we be zocheh to building beautiful palaces for ourselves in the world to come.
Until the one near me gets a mehadrin, I’ll join the boycott
Here is a list of things which happened on the 8th of August over the years:
John Davis enters Cumberland Sound in search of the Northwest Passage. (1585)
Joseph Whidbey and George Vancouver lead an expedition to search for the Northwest Passage near Juneau, Alaska. (1794)
Napoleon Bonaparte set sail for St. Helena, in the South Atlantic, to spend the remainder of his days in exile. (1815)
Thomas Edison receives a patent for his mimeograph. (1876)
Wilbur Wright makes his first flight at a racecourse at Le Mans, France. It is the Wright Brothers’ first public flight. (1908)
The US Army installs the first tricycle landing gear on the Army’s Wright Flyer. (1910)
The millionth patent is filed in the United States Patent Office by Francis Holton for a tubeless vehicle tire. (1911)
Public Law 62-5 sets the number of representatives in the United States House of Representatives at 435. The law would come into effect in 1913. (1911)
The German airship Graf Zeppelin begins a round-the-world flight. (1929)
Workers go on strike at the Hoover dam. (1931)
The building of Mauthausen concentration camp begins. (1938)
World War II: in Washington, DC, six German would-be saboteurs (Operation Pastorius) are executed. (1942)
World War II: the Soviet Union declares war on Japan and begins the Manchurian Strategic Offensive Operation. (1945)
The United Nations Charter is signed by the United States, which becomes the third nation to join. (1945)
Britain’s “Great Train Robbery” took place as thieves made off with 2.6 million pounds in banknotes. (1963)
The Association of Southeast Asian Nations (ASEAN) is founded by Indonesia, Malaysia, the Philippines, Singapore and Thailand. (1967)
U.S. Vice President Spiro Agnew appears on television to denounce accusations he had taken kickbacks while governor of Maryland. (1973)
Kim Dae-Jung, a South Korean politician and later president of South Korea, is kidnapped. (1973)
President Richard Nixon announced he would resign following damaging revelations in the Watergate scandal. (1974)
The United States launched Pioneer Venus II, which carried scientific probes to study the atmosphere of Venus. (1978)
U.N. Secretary-General Javier Perez de Cuellar announced a cease-fire between Iran and Iraq. (1988)
Iran resumed work at a uranium conversion facility after suspending activities for nine months to avoid U.N. sanctions. (2005)
An EF2 tornado touches down in Kings County and Richmond County, New York State, the most powerful tornado in New York to date and the first in Brooklyn since 1889. (2007)
Sonia Sotomayor is sworn in as the first Latina justice of the U.S. Supreme Court (2009)