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almost every kind of chassidus is already living in lakewood at diferent locations with their own shul & rebbe etc…
lakewood has already become brooklyn NJ
From the traffic to the crazy drivers to the housing issues & all the fancy stores & restauants that don’t belong in a torah community like Lakewood & Rav Aharon Kotler ZT”L would never have approved
ftresi
sorry for the misunderstanding but when i wrote a gallon for 2 weeks i meant buying a half gallon each week to go through the week & get a fresh HALF gallon each week as is the popular size & should be enough for just 2 people for a week
wtp
ALL the things you mentioned are already included in the last thing listed on my list of “ALL other expenses besides whats listed from between $300-800 a month” depending on the season & which month it is.
not every tiny bug product is going to be listed for e weekly shopping of a young couple & is why this last listing is written & also has a major difference from lowest 300 to 800 highest
1)the off brand diapers always leak & is not worth the difference in price, i used it for first month after my children were born & almost every diaper leaked
2)as a new couple its not worth the storage space & membership to use costco or bj’s. wait until your a larger family & also use more at a time then just 2 people
3)you can get a Verizon (best) unlimited text & talk today for as low as $30 a month for each phone thats only $60 for both of you
4)im married with children for many years & do food shopping once a week & the average-with years of doing already-is between $50 to $70 a week, we also dont spend such high prices as mentioned by iacasrima we get our sodas at walmart for 99 cents when its on sale & store up versus a jewish store charging 1.99. we get 64oz grape juice not once a month for 4.99 in a jewish store but actually twice a year before the holidays when its on sale at the supermarket for 2.99 & get at least 20 of them to last for 6 months until the holidays come again.
HERE IS YOUR LIST with the mistakes you made in prices & in what ONLY TWO PEOPLE NEED:
1 packages chicken legs
(4 – 6 per package ~ 5 lbs)” 2.19/LB 10.95 (THIS is also 2 peices for a weekday dinner)
1 lb chicken cutlets (weekday dinner)
(3 lb package divided)” 3.99/LB 3.99
Gallon milk 5.00 (can last for weeks if only for 2 people)
2 bottles soda 1.25/bottle 2.50
8 oz cream cheese 2.99
8 oz butter 2.50
2 dozen eggs .99/dozen 1.98
small rye bread 1.50
5 lb flour 3.00
sugar 4 lb bag 2.00
1 loaf gefilte fish 3.99 (each shabbos only needs a half loaf, a loaf makes 10 slices)
2 heads iceberg lettuce
1.29/head 2.58
3 slicing tomatoes
.89/ LB 1.11
3 cucumbers 3/$2 2.00
2 green peppers .99/LB 1.99
Bottle Rashi Wine 4.59 (Simple couple get grape juice for cheaper & don’t need fancy wines)
4 cans tuna fish 1.25/can 5.00
30 0z Jar Mayonnaise 3.99
Total 60.66 SO WHATS YOUR TOTAL NOW IF YOU MAKE THE CHANGES TO WHAT I WROTE IN PARENTESES? PROPBABLY ABOUT $50finally you wanted to know where detergent is on my list? its the last thing listed of all odds & ends of supplies etc… between $300-800 a month every month different depending on the season (is it time for yom tov shopping for clothing or summer time?)
food is not referring to going to fancy restaurants. if a new couple does their weekly food shopping for PACKAGES of food for weekday & shabbos it shouldnt come to be more then approximately $60 a week. also remember were talking about a simple modest couple & not talking about buying every kind of dip for shabbos or fancy foods etc….
car maintainence AVERAGES out to $100 a month over the entire year which means some months for a great new lease there will be zero expenses but in the middle of nowhere a $600 maintainence fee can pop up. i.e. new cars don’t need the mechanic every month like used old cars but things still pop up that need fixing
FOLLOWING IS RANGE OF MONTHLY expenses for a lakewood couple
RENT=750
home utilites=150
car lease=200
2 cell phones=85
auto insurance depends on driving records=150-400 a month for 2 drivers
food=250
gas & oil changes=140
health insurance=depends on income with obamacare & medicaid/ jersey care
car maintainance=100
(cleaning lady=70)
other side expenses (from clothing shopping to gift stores etc….) can be anywhere between 300-800 a monthHatzlacha
gefilta
Shtika, I’m not talking about being rich. I’m simply talking about whether having the means to not have to worry about finances, debt, or any money related stress can aid in one’s level of happiness. I think it can.
actually
the more money a person has the MORE WORRY he has
2 lines to remember. 1)marbeh nechasim marbeh daaga (above in hebrew) 2)haya maya rotze mosayim, “a person with a hundred dollars wants 200 has a million wants 2 million & IS NEVER HAPPY no matter how rich he is he just wants moretorah she bal peh is about EXPLAINING the mitzvos in the torah not about helping you understand them.
Ever heard of a mitzva thats a “chok” ? its a mitzva that that we do because hashem commanded us even if theres no explanation & has no reason other then Hashem commanded us to do or don’t do something.
There are many “chok’s” in the torah.perhaps another option is to learn german. yiddish is not far off from the german language & if you know the german language well then you can get around speaking it for yidish quite well
it can make you happy temporarily for fake & only for a short time (by buying a beer or smoking or taking a vacation etc….)
the only thing that can bring a person to TRUE HAPPINESS is faith & trust in Hashem i.e. bitachon & emunah. once a person has reached true faith in Hashem, he gets to be the happiest person in the world, cause nothing in the world can effect him, he can be robbed or hurt right in front of his eyes but he knows %100 that its all for his good & coming straight from Hashem so he is always happy 24/7
make a daily seder of learning sefer chovos halevovos (duties of the heart) & it will bring you closer to Hashem as you put your faith & trust more into Hashem & stop believing in humans. it can take time & does not happen overnight as every person is tested by Hashem with difficult test to get through this temporary physical world. but every test a person passes brings him closer to Hashem & brings him to the next test at a higher/harder level.
i wish you Hatzlacha as you become happier & happier as you go from level to level
stopping to live in denial & klal yisroel as a nation finally waking up to life & reality with admitting to Hashem that we see his wake-up messages of non-stop horrific tragedies R”L & we are ready to come together as a nation to do teshuva so this can finally stop & mashiach can be here very soon.
i.e. when a child won’t listen to his parent. then sometimes the parent has no choice but to punish his child, we call this a potch of love as every parent knows its for the childs benefit. when so much txaros is hit upon klal yisroel but we still don’t wake up to do teshuva then we leaving our loving father hashem & our crying mother rochel imeinu no choice but to hit us again with more tzaros R”L
May we all do teshuva ASAP so mashiach can come
buy the book yidish for dummies (the yellow book company) they have every language including hebrew also
mazel tov on the upcoming wedding
making your last childs wedding in todays day everyone knows means one thing after the wedding its time for you & your wife to move to Florida….
every state has a different retirement age when social security starts & that age keeps on changing from year to year.
people today are still strong & full time workers into their 70’s & sometimes even close to their 80’s (not just cause their tight on money)
joseph
you wish lakewood was like the country, that was 20 years ago. i think you forgot that lakewood AND monsey have both become big crowded cities. lakewood today has over 112000 residents & can have double by 2030. today lakewood is stuffed to the max & has become very dense with tons of traffic non-stop even forcing people to move into other towns nearby including jackson & toms river etc…
with tragedies in klal yisroel getting worse daily R”L. only 1 thing should be on all our minds INTERNATIONAL TESHUVA
if they are already working full time & are still tight on their budget then they need to changed their spoiled life of this generation & live with the motto of “GET WHAT YOU NEED NOT WHAT YOU WANT”
so many people approach me for budgeting advice on how to get back on track telling me they have 3 cars & go on 3 vacations a year, is there any reason i should be surprised that they are now almost penniless? dont we all know that food clothing & tuition comes before vacations? etc…..
sit down today with your spouse & make a list of all the EXTRAS in your life & home (anything that is not a real necessity i,e. restaurants, fancy peer pressure clothing with fancy family simchas etc….)
HATZLACHA
Your life will change to such a happy life instead of poor, by being happy with your lot as it says in pirkei avos
every community has a group & a org. where OTD & KAR boys/girls hang out & speak to a rabbi they can speak to with any problems they have.
contact the org. in your community & speak to the Rabbi for priceless tips to bring these children back to yiddishkeit & frum again
the best tzedaka that we can help our brothers with, is find them jobs as it says in pirkei avos
curious
bending down on both knees is worse then proposing on kne knee, as sitting or bending/folding both knees is like bowing down to avoda zara
1)perhaps being a rebbe is not actually the BEST kind of job for this person & something in this chapter but a different job is better for him i.e. being a private tutor or a sub which is less pressure on him & a way lots of people start before becoming full time rabbeim. just like lots of jobs first you work for someone to get experience in the business & then you go on your own….
2)it takes a lot of love for torah & love for children to be a successful rebbe. if the person can’t give his entire self to helping each child to stay on track with the rest of the class then he is not ready to be a rebbe.
HATZLACHA
there are many affordable programs for learning a professional parnassa. look into PCS (Professional career services) they have many courses on many job professions which are affordable & not such long courses thus letting you start supporting your family not long after you stop learning (or can take while your still learning for that matter)
Hatzlacha
do you enjoy working in a store versus a different kind of job? do you enjoy reading & seeing different kinds of books?
i.e. a person needs to enjoy his job in order to be matzliach. you can be paid $850 an hour to be a electrician but if you dont enjoy your job you will never be successful
Hatzlacha
lakewood is alreaDy cheapest then any out of town community. not just for education but also to make a large affordable wedding for your daughter & get it for a package price everything. but now lakewood has become a big city & is not simple like it used to be 20 years ago, when the entire town was around BMG & the community was solely based on torah. today lakewood has become a fancy business city with many out of towners moving in for work (& not just cause they want to learn in BMG)
another failing is that the singers are taking pure goyish music with a goyish taam-that affects everyones yiddishkeit-& just changing the words to jewish words.
is it stealing from the original singer? that is a different topic for a different time
ask someone from Baltimore, most of the community works for the government
if they start to get a hire pay then the money will be coming out of YOUR pockets with a rise in tuition rates
where was he rav or Rosh Yeshiva? anyone know?
with the Sechina & hashem in his holy presence & the great himble leader Moshe Rabeinu being with klal yisroel 24/7 it was a lack of trust & faith in Hashem to question Hashem about the land promised to them & not trust Hashem when they were on such a high level & saw such great miracles every day since they left mitzrayim over & over again.
i.e. its a insult & contradiction to question YOUR own father/parents raising you since birth & taking care of EVERY SINGLE NEED, when you never yet saw in your life them not taking care of you 24/7
welcome to the new generation of instant-gratification & self centeredness, where everything is ME ME & ONLY ME
MILLIONS of dollars being wasted & spent on things totally unnecessary, people going on 3 vacations a year with owning 3 cars etc… & then wondering why they can’t pay their bills. Isn’t is obvious that food clothing & tuition come before vacations & fantasy’s?
bottom line: GET WHAT YOU NEED NOT WHAT YOU WANT & be bentched for a much happier life 24/7
tinted glass windows in your home when sunny make you feel locked in your home cause it doesnt let you see through & see everything going on outside thus leaving you alone with your children locked in your house
When someone is bleeding out like that they don’t need someone to come and hold there hand , when they call a first responder, they need someone who can try and stop the bleeding and transport them safely to the hospital so they can get the immediate care that they need!!
If they are first responders then they must know basic first aid and CPR. If a person is in cardiac arrest every Second counts!! These woman on Ezras Nashim should be trained nurses or EMT’s so that if they get a call no one has to wait that long. If G-d forbid a woman is in real danger with her health the fastest most reliable EMT (which I believe Hatzala is best) should be called it should not matter man or woman when someone needs life saving treatment like CPR. As a first responder service there is no excuse that they are not trained in CPR, every teenage lifegaurd is trained to be a first responder and knows basic first aid and CPR.
joseph
not exactly. kaddish is more of storing up zchusim “merits” for the neshama to help him at wherever his neshama is holding in the olam haemes
theres a time & a place for everything, as sad of a day that tisha b’av is a person is not supposed to lighten it up by making jokes, its a day of mourning…. Yom Kippur is a very serious day & being funny lightens the seriouness of the yom tov set aside as a gift of doing teshuva etc…. many other examples…. the way to be menachem avel someone is not by going & making jokes with them….
best to only redt shidduchim if you know both of them & feel it would hopefully-with hashems help-make a good shidduch.
can be based on different reasons. rather they share similar personalities which is very important or life values etc… which is very important too
hatzlacha on becoming a real true successful shadchan
joseph
the BMG yeshiva is behind the deal of cedarbridge LLC & makes alot of money off of it. getting the land from lakewood township for only pennies of what its really worth
the dor hamabul was corrupt & thought they can fool Hashem & he doesn’t see.
in today’s dor we are sadly the same were we think we can fool Hashem & he doesn’t see us stealing USA programs not entitled to by putting your home under someone elses name, by borrowing someone Costco membership to save money that is only for the member on card etc….
even if the stealing is done. YOU can’t fool Hashem & he sees everything from above the world 24-7
Can you get me some food and coffee from the coffeeroom king Joseph?
Definitely much worse especially with all the technology yetzer haras today.