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It happened to me last year. I bought a new screen on ebay. It wasn’t incredibly cheap, but certainly cheaper than buying a new laptop. I installed it buy searching YouTube for a how to video. It was very simple and only took me about 10-15 mins with only a screwdriver needed. Good luck!
BeHappy, I think the Guidelines you are referring to is talking about a normal Tisha B’Av which actually falls out on the 9th of av. This year with Tisha B’av being Nidche to the 10th of Av, the only restrictions are meat and wine as others have said.
Why wouldn’t Hashem be happy that one of his children is acting respectfully and nicely with a yarmulke on, in front of an entire nation, doing his hishtadlus?
And where did R’ Chaim Kanievsky enter this conversation. Would it make him happy? I don’t know, did you ask him and he said no? Just because it doesn’t involve a gemorah, doesn’t mean it’s not a kiddush hashem. Why do some people have such a narrow-minded view of things and think it is their way or the highway?
My Rosh Yeshiva once compared avodas hashem to baseball. In baseball, every infield is exactly the same, but all the outfield’s are different sizes. The infield is the Torah. There can be no changing it, and there can be no deviations. Everything else as far as serving Hashem, there are different paths for different people. That’s the outfield.
Let’s try not to judge people so quickly and disapprove of their actions by assuming R’ Chaim disproves.
@QFY-You are judging the boy and his parents for their decision to allow him to compete.
First of all, while practicing law might seem that way in John Grisham novels or “Law & Order,” it doesn’t exactly work that way. Further, how is it not competing? Each side wants to achieve a different objective. That by definition is competition. It’s the same in business and just about every profession.
So you’re bringing me a Shar Hatziyon which apparently doesn’t even exist according to Sam2, that doesn’t assur anything or even apply to the situation as a basis for condemning the kid’s actions. I’m glad you are such a givaldike posek that you can equate recommending not singing to a baby, (not assuring it), to assuring singing for a parnassah.
@Questionforyou-
You’re thinking exemplifies much of the problem the Frum world faces these days. Gaps in his upbringing? Why because he doesn’t wear black and white? Who do you think you are? Howie, I will agree with you. He is not a religious Jew, but Edon goes to a Frum school and was raised in a Frum environment.
Please explain to me the problem with “singing non-jewish songs to compete with non-Jews on a TV show.”
Is it that the songs were originally sung by non-Jews? Please find me where in the shulchan aruch it says you can’t sing such songs. Do you ever sing the song Happy Birthday?
Does he sing any song with any vulgarity in it? No.
Is it that he is participating in something with non-jews? Like I said, some of us have to go out and earn a parnassah. I have to practice non-jewish law and compete with non-jewish lawyers in a non-jewish court. Is that a problem? Maybe I should just sit and learn and try to live off of other people’s tzdakahe. Oh, and I’ll also condemn those who are giving me the tzdakah for earning the money.
And just to be clear, I have no problem whatsoever with learning in kollel and have a lot of respect for those who do. I have a problem with those who don’t have respect for those not learning in kollel. Especially when you’re willing to take their money.
Guess what? Some people don’t dress like you, some people don’t hold of all the things that you do. But that doesn’t mean you’re any better than them.
I personally know the boy and he is a mentch. Those of you comparing going on AGT to eating treif should be ashamed of yourselves. When your husband’s kollel comes knocking on his door asking for money, I’m sure you’ll have no trouble taking it. Some people need to earn a parnassah. That entails going into non-jewish environments and doing something other than sitting and learning. He is using the kochos that Hashem blessed him with. All three judges are jewish and all commented on what a nice boy he was and how respectful he acted. Thus, a kiddush hashem was made.
It’s a relative “horrible” reputation. It’s still a good school, it just doesn’t have the rep they used to. They fell out of the top 10 in the US news rankings recently but it’s still in the vaunted “T14.” Still better than most schools though.
@ctrl alt del-
Is it a bad thing for people to be mekayem a mitzvah dilegently?
As for your tehillim hypothesis, depending on what shitta, Nisht Pashut. Would you say that about someone who doesn’t hear the megillah and reads tehillim?
What do you mean by “mandatory reporter?” I don’t claim to know how Hashem will judge after 120 but I wouldn’t be so confident that you are doing the right thing by reporting people to the police. Not at all. Especially since dinah dmalchusa dinah may not mean that you have a chiyuv to follow the laws, rather that the government has a right to take taxes, fines etc.
@mbachur-
I recommend a semi-dry (and dry is even better), if you are worried about throwing up. I like the “Selected” wines. And white is easier to get down than red. Trust me, I don’t like it either but after the first couple cups which you chase with some coke, the rest is much easier. Tizku L’mitzvos and Frielichen Purim!
@charliehall-
1) if it fell on shabbos it is muktzah because of nolad
2) If I recall, R’ Moshe says it technically is edible but practically it isn’t eaten.
@rabbiofberlin-
Firstly, like I said if it fell before shabbos, than you should’ve shoveled before shabbos. I have no problem with the OP berating people for not shoveling there snow before shabbos.
So there is muktza, It could be a problem of sosser which I forgot to mention, if the snow is packed together and forms a structure, and it could be a problem of boneh, because you have to put it down somewhere.
As for carrying, chatzi shiur is assur mdrabanon! Just because it’s not a mideorisah daled amos doesn’t mean it’s mutar.
Also I forgot to mention Tircha and uvdin dechol, which is nothing to be sneezed at.
In all likelihood you won’t be over a deorisah but numerous dirabonons
@zehavas dad-
nobody is saying muktza is more important than sakana, It’s that you are the one making it a sakana by going out. If you didn’t go out,the snow would not have walked over and tripped you. and like a previous poster said, if you didn’t realize it was a sakana for you to walk how are you blaming the owner?
@newhere-
all ? most
@newhere-
Read the posts. Seriously.
Gosh
@YW mod 105-
Maybe some people should learn some halachos before announcing something is definitely not muktza.
@YW mod 105-
I actually was just looking up this issue this past shabbos.
If the snow fell on shabbos, It is muktzah according to most poskim because of nolad.
If before shabbos 1) you should’ve shoveled before shabbos
2) There is still a problem of muktza, R’ Bodner’s muktza book brings down R’ Moshe who says that it is muktza no matter what.
Addtionally there is a problem of boneh and obviously carrying if there is no eruv
@zahavasdad-
There are always going to be some people who don’t shovel. Frum or not. So if the snow is so bad for you that it is a sakana, don’t go to shul!
For the first time I agree with you. How do they allow such posts through?
At best-snow is muktza,
At worst- It’s chillul Shabbos midaroisa
Either way I am reminded of a shailo that I heard of a woman who needed medicine on her and it was pikuach nefesh if she didn’t and she wanted to go to shul with the medicine in here shoe.
The Rav said well don’t go to shul
@newhere-
Please read what I wrote.
If there is a city which has streets less than 16 amos (and less than 600,000 people) everyone agrees that one can can carry in it with an eruv.
I wrote everyone agrees to the CONCEPT of eruv, and that there are obviously eruvs which everyone agrees to.
(I’d also like to know where you are getting that all streets are 16 amos long, but that has nothing to do with what I was saying)
@daas yochid-
As I said on here previously, they aren’t just putting up a name and it magically tastes better. The franchise prescribes uniform standards for food preparation, along with cleanliness standards, and building design (which just adds to the aesthetic appeal).
A kula is not anytime that there is any sort of machlokes, at least that is not how it’s used by most people.
@newhere-
How does not being an expert in eruvin= I don’t know the facts, but I know I’m right and you’re wrong.???
Are you saying you are an expert in eruvin? oh I’m sorry, I didn’t realize that one of the few experts in eruvin spends his time in the YWN CR.
Are you saying the whole concept of eruvin is a kula? Because that’s all I’m trying to say. And if you are actually saying that, maybe it’s time to open up any halacho sefer that has to do with eruvin.
And please don’t throw out “most rishonim and “a Rov” without bringing down sources.
@daas yochid-
That’s the most common way to reply to someone on the internet.
Also, I’m no posek, but the people who work for the hashgachas are.
@daas yochid-
I am aware of those things (I read the teshuva). What you are saying has no relevance to whether it’s a kula or a chumra. He kept CY: probably because he wanted to be machmir. He recommends a baal nefesh keep CY yes, because he thinks a baal nefesh should be machmir.
I am aware that other poskim do not agree, but…
@newhere-
Kula is the WRONG term, not only not the best term. It’s my pet peeve because when I was in elementary school the boys who didn’t keep cholov yisroel were made fun of for being mekel and I thought that they were factually correct (though had disgusting middos), than in beis midrash I learned the teshuva, and I found out that it’s not true at all.
As for eruvs, notice how you both used most eruvs, and almost all eruvs. That is not the concept of eruv. I’m no expert in eruvin, but I’m pretty sure that everyone agrees to the concept, seeing as there is a whole mesechta in shas about it.
@daas yochid-
wow, picking up on two of my pet peeves.
1)eating only Cholov Yisroel is a chumra. You have never read R’ Moshe’s teshuvos on it. I know this for a fact because you said what you said. You probably heard that it was a kula not to keep it, but you wouldn’t say that if you actually read the teshuva. Look it up.
2) The local eruv? Are you saying all eruvs are kulas? that would be too crazy to say, so where is local? Please don’t tell me NYC. Because I don’t want to have to explain that there is a world outside of NY again.
I’ll take one
Thanks
@derechhamelech-(it is it’s im yirtzeh hashem by you)
Just because there is one place that sells subs doesn’t mean its the same thing. The bread they use for the subs is supposed to be very good along with the sauces, dressings etc. Some restaurants are better than others.
You are also falling into the trap of “the whole world is NYC.” All the subways mentioned aren’t in NYC. There is no Essex on Coney in these places.
@real-brisker-
Do you have a problem with the kosher lamp? It’s trying to be like the goyim and finding a “loophole” for something that’s assur, turning on a light. What about a blech? It’s finding a “loophole” to keep food warm on shabbos. There are no problems with “loopholes” in the torah. (Other than to put up safeguards and that isn’t a problem of being a “loophole”). Hashem knows what he wants to assur and he doesn’t need you saying “no I know that the Torah says that is mutar, but I know better”
@derechhamelech-
It isn’t taking the name Subway, it’s part of a franchise. They have the same food (except with this one it’s kosher). I guess I can understand if you thought that Subway was just taking it’s name to be like the goyim.
How is subway “finding a way out of this?” If it’s a kosher subway, they obviously don’t do this. If they have fake cheese. Great. That just shows that the reason you aren’t eating it is because the torah says so, not because you don’t like it.
and as for daas, I…I think that was his point. It’s called a joke.
kavod hatorah-
can u cite to where they said this? Because while I don’t know much about R’ Ruderman, I know a big Chaim Berliner whose Rav was R’ Hutner and he is the one who takes out the garbage, not the wife.
i agree brisk, i don’t understand why people eat. Such a goyish thing, at least when I give into the satan I only eat things from Lieber’s or Paskez.
But seriously, Can we all try and tone down the hyperbole? It really is the most despicable thing you ever heard of for someone to open a kosher restaurant which is part of a goyish chain?
@apushtayid-
“how many balabatim are bney aliyah {and the few that are, its great}
This surely ranks as one of the most hateful things ever written on YWN.”
agreed
I actually think that even if you did win that paying for things on a date is the most important aspect of chivalry on a date. The guy is responsible for being the breadwinner and that should start from day 1. But yeah I sympathize-paying for parking especially can be a big strain on the wallet.
Thanks, you too. and if you (or anyone) think of a better approach; please post it.
@tbt
The only reason I pressed the subject was because of the “right” comment.
@dunno-
I’m not saying what I’m doing is right. I explicitly said “there is no right thing” to do in my previous posts.
I agree that someone’s going to be left out and I’m only only choosing not to do it because Shav V’al Taaseh, (meaning when you are unsure of what to do it is better to take no action, than to take an action).
@tbt
Sure
As for your first point of Dunno only saying what she prefers a post of dunno’s;
“I explained several times why I think it’s the right thing to do.”
As for your second point;some of my posts-
“I guess you’re just saying that you appreciate it and that’s fair.”
“I think you are well entitled to appreciate it”
“That’s why you prefer it, and that is fine”
I don’t know where you see that I’m not saying it’s okay for her to have emotions. I don’t know where you see that I’m attacking anyone’s emotions or feelings C”V.
@apushtayid-
learning always has a positive effect and refines one who learns it except in very rare cases (if you learn for the sake of using it to argue with people which may be true of the leaders of the haskalah movement, see the sugya on Torah shlo lishmah bah lishmah).
@dunno-
Well that is what you are saying when you say that it is the “right” thing to do to walk to the door. You are saying forget those girls in group 1, only do what girls in group #2 like. And it’s okay to not care about those girls because it’s “chivalrous.”
@oomis-
I don’t know if you care, but I would rather appreciate it if you would either take back you’re strong words about boys who don’t walk the girl to the door. Or, if you still do feel that way, would you please explain why you feel that way despite the obvious amount of girls who prefer that it not be done?
@oomis-
“Actually, there is no probably about it.”
From your post I understood that you were saying there is no doubt that we should not respect bochurim who smoke. I agree that smoking is not the right thing to do. However I wouldn’t say that just because someone does something which I don’t respect, I can’t respect them as a person. I can respect them for everything else they do. Like I said nobody is perfect. Therefore just because a bochur smokes does not mean that there is no question that you shouldn’t respect him. He could be very wonderful otherwise.
I noted the comma remark not because you tried to clarify the post (which is quite understandable), but because I wanted to make sure I was understanding what you were saying.
@dunno-
Forget about what I will personally do for just a second and please answer the question.
I thought I made it as clear as humanly possible.
Facts: 1. Some girls don’t want to be walked to the door
2. Some girls do want to be walked to the door
So you think it’s chivalrous. Are you saying you think that chivalry is more important than the feelings of those girls in group #1?
@shlomozalman-
well put.
@oomis-
If the comma is after not, then it would mean probably not (respect them), correct?
As Wolfish said, you can still respect them, while still disapproving of one thing that they do. Do you only respect perfect people?
dunno-
You’re right I will try to spell it out.
Facts: 1. Some girls don’t want to be walked to the door
2. Some girls do want to be walked to the door
You think that the girls in #2 are “right” and that they are the only ones who should be considered and treated as they prefer.
Why?
@dunno-
I can and I will; If a girl doesn’t like something I don’t think it should be done no matter how chivalrous it is. I think it’s more important for a guy to act like a mensch than for him to be chivalrous.
@dunno-
That’s why you prefer it, and that is fine, but why is it the “right” thing to do?
I agree with you that the sample size is too small to tell whether it is a clear majority or minority, but I think we can tell that there is a substantial size of each one.
And I also agree it would be nice if we could obtain that trait somehow. it would sure solve a lot of problems.
I always say that Im ain torah ain kemach is the least quoted line in Pirkei Avos while im ain kemach ain torah is one of the most.
I do think that there are a loud few who ruin it for the rest of the yeshiva bochurim.
@dunno-
If you thought that maybe say that 50 posts ago. = We’ve already given reasons why girls don’t want to be walked to the door(I’m not going to rehash this whole thread) . I’ve yet to see a reason for not having the door opened other than it’s unnecessary which isn’t a reason not to open the door rather it’s a reason not to care.
The fallacy with your logic is that when the sample size is lets say 15 girls, and 7 of them prefer not be walked to the door. than that is a substantial minority (like this coffee room). When the sample size is everyone that I’ve ever spoken to and I’ve heard girls talk about preferring not to be walked to the door, but none who really cared about opening the door, than two girls who wrote a blog isn’t a good sample size.
You obviously still think that walking a girl to the door is the right thing to do. I’m fine with that- but you need to explain yourself as to why. Do you think that there is no substantial minority which prefers not getting walked to the door? Do you think that your opinion is the only one that matters? Do you think that men should have a supernatural ability to “sense” what you appreciate on a first date, as it seems tbt thinks?what is it?
Just because you found two girls who have a blog doesn’t mean that they constitute a substantial minority. anyways good for them.
And I never came to that conclusion-why would you give them points? Do you think that they might be mind readers? Hey it could be, I don’t know.
I think you are well entitled to appreciate it… however why “give points?”
@dunno-
“whatever”
That’s not the point-the point is that I have yet to hear of a girl who prefers NOT to have the car door opened. Most don’t care either way.
@oomis-
You seem to be an expert on manners, which is funny because the way I was raised was that the worst thing that you can do to someone is ignore them. Worse than insulting them, because at least you acknowledge them. But than again I’m no gadol in manners like you are.
You don’t think it’s rude to insult the character of a girl who isn’t as exacting and finicky as you are. I would think that she just has different preferences.or at worse is a mevater. But than again I’m no gadol in manners like you are.
@dunno-
That seems more like they don’t care than they davka prefer it not to happen and while there seem to be a significant amount who don’t like getting walked to the door, there doesn’t seem to be for getting the door opened. Opening the door is also much more common and accepted.
1st timer-
I don’t think that every time someone says that “R’ Chaim says X” you have to believe them that R’ Chaim actually said that. In fact, I would highly recommend that you not do that.
@dunno-
Because I have yet to hear about a girl b’davka preferring that her door not be opened. I really thought we were making progress. I guess not.
@oomis-
I would appreciate it if you would address my points.