mikehall: Even a “small wedding” by frum standards costs money. Even the smallest halachically acceptable wedding involves feeding 12 people and that’s counting the edim, mesader kiddushin etc in the minyan. As hard as it might be for some of us to grasp there are people, even in America who are actually poor in the realest sense of the word.

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I’m thinking flashmob chuppa in times square.

I say good shabbos to every Jew I pass on Shabbos. I live in Brooklyn, but I guess I really don’t belong here.

A couple more that I didnt post on the other thread:

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Both of these are pesukim. If you want chazals, be very specific about what you want and from which period.

observanteen: you should be very careful about believing detailed predictions about the future that come from anywhere but navi itself. Often people execute what is called the Texas sharpshooter fallacy which is the technical term for the famous mashol of the Dubno magid about the archer who paints the targets around his arrows. People take suitably vague sayings — a particular favorite is Nostradamus, or in frum circles the “bible codes” — and when something happens they drey it around to “prove” that this was all predicted a long time ago. They often also try to prove by the same methods that you should give them money.

There is a nevua in zecharya that describes the days before the coming of mashiach as a time when the sun will be blotted out and peoples flesh will melt off there bones while still alive. It sounds eerily like nuclear and biological warfare. Read it inside.

When it happened to each of my parents in different years, they were both told that they can receive, but should send less than usual and that while the meal is a seudas mitzva, they can only invite guests who have a chazaka of three or more years coming to us.

You don’t want a rabbi, you want a rebbe. Only rebbe’s talk about peoples’ accounts upstairs with authority.

Wait till I hit the first really frustrating bump in my current project, and bring it over. 🙂

Many people do think mentchlichkeit is a davar assur. Personally, I get up for anyone who looks like they need it, regardless of age or sex. The exception is old people, who I get up for because it’s the halacha even if they look like they could mop the floor with me.

Sounds a lot like my father’s day except that he does go back out for maariv.

I heard the first story from an old yid about a maggid in Lita who only had one drasha. It was apparently a very old trick.

1-Call ahead to ask what you can bring and what time to come.

2-Come on time, with what you said you’d bring. Even if they said “nothing” some flowers or a bottle of wine is a good idea.

3-Offer to help (yes, even men.)

4-Compliment them on their kids.

5-Talk to everyone including the children.

There used to be two kosher subways in Brooklyn. They went out of business because they were both too close to more established kosher sandwich places. There still is a traif subway on Kings Highway in Brooklyn that has a sign up reading very clearly “This subway is not kosher”

This is the utterly nonconfrontational story of my totally uneventful day:

I went to shacharis. I came home. I ate. I went to shiur. I went to class. I hung out with friends and studied. I davened mincha. I went to class again. I did some more work. I went home and worked some more (with time-wasting on facebook and the coffeeroom.)

yossi: If there was a PM feature here we could do it that way. I guess it’s up to the mods to give emails. Do you want to ask them to exchange emails for us?

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We don’t give out personal information, ever.

I’ve said in many (deleted) posts that God is absent from the typical boys yeshiva education. That is a major problem.

Derech HaMelech: You quoted the pasuk stating ??? ????? ??? ??? ?? ?? ???? ??? The rest of the very next pasuk reads ??????????? ??? ?????? ????????? ???? ???? ???????? ???? ????? ????????? ?????. That implies hishtadlus.

Before the flamewar starts, I just want to add something else. While I disagree with you on most issues, as someone who learns Rav Kook and lives in America, I believe that in certain realms of ruchniyus I do not come up to your toes.

I heard that, but I don’t know the source. How is it proven that it isn’t from the Gra? Is it known who it is from?

Kesuvos and Horiyos.

Looking back, I’ve realized how much of what (little) halacha I know was learned because of an offhand remark. I hear some random din, and I look it up to find the context and I end up learning a couple halachos of RaMBaM or seifim of Shulchan Arukh with commentaries. So I’ll start with this one:

On Rashi tefillin, the end of the thread is placed in front of the first charitz (on the shel Rosh), on Rabbeinu TaM the sofrim place it at the second one.

Shticky Guy: Most of those names are ones that sound strange to you simply because you aren’t used to them. Aram might be a problem because his descendents were reshaim. But what’s wrong with names like Chelon, Elyasaf, Charmi, Chur, Yehoshaphat, or Mishael?

PS I can tell you exactly who all of those were without google or a Tanach in front of me.

PPS I once knew an Elyasaf.

midwesterner: That was my point. I was being sarcastic.

In other words, “normal teenage stuff” from thirty years ago is ok, but “normal teenage stuff” is suddenly terrible and destructive when it’s actually being used.

And the meaning of happiness (lifted from wiktionary)

Noun

happiness (uncountable)

The emotion of being happy; joy.

Good luck; good fortune; prosperity.