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if you think yichus is important and will only marry based on someone’s yichus then you are a baal gaava jerk with mental issues.
Being a chossid isn’t about what minhagim you keep or how you dress. Sadly in this day and age there are many who think being a chossid is their appearance and they put a lot of work into such. Meanwhile puting down others not as strict or who dress differently than them. Perhaps the same divide that existed between the scholars and simple people in Europe is the divide between levels of religious observance and perception of religious observance today? While there may be benefits to these minhagim and these modes of dress they do not actually express chassidus at all. Chassidus is something which must be learned and absorbed into ones character traits. Chassidus is taking the teachings from the Rebbe and like the baal shem tov who wrote in the letter we have from him… yafutzu m’yanois chutza which will bring moshiach. So to answer your question as to how will their children turn out? That depends on the parents decision as to what type of education they will receive and upon the child as he/she grows older as to how they will liver their life
I understand why someone might only be interested in marrying someone also from a frum family raised with the same hsakafa.
However, as a bt I find it both very frustrating and hurtful that there exists this discrimination against me as I did not chose my parents but I am responsible for how I live my life now.
Not only that but there are more girls who I might be introduced to who wouldn’t have a problem with me being a baal teshuva, however, those are are supposed to be doing the introducing have put people like myself in a box in which we could only possibly go on a date if we have exactly the same background.
As I write this right now there are those who know me and who know that I am looking for a shidduch and if I were from a frum family they would have lots of suggestions.
With the emphasis that is put into yichus and what family one comes from how is it possible to find my bashert despite the discrimination?