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Sparkly: My pleasure, consider reading “scaring me” as informing you 🙂

As for epithelial/connective/muscle/nerve – you will probably see slides of them on your test, I think your lab test if ur taking A&P lab, you will have to name the tissue by the cells so remember what they look like. You probably also need to know function of them as well.

Epithelial tissue – lining of organs, protection, insulation, outer skin. Think lining of stuff. You’re gonna have the breakdown of simple columnar, stratified, squamous, pseudo stratified, ciliated, blah blah blah so know that.

Connective – adipose looks like soft clouds, hyaline cartilage is messy and crowded looking, There’s a few different types of cartilage so be able to recognize them, can’t remember all of them. Function: connects stuff? Oh and bone is CT also, very distinctive with the rings and rings of circles (lacunae).

Muscle – skeletal – stringy looking, with the borders in between the muscle cells. And little dots to show the nucleus – thicker than smooth. Cardiac – looks like skeletal but it branches out. Smooth – thinner, no striations, lighter usually. Function: strength, moves stuff

Nerve – you can’t miss it. You see the fried egg look of the nucleus and the long tail of the axon. Electric connectivity.

Make index cards or matching or if you are walking on the street look at someone and think to yourself what the names of their body parts. Slightly creepy so be careful, maybe ask a friend to stand still for you instead, but it’s a great way of remembering where everything is. Also, on the test you always have your own body so if you can remember the names of each structure by naming parts of your body, that will help you.

why are you doing this to yourself? What are you going for? You might not really need it.

Ok, so I’ve taken Anatomy and Physiology 1 and 2 and Organic Chemistry 1 and 2.

Basically – A&P is fantastic! Yes, you learn a lot of material but because it is basically about your body which you are fairly familiar with, it is easy to memorize and understand. It’s fundamental for any medical job and even for non medical people, it is a great class because you understand your body and its function and will give you a greater understanding when dealing with regular function and illness. Case in point – Hirschprung disease. When the doctor says, “the problem is in the baby’s colon” – you have learned where and what and the function of the colon.

From the Torah aspect – so important. You will have a much harder time taking your body for granted and gain an indispensable appreciation for the magnificent and intricate body Hashem has designed for us and that we barely scratch the surface of understanding its design and purpose.

orgo – absolutely awful

To those yechidim who will say “huh? I loved orgo! Best class ever! How could anyone have a hard time with it?”…consider yourselves blessed for you are not of this earth. You may also have chosen not to get married mid semester like I did, which may have helped things.

For those engaged girls going for OT/PT/PA and are in that situation, it can be done but very in advisable.

Like another poster said – it’s like memorizing a cookbook and all the recipes except having to know exactly which slice of onion will touch either the pot, the oil or another onion to continue the reaction.

If you have to, definitely arrange your schedule to let orgo be your main focus for the semester if you can.

I’m in PA school now, took it as a requirement and never found it to be helpful. I think it’s a “weed out” course for college admissions people.

Torah connection – I haven’t found any but posters feel free to let me know. The intricacies are too detailed and are too difficult to relate to everyday Iife to have an inspirational element but you never know.

Yes, there are many.

Contact your local post-seminary girl for detailed instructions.

from LI- I agree that as soon as you find the right one, you should get married. But I think the topic is really pertinent. Society, our Frum society dictates how we spend money.

When people get married, most will absolutely refuse to have minimal weddings and to cut down on expenses. No one wants to feel weird and not the norm when they get married and the slightest deviation from the norm is painful. Ex. not having a sushi station, getting a gold bangle instead of a diamond bracelet…

This is what’s unreasonable. As a wonderful young man once told me, all you need to get married is a minyan. You can even splurge for chinese. If you ignore the societal, one upping that we have fallen into, weddings could be affordable and enjoyable by all. Unfortunately, we can’t do that. It’s too hard to be different and feel like the neb. This we learned from infanthood.

I don’t know anyone who had to collect for their own wedding or someone who got married based on donations, but were the donations needed for a fancy wedding hall, pearl jewelry and a gold watch? Or was the money needed for rent, a refrigerator, pots, and the gemach rental for the gown?

To clarify though, its not just the kids’ fault. Anyone who turns their nose up at the jewelry the neighbor’s kallah got, or sneered how “The Goldsteins just had fruit and cake by the shmorg”, is contributing to the problem.

If you have the money, then by all means go all out. But when everyone feels that they need to get married off like the rich people, you run into this problem.

If we stop looking over our shoulders at what our neighbors are spending and spend what we can afford, there will be much less of a problem of people spending money they don’t have. Of course, that is quite obvious, and yet when will it happen?

From a guy’s perspective: you need the ring and the girl and a minyan.

From a girl’s: it’s gonna be alot!!

Mentally walk through a wedding that you stayed at for the whole time and write down everything you can think of. Tiny little details can be inexpensive and make the wedding nicer and everyone happier….like lots of water and CUPS for after second dance.

If you get caught up in wedding frenzy….there’s always the guy’s way!! Minyan, pie of pizza and done!

I think sheitels are something that, when you look a little deeper, you find it disturbing. Yes, the purpose of covering your hair after marriage is tzniyus but everyone has to admit that a decent sheitel looks better than natural hair. Alot of times, Non Jewish people ask me about this. “If you’re covering your hair for modesty, why does your wig look so good?” After all, even when a married lady takes off her sheitel/snood/tichel, the hair gets crushed and unsightly after just a few months, so even if she had stunning gorgeous hair before her wedding, I think that most women will agree that they feel prettier with the sheitel on. I think, however, that banning sheitels is a misguided way to do things. Just like everything, use moderation.

Don’t get a sheitel that is too attracting, and every women knows what that is and does not need to have it explained. If you get a decent, normal length, natural color sheitel and keep it a normal style for weekdays and a nice curl or blowout for shabbos, there shouldn’t be that many problems with tzniyus.

When girls go beyond the line, they know it. I do not believe that girls have no idea when they are dressing innapropriately. They know it and I’m sure their husbands are aware also of what they are doing. No Asifa will solve this problem. It’s a Hashkafa problem of girls dressing up for others, or just wanting to be the prettiest girl around, something that they’ve learned it valuable. If the yeshiva world will value middos and tzniyus for its own sake instead of “frummer than thou” status, girls will respond and naturally wear more tzniyus items.

Barry

You’re right that we have to make a clear distinction publicly that these sort of fringe groups do not represent the Jewish majority. The problem is that its really hard for manhigei Yisrael to label this group as problematic. Neturei Karta is very anti zionistic so they side with people who are also anti zionist. The problem is that in this post-WWII era, people will not openly say they are anti semitic, they’ll say they are anti zionist. So these groups are siding with people who hate Jews.

Unfortunately, the Manhigei Yisrael will not openly say this. The Yeshivish Olam can also be said to be anti-Zionist, in that they are against the government and the establishment of the state of Israel. However, the Yeshivish Olam does not side with non-Jews to protest. Because of the similarities of mindset, I believe there will not be a clear distinction made between these radical groups and mainstream Orthodoxy. Without a clear distinction made, the secular government can’t prosecute radical anti Israel and anti-Jewish protests by the Neturei karta. So, their actions are protected by freedom of speech and they will not stop their behavior.

There are some really great opinions here. Seems like everyone is hurting and really wants to help single girls and boys out.

Just to add my two cents. As a girl, I can really only speak for girls.

I feel that the ridiculously insane pressure for shidduchim is the worst problem. It pushes girls into a state of desperation, hopelessness, and despair that has to be seen to be believed. I’ve been there and its awful.

The only advice is to have meaning in your life that is only for you. If you hate your job but you’re doing it because you can leave at any time if you get engaged, then quit and do something you love. Go fun places, do fun things. Busy, exciting people are attractive. You will have something to offer, have what to talk about on dates, and present a picture of a unique and attractive individual that a boy will want to know more about. Also, if you have meaning to your life besides needing to get engaged as soon as possible, you will have a clearer head to make the decision to marry someone.

Also, think about money, if you want a learning boy you need it. If you want a working boy, you need it. That’s just the way it is. Secretaries and assistant teaching jobs don’t make money. You don’t have to be rich but you must have a plan.

I think it would be great if boys and girls could treat each other as adults. The initial few dates are just much easier and more comfortable with a shadchan in between. But after the couple feels mutual interest, they have to progress and treat each other as mature adults. Communicate directly, discuss where to go on dates, be mindful of the boy’s finances.w Don’t shy away from difficult conversations. Cover every topic as a mature adult and not a sweet aidel maidel who would rather her mother ask the hard questions for her. Life is hard and you need to know if you can trust this boy with your life and your deepest secrets. Just not on the first date, wait till later dates.

I know some people felt that girls should pay on dates because of….? So that they can show that the girl has money? So the girl can demonstrate her feminist side? So the girl can show that she can budget?

Let me pose to you then, boys. Would you like the girl to pick you up in a fancy car and then pay for the date? If it works for you go for it.

To my understanding however, most girls want to be taken care of by their husbands, i.e, taller, stronger, kills bugs for them. Girls wooing boys is counterintuitive and not what any girl I know wants.

Most of all though, I feel terrible that we are stuck in such a formal and costly system. Expectations are super high and extremely regimented and cause a lot of pain. Remember that you are a valuable person and that if the system is not working for you, you can change it. The shidduch system is not halacha, it is artificial.

Many girls are anxiously waiting for the phone to ring and would be happy to go out at any time. Instead of whining that guys come hairier and you can’t go to Dougie’s, be happy that you are spending time with someone who is considering marrying you.

And guys are hairy, that’s just the way they come, clean shaven is unnatural for them.

Besides, it’s easier to go to milchig places, food is neat and pretty and occasionly cheaper.

Have fun! And you can still get engaged on Tisha B’av to save on L’chaim cake!

How about just something sweet and personal? I think the one knee thing is kind of hollywood movieish, and your knees will get all dirty! Write a poem, watch fireworks at night, write words on a cake…possiblities are endless! As a girl though, I would want more thought involved than flashiness…think what she likes and what she would like to happen, maybe she’s the type to want bended knee? If she does, the halachic shailos are between you and your rav.

I think its interesting that girls are being called shallow for wanting a husband in learning. Has Torah become a commodity to be bought and sold now? Apparently it has. Actually, I think its just the Bais Yaakovy circle, the girls who went to BY seminaries and are now teaching/TTI/office jobs who would only marry a learning guy. They have so much of their life circumscribed that they could not fathom standing up and having a creative opinion. There are a very select few girls who have such a burning love for Torah that that is the only thing they want in a husband. For those girls, nothing less than a talmid chochum is what they want and deserve.

For others, the girls who have been exposed to the realities of life, namely the costs of a frum lifestyle, do not want the kollel lifestyle. From what I hear, kollel only lasts a few years and then the husband starts looking for work, with no skills and probably no high school diploma. For this entire time, the girl is supporting and raising a growing family solely on the income of her teaching/office/special ed/speech therapy job.

Some girls, in fact many girls do not want this lifestyle. It’s just not fair to them! If a married woman is raising the children shopping, cooking, laundry, doctors appointments with the kids, PTA….all the while holding down low paying job to cover all the expenses….what is she recieving from her talmid chochum husband? A dvar torah at the shabbos table? Being able to tell her friends that she has a husband in kollel? It gets old fast.

I believe that most girls have seen this path and have chosen not to go down it, instead asking about a learner earner – a man who is a frum, good person, who likes Yiddishkeit and likes to learn but feels a responsibity to provide for his family.

I believe that yes, girls are being shallow and afraid by only wanting to marry a learning guy. I know many girls and believe me, only very few of them truly have this burning love for Torah with the discipline to provide for the home without the physical contributions from her husband.

Girls are shallow, but so is the society we live in. This is just one manifestation of the materialism and externally focused society we live in.

How sad that Torah has become so cheap as to become mere bragging rights.

You are obviously going through a difficult time.

May Hashem help you with your struggle.

The best segula for shidduchim is to drive for a bais yaakov’s chesed program. My list of drivers is getting shorter and shorter as everyone gets married.

Contact your nearest BY school and volunteer! You’ll make their day!

Because a “good” girl would never step foot into college, this would label her unfit for a learning boy, a poor girl is theoretically doomed to settle for less than her dream of a learning boy because she will never escape her “poor family” status.

Thinking in mathmatical terms, money is important to have to enable menuchas hanefesh to learn. But hasn’t history proved this wrong, with many gedolim living dirt poor?

There is too much emphasis on gashmiyus in the system with all pressure placed on the heads of girls to live up to ridiculously high standards because in this system, boys (and their mothers!) hold all the power. Midos seem to have become the icing on the cake not what one looks for in a shidduch. Money, looks, grades…all gashmiyus.

If this is what a learning boy bases his marriage on, there is almost no question that he will fail in learning simply because of his disgusting lack of midos.

Derech Eretz kadma latorah.