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lb: and if I have a question about kashering/toveling something I ask a Rov; not consult the Coffee Room.
ubiquitin: What chanukah music is considered assur? Al Hanisim from Amudai Shaish Boys Choir? Moaz Tur? Yevanim Nikbutzu from London School of Jewish Song? or Ben Tzion Shenker A”H? or Dovid Dardashti?
LB: Not even close. It is personal.
Places like OHEL may keep these types of statistics. I remember reading that there was a 30% divorce rate in the Jewish Population (not just the “frum” velt).
ZD: I think we are in agreement with each other.
trust789: I don’t believe that this is a case of a person being timid.
LB: EYE-A-SIS-ARE-EM-EM-A
LU: And the person suddenly became physically abusive while pregnant with #9?
ZD and LU: While “standard time” is a “modern day” invention, there were always two type of hours. The first, 12 “hours” of daylight and 12 hours of “night” commonly known as “shaah zmanios” which is used for halachic times such as Krias Shemah and Sof Zman Tefilla. In addition the chachomim understood that there were 24 hours, each hour consisting of 1080 Chalakim. This is how they calculated that each month is exactly 29 days, 12 hours, and 793 Chalakim.
LU and MW13: OP asked for our opinions. I am entitled to mine. You don’t have to agree. That’s why it’s only an opinion. I have firsthand knowledge of 5 divorces that took place within months of the chasunah; all in the last 12 months.
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Moderator: I understand (somewhat).
There are numerous reasons starting with the shidduch process itself. We expect two people who barely know each other make a decision in 3-4 weeks after meeting less than 10 times; get engaged and barely talk/see each other during the engagement period and then get married and expect everything to work. In the 1960’s and 1970’s people dated (courted?) for a number of months before they even thought of getting engaged.
In addition, we live in a society where we don’t allow our children to experience adversity and build a coping mechanism to deal with it. They come into marriage and don’t know how to deal with the slightest test and immediately give up.
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LU: from what I read the local population never asked the question and therefore they always held that they were 7 hours ahead of EY and fasted the first day. Some talmidim that came from Europe were told that there was a question about the dateline and to try to get a psak. That is why the different yeshivos sent messages to EY. R’ Chaim Ozer was niftar about a year before this happened and their was no recognized ‘Godal Hador’. The Chazon Ish was still not well known. However, the Mirrer Mashgiach was told previously by R’ Chaim Ozer to follow the psak of the Chazon Ish.
LU: From what I heave read (and it certainly is not everything on the subject), most people did not fast two days and did not daven the Yom Kippur davening both days. The machlokes as to where the dateline is, is based on a gemorrah in Mesechta Rosh Hashana that discussed how Rosh Chodesh was established in the times of the Beis Hamikdosh. The Chazon ish based his psak on the Ba’al Hamoar who wrote that the dateline is 6 hours east of EY. R’ Tuckazinsky holds the dateline is at a longitude that is between Hawaii and the mainland USA. Therefore, Japan is 7 hours ahead of EY just like the International dateline. My disagreement with Geordie13 is what day they davened and fasted for Yom Kippur.
ZviWeiss: As I complained to another poster….you are responding to a thread that has been dormant for 2 years and commenting as if the thread is being currently discussed. Please be mindful that the people who posted two years ago may not remember what they said.
LU: What I meant was that the Chazon Ish paskened was to treat one day as completely weekday and the other as Yom Kippur. I will try to explain this and hope it is correct. There are 24 time zones across the globe based on the 24 longitudes. According to the accepted International Date Line it is currently Tuesday 5:30 PM in NY, Wednesday 12:30 AM in EY and Wednesday 7:30 AM in Japan. What we say is that Japan is 7 hours ahead of EY time. However, according to the Chazon Ish, the Halachic Date Line is 90 degrees East of EY. Japan is 100 degrees East of EY. Therefore, halachically Japan is 17 hours BEHIND EY time and it is actually 7:30 AM TUESDAY. If I remember correctly, Yom Kippur in 1941 was on a Thursday. Therefore, when it was Thursday in EY it was halachically still Wednesday in Japan even though by the accepted dateline it was called Thursday. When Yom Kippur started in EY, it was still weekday in Japan and Yom Kippur wouldn’t start for another 17 hours. On that day, the Mirrer Mashgiach, R’ Chatzkel Levenshtein came to shacharis with his tallis and tefillin and treated the day as a weekday and they held Yom Kippur on the following day.
My source for this is the biography of the Chazon Ish, printed by Mesorah Publications (ArtScroll).
Geordie613: Based on the psak of the Chazon Ish it was the reverse and to only fast on one day.
LU: The machlokes revolved around where is the halachic International date line. Many of those who were in Kobe, Japan (including most of the Mir Yeshiva) followed the Chazon Ish who paskened that Kobe was west of the dateline and therefore advised them to fast only one day.
I just ask that “lb” start her comment / question with something like (5 years ago you wrote….). This way we know it’s an old thread revisited.
DY: Ask the author of the Yesodei Smachos. I took the source directly from his sefer.
DY: No, I am quoting the source brought in Yesodei Smachos which I verified before I posted it.
LU: You wrote “But beauty is subjective”. That was exactly R’ Schacter’s point (BTW, I heard this from R’ Schachter in 1986). Don’t worry about what other’s say or think. Only your opinion matters.
lb: you can state something like – “renewing thread”. This way posters know that it is and old thread being revisited.
The minhag in Sladboka was that married men wore hats during davening (heard in the name of R’ Yaakov Kaminetzky TZATZAL).
I heard from Rav Hershel Schachter that there is no mitzvah to marry an “ugly” girl just to say the passuk of Sheker Hachein Vhevel Hayofi with kavanah. The girl has to be pleasing in his eyes even if she may not be pleasing to others.
Pischei Teshuva Yoreh Deah Sif Shin Tzadi Alef Sif Koton Ches
There is a famous comment about what happens when you “assume”.
LB: FROM 6 YEARS AGO?
lb: CAN YOU PLEASE stop asking questions on comments from 10 months ago? This is not a current thread.
“Normal” is a relative term. Where I grew up almost all the local minyanim took 30 – 35 minutes (with waiting for the Rav to finish Shema and Shemoneh Esrei). Based on that then the normal minyan is alive and well.
lu: What are you referring to? A comment made 4 YEARS ago?
lb: Sabra is handling the reimbursement directly by having the consumer fill out a form on their website. I have not bought any Sabra products recently so I can’t check it myself but I don’t believe they are asking for receipts.
Rabbi Jungreis A”H (husband of Rebbetzin Esther) was known to say that babies cry in middle of the night for two reasons: to wake the mothers to take care of them and for their fathers to wake up and learn torah.
You forgot the third type: those who let them run around but watch and follow them closely
I personally do not believe in doing this but understand those who do. They should not be mocked.
Maybe they haven’t been submitted yet?
LU: Who is the “she” you are referring to?
My wife and daughters do not wait a year for anything specific, but might need a minor appliance like a crock pot or blender and wait for Black Friday instead of buying it 2 or 3 weeks ago.
They do go to certain malls and have found good deals on clothes and other accessories (such as shoes). Some items that they purchased last year were discounted between 80% – 90% off ticketed price.
LB: No. I interpreted your question that you thought Black Friday already took place. I was just telling you when it will take place.
It is quite obvious that “kj chusid” is a member of the Satmar Kehillah. Answering him back will not alter his thinking and therefore it is probably better o ignore his diatribe.
lb: I have been there many times and have seen tombstones with photographs. What did you google?
LU: The same thing can be said about New York City, not just Lakewood. Many in our community who would vote Republican know that we don’t have the numbers to change NY and NJ and therefore feel that there vote will be wasted and don’t vote.
I have a friend of mine (married about 40 years) who he and his wife sit down every night and study Tehillim (using the ArtScroll 2 volume set by R’ Avrahom Chaim Feuer).
If you have internet access you may want to look into the shiurim on Torahanytime dot com. You can sit and listen and then discuss what you have just listened to.
My father A”H used to put together jigsaw puzzles.
lightbrite: Black Friday 2016 will take place November 25.