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1. How can parents find a babysitter when needed? How hard is it?
It depends. In some neighborhoods its very easy. In others not.
2. What range is the going rate for a babysitter?
$5 – $10 per hour.
3. Is it okay to hire a neighborhood boy to babysit?
If he wants to.
4. Please share whatever babysitter horror stories you know.
I don’t know of any in my neighborhood.
5. How late is still normal to arrive back home to the babysitter?
Again it depends. In Lakewood, during the school year, it is 11:00 PM (as I have been told). Personally, I used to ask the babysitter what time we should be home so that the babysitter won’t be sleepy the next day. We allow our daughter to babysit later if there is no school the next day.
6. How does the babysitters age affect your relying on her to be responsible?
Again, it depends. We had babysitters as young as 14 or 15.
7. What else is important to know?
What nosh and drinks the babysitter likes to eat. Make sure they have your cell phone number.
LU: Your example of “smelling smoke:” may also not be a good example as electrical fires can start behind a wall and the only indication is the “smell of smoke”. It is possible one would be allowed to call 911 in that situation.
Chaver: Mi Adir is normally sung once the chosson is under the chupa. The question was what song to walk down the aisle.
gavriel613: I am not sure I agree with your comment. At that moment the chosson wants to hear the music to a song that he has an emotional connection to, not necessarily something the kallah agrees to. The kallah is generally not near the chupah room at the time and probably wouldn’t hear it anyway. I believe the same thing for the kallah. She wants to walk down to a song that she has an emotional connection to. Personally, I wanted my wife to walk down to Eishes Chayil. She didn’t want to and therefore did not.
I think it depends n who is doing the yelling and what is being said. As some have pointed out it may be the TV/Internet/Radio. However, if I heard my neighbor yelling “what are you doing with that knife” or “put that gun away”, I don’t think I would hesitate to call the police. However, screaming and yelling does not rise to the level of calling the authorities.
Joseph: I take back my comment regarding the two incidents I mentioned above. The Monsey incident was someone selling meats he claimed were from a certain distributor when they weren’t. The Flatbush incident was selling AgriProcessor products that were advertised as glatt but weren’t.
LU: Sorry i missed the smiley. I was taught to put the smiley after the text, not after the link.
adocs: Here in the NY City / Long Island area it depends on the cemetery. Other counties have different rules.
The problem with rice is that we do have a machlokes poskim as to what the brocha rishona is. LU wrote above that if you make an AHL HAMICHYA you are b’dieved yotzei, just like making an AHL HAEITZ for an apple one is yotzei b’dieved.
As to clarifying a safeik, you discussed with your LOR and he advised that in this situation one would make another brocha. Why did you to ask another LOR after you received an answer? However, at this point you have 2 LOR’s saying make a new brocha and one saying no. Do we follow the ROV (majority)?
LU: In my day (30 years ago) taking date to a restaurant was “normal” even in yeshivish circles. It is not pretzus.
Mazal Tov!
Joseph: the concept of kovod hameis is very broad. I know if a levaya that was delayed due to the older brother of the miftar traveling to NY for the levaya. The family rov paskened to wait as it was a kovod for the miftar that his older brother be there.
There are Halachos about when to observe the first yahrtzeit if the kevura was 3 or more days after the petira.In addition, there are issues when dealing with society plots and not family plots. One needs the paperwork from the society and then the Funeral Director had to make sure that the kever is still available.i was present in s funeral home when the director Calle about a kever and was told that someone was already interred there. It took hours until it was resolved.
Mazel tov! Have you chartered a flight for us?
It is Mesorah, whether it is a noun or verb! It says in Bereishis (2:23) – ΧΦ·ΧΦΌΦΉΦΧΧΦΆΧ¨Φ ΧΦΈΦ½ΧΦΈΧΦΈΧΦ (and Adam said). In Breishis (3:2) it says ΧΦ·ΧͺΦΌΦ₯ΦΉΧΧΦΆΧ¨ ΧΦΈΦ½ΧΦ΄Χ©ΦΌΧΦΈΦΧ ΧΦΆΧΦΎΧΦ·Χ ΦΌΦΈΧΦΈΦΧ©Χ (and the woman said to the snake).
Vayomer – M
Vatomer – FDY: I am not sure what you are referring to about “shlissel challah” (BTW schissel=pail; schlissel=key). The Sefer Taajmei Haminhagim states that it is a “remez” back to the time when Klal Ysroel entered Eretz Yisroel. Since the mohn stopped on Tes Zayin Nissan, Klal Yisroel had to rely on there food supply “bderech hatevah” and it is HKBH who holds the “keys to parsanah”.
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=38691&st=&pgnum=151 (hebrew)
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=36722&st=&pgnum=62 (yiddish)
http://www.hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=36722&st=&pgnum=63 (yiddish)I like to quote Daniel Patrick Moynihan: “Everyone is entiltled to his/her opinion. No one is entitled to his/her set of facts.” I tend to be skeptical/cynical. As for your example, Yiddish is “low-class” or “guttural” German. One should first look at the German word to determine the etymology of a Yiddish word. You have the right to be “cynical”.
I have made statements in the CR that I thought was correct only to be disproved. When that happens I accept it and move on. When I have an opinion I will defend it no matter what.
DY: True. Each of my sons had to make a “kinyan” on the ring before the chasunah. There are some dayos that you need both kesef and hagbaah which is why some mesadrei kiddushin want the chosson to pay for the ring.
Joseph: Maybe in your seviva of friends and acquaintances. I my seviva of friends and acquaintances it is one of the “musts”.
Joseph: Leichters are different from a shas and watch. While it is true that the kiddushin is valid without it, it is considered one of the “musts” for the young couple. Generally bought by the chossons side unless a relative on the kallahs side wants to buy it. My grandmother bought the leichters for all of her grandchildren….grandsons and granddaughters alike.
The chosson or the chosson’s parents?
Elizabeth, NJ is not known as being a chasidisheh kehilla although there are some shteibels.
Rabbi Heber was nice enough to give me a link to a drasha specifically where he discussed your exact question.
Sorry, no links
UB: to answer your question, since a lunar eclipse is generally seen by more people for a longer period of time, we take into account for kiddush levanah and we don’t say it after a lunar eclipse. Since a solar eclipse is seen by fewer people and for a very short period of time, we still use the average molad to calculate the zman for kiddush levanah.
My understanding of what Rabbi Heber stated.
From the boys perspective or the girls?
UB: Rabbi Heber led a discussion about this that is archived on the Star-K website. He mentions your point at around the 21:40 mark. If the moderator’s allow the url:
UB: Thanks for the explanation. I thought you meant every month. Again Rabbi Heber is a great source on calendar issues.
What do you mean when you say the actual molad is 11 hours before what is announced in Shul?
I would suggest you ask your question to Rabbi Dovid Heber the author of Shaarei Zemanim. He is an authority in these issues. He is also a kashrus administrator for the Star-K.
According to the Ezras Torah luach the last time for Kiddush Levana in Elul is Wednesday 506 am
Joseph: It doesn’t change the points. I only noted that the Shoprite in Lakewood closed. I did not know it just moved. It is no longer on the Shoprite website.
from AISH dot com: On a practical note: If you encounter a solar eclipse, even though the sun appears covered, donβt look. The sunβs corona is still as powerful as ever. People have gone blind after looking at an eclipse for as few as four seconds. There is no pain when the retina is being burned, and the resulting visual symptoms do not occur until at least several hours after the injury has occurred β by which time it is far too late.
Maimonides writes (Deyot 4) that it is a Torah obligation to guard one’s physical health. Therefore, regardless of how tempting it is to look at the sun during the eclipse, don’t do it. Sunglasses are not effective; you must use specifically approved treated plastic or glass filters, or indirectly view the sun’s projection through a pin-hole.
Other versions of the story with the Steipler is not that he fell asleep the first time he met the rebbetzin. The Chazon Ish and his brother R’ Meir went to meet the Steipler and the Steipler motioned to them that he just said the brocha of Hamapil and they let him sleep. After he awoke, he explained to them about the train ride.
Joseph: Where did it move 1 block away?
ftresi: While I agree with you on certain points, the main ShopRite in Lakewood closed (it’s now Gourmet Glatt). I also used prices that averaged sales and regular prices. Bottom line is that I do not believe budgeting only $250 for food for a month is reasonable.
There is also an organization named Mesila that helps yidden with budgeting. They have a branch in Lakewood.
WTP: When i put my list together I was trying to think back 30 years when it was just me and my wife. there are a whole list of “basics” I left out. I asked my wife the question how much she thought a newly married couple would spend on “food” for a week and her answer was $75 – $100.
Depends on what I am wearing. Why would I not wear it in real life and on Shabbos?
Let’s see. Most people are makpid to make kiddush on wine not grape juice (therefore I chose one of the cheapest wines Brooklyn prices). In addition they would have to buy other fruits and vegetables not listed. BTW, when my wife and I first married we both are cereal for breakfast and yes we used a gallon of milk a week. Your estimate is low. You say a half loaf of fish. There are those who eat fish at the third seuda too so you would need 6 slices per Shabbos. BTW include horseradish, ketchup and mustard. Oh and many in Lakewood are makpid on melave malkah.
They are not reformulating. They are taking an existing product, Coke Zero, and rebranding it Coca Cola Zero Sugar.
Joseph: I agree with you. However, jakob wrote “if a new couple does their weekly food shopping for PACKAGES of food for weekday & shabbos it shouldnt come to be more then approximately $60 a week.”
Even if one cooks and bakes and prepares everything at home, ~$60/week is low. Here is a small shopping list (using Brooklyn prices and having things on sale):
1 packages chicken legs
(4 – 6 per package ~ 5 lbs)” 2.19/LB 10.95
1 lb chicken cutlets
(3 lb package divided)” 3.99/LB 3.99
Gallon milk 5.00
2 bottles soda 1.25/bottle 2.50
8 oz cream cheese 2.99
8 oz butter 2.50
2 dozen eggs .99/dozen 1.98
small rye bread 1.50
5 lb flour 3.00
sugar 4 lb bag 2.00
1 loaf gefilte fish 3.99
2 heads iceberg lettuce
1.29/head 2.58
3 slicing tomatoes
.89/ LB 1.11
3 cucumbers 3/$2 2.00
2 green peppers .99/LB 1.99
Bottle Rashi Wine 4.59
4 cans tuna fish 1.25/can 5.00
30 0z Jar Mayonnaise 3.99
Total 60.66Notice – no dips, snacks, fruits, cake, spices……..
Yes $60/week is a low figure.
Jakob: Under which category are things like Laundry detergents, toiletries, etc.? I also think that $62.50/Week for food is low even on a simple menu. Let’s take a simple Shabbos Package from a Brooklyn store (includes fish, cholent, kugel, soup) which is $24.99 and even if they have leftovers you are already at $12.50 for two days….that would mean almost 1/2 your food budget is just for shabbos (not including Wine/Challah and a dessert).
LU: Here is the link to the Video on the main YWN page. Look how it is titled:
Again, please do not blame the OP. He or she was just posting the link.
LU: The OP posted in exactly the same way YWN posted it on the home page. Your complaint is to whoever titled the video, not the OP.
poster girl: cholent is not actually a yiddish word. It is a combination of two french words “chaud” (hot) and “lente” (slow).
LU: Whoever posted the interview on YouTube used the term “Chareidi Boy” when naming the video. It was not done by anyone in the CR.
APY: I was not as you stated “the insinuation that the Rma with MB would endorse planning such an event for the 9 days is misleading, at best” All i was stating was that one can make a siyum in the nine days (as i shared the link in another thread).
Joseph: Somewhere on “social media”. It was reported in the CR but was deleted by a moderator.
While I will not comment on whether this “siyum” was lavish or not, one can hold “siyum” during the nine days. The Ramah states it in 551:10 and the Mishna Berurah elaborates in SK 73, 75-78.
I also question why someone has to make it on Rosh Chodesh when (by the Ashkenazim) the nine days just started. I wonder why he couldn’t make the siyum on Sunday……probably because his chevra were in the Catskills.
Sit with people who speak both yiddish and english. My son knew very little yiddish and went to a yeshiva in EY that was only yiddish. Within 6 months he was speaking yiddish well (although not totally fluent).
LB: Many tragic events happened on Tisha B’av including the expulsion from Spain in 1492 and the start of WWI which invariably led to WWII and the Shoah.
I would suggest you read Rabbi N. Scherman’s introduction to the ArtScroll Megillas Eichah which discusses the concepts you are asking about.
heiken: I beg to differ but I do not believe this rises to a chilul hashem. I agree that his viewpoint is misguided.
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